How did you meet your SO?

[trillionaire]

Hello all!

I love How-you-met stories! Hopefully you all do too, and will post!

Please excuse my long-windedness...

I went to College in CA and decided to live on a theme floor for African American students. (I know that sounds odd, but they had lots of theme floors - GLBTA, Latino, International, Quiet, Athlete, etc...) The floor was supposed to be 50/50 M/ F, but ended up being 8/24 M/F! I was one of 24, BF was one of 8. BF and I were in the same chem class and got along ok, but I felt he was a bit immature. (Pretty sure he was interested in me) One day I asked him if he had any sisters? He said no. I responded that I could tell, b/c he didn''t know how to treat women. (Harsh, but I stand by the statement) BF, being a sensitive soul (Pisces) was HIGHLY offended. Not too long after, I started dating a junior (we are both FROSH) and I am not at all concerned with BF. Ironically, current beau starts threatening to drop out of college to join the military, and keeps telling me I should date BF. I thought this was highly irregular, and also offensive, since I found BF immature and irritating. (Little did I know that he was telling BF that he should ask me out, too! Obviously current beau had some issues...) Anyway, BF and I become more comfortable with each other over time, as current beau and I break up.

Fast forward to sophomore year. BF and I are now officers in the same campus org. We are casual friends, nothing exciting. I am still very much infatuated with former beau (who had been my 1st BF). Most of the year passes, and towards the end of the year, I invite him, and sometimes him and a friend over for dinner. I enjoy the company. By the end of the school year, I am hanging out in LA as long as possible before going home for the summer, and BF is taking summer school. I start hanging out with him, and we talk for hours, and watch movies late into the night. I go home over the summer and we keep in touch via instant messenger.

Junior year: By now we are pretty close friends, and I start encouraging him to go to the library, so I start planning for us to go. We go routinely, and enjoy each other''s company. We tutor every weekend for a campus org, and spend most friday nights together watching movies, sleeping on opposite ends of the couch, but sharing a blanket (very cute!). All of our friends accuse us of dating, but we are just friends. We then progress to party buddies, and we host or go to parties together, and watch out for one another. This goes on the entire year, and we are BFF''s. We talk every day, late into the night, never tiring of our conversations. He was just so easy and pleasant to be around. (In the ensuing months, we travel to new Orleans, Anaheim, and Vegas together, with friends, and spend LOADS of time together) One day, in the weeeeeee hours of the morning after partying all night, we are on our respective ends of the couch. I blurt out "Am I allowed to ask you out?" I hold my breath, and he takes about 2 seconds too long to say "Yeah...". LOL, apparently I interpreted that as asking, but he was waiting for me to ask, which I never technically did.

Either way, after that, we very awkwardly transitioned to dating. He had never dated anyone (and had just turned 21) and I had only dated the one guy my frosh year. We dated for 6 mos. and I very rottenly broke up with him on our 6mo anniversary (NOT intentional, I was very stressed about school, GRE''s and applying to grad school) He very sweetly brought me the roses that he had gotten for me, and I felt like total S***T. Things were awkward for about a month, then we were fast friends again. It was like a relationship w/o benefits. We were back on the phone, daily, and he flew out to my house over X-mas to visit during our senior year. When we got back to school he was pledging a fraternity, but still calling me daily, and coming over many times a week, and sleeping on my floor and couch. I really just loved and missed his company, but more than platonically. 2 weeks after he had finished pledging, I asked him out... AGAIN! He said YES, and didn''t even give me a hard time! He said he knew from the first time that he met me that there was something about me (they all say that, don''t they?) and that he knew things weren''t over when I broke things off the 1st time. 4 years later, we are still going strong! Our 5th anniversary is in September!

Oh lord, I wrote a novel!!!

