Hopes are up

[AmberWaves]

So, since tomorrow is my birthday

(today is my last day of being 25!!

) I''m hoping he''s going to gather his courage and do it tomorrow! But if others have followed my posts, they''ll see he''s had the card with the address sitting in the same spot for over a week, ever since he caught me sneeking a peek at it. And if it hasn''t moved, does that mean it hasn''t been used? We''re going to be at my aunt''s house tomorrow for dinner with family, so that would be awesome. I know it''s terribly pathetic to get my hopes up, especially when I know that if there is no proposal, I''m going to be super sad and mad at him. I think he knows I''ll be mad, because he knows what I really want! Is this silly? Is anyone else getting hopes up and then crushed?

 

[caligal]

Happy early birthday! Did you all plan anything for your day just the two of you? Is he an ultra-romantic type? I know mine will have an elaborate plan when it comes time, but some are very straightforward when they ask. I wouldn''t put much into the card not moving. What is the deadline the two of you have put forward? Have you re-negotiated that deadline? I know my fella wants to propose after school is done, so probably summertime. And I''ve brought it up twice that the degree doesn''t matter to me, it sure does to him- no budging! So- I''ll definantely be waiting until summertime, which in some ways is a relief that I don''t have to wonder if each passing holiday, birthday, etc.. he will be proposing. I would tell you to assume you are getting something else, that way you aren''t terribly dissapointed if he doesn''t propose.

 

[cutes814]

I don''t think there is anything wrong with getting your hopes at all! I''ve been on that roller coaster a few times already.

Just remember to try not to feel crushed if it doesn''t happen. That''ll only mean he has something special planned and don''t want to steal the thunder from your birthday! Because your birthday is a holiday to celebrate and your engagement day should be a whole other day to celebrate!

Try not to be mad at him if it doesn''t happen tomorrow. He''s probably going through a lot of pressure right now. Trying to plan everything and make it PERFECT for you. Yes, things can''t go perfectly, but he wants to try his best, maybe?

I''m just throwing this out because Sam and I are going through the same thing right now. I''m waiting also, he has the ring for 7 weeks now, but still no proposal. And after I talked to him, he expressed to me that he''s going through stress and pressure during this time too. He wants everything to be perfect and he wants to make this very special for me.

Just try to focus on the fact that it is going to happen soon and that''s exciting!!

I''m very excited for you. *Fingers crossed* for tomorrow, but if it doesn''t happen, hey, it''s your birthday!!! Enjoy it and eat lots of cake!!! Happy early bday girl. Have fun!

 

[MissAva]

Oh I hope that whenever he proposes it is the moment you have been dreaming of. Are you wanting your family there when he asks? He may think this is a private moment just for the two of you.
If he doesnt propose tommorow just look at it this way, he had to get you something for your birthday!

More presents!

 

[SoonIHope]

Yeah, I totally agree with Milly - nothing wrong with getting excited! As long as you don''t get too disappointed at the end. But I enjoy the constant state of hopes-up excitement! Even though my boyfriend doesn''t understand...yesterday I just randomly said "I''m so excited!" and he told me to stop "freaking out"?? And I was like uhh, that wasn''t a threat or a serious conversation or an I''m-expecting-you-to-propose-right-now-in-front-of-the-TV, I''m just commenting on generally being excited! Which is good and happy! So as long as you can enjoy your normal birthday activities, then I think you might as well have a little inside thought of "maybe today!"

And HAPPY (early) BIRTHDAY AMBER!!!

 

[decodelighted]

Aiiighhh! I''m excited for you too now! I didn''t realize it was SO CLOSE & also your birthday!! (Happy B-day!)

I don''t think you can help but be excited & kinda expecting something. You are even if you tell yourself not to and if everyone else TOLD you not to. But I agree with Milly ... if it DOESN''T happen for some reason, it''s probably because he has something BETTER/different/special planned. We have to empathize with the fellas here - the pressure is ON even if we try to take it off.

Good luck!

Charge the camera battery!

And enjoy the delicious anticipation as best you can ...

 

[SoonIHope]

Hehe, yeah, Mata, I told my boyfriend that if he wants to propose on a normal gift-giving holiday, he''s more than welcome - but I still expect a regular gift!

 

[decodelighted]

Author: Matatora
If he doesnt propose tommorow just look at it this way, he had to get you something for your birthday!

More presents!

MATATORA you are the best!!

 

[MissAva]

Or the worst...makes you feel a bit sorry for my SO.

 

[AmberWaves]

Thanks guys for the thuimbs up.. I got my hopes up on Monday (at Disneyland) and then when nothing happened, I was like, okaaay. Then again, I don''t think I would want to get engaged on Halloween! Then I thought, okay the next day (11/1) would be our 2 year anniversary, and nothing!! And he''s super sweet, last year I got a rose (1 for every year we''ve been together) but this year, no flowers! Not a gift either, just Disneyland. Well, he actually bought the annual passes and earrings and goodies (including gold minnie mouse ears!), so that was a lot of money. But nothing else, I can see.

