How did you meet your SO?

[diamondfan]

It is ugly if people cannot remain cordial and adult. I know it is tough to manage when things start to deteriorate. But if there are kids involved it is almost imperative.

I am sorry she hurt him but hopefully you have shown him that that was her issue, and he can feel safe now.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

We met in college.

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 4/26/2008 7:54:23 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
We met in college.

Did you meet through friends or were you in a few classes together?

 

[Kaleigh]

We met in college. My friend told me this guy had a big crush on me and was having a party. I didn''t feel like going, had just broken up with my boyfriend. She said You have to go, he''s a really great guy. I went to appease her. We met, sparks flew and have been together ever since. 25 years total.

 

[LitigatorChick]

At a college bar. My GF had broke up with her BF so we had spent every night for the better part of a week bar hopping. We ended up at this regular college bar, but there was a cover charge, which was unusual. We paid, and found all these men staring at the TV - an ultimate fighting challenge. We figured we had paid the cover, so we would stick around. When one of the guys in my hubby''s group said something stupid, my GF made a smart ass comment back. This got us all talking, one thing lead to another, and as they say, the rest is history. We dated for 5 years, and have been married for 7.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

It's nice to read about how everybody met their DH--like Gwen, Zoe and Freke, I met DH on the online. It will be 9 years ago this summer.

Diamondfan, I had no idea you met your DH when you were 15, that's amazing! And SDL, it sounds like you and your DH both had very difficult previous marriages, I'm so glad that you found each other!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Great thread! Here's our story:

I've been interested in Japan and studying Japanese (up until last summer) since about 8th grade. So, when I went to college I naturally decided I wanted to continue studying Japanese and taking any kind of Asian studies class I could find. I'd been to Japan once and found out that one of the colleges I was interested in was taking a trip back to Japan in 06. I was really excited and decided to go there because of that and well it was pretty close to home + good scholarships. So I went to the tiny private college and I was pretty down for most of my first semester since I didn't meet anyone except for a few friends even though I tried to go to club meetings and all sorts of stuff. Everyone partied constantly and it seemed like the only time I was happy was when I was in class or at home with my parents. I finally got up the courage to end the leftover bad high school relationship I was in and decided to just to be alone for a while and actually stop looking for a guy.

Well of course that's when I met FI. First the professor said he wouldn't take any freshman on the trip. I was of course devastated and begged him to take me. He finally agreed, lucky for us! I never saw FI during the first like 2 weeks of the class or at the informational meetings. This is because his much taller friend was always sitting in front of him. Well, we were seated alphabetically and so he was seated next to be on the plane to Japan. He decided to break out of his typically shy shell and introduce himself. I thought he was pretty cute and we talked and ended up spending most of the time in Japan hanging out together. I thought when we got back from the trip that would probably be it because he seemed so nice and I was afraid it was too good to be true. Well long story short we ended up talking afterall over break and hung out when we got back to school. And from there we fell in

. I ended up transferring schools the next year, but he graduated last year so now we're together in the same place again. We got engaged on Feb. 14, 2008 and we're getting married June 20, 2009 after I graduate.

Both of our families said we might meet someone on the Japan trip and both of us told them they were crazy. Guess they weren't.

I am so glad I went on that trip! Moreover, I am glad I got rejected from my top tier picks for colleges first time around.

I thought about it the other day and so many factors came into play leading up to us actually meeting. it's kind of surreal in a way how many variables fell perfectly into place. They were supposed to take the trip the year earlier, but the professor hurt himself and couldn't go so it got delayed. If they had gone we probably wouldn't have met. Weird, huh? Anyway. Thanks for reading!

Eta: Woopsie found a date error to correct.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 4/26/2008 9:25:04 PM
Author: ZoeBartlett

Date: 4/26/2008 7:54:23 PM

Author: Tacori E-ring

We met in college.

Did you meet through friends or were you in a few classes together?

We actually lived 7 doors down on the same street but I never met him until my friend talked me on going on a walk with her (which I didn''t want to do and put up a fight). Well I am a pushover so we went. We were almost home (she also lived on the same street) and I stopped to talk to some friends. She left and said to stop by her friend''s house (my DH) and to come over when I was done (they went to high school together and were in a class together) After I was done I actually walked past his house to my friend''s. I didn''t know if she was still there and didn''t want to walk into some random guy''s house. Well she wasn''t home so I went back and that is how I met DH. I think of all the things that almost didn''t happen and it makes me a true believer in fate

He really liked me right away and had to chase me a bit. I didn''t like him until I saw him hanging out with another girl and felt jealous. Well, I knew if I felt that way I obviously did like him. The rest was history. That was 7 years ago.

