How did you ask your BMs/MOH?

[VuittonGal]

How did you ask your BMs/MOH to be in your bridal party?

 

[MelissaSue]

i asked them all personally first.. well with my two MOHs, I don''t even think I asked.. it was just kind of assumed.. But then a little while later I sent out little cards. I was gonna buy little "will you be my bridesmaid cards" but they were RIDICuLOUSLY expensive, and making them was out of the question for me since I am not at all artistic.. so I bought pretty little pink cards from Hallmark.

They were the kind you can put right in your printer. And then I just found a picture of a model in a bridemaid dress that matched my color scheme (turns out it is the bridesmaid dress we ended up picking!).. and just typed Will You be my bridesmaid in them.
I thought they came out really cute!

 

[elephant]

Well, I haven't yet. And I won't until we're about 8 mos out, but I was thinking of sending them boxes of Mrs. Fields cookies and saying something about being the sweetest part of my life, blah, blah, blah -- that would be for my friends. And maybe tell them what their friendship has meant to me.

For my fiance's two sisters.... Well, he has one full and one step. I'm still working on what to do with the step -- he is probably going to ask her bro to be his Best Man, so they're all really close. But, I'm not as close to the step as I am to the full. The full, I wanted to buy her a pearl necklace and send it to her a) because all my friends but her (and possibly the step) already have pearl necklaces and that's what I want them all to wear and she really wants us to be good friends and b) I just thought it would be a nice thing to do? I was thinking about thinking about some kind of either nice letter or fun saying with the pearls....

BUT, I don't want to offend the step because I'm sure she will find out about it, so I'm trying to figure this out still....

 

[Mara]

I asked them one-on-one personally over lunch or tea. It was alot of fun and very intimate.

 

[Faerievert]

I know it''s not exactly the best way to go, but I asked my maids (and man- I have 3 gals and a guy) over Instant Messenger. We''re all recent college grads, and as I''d just moved to Michigan I couldn''t ask in person. Three are still in Rochester, NY, and the fourth is in Arizona. I may not even see any of them until the rehearsal. I''m not one to have a bunch of close gal-pals, though I do talk to all four of them regularly online. It''s so hard to get people during this transition from ''school friends'' to real life. I just hope that wherever everyone is in June they''ll still be able to make it!

 

[jcrow]

i was asked to be a MOH and only bridesmaid over lunch. we were both hired on at the same time at the same company and became friends. one day we decided to go eat sushi for lunch..a real rare splurge and treat for us. she asked me there. it was quirky but perfect.

 

[glaucomflecken]

I live out of state from my bridemaids and MOH. The weekend after we got engaged I went home to Chicago and broke the news to my mom and sisters (two of my BM) and then amidst the tears asked them to be my bridemaids. My maid of honor came for lunch that weekend (since I only get to see her when I go home we try to hang out every time I go home) and she noticed the ring and we started crying and I asked her to be my MOH.

FI sister in law...another story...FI mom told her we were engaged before we got a chance to and told her I wanted her to be a bridesmaid!