Tomorrow is with the family, and I told him I would love it if he did it in front of a lot of people (I''m an attention hog). But I don''t know! He said in October to give him 5/6 months... He just wants me to have the best, and he wants to save up for the best. I don''t know when he started saving, so...

 

[AmberWaves]

And if I don''t get the ring, I''ll be a little down, but he''d better have something for me.

 

[SoonIHope]

Don''t worry, you''ll get something!!!!!

And even if it''s not a ring...YET....you''re still going to get engaged REALLY SOON!!!! Be excited!!!!

 

[AmberWaves]

Albi, I am SOOOOOO excited!! I think that''s the worst part!

It''s like, knowing it''s that close is what''s making me wish it was closer!! I am so pathetic. I hope he gets me a present. Even if it IS a flower. I just want him to show that he remembered. We go this ornament at Disneyland, it''s a ceramic mickey and minnie, and mickey''s holding the mistletoe over their heads, and they''re about to kiss. It''s so cute, and HE pointed it out!! He seems so stressed out lately. He told me last week that he couldn''t sleep well, something made him anxious. Although we did have my family over for a dinner, so maybe that was it.

 

[bravesfan]

First and foremost............. HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!!!

Second.... I know what you mean by getting excited and then feeling like crap if it doesnt happen. I have done it and trust me it isnt worth it. Just try to focus on the fact that its your birthday, you are bound to get presents (yippee!!) , and that you know he is going to ask you ( even though sometimes it doesnt feel like it) eventually!!!

I fully agree with Matora ----- If he doesnt propose tommorow just look at it this way, he had to get you something for your birthday! More presents!

Good Luck!!! and keep us posted!!

 

[AmberWaves]

I also wanted to thank everyone for their very sweet birthday wishes..

 

[Angel7]

Happy Early Birthday!

No, it''s not at all silly to get your hopes up. I''ll hope for you too!
When I get back on PS on Monday, I hope to see you off the LIW thread!!(Loved having you here!)
Good Luck!

And if doesn''t happen, at least you have another gift and you know it WILL happen soon and better than you ever dreamed!

So excited!

Happy Birthday!

 

[AmberWaves]

You all are so nice.

I''ve loved being here, and even if it doesn''t happen this weekend, that''s okay, because at least I can come here and feel better, knowing I''m with friends!! And even if it does happen

, I hope you guys won''t kick me off the LIW forum! And if it doesn''t happen, feel free to laugh and point at my silliness.

 

[Angel7]

We would never kick you out, just happily cross you off!

Good Luck!

 

[E B]

Happy Birthday Amber! He'll be proposing before you know it. We'll be thinking of you!


ETA: Bummer. The dancing ladybugs were so cute, too!

 

[AmberWaves]

Okay guys, see you on Monday, and I hope to have good news for you!!/idealbb/editor/cute/images/emotion-19.gif or

 

[perry]

Happy Birthday, and I trust you have a great weekend (that lives up to your dreams).

Perry

 

[cutes814]

Amber, have a great time. It''ll happen soon!

 

[snuga]

Amber, I''m late to post, but am thinking about you and hope you have good news for us tomorrow!! Good Luck! and happy (belated) birthday!!

YAY!!

 

[goldengirl]

Happy early birthday Amber!! I don''t think there''s anything wrong with getting your hopes up, but try not to let a lack-of-proposal ruin the rest of it for you if that''s how it turns out; because, like Milly said, it just means he has something else planned!

 

[ello]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

 

[MissAva]

Happy Birthday Amber Waves!

 

[lumpkin]

Hey, Amberwaves, happy birthday! My birthday is on Nov. 5th too! But I''m almost 20 years older than you are! Hope you had an awesome 25th birthday.

 

[anchor31]

Happy Birthday Amber! My best wishes for you 26th year!!

 

[appletini]

I hope you had a wonderful birthday!

 

[AmberWaves]

Hey everyone!! Thanks so much for all the well wishes... Well, I''ve got bad news and odd news... No ring.

And Friday night, he was like, "I haven''t had time to get you any presents, so maybe we can go on Sunday or something" and I was just so bummed. But then I woke up Saturday morning, and he had wrapped my presents and put them on the table!!

It was so sweet, but alas, no ring. Then we went to my aunt''s house and we were talking, and now he wants a Vegas wedding!! What? Vegas?? I LOVE Vegas, don''t get me wrong, but no one will be able to make it. Well, mostly everyone on my mom''s side said they''ll come, but as for my dad''s side (family closer to my age) they''re all settling down here, with babies and jobs and school, and I don''t know if they''ll have the time or money to come/ BUT, the good news is, he''ll probably have my ring soon. I can wait the 4/5/6 months.

All in all, it was strange, he bought me this perfume set, and a DVD collection, and i got earrings, and new shoes from him too.