 

[ladypirate]

We met through my parents--Kris works in the same department at the University as my Dad (he''s 5 years older than I am and was just finishing grad school as well) and they became friends (along with a couple of other guys at work) through a shared interest in wine tasting. They''d all do dinners and bring a bottle of wine, etc. At the time I was studying abroad in England and when I came back, I was at one of these dinners happening at my parents house and they introduced us. We started talking about Mystery Science Theatre 3000 and just clicked.

I went back to school (1000 miles away) for my senior year, but we kept in touch via email and would hang out when I was back home on breaks. After I graduated, I was home for several months and we spent a lot of time together (just as friends). Then I moved about 150 miles away. We still kept in touch and would hang out when I went back to visit my parents and he came down and visited me a few times. We''d also talk on IM and the phone almost daily. On one of the trips down to visit me, he asked if I thought that there was something more than friendship there. At the time, I had declared that I was not going to date anyone for a while so I turned him down.

Over the next month, we just got closer. We''d talk for hours at a time on the phone. He went on a 10 day trip to Seattle and we still talked every day. When he got back, I went home for a weekend and we spent pretty much all our time together. At the end of the weekend, I told him I''d realized that I was wrong and if he was still interested, I would love to give it a try. After that, we spent every weekend together until we moved in together last January. We''re moving to Portland in July and are planning to get engaged sometime next year.

 

[pinkstars]

I moved up here right in the middle of my senior year, so I got put into some funky classes. Well I was put into this one class and made a few friends from there. I wasn''t in the class for too long and then it was time for the next semester. Well I got put into a weird history class. Well one of the people that was in my other class was here too. So it was nice kind of knowing someone. When we had some down time in the class one day the friend I knew got together some of his friends and me since I was alone and they played UNO(how silly). Well I sat next to the guy that I already noticed in the halls(over 6ft, blonde, blue eyes). We did silly things like let our knees touch(seems so stupid now) but from that we started righting notes back and forth and it was nice.

Then it came to the end of the year and I was leaving for good. So the original friend and this one took me out around town until like 5 in the morning. Then I left and talked frequently to the friend online, and had nice conversations. Well it came time for the end of the summer, and I had a ticket back because it was cheaper to buy a round trip rather than one way. So I come back, I''m talking to the original friend online and we live in the same neighbor hood. Well it''s nice out and there''s nothing to do, so we go for a walk(after begging my mom because she made me promise to clean my room later). Well we meet up, walk around and then I guess we''re close to the blonde''s house, so we go over there to see if he''s home. Turns out he just got home from a fishing trip with his dad and brother and they''re unloading the car. We all sit down and talk and decide to see a movie. We saw the movie the blonde gave me his number, and I called him the next day.
Then we spent every single day together after he got off of work. He even went with my mom to drop me off at the airport.
After getting back and talking to him just a few more times online, it just kind of happened that he bought a ticket down to me so that we could drive up together.
He flew down, we drove up in my car. That was the best 6 days of driving ever. That was over 3 1/2 years ago.
I need to go hug him now!!!

 

[PrettyBlues]

We met online as well. Both of us joined one of those dating sites just for kicks and had both only been on a few days. Started talking and it turned out he had a friend in the same apartment building as me. So he popped round, we went up to this beautiful lookout over Montreal and sat and chatted for 5 or six hours - first date and we just ''clicked''. We were both the first person the other met (as our time on the site was so short), started dating straight away and took our profiles off. That was six and half years ago

 

[basil]

We met at work. I was a 4th year medical student on my last real rotation before I graduated, and he was a resident. I didn''t care about the rotation at all, because I had already matched in another specialty, so I just needed to pass to complete the requirement. I had originally been assigned to work with another resident, but on the first day I ended up switching with another girl who had a prior commitment so had to have a certain call schedule. I remember the first time I saw him, I recognized him from his picture and I said something dorky like "Hi, are you Ian? I''m your sub-intern for the month". He was sitting at a computer and didn''t turn around and said "Ok, yeah, we''ll round later".