 

[LittleRock]

Oooooh, I''m a hopeless romantic too! Here''s our story...(in a nutshell)

We met at a dance studio omost 20 years ago. We were sooo just kids then! He was a dance instructor and I was telemarketing. You know, those annoying people that call on the phone and ask if ya want free dance lessons. Yup, I was THAT person! Anyways, he was constantly trying to hit on me and I wouldn''t have it. I had a BF at the time, but DH and I were very good friends. When I was on a "break" with my BF at the time (you know like Ross and Rachel)DH and I had a one-night-stand

and after that night I said goodbye to him and we went our seperate ways. We didn''t see each other again for three years!! I''m glad I finally came to my senses! We are coming up on our twelve-year anniversary!

 

[monarch64]

Great stories! I''ve written mine on my who''s who thread but I''ll give you a super brief synopsis: I was living in Indy, was invited by a casual friend on a date to Chicago which involved us spending Labor Day weekend downtown and going to a White Sox game. We left on Saturday when I got off work and drove up to chicago, went to the hotel my date had booked and changed clothes so we could go out on the town. We walked a few blocks from our hotel and I just pointed to a bar across the street, so we went in there, ordered a drink and were standing pretty close to the entrance when this very tall man appeared and he and I locked eyes. The rest is really history. His friend made conversation with my date while he and I got a chance to talk and discover we had many things in common as well as major chemistry. We all went out to a bar that stayed open til 4 and not even that late my date ended up leaving and I stayed there and ended up spending the weekend with my now husband. I can''t believe almost 7 years have passed since then, and in that time I moved to chicago, moved in with him, got engaged, got married, we bought a house together, and two dogs, and now we''re thinking about starting a family! Just one night...and I said I''d never meet a guy in a bar!

 

[diamondfan]

Monnie, never say never, don''t you know...what a great story you all have.

When I can type more without being tired I will tell you mine if anyone is interested...

 

[monarch64]

Date: 4/26/2008 2:12:39 AM
Author: diamondfan
Monnie, never say never, don''t you know...what a great story you all have.

When I can type more without being tired I will tell you mine if anyone is interested...

Oh stop, Diamondfan....since when are you tired at this time of night? LOL, just kidding you. Of course we would love to hear your story when you get a chance!

 

[FrekeChild]

I''m interested DF!!

BF and I met on myspace. He had a GF at the time, but we clicked instantly and became fast internet friends. He ended up breaking up with her, and that''s when we talked on the phone and then later met in person. He later told me that I had basically been the needle that broke the camel''s back. Basically in that he had more of a connection with me than he ever had with her. He had stayed with her so long because his mom had been dying and he didn''t want to upset his mom because she was very close to his ex. It was a big mess.

And I just want to state for the record that I didn''t do anything intentionally! And that we didn''t meet until after they had broken up!

 

[monarch64]

Date: 4/26/2008 2:22:42 AM
Author: FrekeChild
I''m interested DF!!

BF and I met on myspace. He had a GF at the time, but we clicked instantly and became fast internet friends. He ended up breaking up with her, and that''s when we talked on the phone and then later met in person. He later told me that I had basically been the needle that broke the camel''s back. Basically in that he had more of a connection with me than he ever had with her. He had stayed with her so long because his mom had been dying and he didn''t want to upset his mom because she was very close to his ex. It was a big mess.

And I just want to state for the record that I didn''t do anything intentionally! And that we didn''t meet until after they had broken up!

Wait, you mean "the straw", right?

Great story, Freke. See, myspace is good for something after all!!!

 

[diamondfan]

Okay, twist my arm!!!

