He doesn''t want to involve me...

[kittybean]

Date: 6/11/2008 3:31:01 PM
Author: Ms.Dreamy

Date: 6/11/2008 3:15:55 PM

Author: kittybean

I am so envious of you ladies (sunnyd, Dreamgirl) that have spoken up to prevent getting something you don''t want. It sounds like it has worked out perfectly for you. If only I had spoken up!

don''t be sad, kittybean! your ring IS beautiful! and it''s all about the setting and not the center stone - you could always change your setting if you really don''t like it - I think you''ve got some great ideas from others in your thread how you could communicate that to him.

Thanks for the kind words, Ms.Dreamy. I''m sure it''ll work itself out, especially once he and I can talk about it, if we need to. I''m just getting a little stir-crazy right now between the excitement of the proposal coming up so soon and nervousness about the ring.

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 6/11/2008 3:33:51 PM
Author: Dreamgirl

Date: 6/11/2008 3:22:07 PM

Author: Ms.Dreamy

Dreamgirl - yeah we have a few things in common

I won''t communicate it in a pushy way... I have all the time in the world, so there are a lot of possibilities and who knows, maybe I can take him with me one day for a shopping trip and show him a few rings in person

hm, maybe the tiffany solitaire could be one of them

- I know that your BF finally convinced you

- for me it''s more convincing him... I like the tiffany setting or the cartier 1895 solitaires... but he mentioned once that he might like the idea of making something custom because it''s really unique and you can include all the features you like in one ring - I would be very happy if he would design my setting himself

hopefully it will look like a mix of the tiffany and the cartier - because I like both

Awesome! lol! Mmmmmm Cartier.

Yes, he convinced me once I had the Tiffany Setting on my finger. Didn''t take much convincing though! lol! And he has enjoyed pointing out that he was right about it to me a few times already. lol!


By the way, if he has mentioned making something custom, then maybe he has some really nice plans up his sleeves for you and thats why he claims he doesn''t want you involved. But still let ''em know........

haha! guys LOVE the feeling that they were right from the beginning! and it''s always the best way to point it out that all the good ideas were his - then a woman always gets what she wants...

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 6/11/2008 3:34:57 PM
Author: kittybean

Date: 6/11/2008 3:31:01 PM

Author: Ms.Dreamy

Date: 6/11/2008 3:15:55 PM


Author: kittybean


I am so envious of you ladies (sunnyd, Dreamgirl) that have spoken up to prevent getting something you don''t want. It sounds like it has worked out perfectly for you. If only I had spoken up!

don''t be sad, kittybean! your ring IS beautiful! and it''s all about the setting and not the center stone - you could always change your setting if you really don''t like it - I think you''ve got some great ideas from others in your thread how you could communicate that to him.

Thanks for the kind words, Ms.Dreamy. I''m sure it''ll work itself out, especially once he and I can talk about it, if we need to. I''m just getting a little stir-crazy right now between the excitement of the proposal coming up so soon and nervousness about the ring.

stop being nervous about the ring! you should enjoy your proposal now - that''s the more important part anyway - a ring is just a ring (yeah I know, we all love rings...) but the proposal itself is the important thing!!! sometimes we forget about that!!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 6/11/2008 3:37:02 PM
Author: Ms.Dreamy
haha! guys LOVE the feeling that they were right from the beginning! and it's always the best way to point it out that all the good ideas were his - then a woman always gets what she wants...

I knew he would love hearing he was right but....OOOOOH I never thought of it that way!

You mean to tell me I just made out good? lol! Score for me! Finally!

 

[M&MS]

I''m actually in the exact same situation as you, Ms.Dreamy. Which is weird, because both my parents and his parents picked out their rings together back in the day, so I have no idea where he came up with this no shopping together rule. We occasionally look around at stuff if we happen to be passing Tiffany''s on 5th ave or something like that, but he doesn''t want me to be involved with THE actual ring picking, which I think will be with his family jeweler, who I am also not allowed to meet yet. Very weird indeed.

BUT I think I''ve solved the problem as best I can by making him a word document that had LOADS of info in it, including pics from people''s rings on pricescope

that explained all of my likes and dislikes, and included some links to GoodOldGold and videos that compared certain kinds of diamonds. I thought he might get mad, but in the end he actually thanked me and told me it was very informative and he was going to print it and keep it with him when he had to make decisions. So, even if you can''t be there, I don''t think it''s a bad thing to tell him your likes/dislikes. He might not think he wants to know but in the end he''ll be happy you told him so he doesn''t make a big mistake.