The first few days, rounds were pretty fun cause he was cracking jokes all the time. I remember wondering if he had a girlfriend, or if he was gay. And I knew then that I must have a slight crush on him if I were thinking of these things

We got to spend some one-on-one time together because he had to cosign all of my notes, which he would do with me after rounds each morning. We immediately had a pretty comfortable teasing relationship. We had a patient who was an elderly lady who had a bad health problem and I remember how well he was able to establish a rapport with her, and how much she seemed to like him as a doctor. She liked him so much that she gave him a hug as we were discharging her. Plus, he was so smart, it seemed like he knew almost everything off the top of his head. Then I knew that I had a big crush on him.

About two weeks in, I emailed my friend and said "I have a huge crush on this guy who is kind of my boss for the moment, what should I do?" She recommended waiting until the end of the rotation to ask him out, so I was conniving ways to get his email address. But that same day (!) he asked me to go to a drug company dinner - I wasn''t sure at the time whether he was asking for me to go "with him" or if he was just like "hey, there''s this event, wanna go?". So I said okay, but it turned out that the event was already full.

A few minutes went by and he said kind of out of the blue "do you have a boyfriend?" Just a few minutes later (and this part is burned in my memory forever), while walking down a stairwell of all places he says "do you want to go out to dinner tonight?" I said "sure!". He said "I mean, like, on a date or something?" I said "yeah."

We went out that night and he got lost on the way to my house, he wore terrible clothes, and our conversation was totally awkward. Especially after a few people we both knew walked in and saw us on our "illicit" date. At the end he gave me this weird awkward hug/kiss on the cheek. But I skipped up the stairs with this tingly feeling that I had never felt before with anyone else.

To make a long story short, we''ve pretty much been together ever since. Since I already had my residency planned in another city and he had his fellowship in a 3rd city, we''ve been long distance for a while. We got engaged in September of that year after dating for 6 months, and we''re getting married in September of this year.

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 4/27/2008 1:15:33 AM
Author: NewEnglandLady
It''s nice to read about how everybody met their DH--like Gwen, Zoe and Freke, I met DH on the online. It will be 9 years ago this summer.


Diamondfan, I had no idea you met your DH when you were 15, that''s amazing! And SDL, it sounds like you and your DH both had very difficult previous marriages, I''m so glad that you found each other!

NEL, it is odd, but we had those years in between where we were not in contact so it was like starting over on some level. He says he always knew he wanted to marry me. Huh? I was 15 you weirdo...

 

[Dee*Jay]

I picked him up in a Starbucks while I was waiting for my then-boyfriend to arrive.

 

[KimberlyH]

He was my landlord and a longtime friend of a roommate. We lived in different cities and met once before I moved in (he was coming to fix a plumbing issue and I was scheduled to move in a week later, so I dropped by to introduce myself as I thought he should know who his tenant was going to be). We had another plumbing issue which resulted in several email exchanges, that were more personal than the toilet won't flush, before he came back to town for a BBQ my roommates and I were having a few months after our initial meeting. We got friendly. My roommates got a bit wierd. We stopped dating but continued to communicate. I moved out due to roommate wierdness. We remained friendly. He came to visit to take me out to dinner for my birthday and suprised me with a trip Chicago as my present. And here we are...a bit less than 2 years dating and a few months shy of our 2 year wedding anniversary later. Happily married and who'd a' thunk it? Certainly not he nor I.

 

[iheartscience]

We met at a very strange party-mutual friends of ours got into pulling "nice pranks" and had a surprise party for this girl when it wasn''t her birthday. So we all went, waited and yelled "Surprise!" and it wasn''t even her birthday. Anyways, we met there, but I don''t really remember him.

He remembered me though, and I like to joke that he stalked me for a few years. A mutual friend of ours was supposed to introduce us because he had a crush on me after meeting me at the party, but it never happened. His other friend lived next door to me and apparently my fiance would go over there a lot because he was hoping to see me on my porch. Another time I walked to a gas station with my friend to get a Coke and this guy who was vacuuming out his car was staring at me sooooo hard. I actually remember saying to my friend "What the (f) is that guy looking at?!" Yep, it was my fiance staring at me!

Then Friendster was invented (basically the precursor to MySpace and Facebook) and I joined it super early when there was hardly anyone on it. So did his friend, and they were scrolling through people in our area (there weren''t that many yet because Friendster was new so you could look at everyone in my area easily) and he saw my profile. So he made his own profile and sent me a message about how we met. I looked at his picture and was like "I don''t remember him, but he''s cute!" so I messaged him back and we chatted that way.