I met my dh when I was 15, my summer after tenth grade. My dad died in July and we cannot recall, hubby and I, if we met immediately before or after. I think it was before. He was having a graduation party with his best friend, he was going to college and had just graduated from Beverly High. I was going into 11th grade. A guy friend who liked me but I did not like in return invited me to this pool party. Hubby''s best friend happened to live around the corner. I was down with my dad being ill so I went. Hooked up with dh to be, he was witty and bright and cute, and I was pretty confident even though I was shy. He apparently had a girlfriend which he failed to mention. We hung out for a while, maybe a month, and then, he, trying to act cool, started to act disinterested. What did I do? Met a new guy and moved on. I was not a game player so I did not get he was trying to act hard to get. But since his best bud lived around the corner, he would drive by and see my new boyfriend''s car in the driveway. He would call and act casual and I would say, gotta go, going out. He would send me flowers anonymously. Then we sort of lost touch. Two years later, I was 17 1/2 and dating a really cute waiter wanna be actor who was 22. Prom was coming and he did not want to be with a bunch of kids (I somehow did not seem kid like to him but a roomful was not gonna work). Happened to be in casual touch with now dh, and mentioned my boyfriend was being a jerk and he offered to get out his tux and come to my prom. In B.H., prom used to be Memorial Weekend and so everyone heads to Palm Springs after the after party. We did, got in a fight but made up, and then stopped talking for SIX YEARS. Fast forward to summer 1989. I am about to graduate USC. The guy friend who liked me back in 1981 resurfaces. He calls and invites me to the movies, and we go. We start chatting about all of our high school pals, who is doing what. He tells me that now dh is very successful, even though he is only 26. Doing really great. We chat about tons of different people. At the time, I am dating a guy my cousin was in a fraternity with at USC, who happens to have the same name as my hubby. Guess he was on my mind, as I go to sleep that night and have a dream about him, like we had not had a six year hiatus. Now, in those 6 years, I lived in Beverly Hills, was going to USC. He lived minutes away in Brentwood, and worked in Westwood and I NEVER once bumped into him. After this dream, I think, weird, I will call 411 and see if I can find him. Spelled his name, which is one of many variations, and hope I do not get a guy from my year at school who has the same first and last name, different spelling of the last name. Operator says, I have a new listing for that name. I think, okay I will call out of the blue. Why, I do not know. I call, and he answers the phone. No answering machine. If I had gotten one I do not think I would have left a message, he was supposed to go to Palm Springs for the weekend but was not feeling up to it. His voice is deep and I think, this guy sounds older than 26. I ask him if he is so and so. He says yes. I ask him if he went to our high school. He says yes. I ask him his sister''s name, he tells me. All of a sudden he asks, Who IS this? And I tell him, Caroline. No last name. There is dead silence. Then he asks my last name, so I tell him. I hear a shriek of shock and the phone hits the floor. He gets back on the phone and tells me, You will never believe this but I was thinking about you last night! Mind you, I have not said a word about my dream. We agree to meet late, go to the Polo Lounge for drinks, as I have plans for dinner and he was going to see his parents who had just returned from Israel. We meet, and that was that. It was July 1989, we got engaged December 1989 and married August of 1990.

That is my story. Odd part is, the old girlfriend, one year older than me, ended up in my rush group at USC. Then, when he and I started talking again, she beeped in on call waiting from NY and he says, You will NEVER guess who I am talking to. She was jealous. Then, he tells her his is going to propose and she acts bizarrely. She was not on our wedding guestlist and they have not spoken since!

 

[monarch64]

DF, you have one of the best stories i have ever heard. I know I've read it before, or at least parts of it, here, but every time I hear it and especially tonight I just get chills. Even the way you tell it, your tone changes from how you normally post to what it sounds like you were like back in HS! It's wonderful. Thanks for posting it and sharing with us.

ETA: I just scanned through your who's who and compared to that thread, the posting you just made here is a lot more in depth! I am so glad you shared, it is such a cool story. You are so fortunate and have such a great hubby and kids.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 4/26/2008 2:45:43 AM
Author: diamondfan
Okay, twist my arm!!!


