How Do You Handle Ring Compliments?

[littlelysser]

This may seem like a silly question...but I just feel weird when people compliment my ering. It is an asscher with a pave halo, so it is pretty unique and it gets noticed every now and again.

I think it is absolutely lovely and wouldn''t change it for the world...

But I just don''t know what to say when someone I don''t know compliments the ring.

I feel smug if I just say, "thanks." So I inevitably babble about how we just got engaged and blah blah blah...and I''m pretty sure I sound like a complete moron.

What do you say?

 

[bstraszheim]

I don''t think it is smug of you to say "Thanks!" and be delighted that they noticed.

 

[Caribou]

Usually when someone compliments me I just ''Thanks!! He did good.'' (if I know the person) or ''Thanks!'' if I don''t.

I had my first unsolicated compliment about a week after we got engaged. I was at Talbots and the lady that was helping me said ''Oh my, you''re ring is grogeous! It sparkles like crazy!'' I got all giddy and said ''Thanks! I know isn''t it great!! We just got engaged!'' A little arogant of me but I did just get engaged so I was still on that high you get.

So I don''t think you are/were being smug when you say ''Thanks!''.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 3/27/2006 10:25:33 AM
Author:littlelysser
This may seem like a silly question...but I just feel weird when people compliment my ering. It is an asscher with a pave halo, so it is pretty unique and it gets noticed every now and again.


I think it is absolutely lovely and wouldn''t change it for the world...

I feel the same way!!! I thought I was just strange. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I just say "thanks" and usually change the subject.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I also say "thanks". (I get a wide range of questions because I always wear at least one on each hand.)

 

[fortheloveofdiamonds]

I also babble. I never know what to say? Usually I say thanks. I hate when ppl ask if its real. A girl at the hair salon yesterday asked "is it real? it''s so huge." I am in Ontario so 1.5 ct center stone is pretty rare around here. But, I hate that.

 

[decodelighted]

I used to be a complement deflector ... like "Oh this old shirt" ... or "Well if I lost ten pounds maybe!". But I realized I wasn''t letting people''s love & admiration IN ...claiming it ... accepting it. I was, in effect, rejecting them to suit my own insecurities.

SOOOOOO. I try really hard to just say "Thanks!". On the ring front though "Thanks." Seems so short. If someone comes up to you, grabs your hand ... goes on & on. For me just to say "Thanks!" wasn''t working. So here''s my new one. Drumrollllllllll

"Thanks! I LOVES it!" --or--- "Thanks! I loves it my ownself!"

I would say "He did good didn''t he" ... but the couple times I tried that it started a whole new conversation "Well you MUST have HELPED" .. "Don''t TELL me he picked this out on his OWN."

 

[TBeck2000]

Date: 3/27/2006 12:29:49 PM
Author: fortheloveofdiamonds
I also babble. I never know what to say? Usually I say thanks. I hate when ppl ask if its real. A girl at the hair salon yesterday asked ''is it real? it''s so huge.'' I am in Ontario so 1.5 ct center stone is pretty rare around here. But, I hate that.

Unbelieveable. I would never ask someone if their ring was real. That''s just so tactless to me. I would have complimented her hair and asked if it was real.

As a guy, compliments are not a daily occurence (either giving or receiving). Guys don''t compliment other guys and they would never compliment a girl because it would be perceived as a come on. I guess compliments are best left to the ladies. I sure hope my girlfriend can handle the attention her ring will attract...

 

[littlelysser]

I''m a total compliment deflector too! I know it is silly...but I just don''t take them well!

I like the, "Thanks, I love it too," response!

 

[princessv]

I usually say "Thank you very much" and cringe because I know the thumbprint on the table is coming!

 

[aljdewey]

Date: 3/27/2006 12:29:49 PM
Author: fortheloveofdiamonds
I also babble. I never know what to say? Usually I say thanks. I hate when ppl ask if its real. A girl at the hair salon yesterday asked ''is it real? it''s so huge.'' I am in Ontario so 1.5 ct center stone is pretty rare around here. But, I hate that.

Hehehehe - I''d like to tell you what my response would be, but I''m not sure it''s a good idea to do that in public.

 

[f0rbidden]

i used to be really bad about accepting compliments - i still am in some cases, but i learned along the way that ''thank you.'' is a complete sentence.
i don''t think it''s EVER arrogant or smug to say thanks for a compliment and i know i''ll get some on my ring once i get the ring on my hand where it belongs. i anticipate saying ''thank you'' to every one of them!

 

[KristyDarling]

I get embarrassed too. I usually just say, "Thanks, I love it too." And then try to change the subject.

 

[FireGoddess]

I have no problem with it.

