How do I tell her this is a good diamond

[ndhawan]

So I bought a diamond from brian gavin. It's a bit smaller than I wanted, but it's supposed to be an excellent diamond. Any ideas on how I should tell my future wife that this is a good diamond? Go through the 4 C's... What did other people explain about their rings to their spouses?

This is the diamond.

http://www.briangavindiamonds.com/d...nd-ags-104062031063#!prettyPhoto[gallery2]/2/

Look forward to feedback.

 

[JulieN]

I don't think people explain gifts like jewelry, it's a little rude and not romantic. She will get curious and ask you or Google it on her own.

 

[sonnyjane]

I don't think people explain gifts like jewelry, it's a little rude and not romantic. She will get curious and ask you or Google it on her own.

Ditto. You just give it as a beautiful gift. You could present her with the certification information along with insurance information for safekeeping in an envelope, then if she is ever curious she can look at it. If she is educated about diamonds, she will want to read it. If she isn't, then she'll just be happy that you got her a lovely stone.

 

[JulieN]

If she says its not the size she wanted, send it back for a lower color. I wouldn't worry about that unless she says something.

 

[04diamond<3]

So I bought a diamond from brian gavin. It's a bit smaller than I wanted, but it's supposed to be an excellent diamond. Any ideas on how I should tell my future wife that this is a good diamond? Go through the 4 C's... What did other people explain about their rings to their spouses?

This is the diamond.

http://www.briangavindiamonds.com/d...nd-ags-104062031063#!prettyPhoto[gallery2]/2/

Look forward to feedback.

If my DH did this, I'd take it as him bragging....it'd take the whole fun out of being surprised and enjoy you just getting her something beautiful. If she's a diamond nerd like the rest of us, she'll want all the specs and maybe then it'd be appropriate for you to go down that road with her. But just give it to her and watch her eye light up. And agreed with JulieN - if SHE says it's too small, find some compromise.

 

[ndhawan]

Hmm... so preparing a powerpoint presentation is a bad idea. Lol. Glad I asked. Honestly, I don't think she'll care about the diamond and be happy with pretty much anything. We did a bit of ring shopping and she picked the setting. I got the diamond. Apparently with Brian Gavin you can upgrade the diamonds too which is an advantage. So now to figure out how to propose...

 

[04diamond<3]

Hmm... so preparing a powerpoint presentation is a bad idea. Lol. Glad I asked. Honestly, I don't think she'll care about the diamond and be happy with pretty much anything. Apparently with Brian Gavin you can upgrade the diamonds too which is an advantage.

HAHAHAHAHA ive never heard of anyone doing a powerpoint presentation that was just giving it to their SO...That's good news that you think she'll be happy with it. Does she have small fingers?

 

[ndhawan]

she's a ring size 6. she complains that her fingers are chubby. Her biggest concern is people making fun of her because of the ring. You know the person at Brian Gavin was the one who suggested I tell her what an amazing diamond the signature diamond is. She said to tell her I did research on it so she would be proud. Apparently not good advice though.

 

[04diamond<3]

she'll be fine. I have a .98 and I have long size 8 fingers and it's a good size for me. With a size 6 the .83 will look great!

 

[lktx]

she's a ring size 6. she complains that her fingers are chubby. Her biggest concern is people making fun of her because of the ring.

I hate that she is concerned about this. I cannot imagine someone being so rude as to make fun of her because of her ring, but people continue to amaze me. How tacky that someone would even think to do that.

Anyway, you have picked a beautiful diamond. I'm sure it will look lovely on her.

 

[kenny]

I love this thread.
I'm also the type who'd love to explain.

I gave an ACA to my MIL and had to bite my tongue.
It's easy to forget what diamond nerds we are.

 

[CharmyPoo]

I see where you are coming from - you don't want her to think you cheaped out with a smaller stone but you went for quality instead. I would be delighted to know my husband spent time learning about the diamonds and buying the best one. I would love for him to tell me his journey and what he has learnt. I think you should share it!

I also know many women "in real life" don't know anything about their diamonds because they don't want to ask ... thinking it appears ungrateful.

