Sorry this got so long lol. Wow, it's gorgeous! There are many ways you could go with this imo.
If it was me, I'd keep it in a home safe and bring it out on date night, special occasions etc., which could range from a few times a week or a couple of times a year, as you prefer. I mean we don't have to wear or use any of our best stuff daily or else get rid of it, right? You could think of it along the same lines as the fine china and crystal, the expensive party dress, special perfume, pearl necklace and earrings, etc. Then consider what would work better for everyday.
Also, to me, there's a big difference between allowing your husband to dictate what you wear and considering your husband's wishes. And it sounds to me like what you want is to consider his wishes. Imo that's a great attitude to bring to a marriage and, in my experience, a considerate, cooperative attitude tends to be returned (although of course we know it doesn't work with everyone lol). If I liked a ring's design and seeing it on my finger brought my husband pride, I would probably not change it. Especially since that's not the only way around this problem.
I haven't worked on a ranch but whenever I do gardening or even wash dishes, I take off ALL my rings. In your case where you're doing hard dirty jobs daily, I might even consider getting a thin band tattooed on my ring finger, then wear the pretties over it outside of working hours. Maybe you and your husband could even get them together.
I know many women who usually just wear a plain gold band and only bring out the big diamonds for special occasions. That way you can enjoy your glamorous ring at whatever you feel are appropriate times and let your husband enjoy the big diamond he bought you. And just leave it at home if you'll be with people you don't feel right wearing it around. I get what you mean about feeling like you're rubbing your better fortune in some people's faces or giving them ammunition for their judginess. Sometimes it can also be a security concern.
I don't know how old you are but it also tends to change over time. Many more fifty-somethings have big showy e-rings than twenty-somethings.
I have a few different engagement and wedding rings that I've collected through the years for various reasons. One set never filled all occasions that well for me. I had my large upgrade diamond converted into a bracelet because I too felt uncomfortable wearing it as an e-ring (but my husband didn't care about it either way and it also has a lower-colored streak that I thought I wouldn't mind in an e-ring but did). I now have a large lab sapphire that's my showy e-ring. But for everyday I usually just wear a thin diamond band. Well, really it's cubic zirconia and cubic zirconia but I don't care. I also have a couple of others that I've collected through the years. One is my earlier diamond e-ring that I'm saving for if one of my kids wants it. The others are not real diamonds but one is because I wanted something in between the everyday ring and the glam ring. The other was I'm picky about wanting my metals to match whatever jewelry I'm wearing at the time. It's all good.
If it was me, I'd keep it in a home safe and bring it out on date night, special occasions etc., which could range from a few times a week or a couple of times a year, as you prefer. I mean we don't have to wear or use any of our best stuff daily or else get rid of it, right? You could think of it along the same lines as the fine china and crystal, the expensive party dress, special perfume, pearl necklace and earrings, etc. Then consider what would work better for everyday.
Also, to me, there's a big difference between allowing your husband to dictate what you wear and considering your husband's wishes. And it sounds to me like what you want is to consider his wishes. Imo that's a great attitude to bring to a marriage and, in my experience, a considerate, cooperative attitude tends to be returned (although of course we know it doesn't work with everyone lol). If I liked a ring's design and seeing it on my finger brought my husband pride, I would probably not change it. Especially since that's not the only way around this problem.
I haven't worked on a ranch but whenever I do gardening or even wash dishes, I take off ALL my rings. In your case where you're doing hard dirty jobs daily, I might even consider getting a thin band tattooed on my ring finger, then wear the pretties over it outside of working hours. Maybe you and your husband could even get them together.
I know many women who usually just wear a plain gold band and only bring out the big diamonds for special occasions. That way you can enjoy your glamorous ring at whatever you feel are appropriate times and let your husband enjoy the big diamond he bought you. And just leave it at home if you'll be with people you don't feel right wearing it around. I get what you mean about feeling like you're rubbing your better fortune in some people's faces or giving them ammunition for their judginess. Sometimes it can also be a security concern.
I don't know how old you are but it also tends to change over time. Many more fifty-somethings have big showy e-rings than twenty-somethings.
I have a few different engagement and wedding rings that I've collected through the years for various reasons. One set never filled all occasions that well for me. I had my large upgrade diamond converted into a bracelet because I too felt uncomfortable wearing it as an e-ring (but my husband didn't care about it either way and it also has a lower-colored streak that I thought I wouldn't mind in an e-ring but did). I now have a large lab sapphire that's my showy e-ring. But for everyday I usually just wear a thin diamond band. Well, really it's cubic zirconia and cubic zirconia but I don't care. I also have a couple of others that I've collected through the years. One is my earlier diamond e-ring that I'm saving for if one of my kids wants it. The others are not real diamonds but one is because I wanted something in between the everyday ring and the glam ring. The other was I'm picky about wanting my metals to match whatever jewelry I'm wearing at the time. It's all good.
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