I met my dh when I was 15, my summer after tenth grade. My dad died in July and we cannot recall, hubby and I, if we met immediately before or after. I think it was before. He was having a graduation party with his best friend, he was going to college and had just graduated from Beverly High. I was going into 11th grade. A guy friend who liked me but I did not like in return invited me to this pool party. Hubby's best friend happened to live around the corner. I was down with my dad being ill so I went. Hooked up with dh to be, he was witty and bright and cute, and I was pretty confident even though I was shy. He apparently had a girlfriend which he failed to mention. We hung out for a while, maybe a month, and then, he, trying to act cool, started to act disinterested. What did I do? Met a new guy and moved on. I was not a game player so I did not get he was trying to act hard to get. But since his best bud lived around the corner, he would drive by and see my new boyfriend's car in the driveway. He would call and act casual and I would say, gotta go, going out. He would send me flowers anonymously. Then we sort of lost touch. Two years later, I was 17 1/2 and dating a really cute waiter wanna be actor who was 22. Prom was coming and he did not want to be with a bunch of kids (I somehow did not seem kid like to him but a roomful was not gonna work). Happened to be in casual touch with now dh, and mentioned my boyfriend was being a jerk and he offered to get out his tux and come to my prom. In B.H., prom used to be Memorial Weekend and so everyone heads to Palm Springs after the after party. We did, got in a fight but made up, and then stopped talking for SIX YEARS. Fast forward to summer 1989. I am about to graduate USC. The guy friend who liked me back in 1981 resurfaces. He calls and invites me to the movies, and we go. We start chatting about all of our high school pals, who is doing what. He tells me that now dh is very successful, even though he is only 26. Doing really great. We chat about tons of different people. At the time, I am dating a guy my cousin was in a fraternity with at USC, who happens to have the same name as my hubby. Guess he was on my mind, as I go to sleep that night and have a dream about him, like we had not had a six year hiatus. Now, in those 6 years, I lived in Beverly Hills, was going to USC. He lived minutes away in Brentwood, and worked in Westwood and I NEVER once bumped into him. After this dream, I think, weird, I will call 411 and see if I can find him. Spelled his name, which is one of many variations, and hope I do not get a guy from my year at school who has the same first and last name, different spelling of the last name. Operator says, I have a new listing for that name. I think, okay I will call out of the blue. Why, I do not know. I call, and he answers the phone. No answering machine. If I had gotten one I do not think I would have left a message, he was supposed to go to Palm Springs for the weekend but was not feeling up to it. His voice is deep and I think, this guy sounds older than 26. I ask him if he is so and so. He says yes. I ask him if he went to our high school. He says yes. I ask him his sister's name, he tells me. All of a sudden he asks, Who IS this? And I tell him, Caroline. No last name. There is dead silence. Then he asks my last name, so I tell him. I hear a shriek of shock and the phone hits the floor. He gets back on the phone and tells me, You will never believe this but I was thinking about you last night! Mind you, I have not said a word about my dream. We agree to meet late, go to the Polo Lounge for drinks, as I have plans for dinner and he was going to see his parents who had just returned from Israel. We meet, and that was that. It was July 1989, we got engaged December 1989 and married August of 1990.


That is my story. Odd part is, the old girlfriend, one year older than me, ended up in my rush group at USC. Then, when he and I started talking again, she beeped in on call waiting from NY and he says, You will NEVER guess who I am talking to. She was jealous. Then, he tells her his is going to propose and she acts bizarrely. She was not on our wedding guestlist and they have not spoken since!

DiamondFan...

FIGHT ON!!!!!!!!!
Trillionaire = USC Class of '04

My BF and I are both 'SC alums, and I ordered an ADORABLE USC garter, just in case we ever get married.

If not, I still LOVE USC, so I might use it anyhow!

 

[diamondfan]

Thanks, it was like a mini novella!

Last funny irony is hubby had JUST moved into his new place. He was getting his phone service and was asked, do you want a listed or unlisted number, because they charge you not to list it as it is more work for them I guess. He told me later he ALWAYS had an unlisted number, but for some odd reason decided to put it in the directory. He also was working from home that night I called, having not gone away, and almost let his machine pick up. For some reason, again, at the last minute, he picked up the phone. There was no caller id then, and he just figured he would see who it was. I would likely not have left a message and I might have assumed since he sounded much more like he was in his 30''s, I would not have called back. There is even another weird irony to us hooking up again...about his ex and some jealous crap she pulled with him and some other stuff. This is not the ex I knew, but one he lived with and dated for a while

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 4/26/2008 3:01:56 AM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 4/26/2008 2:45:43 AM

Author: diamondfan

Okay, twist my arm!!!