 

[JulieN]

Maybe you can just give her the report and all the other information and accessories, and tell her to put it in a safe place a little bit after the proposal, and it is up to her what do with that information. Works better if you don't live together.

 

[Niel]

Good question! frankly I would want to tell her. dont give it to her and say " look at it I spend X and because the cut is Y"... but Im sure she would want to know how much thought and effort you put into the stone, and in general dont people want to know the specs of there ring? Like, if you didnt pic it out yourself and someone gave it to you, would you want to know what ct it is, just out of curiosity. Or the color? I feel like if you explain those thing you can go into the fact that you took extra time to find the best light return possible. Its not unromantic to tell her in general, but it would be if you proposed with stats. lol.... but maybe a few days later you could tell her.


ETA" Kenny is right though, she may not be as much of a nerd about it

 

[Rhea]

If it's a surprise I don't think you need to tell her. I'd just give her the ring and ask her to marry you. Later that day, or whenever feels right give her all the packaging (my earrings from PS vendor came triple boxed so I assume that rings may too) and include the GIA certificate with it.

I do think that you'll get a chance to bring up the quality in the weeks following the engagement. Maybe not power point style, but you can always explain why you picked it for her as you catch her admiring her new ring.

 

[VRBeauty]

I suspect the diamond will speak for itself! At some point she or someone else will gush over the diamond, and you'll have an opening to tell her about the diamond education you got while putting her ring together.

Congratulations! Be sure to come back with hand shots!

 

[ndhawan]

Thanks for everyone's help. I think I'll definitely NOT talk about it until after a few days/weeks from the engagement. Though I did have a good idea of getting her a laptop with the ring inside that opens up to the powerpoint. But I'll scratch that. Thanks Pricescope!

 

[Niel]

oh that would be kind of cute!!! buy her the laptop and set the wallpaper as a "will you marry me" wih one of the glamor shots.... shes like oh cool a laptop, BAM! haha Something like that.

 

[starrylight]

If she comments on how sparkly it is, then that could be an excellent time to comment that the diamond is an excellent cut from a reputable seller. I wouldn't be pleased though to have all the specifications shoved at my face, it would seem like "Look at how much money I spent on you to get x, y, and z."

 

[TC1987]

Her biggest concern is people making fun of her because of the ring.

A Brian Gavin diamond is nothing to make fun of. It's not like they are run-of-the-mill. If anyone makes fun of it she should just fix them with a steely stare and say "It's a Brian Gavin diamond. You can go look that up. " Anyway, it will be mezmerizingly sparky and firey and gorgeous, so it should be readily apparent that it didn't come from Sears and Roebuck. hehehehehe!

 

[marcy]

Your diamond is gorgeous. I would not tell any of the specs up front or about all,your research. You can tell her some time later when the time seems right.

 

[Christina...]

I agree with the others, I wouldn't present all the details at the time of the proposal, but believe me, there will be many many many times you will catch her staring at her ring and commenting about how she has never seen one sparkle so much.....that might be the time to start telling her about how much time you spent researching, and your journey to find her not just any diamond, but the most beautiful diamond you could. I would appreciate that my husband took so much time to learn about something he was gifting me. I think there are men out there who would spend more time researching the laptop than the ring, so kudos to you! Just so you know, her diamond is going to whiter, brighter and larger, than most other diamonds of the same size. I think you made a great decision and I can't wait to see hand shots.

BTW, I think the laptop opening up to the 'will you marry me' screen saver is a great idea. She will be waiting for the big moment all day and when it doesn't happen she will assume your waiting for New Years or some other special moment, then when she fires up the laptop she will fall out of her chair, well I hope not but you get the point.

 

[phtp]

I recently purposed to my gf with a BGD blue I color diamond in a split shank setting and she LOVES it. She didn't have much knowledge of diamonds, but the fact that it shines and sparkles in any lighting is amazing. I catch myself looking at it more than she does because it catches my attention.

If your gf is worried that she's going to get made fun of, I'm sorry to say, but she's hanging out with the wrong friends. All that matters is that she likes the ring. If you want to show her how awesome the diamond is, take her into any jewellery store and the BGD diamond will outshine the ones they have.