He''s dropping major hints

[Guilty Pleasure]

It''s totally understandable if you don''t want to read my long post, but here it is! I''m sure all my friends would be happy to listen to these little signs that the engagement is coming, but I don''t want to tell everyone every little thing for fear of the actual engagement just being a foregone conclusion for everyone but me! But I HAVE to tell someone, so I''ll just put it here

okay, I''ve known since this past spring that my BF has intentions of marrying me - little things like his receptive attitude when his realtor would make comments about the girl picking out the house and choosing where the furniture goes (he could have bristled at the thought of his girlfriend telling him what to buy if he didn''t plan on it being mine someday too) or saying that his mom should probably just have my college ring photographed with the family''s since we''d be married someday (we all went to the same college, and she is having their rings photographed)... not to mention the fact that I moved across the state with the understanding that we were taking this step toward marriage. Me moving wasn''t a promise to be married, just a necessary step to see if we are right for one another. So anyway, I felt like we were going this way, but no definitive timelines or plans, etc. I just decided to let it happen and trust him to take care of things.


That being said, I know he just bought a house and wants to get rid of his truck in favor of a more fuel efficient vehicle. I also know he doesn''t want to take money out of his stocks and funds with the current market since "buying high, selling low" is NOT what a financially wise person would do! So I was sort of feeling like this might make him put off the purchase of an engagement ring.


However, last weekend, we attended a wedding together, and several things happened.

1. We met up with the groom for post RD drinks. Several rounds for the boys later, the groom is asking BF when we are getting married and talking at length about the engagement ring since I had complimented his choice earlier in the night when the bride was there. I would have expected my BF to be vague or dodge the question when asked about us, but instead... he starts talking as if I''m not even there about how he has a plan for the ring, knows where he is buying the diamond, has the money and we''re getting married in College Station[the town where we went to college and his parents live which we had discussed in a random conversation months ago] I told him that I had thought he was putting off the purchase sine I knew he didn''t want to remove funds and he still needs a car, and he said with a sly grin "I do want a car, but the timing of your ring is not dependent on the timing of the car, and I''ve already got X dollars in my checking account that I''ve been saving from each paycheck since I bought the house for the car and the ring."

2. The day of the wedding, he commented on how beautiful the church is and said we should just ask the preacher to marry us then, and we joked the rest of the time before the ceremony in our best redneck voices about walking up to the preacher as the bride and groom kiss, "Hey, padre. Could ya do us too? Since you was up. could we get a two for one deal?"

3. The next day before I took him the the airport (I was staying longer for a visit, but he had to get back to work), he said, "Do you marry me?" I was like, do you mean will I? He just stared at me until I said yeah I guess so with a laugh. Then he said, "I do. okay we''re married!"

4. Last night we were eating dinner and I teased him and said I didn''t want him to buy something next year (can''t remember what it was, but it was really expensive) because we would have lots of things to buy next year, hint hint, eyebrow wiggle. He said, "oh your ring will be bought waaaay sooner than that."

I''m jsut so excited because I don''t feel anxious anymore about whether he wants to marry me. Now I get to just wait confidently. It''s so great to know that I want to marry him and he wants to marry me AND he has a plan

 

[eggy1024]

awww. the hints are always fun to hear. keep us posted!

 

[trillionaire]

Aw, lots of wonderfully cute boyfriend hinting! It feels so good when you know they are so confident and have a plan! How long have you two been dating? And it sounds like the family is embracing you too, which is fantastic, since there are apparently some nasty MIL''s out there (see threads around forum). I just think men in love are the cutest most indescribable things ever! I will throw in a little dust too, just for good measure!

Here''s to being *totally proposable*!

***DUST***

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

oh what a sweet post, trillionaire

Thanks, eggy!


His mother is a wonderful person, and his family goes out of their way to make me feel included, but if they do ever get that portrait made, I'll ask my boyfriend to not mention including my ring. If she brings it up, then I'd be honored, but I wouldn't want to put her in the awkward position of either including me to spare feelings or having to tell her son that she only wants "her" family. I figure she knows I have an Aggie ring, so if she wants my ring in the picture, she'll ask! Like I said, she'll be a great mother-in-law for sure, but... she'll still be my mother-in-law. I think it will take several years before I feel able to completely be myself and not on "best behavior," know what I mean? I can't begin to list all the nice ways his family has made me feel loved though, so I feel a twinge of guilt saying that she'll still be my "mother-in-law." The in-law relationship can definitely be strange, even among loving and normal people!


We have dated on and off since March 2002, our last few months of college. We went our separate ways for pilot training (him) and grad school (me) and then he was stationed in Japan for 3 years, so it hasn't been a continuous relationship. We always come back to each other though, and we've been back together for good since April 2007, with him returning to the states in March of 2008. [sigh]

 

[ash313]

Yay!!! I loooove cute boyfriend hints! The best is when you don''t expect them, or he''s acting out of character - so surprising!

Thanks for sharing! I''m so happy for you

 

[KCCutie]

Isn''t it great when they tell their guy friends all about how much they want to marry you and when the wedding will be!?

I thought I had died and gone to heaven the first time my SO did that! Sounds like he''s got a plan for sure!

 

[jcarlylew]

woah that is awesome! very cute too! i love the little hints. it **almosts** takes away the angst of waiting for the proposal