Oh wow.. talk about the right man. Aw.

SDL, I do believe in fate. But, hubby teases me too, that I cannot leave him because we were meant to be. Took a while to get there, but it all worked in the end.

 

[monarch64]

Date: 4/26/2008 3:09:07 AM
Author: diamondfan

Date: 4/26/2008 3:01:56 AM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 4/26/2008 2:45:43 AM

Author: diamondfan

Okay, twist my arm!!!

Oh wow.. talk about the right man. Aw.

SDL, I do believe in fate. But, hubby teases me too, that I cannot leave him because we were meant to be. Took a while to get there, but it all worked in the end.

DH and I tease each other about that too, DF. Sometimes when we get into arguments we end it by saying "well, we can''t exactly tempt fate since it brought us together" or something. It''s fun to have a great story, and it''s kept us together on many occasions when we were both ready to throw in the towel!

 

[diamondfan]

Monnie, keep faith. Trust me in 18 years there are moments I think he is an alien or crawled out from under a rock. And could gladly strangle him, and I am sure he could me.

I have friends who seem to have great marriages, but no one would put up with my crap like hubby. And vice versa.

 

[monarch64]

I definitely keep faith...I don''t think we''d have made it this long (5 yrs in Sept.) if we hadn''t both kept faith in our vows and in each other... We both seem to be much more open and honest than some of our friends who''ve already gotten divorced, and they were only married a couple years, and had kids. Just goes to show you never know who will stay together and who won''t. thanks for the vote of confidence, though, it doesn''t go unnoticed. Your marriage is an inspiration...18 years is nothing to sneeze at!

 

[diamondfan]

We laugh and cry and have knock down drag outs. But, I respect him as well as love him, and admire his brilliance, successfulness, integrity, and work ethic. And he allows me to be a SAGM, and still enjoy my lifestyle. I also give him the ability to work hard, I do not nag him, and I trust him to be at functions and events when it is very important. He cannot go to every track meet for my 15 year old, but the invitationals he is there. I go to all the stuff routinely. He is a great dad for the most part, can get testy but his dad was a horror so I know he tries to be much better as a dad than he got. And he is nice to his sucky mom, which frankly irks me but I hope teaches my sons to do that same to me when I am a senile PITA. (I will hopefully never be nasty though!)

 

[diamondfan]

SDL, her loss is your gain!! Funny how two people can separate and be great with other partners but horrible with each other.

 

[trillionaire]

Diamondfan,

When did you graduate ''SC?



- USC ''04

 

[arjunajane]

Ok, I will bite, and try to keep it kinda short!

My Fi and I are both currently 24, but have been mates since about 14 - we went to different high schools but shared the same group of friends and were always going to the same parties and functions. Both of us always had different partners, and were never linked romantically (although I remember flirting like mad with him when younger!). We were always told by those closest to us that we are like male/female facsimilies of each other, in that our personalites are very similiar, we have the same passions for things and share a respect for intellect/knowledge...We loved having our "intellectual" teenager coversations for hours!
We were always the best of mates and I could tell him anything in the closest confidence - he was my most trusted male friend all through school, and we never "breached" the friendship with romantic stuff, mainly because both of us are really loyal types and had other partners (not because we didn''t want to!)..He and his best mate both lived with their families in great houses right on Cottesloe beach in Perth, we would all hang out all night, party, then go to the beach the next day - we had alot of fun times

He had the same r''ship with one girl most of the way through school, then a year or so after graduation went to London to live. I had a couple of r''ships that were mostly serious, but none worked out, and I always spoke with my g''friends about what could have happened between us...