We were supposed to meet at a bar/restaurant I went to a lot a few nights later because he had a picture in an art show there that was opening that night, but I ended up going there the night before the art show and he was there also! So we talked and hung out that night some, as well as the next night. He basically kept making me hang out with him again and again because I was not very interested in having a boyfriend at the time. I remember telling my sister-"he likes me too much!" His persistence paid off, though, because we''ve been together ever since, and it''s been over 5 years!

He actually has told me that he''s loved me since the first time he saw me-he''s so tender!

Phew-that was a novel-sorry about the rambling to anyone who actually reads this!

 

[UCLABelle]

College in California (via friend)....

 

[UCLABelle]

Diamondfan- Sorry about your father....but what a cute story! You and your husband have been together forever! I met my soon to be husband at 16 (I went to college early!)....

 

[diamondfan]

thanks. It is all true, truth is often stranger than fiction.

I miss my dad all the time. He died a really awful death that ultimately took 5 years plus but the worst six months were when it spread to his liver. He was only 52 and had been so vital and healthy. My dad was very brilliant too, went to college at 16 as well, and was an incredible doctor. Hubby never got to meet him. I named my first born son after him.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

DF, I am so sorry to hear about your father.

 

[emilina22]

we actually grea up in the same church and our families knew each other fairly well, thing was WE didnt really know each other too well up until i was about 15 and he was 17 and on christmas night of 2001...our churches youth group goes caroling very year adn that year i was in the same bus as him and well we talked here and there and stood by each other shared song books...and by the end of the night at the last house we were up talking all night long! since then we have been together...

but the funny thing was that for about 8 months we didnt know if we were dating and i guess it was cause we''re not really the mushy couple, and the only direct hint i ever got from him was when he "asked me out" (which by the way he was able to do by making me feel rejected) his exact words on the night some night in February were " so im not looking for a girlfriend right now but i want to see what happens between us...so...um lets just let things flow and see what happens" aint he a sweet heart...

no but seriously after 8 months of being in question about our statuses we said we were dating and now 6 years later were engaged! we actually got engaged in December ( its obviously an important month too us, its when we met, BOTH our birthdays are in December, and we just love the holiday season)

i love him to pieces and hes my best friend!!

 

[UCLABelle]

Oh Diamondfan, that is just so sad... But I know he must have done a lot of good in his 52 years (being a doctor, and raising such a classy and kind daughter!!!).

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I am sorry DF.

((Hugs))

 

[Elmorton]

DH and I met through mutual friends (short story).

Long story:
I met one of my best guy friends at church camp when I was in 6th grade. We remained close all those years and went to college together. While he and I weren''t really compatible, I always figured that I''d meet my future husband through him. And I did - freshman year, he introduced me (online) to a buddy back home. We decided to meet and...

...nothing. No sparks, no chemistry, I was not attracted. But he and I became pretty good friends. My sophomore year of college, I was complaining about not meeting the perfect guy, and he said, "Well, what are you looking for?" I told him. He told me that the guy I had in mind didn''t exist.

Then, on the 4th of July before my senior year, I went to go hear this guy''s band play. He introduced me to one of his buddies, and we didn''t get along. In fact, the introduction went something like this: "Elmorton, meet _________. You guys are going to hate each other."

Then later that summer, I moved into my first apartment, and my roomies and I invited a bunch of people over. I invited my friend (the one in the band) and he asked if he could bring along his buddy. I said "sure." At the party, the buddy and I started to get along. We talked, but the party got a little out of hand, and we ended up taking care of people who had too much to drink.

The buddy returned to school (4 hrs away) in the fall, and we continued to talk online. Then, mid-way through our junior year, the buddy applied for an internship in the same city where my school was located.

The following summer (before our senior year), campus was pretty sparse. Few of my friends had stayed for the summer, and I started hanging out a lot with the buddy (who did get the internship). I developed a huge crush. He had no idea. I flirted all summer...and finally, one night, two weeks before he was to return back to his school, he figured it out. We started dating, and, and three years later (and lots of miles travelled!) we got married

 

[diamondfan]

Thanks guys. It is sad that at 42, with him gone 27 years, I still feel such pangs. He was a gifted man. But not perfect, though I adored him. I was the baby, so I got special attention, I was more affectionate than my sister and my lost a daughter before having me. She almost died delivering her, and so when I came along they were nervous. My big sis did not love having competition!

