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ash313
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I know, despite our state''s sad recent voting record and Supreme Court decisions, some state employers (like U of Michigan) are working hard with ACLU attorneys to get around the discriminatory restrictions. Seems to be working so far, by allowing all individuals to choose an "other" person to insure. Some people use parents, an uninsured sibling, a friend, etc. It works for LGBT individuals who would otherwise be unable to insure their partner (like my boss!). Sometimes it''s exciting when you see things happening to achieve civil rights for all, sometimes it''s achingly frustrating and slow. Of course, you know this. We''ll get there, I know it
Sorry for the threadjack! I just get so fired up sometimes....
ash313
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Yeah, I hear you. You''re right, many just sincerely care for you. And to be honest, it''s clear when those people ask. Their tone, facial expression, etc. In which case I am kind and clear. But I find that the vast majority just wants a tidbit of gossip. Usually they use a wedding as an excuse to talk about it. Maybe they want to be the first to know, or just go back to their circle and lament about how you have waited 10 YEARS and no ring, and isn''t she crazy to do that, and blah blah blah.
It''s one of the most important decisions one can make in life, and being asked constantly when you are making it is difficult and feels quite invasive. I am happy with and proud of the decisions we''ve made as a couple thus far, and it''s hard that because we have chosen not to celebrate it in the order or manner society has legitimized, we are ostracized and inspected for faults, even though we have made more complex decisions and transitions than many married couples. *Sigh*
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When people asked me, I used to cheerfully say ''I''ve no idea, why don''t you ask him?'' Thankfully, it''s a very rare enquiry in Ireland. People get married much older over here.
In the States, we got hounded with questions, even from people we''d only just met. With them, we came up with the following exchange:
Random new acquaintance When are you guys gonna get married?
FI, completely deadpan Gee, I dunno, I''m still weighing it up. She doesn''t have much land you know.
(cue horrified glance at me and much nervous laughter)
Me Doesn''t matter that I don''t come with much land. His family don''t have a decent enough milk quota. It''s complicated.
And hey presto, interrogation over!
In the States, we got hounded with questions, even from people we''d only just met. With them, we came up with the following exchange:
Random new acquaintance When are you guys gonna get married?
FI, completely deadpan Gee, I dunno, I''m still weighing it up. She doesn''t have much land you know.
(cue horrified glance at me and much nervous laughter)
Me Doesn''t matter that I don''t come with much land. His family don''t have a decent enough milk quota. It''s complicated.
And hey presto, interrogation over!
ash313
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Date: 8/15/2008 10:09:35 AM
Author: Delster
When people asked me, I used to cheerfully say ''I''ve no idea, why don''t you ask him?'' Thankfully, it''s a very rare enquiry in Ireland. People get married much older over here.
In the States, we got hounded with questions, even from people we''d only just met. With them, we came up with the following exchange:
Random new acquaintance When are you guys gonna get married?
FI, completely deadpan Gee, I dunno, I''m still weighing it up. She doesn''t have much land you know.
(cue horrified glance at me and much nervous laughter)
Me Doesn''t matter that I don''t come with much land. His family don''t have a decent enough milk quota. It''s complicated.
And hey presto, interrogation over!
Haha, oh I love this! You make me laugh!
Isn''t that funny that in the States people hound you, but leave you alone in Ireland? We are of Irish decent (six of our eight grandparents were born there), perhaps that''s why we''ve dated so long with no marriage?
However, we''ve never been. Thinking of an Irish honeymoon...but I digress!
ams0124
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Date: 8/14/2008 9:04:21 PM
Author: Bliss
OK, since now we''re coming up with funny ones, here are some responses!
Q: When are you getting married?
A: Well, we keep hearing married people don''t have sex, so we''re trying to live it up before that big loooong dry spell...you know?
Q: Why aren''t you engaged yet?
A: I''m waiting for him to come into his trust fund.
Q: Are you guys next?
A: My family''s still putting the finishing touches on the pre-nup...but soon.
Q: Isn''t it about time you got married, too?
A: Longer wait, bigger rock ya know.And I wanna BIG one.
These are toooo funny!!! I like the 1st one...and the 3rd one
trillionaire
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I posted a somewhat similar question above, I''ll have to check more posts before writing my own next time. Anyway, I find that when people ask very personal questions like that a good answer that isn''t blatantly rude is "Why do you ask?".
It''s genuine, should make them pause and realize how inappropriate they''re being without being confrontational and usually the topic can be segued into something else.
Good luck!
It''s genuine, should make them pause and realize how inappropriate they''re being without being confrontational and usually the topic can be segued into something else.
Good luck!
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