How Many Attendants?

[tessari]

we''re just having his brother as best man and my sister is maid of honor. we decided we''re too old for this! i''ll be 29 and he''ll be 30!

 

[dcgator]

We will each be having 5 on our side.

Ladies:
MOH - Sister
Bridesmaids - 2 childhood friends, 1 college/grad school friend, 1 local friend

Men:
BM - His brother
Groomsmen: My brother, 2 childhood friends, 1 work friend

Also, we will have one flower girl (his niece), no ring barer, but probably some of his other friends will be ushers.

I think while somewhat bigger than the other girls'' wedding parties mentioned throughout, it will still be managable and I can''t imagine leaving any of those people out

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[EricaR]

None

We are doing a destination wedding that is barely a step up from eloping. Our whole wedding list is under 10 people.

 

[elrohwen]

I only have two. My MOH is my best friend from college and my bridesmaid is FI''s sister. I don''t really have many female friends, so it would''ve been hard to pick more than that. Plus, our wedding is fairly small and I wanted to keep the wedding party proportionally small. FI will have his best friend from college as his best man and a good friend of mine as his other groomsman (technically all these people are friends with both of us, but the groomsman has always been closer to me).

 

[Mediterranean]

we chose not to have attendants. At our age, all of our closest friends are trying to raise families, and some of them are even gearing up to send the first child to college (my FI''s friends are, anyway. They''re roughly his age, 42). I thought it was just to much to ask of them, expense-wise, in this economy. It''s already enough to have to travel and all that stuff. I also didn''t want them to feel obligated or whatever to throw the showers, bachelor/ette parties that seem somehow silently expected of attendants in wedding culture. I''d be very happy if they attended as guests. I haven''t seen some of the out-of-towners in years, and I''m looking forward to seeing as many of them as I can!

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 12/11/2008 12:23:26 PM
Author: Mediterranean
we chose not to have attendants. At our age, all of our closest friends are trying to raise families, and some of them are even gearing up to send the first child to college (my FI''s friends are, anyway. They''re roughly his age, 42). I thought it was just to much to ask of them, expense-wise, in this economy. It''s already enough to have to travel and all that stuff. I also didn''t want them to feel obligated or whatever to throw the showers, bachelor/ette parties that seem somehow silently expected of attendants in wedding culture. I''d be very happy if they attended as guests. I haven''t seen some of the out-of-towners in years, and I''m looking forward to seeing as many of them as I can!

I definitely feel this way - our ''attendants'' are our siblings - and I definitely don''t want a bridal shower or bachelorette party (although they might be forced upon me). I just want to see all friends and relatives that I haven''t seen in years!
My fiance''s about 7 years older than I am, and most of his good friends are now married with kids. But those are the guys who are most looking forward to his bachelor party! The single men get to go out all the time, and my fiance would much rather not do it at all - but the married guys use this as their excuse have a wild night out.