I only regret my dad did not get to meet my hubby, or meet his wonderful grandkids.

 

[diamondfan]

It is sad, isn''t it? I can still cry like it was yesterday. I guess I knew he would not survive but up til the end had hopes for a miracle. Really killed me seeing him waste away literally to skin and bones. Guy who ran miles, played tennis and ended up not being able to hold up a styofoam cup without two hands. Cancer is just devastating.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

I''ve enjoyed reading everyone''s stories! Some of us have quite a bit in common.

I met W on a local VW message board. I had just bought a house, and my roommate was moving out. In a panic, I posted the room for rent on the forum.

He responded, and the rest, as they say, is history.

 

[dragonfly411]

Ours is fun and funny.

I had dated the same guy for around a year and a half, and he turned out to be abusive, not physically, but mentally. We had broken things off, and I was recovering. I''d tried dating another guy, didn''t work, and had talked casually with an old friend, but it was too weird. My sister suggested we go to the local mud racing arena to see the races. So we did, and she and I were sitting in our truck watching, when this large 78 model teal chevy lifted drove in. We could only see the passenger side and my sister says "the passenger is mine". Mind you there are over 150 cars there, and she thinks we''re gonna get them lol. So they pull around and we kindof forget for a bit, well a few minutes later they pull in a few trucks down from us and back up to the fence (as we had done). I just remember looking over... and seeing him... he was in wranglers and a polo shirt with a ball cap on, standing with his arms crossed. The passenger was younger looking with a cowboy hat . Anyways, I was entranced.... and I remember saying "you can have the passenger, I''m going to marry that guy right there". We ended up kindof playing flirt back and forth between the four of us, following each other around, nodding, smiling, and finally they asked us to come sit in their truck. So we did. He was very quiet, didn''t talk to me much at first, shy..... we ended up going to a party with them which I wasn''t overly keen on because my sister had a curfew and I was responsible

but we did. She proceeded to try to nab both of them

and I kindof came of as a b**** because I was trying to get her to leave so I wouldnt catch the heat.
Fast forward to the next day. I''m at a skin care party, and I get a call... it''s him. He had CALLED MY SISTER and told her he wasn''t interested in her, but wanted my number. She ended up dating the passenger, and he and I began going on dates together, movies, dinner. About 2 weeks in we made it official after driving around talking until 4 AM on his school night (he''s two years younger). The rest as they say, is history. We are inseperable. The guy and my sis didn''t stay together, but he is one of our good friends, and I love my SO

 

[diamondfan]

I could still recognize his handwriting. And a certain smell of pipe tobacco that he loved. He would hum this funny hum sound, I called him Froggy when I was tiny because it had the mating sound of a frog to me. He loved this one restaurant in Beverly Hills and when I was little, 7 or so, I would go with him, feeling so grown up, I would get all dressed up. I would always order caesar salad (no anchovy), veal picata and chocolate mousse. Pretty adult meal but I loved it. He would eat all of his and what I left of mine. All the adults would come over to say hi. To this day if I am in Beverly Hills the site of it makes me sad a bit.

Michelle, I think smells really trigger stuff. Jergens reminds me of my childhood, as does Rosemilk lotion and Jean Nate and Love''s Baby Soft, Ten o Six toner and Herbal Essence and Faberge shampoo. Weird, huh?

I am so sorry about your mom. My mom is 81 and doing decently but I am still worried.

 

[kbarro1]

This thread has been so fun!!! It is neat to read how different everyone''s stories are so different. Some are uber romantic, some are just like it was the right moment to meet. *sigh*

So, I guess I will have to add mine!

I was out one night with my roommate and a bunch of work friends at this fantastic Mexican restaurant in my home town that has the most scrumptious margaritas ever! Well, after a lot of dancing to the band and a few good margaritas, my roommate and I decided to take a breather and sit for a while. Not too soon after we sat, a nice looking guy comes over and hits on her. Well, he was with 2 other guys that he left standing on the other side of the restaurant "bar" area while he came to talk. I noticed this and pointed out that the one in the visor was pretty cute and thanks to my margarita

I had enough courage to point to him and say "You! Come here!". And, like any good man, he did exactly as I said.

And, after that, he stuck! We have been dating for 3 years now and are in the process of having my ering made! It will hopefully be ready in 1 week!

Oh, yeah, the guy that came to hit on my roommate didn''t wind up working out for her, but did recently get married to another fantastic girl!