Fast forward a year or two, we hadn''t been in touch at all, and it was my 21st B''day - I invited him along to a big party I''d organized. Both of us were single, and as soon as we caught up it was as if no time had passed - we still had so much fun together but now the "romantic" spark was stronger. I spent pretty much the whole night of my 21''st with him, then continued on to a friend''s house in the morning and spent the day together. I know it sounds cheesey, but I''ve never been so excited to have a "first kiss" with someone!

And we''ve been pretty much inseparable ever since! We started living together after less than a year, and everything was pretty easy going as we already knew so much about each other from being close friends..
We got engaged after 2 years on a 6week trip to Thailand, just a couple days after my B''day (so pretty much our 2year anni).
Wow I can''t believe it''s been another 2years already..!

I''m not going to say that us being so similiar hasn''t caused its problems over the times, but he is still my best friend and I love and respect him more all the time. He is Very kind and loving and does the right thing by us all the time - we can fight like cats and dogs, but it never lasts long, and I trust him inherently.

well thats my story, no plans for marriage at the moment as we both need to finish Uni first, so we''re just happy cruising as we are at the moment.
Hope it wasn''t too long or mushy!

 

[gwendolyn]

Awww, I love reading everyone's sappy stories. So sweet.

J and I met over the internet. I studied in Australia back in 2000 for 6 months and LOOOOOVED it, and (amazingly) have kept in touch with a lot of my friends from down there. My best friend there and another friend of mine liked each other but didn't know, and to kind of nudge them into telling each other how they felt (because I knew for YEARS and they just didn't believe me that they should just go ahead and make a move!!), I signed up to a forum that the guy liked (he always emailed me links there because he'd publish stories he'd written there and wanted me to read them). Although I don't really like the main subject that forum was about (sci-fi), it had a hangout section and fun people, so I killed some time chatting there while I was at work. Kept in touch with my friend, eventually persuaded him to just kiss my best friend, and now (five years later? Six?) they're married!!!! Anyway, in the meantime, I found J, learned he was from the UK, and started asking him lots of questions about universities in England because I wanted to go to grad school there. It lead to us talking a lot. I mean, a LOT. Sometimes 12 or 14 hours a day on weekends. We talked over emails and IMs and things (free!) for a year and a half before I felt comfortable with meeting him in person. He was nervous to the point of terror to talk to me on the phone because he was afraid he'd freeze up and I'd not like him anymore, so we never talked on the phone until the day we met in person (which was only sorta ok with me--I hate chatting online as the main method of communication in a relationship because there's no tone or personal touch, but I was really afraid of the phone bills).

Anyway, I have a good friend who lives in Ireland who I'd been meaning to see, so I bought plane tickets to go over and visit my friend, meet J, and check out UK grad schools. After I bought my ticket, my friend in Ireland told me her friend's wedding was moved ahead of schedule and she'd now be out of the country when I was visiting her. So, instead of just meeting J for one night in a pub with my friend, I ended up just visiting him. Aer Lingus lost my luggage for the ENTIRE trip, which was pretty stressful since here I was, trying to look my best for this guy I wanted to impress, and all my nice, clean clothes were lost! But he didn't care, he kept telling me I looked beautiful. He took me out shopping to get a few new outfits and bought me an adorable pair of boots, and we enjoyed ourselves the rest of the week. After that trip, we went months and months (usually about 6) between visits, which SUCKED. Then in September, I went to Cambridge for my master's degree--still 200 miles away from him, but we see each other every other week now, which is a great improvement. AND he got over his phone phobia and calls me every night. Sometimes we talk for hours and hours, and I'll ask if he needs to get to bed, and he'll keep us on the phone longer.

I finish school in mid-July (thesis is turned in July 14th!!!), and then we are moving to Manchester (I think) to get an apartment together and work and stuff for the next year (2008-2009 school year; I'm a teacher). Assuming that goes well, we'll probably get married in the spring of '09 to make immigrating to the US the year after easier. We've got a few more big hurdles to get through, but we've already made it through a lot and worked hard to stay together, so I think things will probably work out. Sorry, that was not just how we met, I guess! I tend to get carried away with these narrative type things...

