Hi!

[bebe]

Date: 12/9/2008 9:19:26 AM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I miss Didiamond and her fantastic collection. I hope all is well with everyone who is MIA.

Yes, I miss her beautiful collection too.

Starry, your MIL cut your cake ?????????????????????????????????????

DiamondFan, so glad you are up and about after being so sick. It never fails with me
that I get sick after some stressful weeks. So sorry to hear about your MIL invading
your holidays yet again.

I say that calls for some bling for certain. I know it takes
a lot of "grit" to endure her, kudos to you for taking the high road.

 

[starryeyed]

Date: 12/10/2008 12:46:26 AM
Author: diamondfan
I think some nice diamonds will take the rash away.
Starry, if I can help but one person cope my mission is accomplished!!!! But really, I am glad. Get it into some reasonable place now or it will suck. Trust me 18 plus years in I have the battle scars!

I know Bebe - I was incredulous and still am. Not only did she cut my wedding cake while I was in the bathroom, she proceeded to blame my father, claiming that he asked her for cake, which he didn''t. When that didn''t work, she blamed my aunt, claiming that she had already taken chocolates from the dessert table. My aunt doesn''t eat chocolate. At first, my DH defended his mother and I was ready to have the whole marriage annulled. Then he admitted it was wrong, and his mother sent a half-baked apology. This is not a bright spot, to say the least. DF has helped me cope, of which I am so appreciative!

DF, you are fortunate that your DH acknowledges your saintliness for putting up with nonsense. My husband acknowledges his mother can be loopy, but puts the burden on my shoulders to be the "bigger person". I don''t get bling for coping unfortunately. I have to figure out how to rig that deal.

I tell myself that my DH is a great guy and she must be at least partly responsible for that. Of course when he''s a jerk, I know where he got it from.

 

[starryeyed]

Sorry if that last response was a bit of a thread-jack. I tend to spew when it comes to my MIL.

 

[diamondfan]

ME TOO! I rationalize similarly. Mine is the biggest pill, and hubby has total son guilt so even though he agrees she is wacko, she IS his mom and he tolerates more and forgives and forgets easier than I do. If it were up to me I would never see her again. He could go and he could take the kids as long as he did not leave my youngest alone with her, she is getting more and more forgetful.

Mine tries the blame game, Well, it was THIS. Okay, that did not fly, then it was THAT. Oh wait, no really, it was blah blah...you get the idea. And the words I WAS WRONG or I AM SORRY have NEVER come from her lips. EVER. She is a total delight. Can you tell how much I am looking forward to it?

GET BLING. I basically demand it as payment for enduring the torture that is his mom. I start out nicely and then say, Oh, I saw a little something that might make dealing with her easier...therefore you will also have a better time. See if he takes the bait. (I call that a win win!)

I also get the "she is old and she is my mom, she will not always be here, you have a nice life, be the bigger person" speech. It is really all about his guilt. He gets to say to himself, I am a great son (which he is really) because I invited her to join us. Meanwhile, he ignores most of her crap, leaves to go do what he wants, leaves me stuck with her and gets mad when I am in a pissy mood over her antics. Fun all the way. The bling has definitely made it better.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/9/2008 9:19:26 AM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I miss Didiamond and her fantastic collection.

nice indeed

and of course Jenn''s amazing collection too

 

[Gypsy]

I'm late to the party, but I wanted to post to say I'm still around lurking and posting occassionally. I miss you all too and iluvcarats, thank you so much honey for the lovely post!!

I did get robbed, then mom went in for surgeries on her back ( surgeries number 3-5), and I've been dealing with some health issues that have me worn out and just... really exhausted. I will make and effort to pop on more though. Promise.

Neatfreak (congrats on the twins honey!!!), Skippy, and everyone...

Lisa, thank you for your lovely post too. I've been bad about email too, not just PS. Will be better soon I promise. I've been seeing a lot of doctors, so hopefully they will know what's wrong with me soon, and I'll have more energy.

Isaku... I love you and miss you too!

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 12/29/2008 11:24:50 PM
Author: Gypsy
I''m late to the party, but I wanted to post to say I''m still around lurking and posting occassionally. I miss you all too and iluvcarats, thank you so much honey for the lovely post!!

I did get robbed, then mom went in for surgeries on her back ( surgeries number 3-5), and I''ve been dealing with some health issues that have me worn out and just... really exhausted. I will make and effort to pop on more though. Promise.

Neatfreak (congrats on the twins honey!!!), Skippy, and everyone...

Lisa, thank you for your lovely post too. I''ve been bad about email too, not just PS. Will be better soon I promise. I''ve been seeing a lot of doctors, so hopefully they will know what''s wrong with me soon, and I''ll have more energy.

Isaku... I love you and miss you too!

I hope your Docs get you on the fast track to healing, and that you get your energy back. I had a terrible virus way back when, it sapped all my energy. I hope you find an answer soon. Let us know how it goes...K? Sending you a big hug!!!

 

[Gypsy]

Thank you much Lisa. ((BIG HUG BACK)). I've got four doctors working on it all... so hopefully they will figure it out. I pretty much crashed last Saturday from exhaustion and anemia, but I've got two weeks off I'm in the middle of, and it's helping a lot. But when I do back to work next week I'm going to be buried till the end of January so I'm hoping that they can figure out what's wrong before I crash again.

 

[Skippy123]

Gypsy, sending you a giant hug; I will pray they find out what is going on soon.

 

[isaku5]

Date: 12/30/2008 2:14:04 AM
Author: Gypsy
Thank you much Lisa. ((BIG HUG BACK)). I''ve got four doctors working on it all... so hopefully they will figure it out. I pretty much crashed last Saturday from exhaustion and anemia, but I''ve got two weeks off I''m in the middle of, and it''s helping a lot. But when I do back to work next week I''m going to be buried till the end of January so I''m hoping that they can figure out what''s wrong before I crash again.

Oh, Gypsy, my heart aches for you, dear girl.

I remember how stressed out you get when your mom''s having surgeries. Even though our moms can stress us to the max, it''s still your mom. As an only (like you), I felt as responsible for her well-being as that of my DH and kids - but often it was to the detrimernt of my own health.

I urge you as "one who''s been there, done that" to delegate the vigil that seems to be required these days. I do remember a time when we had great nurses who had/made time to watch over our loved ones. Now sadly, it''s not the case.

I will pray for you and your mom, and am sending (((((BIG HUGS))))) to you both...and to your dear hubby, John.

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 12/29/2008 11:24:50 PM
Author: Gypsy
I''m late to the party, but I wanted to post to say I''m still around lurking and posting occassionally. I miss you all too and iluvcarats, thank you so much honey for the lovely post!!


I did get robbed, then mom went in for surgeries on her back ( surgeries number 3-5), and I''ve been dealing with some health issues that have me worn out and just... really exhausted. I will make and effort to pop on more though. Promise.


Neatfreak (congrats on the twins honey!!!), Skippy, and everyone...

Lisa, thank you for your lovely post too. I''ve been bad about email too, not just PS. Will be better soon I promise. I''ve been seeing a lot of doctors, so hopefully they will know what''s wrong with me soon, and I''ll have more energy.


Isaku... I love you and miss you too!

Gypsy, I am so sorry you haven''t been feeling well. You have really been through a lot lately. I hope you figure it out soon. I am sending you hugs and all the positive energy you always give out around here. I hope 2009 is wonderful for you and your family!