help!

[jsc44]

Hi everyone,
I am new here, but you all seem so supportive of each other--especially the ladies in waiting.. the agony of waiting... the guessing, the ups and downs, etc..
Ok, so I am moving in with my boyfriend this weekend. We have looked at rings and am positive he bought it! I was so excited for the "surprise" to come. But, I saw an email he opened by accident in front of me, that had a hotel reservation confirmation for thursday night (and we are moving sunday).. and the hotel is literally next door to our current and new apt. (we are only moving 2 blocks). He quickly shut down the computer and I pretended I did not see.Why else get a hotel room other than to propose.
I am SO happy yet super upset that I know when it WHEN going to happen (well, at least 99% sure)... i knew it was coming in the next month--that was a given. I never would have guessed this weekend. He also knows that i never wanted to move in with someone until I was engaged, but I was making an exception for him--more evidence to support him doing it on thursday--so when we moved in, i woudl be engaged.

Now I know. i mean, i don''t know the specifics, but I am going to have to fake being surprised. I won''t have to fake happiness of course and i realize how lucky i am to have found my love, my soul-mate...but i have always wanted to be completely taken aback--shocked by the proposal....that was always my dream and now it is sort of ruined.

SOmeone give me some sort of advice. I can''t tell my family and friends as it might get back to him and i NEVER want him to know!!!!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Hi. My thoughts would be to just take it as it comes. It MAY be a proposal, and it really *MAY NOT* be. I know for myself, I thought OODLES of times that I''d found the surprise, and I was wrong. Completely.

Even if *it* is Thursday, you don''t know for sure, and you certainly don''t know his plans. I doubt the entirety of the plan is to ask you at a hotel room. So, while you MIGHT know the time, you don''t know the plan.

You knew it was coming within the month anyway, now you just have an *idea* of when in the next month it might be.

As for faking it, I don''t think you''ll have to worry about that. No matter what, when it happens, and how it happens will be a surprise and you''re so excited in the moment and happy and elated and just giddy that it won''t be a matter of faking happiness or anything else.

 

[firebirdgold]

Don''t worry, you won''t have to fake surprise. For one thing you probably would have suspected something was up on that date anyway, particularly when he took you out to dinner and a night out!

Besides, it is true that you''ll feel surprised no matter how much you expect it to happen. Imagining him proposing and the reality of him asking you to marry him are two very different things.

 

[anchor31]

Don''t worry. My fiancé and I picked out the ring together and picked it up together once it was done too. He proposed two hours later, and it was still a surprise!!

Welcome to PS, and congrats!

 

[jsc44]

Thanks so much for all of your advice So, it may not even be that night.. and if it isn''t then i have some surprise in the future.. if it is.. I have no idea as to the entirety of the plans.. and it is so true-- most people know something is up the day of or the evening it is happening.. and of course i won''t have to fake surprise. I have no idea how/what he will say nor do i know what the ring will look like!! (i mean i told him what i wanted, but I still have no idea)..
Thanks for the advice and the warm welcome. I will keep you all updated.. i am sure there is more to come.. especially b/c I came home and the entire "history" of the computer was wiped out.. all the previous websites we had gone to are no longer there! nothing in the history.. and he NEVER has does that--- he may also change his plans.. nothing like this is ever set in stone anyhow..
Thanks again everyone

 

[Fancy605]

well, you will have to keep us updated! How exciting!