 

[Skippy123]

Mine is in my Who's Who also but I will add to it.

I met hubby while I was an intern for the Controllers office and his boss kept telling me that my dh wore his heart on his sleeve (we worked together). I resisted but somehow knew we were meant to be together. The rest is history. We have been together for 11 years, yay!

He is my opposite but it works perfectly for us!

Last night dh and I went out to dinner to celebrate our anniversary and I saw a guy I sort of dated years ago and it reminded me how happy I am with my dh. I do not miss dating at all!!!

 

[zoebartlett]

I love reading everyone''s stories. My FI and I met online (I contacted him first) but we only chatted via e-mail a couple of times before we talked on the phone and agreed to meet for coffee. It was the end of October, right before my birthday. We talked for a long time in the coffee shop and then walked around the downtown area for a very long time. We went down to the water and watched the boats and talked for hours. Against the advice of my roommate, another friend, and my parents, I agreed to go to my FI''s apt. the following night for dinner and a movie. We got Chinese take out, watched a horrible movie, and had a few good laughs at my choice of the "perfect date movie." We''ve pretty much been together ever since (a few bumps along the road but for the most part...). We met in Oct. ''03, got engaged in May ''07, and we''re getting married this July.

I hesitated to even mention to people who ask that we met online because of the stigma that''s sometimes attached. I usually just tell people that we met in a coffee shop, which is technically true, since it''s where we first met in person.

 

[LittleRock]

diamondfan - Isn''t "being at the right place and the right time" so true? That''s how I feel with my DH. Perhaps if we had a relationship earlier things wouldn''t have worked out like they did. It all ended up so perfectly just like your story. Yeah for perfect timing!!!

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 4/26/2008 9:59:13 AM
Author: ZoeBartlett
I hesitated to even mention to people who ask that we met online because of the stigma that''s sometimes attached. I usually just tell people that we met in a coffee shop, which is technically true, since it''s where we first met in person.

I know exactly what you mean. For the same reason, I usually tell people that I met J through a friend, which is also technically true because my friend from Australia suggested I talk to J about grad schools in England.

 

[diamondfan]

Trillionaire, I graduated in 1989...

 

[diamondringlover]

I meet my husband thru a blind date. My husband was my cousin''s boss, so my cousin said you have to meet this guy, my sister had met him before and said he was kinda cute, so I figured what the heck anyways, we met on a Sunday, we went out on a Wednesday, I moved in with him a month later, we got engaged 6 months later and then got married after that, we will be married 24 years on May 11

Of course after being together 25 years I hope we will stay together, its gets harder every year that goes by

 

[Pandora II]

I'd been living out in Italy and caught pleurisy in Nov 2002. I spent a month in hospital during which time my back went completely due to being in bed all that time and they screwed my liver up with all the drugs they had put me on.

I had to go home at xmas as I was still ill. I ended up living with my parents and being very unwell for over 2 years. Having been away from the UK for nearly 8 years I didn't have any friends over here anymore and my parents live in the middle of nowhere.

So I just settled into growing tomatoes, painting and knitting etc and feeling like hell. My mother tried to make me go out but I didn't want to see people as I hated explaining why I had no job and lived with my parents when I was 31!

My brother was dating this mad girlfriend at the time who had what could only be described as a mini-stately home in Cambridgeshire. It was fabulous with a folly, a lake and a maze in the gardens. I did some logo designs for her business and she invited me to a weekend house party in August 2004 as a thank you. I only went because I wanted to see the house and my brother would be there as well!

The day before she sent me an email with details of everyone coming - including all the single men. One of the profiles just read: Andy - the brains. So I asked my brother who this guy was (didn't like the sound of most of the other profiles) - he said he definitely wasn't my type.

My brother and I went down early to help set everything up, and the guests started arriving around 12pm. We were all out on the Terrace having drinks and setting up croquet on the lawns. It had been quite cool in the morning and I had a jumper on so I went back into the house to change. As I walked up the steps, this man walked out. I remember we looked at each other and just walked past each other. He had these incredible eyes that looked like them could see exactly what you were thinking.

