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Here''s my situation: I am hopelessly in love with a wonderful woman, and she with me. We have been together for over a year now, although we have been friends for about 2.5 years. I have no doubt that I want to marry her, and have been secretly educating myself on purchasing a nice stone and setting for a couple of months now. We are both very big on surprises, and both share the opinion that it is ideal for a guy to pick out a ring (assuming he has good taste and they have similar taste) in secret. I have a stone and setting picked out (asscher in platinum- see below), but don''t know her ring size. She is 5'' 6" tall, weighs a muscular 127 (she used to be a gymnast), has what I would describe as a normal to slightly small hand with slightly stocky fingers (stocky is such a terrible description; her fingers are beautiful!). She does not wear any rings, and I don''t think she even has any that I could secretly borrow to size. I don''t think I could size her finger while she sleeps (she will undoubtedly wake up). I don''t want to buy another ring or an adjustable toy ring to size her finger with- she is pretty sly and would likely see through that trick.
As far as I can tell, I only have two options to keep it a secret: 1.) buy the ring slightly larger than I estimate her size to be (maybe a 6.5?) and have it resized if necessary, or 2.) ask a close friend of hers to sneakily get her size somehow.
Option 1 is nice because no one but me will know, but bad because the chance of guessing her exact size is small. Resizing is really not a terrible issue; it will be free, but will mean no ring for her for a few days.
Option 2 is nice because I can find out her real size, and order the ring accordingly, but inherently dangerous because I have to let someone else know. She has one close friend that I know likes me a lot, and would probably be able to keep the secret. I thought she could take my girl out for a shopping trip, and, while having her own ring cleaned, have some "fun" by each of them trying on rings or finding sizes- something like that. Another critical bit of info. is my timing- the proposal will be sometime in the next 6 months, so her friend will have to keep a secret for an extended time period. A plus to this is that any suspicions she may have while sizing rings with her friend may dwindle when the proposal doesn''t come directly after (as an aside, please don''t think I will be disappointing her by waiting this extra time; it is most likely sooner than she would expect anyway!).
Whew! Any advice ladies? I would love to hear things from a woman''s perspective. Is it better to buy then resize? Could you keep a secret like that for 6 months if necessary? Any other options I haven''t thought of? Thanks so much for letting me ramble; this is such an important deal to me- she is so perfect!
Also, what do you think of this ring? I am crazy about it and am 99% sure she will love it.
Thanks for your help!!!
Here''s my situation: I am hopelessly in love with a wonderful woman, and she with me. We have been together for over a year now, although we have been friends for about 2.5 years. I have no doubt that I want to marry her, and have been secretly educating myself on purchasing a nice stone and setting for a couple of months now. We are both very big on surprises, and both share the opinion that it is ideal for a guy to pick out a ring (assuming he has good taste and they have similar taste) in secret. I have a stone and setting picked out (asscher in platinum- see below), but don''t know her ring size. She is 5'' 6" tall, weighs a muscular 127 (she used to be a gymnast), has what I would describe as a normal to slightly small hand with slightly stocky fingers (stocky is such a terrible description; her fingers are beautiful!). She does not wear any rings, and I don''t think she even has any that I could secretly borrow to size. I don''t think I could size her finger while she sleeps (she will undoubtedly wake up). I don''t want to buy another ring or an adjustable toy ring to size her finger with- she is pretty sly and would likely see through that trick.
As far as I can tell, I only have two options to keep it a secret: 1.) buy the ring slightly larger than I estimate her size to be (maybe a 6.5?) and have it resized if necessary, or 2.) ask a close friend of hers to sneakily get her size somehow.
Option 1 is nice because no one but me will know, but bad because the chance of guessing her exact size is small. Resizing is really not a terrible issue; it will be free, but will mean no ring for her for a few days.
Option 2 is nice because I can find out her real size, and order the ring accordingly, but inherently dangerous because I have to let someone else know. She has one close friend that I know likes me a lot, and would probably be able to keep the secret. I thought she could take my girl out for a shopping trip, and, while having her own ring cleaned, have some "fun" by each of them trying on rings or finding sizes- something like that. Another critical bit of info. is my timing- the proposal will be sometime in the next 6 months, so her friend will have to keep a secret for an extended time period. A plus to this is that any suspicions she may have while sizing rings with her friend may dwindle when the proposal doesn''t come directly after (as an aside, please don''t think I will be disappointing her by waiting this extra time; it is most likely sooner than she would expect anyway!).
Whew! Any advice ladies? I would love to hear things from a woman''s perspective. Is it better to buy then resize? Could you keep a secret like that for 6 months if necessary? Any other options I haven''t thought of? Thanks so much for letting me ramble; this is such an important deal to me- she is so perfect!
Also, what do you think of this ring? I am crazy about it and am 99% sure she will love it.
Thanks for your help!!!
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