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 6/11/2008 3:47:37 PM
Author: M&MS
I''m actually in the exact same situation as you, Ms.Dreamy. Which is weird, because both my parents and his parents picked out their rings together back in the day, so I have no idea where he came up with this no shopping together rule. We occasionally look around at stuff if we happen to be passing Tiffany''s on 5th ave or something like that, but he doesn''t want me to be involved with THE actual ring picking, which I think will be with his family jeweler, who I am also not allowed to meet yet. Very weird indeed.


BUT I think I''ve solved the problem as best I can by making him a word document that had LOADS of info in it, including pics from people''s rings on pricescope

that explained all of my likes and dislikes, and included some links to GoodOldGold and videos that compared certain kinds of diamonds. I thought he might get mad, but in the end he actually thanked me and told me it was very informative and he was going to print it and keep it with him when he had to make decisions. So, even if you can''t be there, I don''t think it''s a bad thing to tell him your likes/dislikes. He might not think he wants to know but in the end he''ll be happy you told him so he doesn''t make a big mistake.

hm, the word document is a good idea. I could collect all the info I need and when it''s finished show it to him in the right moment. But right now it would be too pushy... maybe in a while he''ll be open for that.

 

[sunnyd]

Hey Ms.Dreamy! Yep, that''s her!

It''s a .48 OMC, F VS1. I don''t get to see it until the proposal though...

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 6/11/2008 4:19:47 PM
Author: sunnyd
Hey Ms.Dreamy! Yep, that''s her!

It''s a .48 OMC, F VS1. I don''t get to see it until the proposal though...

oh, it''s a "she" - does she already have a name too?

she''s beautiful!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 6/11/2008 4:23:53 PM
Author: Ms.Dreamy

Date: 6/11/2008 4:19:47 PM

Author: sunnyd

Hey Ms.Dreamy! Yep, that''s her!

It''s a .48 OMC, F VS1. I don''t get to see it until the proposal though...

oh, it''s a ''she'' - does she already have a name too?

she''s beautiful!

OOOOOOH I was wondering about that! Looks lovely sunny!

 

[sunnyd]

Hmmm I will call her SASSY.

Thanks Dream! And Dream!

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 6/11/2008 5:38:37 PM
Author: sunnyd
Hmmm I will call her SASSY.

Thanks Dream! And Dream!

OMG - I NEED NAMES FOR MY JEWELLERY TOO!!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Sassssssssssssy!

Your welcome!

 

[Babyblue033]

Date: 6/11/2008 1:48:04 PM
Author: Pandora II
An engagement ring is a piece of jewellery bought to celebrate the proposal.

I think this is beautiful and along the line of how my BF and I see it as well. We picked out the ring together, and the whole process was very exciting and very romantic for us. We talked about everything and looked at everything together, shared all the excitement and nerve wrecking moments (ring was supposed to be ready last week!), and I would always remember this experience. Of course I had a vision of that perfect, surprise, romantic proposal too, but honestly since I already knew engagement was coming as we''ve been talking about it, it wouldn''t have been that much of a surprise anyway

Instead, we have a wonderful memory of building this ring together and will (hopefully soon!) have a perfect ring that we both love

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 6/11/2008 10:07:10 PM
Author: Babyblue033

Date: 6/11/2008 1:48:04 PM

Author: Pandora II

An engagement ring is a piece of jewellery bought to celebrate the proposal.

I think this is beautiful and along the line of how my BF and I see it as well. We picked out the ring together, and the whole process was very exciting and very romantic for us. We talked about everything and looked at everything together, shared all the excitement and nerve wrecking moments (ring was supposed to be ready last week!), and I would always remember this experience. Of course I had a vision of that perfect, surprise, romantic proposal too, but honestly since I already knew engagement was coming as we''ve been talking about it, it wouldn''t have been that much of a surprise anyway

Instead, we have a wonderful memory of building this ring together and will (hopefully soon!) have a perfect ring that we both love

I think that''s beautiful and romantic too. But if my guy doesn''t want it to be like that, I don''t want to push it in that direction. I just want to make sure that he knows everything I like (fortunately he already knows a lot) and it''s also exciting to see what he is going to choose for me...
I know, I won''t be involved in the process... but as he already said we''ll choose the wedding bands together - so we can have a romantic process there and that''s somehow a compromise