I remember thinking "please let him still be there when I get back downstairs and please let him be single" when I was changing upstair - and being quite suprised I was thinking this!

When I got back downstairs my brother introduced me to the mystery man... Andy. We spent the rest of the morning talking and playing in the same team for croquet - and losing!

After lunch, everyone else was in a wine-induced sleep on the lawns, (A & I don't drink on the whole) so A asked me if I wanted to go for a walk round the garden. We sat on the bench in the centre of the maze talking and he asked me if I was planning on going back to Italy.

I had spent the previous 3 or 4 months setting up everything for moving to Rome in the Winter and was due to sign contracts in the next couple of weeks, so I was very shocked to hear myself telling him that I had no intention of going back and was planning on moving to London. It was like my voice had a mind of it's own!

A then suggested we go to look at the lake. We'd walked about half way round and stopped to look at the view. Next thing I know I was kissing him.

We spent the rest of the weekend together and then he took me out for dinner in London on the Monday evening. A month later he sent me a dozen red roses and a set of house keys and a month after that (to my parents joy and relief) I moved in with him.

Engaged Xmas Eve 2006 and we get married in 3 months. It was definitely thunderbolts and love at first sight and that has never changed - we've still never had a row!

 

[rainydaze]

i love hearing how couples met/got together! you all have such great stories!

i had always said i would never marry a xxxx (don''t want to offend anyone) or a salesman.... and i also said i would never meet my future DH in a bar.

i am married to a salesman whom i met in a bar!!

my two closest girlfriends and i typically did not go to clubs together as we had completely different taste in scenes/music. for some reason, one night we decided we were in the mood and to gave it a go despite our differences. a guy came up and began dancing with me - SWING dancing! - and actually made eye contact (almost a first in a bar!). i thought, this guy is alright. right off the bat i felt a connection and had a feeling we would be seeing more of each other. that was more than eight years ago, 6 1/2 of which we have been married. the funny thing is, he says he came up to me in the club that night because i gave him ''the eye''..... but i couldn''t see him to give him ''the eye'' because i wasn''t wearing my glasses and i don''t wear contacts - everyone was just a blur to me!!

oh, and when i met him he was an engineer but while dating he took an opportunity to go into sales in the same field. go figure!

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 4/26/2008 2:25:49 AM
Author: monarch64

Date: 4/26/2008 2:22:42 AM

Author: FrekeChild
I''m interested DF!!

BF and I met on myspace. He had a GF at the time, but we clicked instantly and became fast internet friends. He ended up breaking up with her, and that''s when we talked on the phone and then later met in person. He later told me that I had basically been the needle that broke the camel''s back. Basically in that he had more of a connection with me than he ever had with her. He had stayed with her so long because his mom had been dying and he didn''t want to upset his mom because she was very close to his ex. It was a big mess.

And I just want to state for the record that I didn''t do anything intentionally! And that we didn''t meet until after they had broken up!

Wait, you mean ''the straw'', right?

Great story, Freke. See, myspace is good for something after all!!!

Hahaha!! I think I was mixing "straw the broke the camel''s back" with finding a needle in a haystack". I should mention that I went to bed about ten minutes after writing this...and promptly passed out.
That''s the short version. I was really tempted to just put "I met him on myspace" and elaborate more later, but...yeah.
I feel like such a *B* when I think about how it happened. In a lot of ways I do feel guilty...

 

[bee*]

I love reading everyone''s stories! I was on the debating team in school and we were doing a debate against D''s school. We all went out to a cafe afterwards and my best friend really liked one of the guys on the opposite debating team. A week later we all went out to set my friend up with the guy that she liked, and D came that night also and I thought he was gorgeous. Nothing happened that night and a week later my friend and I were invited to a party that was being thrown by one of his friends and we kissed that night and have been a couple ever since. We''re together 9 years in July