I usually say, "Thanks, it''s my baby." and they usually ask to try it on, or how big it is, or how the setting was designed...etc

 

[diamondlil]

I usually just say "thank you," with a smile. But on occasion, depending on who it is, I''ll throw in that "it took me 2 upgrades and nearly 20 years to get this ring." For some odd reason, I don''t want people to think that we''re loaded and went out and spent mega bucks on my ring all at once. I know, it''s odd.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 3/27/2006 12:29:49 PM
Author: fortheloveofdiamonds
I also babble. I never know what to say? Usually I say thanks. I hate when ppl ask if its real. A girl at the hair salon yesterday asked ''is it real? it''s so huge.'' I am in Ontario so 1.5 ct center stone is pretty rare around here. But, I hate that.

one time a stranger walk by our table,while my wife and i was having dinner,she ask...is the diamond real? i reply by saying.... what do you think?. i should of reply by asking her...are those REAL? "while pointing at her boobs" b/c i knew they were FAKES.

 

[Sundial]

I feel a little strange about ring compliments too. I usually say "thanks, I just cleaned it" or "thanks, the lighting in here is really complimentary to diamonds". I think a lot of people haven''t seen many well cut diamonds and they really attract attention.

 

[moon river]

A simple thank you will suffice.

 

[sarita]

I feel awkward too. I''ll usually just say thanks and smile but depending on if the person wants to continue talking about jewlery or whatever I may go on in the general subject (not necessarily my ring specifically). Usually people comment on the cut (emerald) which is not so common and I''ll just say something like "I know it doesn''t sparkle like a round but I just love this cut". It if it is a remark about the size I''ll try to deflect by saying it took a long time and research to be able to get it.

Oddly enough, I am fairly outgoing when it comes to noticing other people''s jewelry and I often compliment customers on the nice pieces I may see someone wearing, not even realizing if I am making them uncomfortable!

 

[Lynn B]

I don't feel awkward when people compliment me on my ring. I usually just smile, say a sincere "thank you" and sometimes add, "I LOVE it!"

 

[Mara]

''awww, thanks...'' is my main response...

or

''thank you!'' with a lilt in my voice at the end.

i feel kind of weird sometimes too about being complimented oni t, but those two responses seem to make most people feel good they said something. hehe.

 

[larussel03]

I usually just say "ohhh, thanks!" It''s nice to know other people think your ring is pretty--same as if they said "I like your haircut" Dont be afraid to seem happy with it yourself!

 

[decodelighted]

Gals! Gals!

I notice a lot of folks are DEFLECTING the complements. Making excuses ... pointing out the negatives ... implying that it''s only pretty in one particular environment. WHY!!

Let''s stand up and revel in the beauty of the jewelry we work so hard to find/afford/choose/make and spend so much time taking care of.

Honestly, when I GIVE complements, it makes me happy to see that others are happy & pleased themselves. It makes me UNCOMFORTABLE if the receiver is uncomfortable accepting the complement. Like they perhaps they PITY me and have to cover up their fabulosity so I don''t feel badly....--OR--- that they''re insecure about their good fortune & it makes me feel badly that I''ve made them feel uncomfortable & embarrassed them.

Indulge in the love!

 

[MissGotRocks]

I usually start with thank you. If they go on and on about how lucky I am or how much I am loved or wow that must have cost alot or how big is that stone or is that your original ring or how long have you been married, etc. etc. I just try to answer the question as simply as I can and add that I have enjoyed wearing the ring. It is the truth and it usually stops further questions. Everyone likes to be complimented - being made a spectacle of is another thing. That''s when it gets uncomfortable. Unless people really love diamonds, they will never understand that while you enjoy being complimented, the real reason you have and wear the thing is because it brings you great joy. You don''t wear it first and foremost to be noticed. A beautiful sparkly diamond is hard to not notice though!

 

[Dancing Fire]

if you want to stop a stranger from asking further Q''s.tell them you got the ring from your "sugar daddy"

 

[MINE!!]

Well, I think that I am a bit pretentious actually. When someone compliments my ring I say "Oh Thank you, we wanted something different with a little more personality than a diamond, so we went for a spessertite." A What? (They say) I Say.." A stone from Nigeria, cut by Lapidary Artist Richard Homer. It is really cool to have something so unique."

 

[littlelysser]

Thanks for the great advice all.

And I feel silly about feeling weird about the whole thing...I love this ring more than anything (well, other than my fiance of course...and my dogs) and I picked out the stone and the setting...honestly, it is my dream ring...I would totally compliment somebody else if I saw them wearing it...

so yeah...I realize how silly I am. Gah.

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 3/27/2006 9:32:30 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
if you want to stop a stranger from asking further Q''s.tell them you got the ring from your ''sugar daddy''

Haha. I hear that "Oh, I don''t know, it was a gift from my fiance" can also work well. Especially to those rude people who want to know how much your fiance paid.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Date: 3/27/2006 10:11:11 PM
Author: Blenheim

Date: 3/27/2006 9:32:30 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
if you want to stop a stranger from asking further Q''s.tell them you got the ring from your ''sugar daddy''

Haha. I hear that ''Oh, I don''t know, it was a gift from my fiance'' can also work well. Especially to those rude people who want to know how much your fiance paid.

Whenever someone asks me if my goodies are real, I give them a great big smile and say "Everything I have is real."

 

[fire&ice]

Thanks, it pays to date a married man.

Thanks, it''s a D IF from Tiffany & Co.