How many couples met online?

[caligal]

Yet another who met on match.com!

For us it also went fast as we moved it at 6 months of dating. I think the great thing about online dating is that you give so much info in your profile that never shows up on a person as you meet them randomly! I got over the stigma really quick and try to persuade all my single pals to try it! It''s funny cause while they are quite happy for me and realize many others have met this way, they won''t try it themselves.

 

[sumbride]

Date: 5/22/2006 12:05:23 PM
Author: caligal
Yet another who met on match.com!

For us it also went fast as we moved it at 6 months of dating. I think the great thing about online dating is that you give so much info in your profile that never shows up on a person as you meet them randomly! I got over the stigma really quick and try to persuade all my single pals to try it! It''s funny cause while they are quite happy for me and realize many others have met this way, they won''t try it themselves.

That is funny! My friends have tried it, but some of them have expressed annoyance that we met on my FIRST online date, and they''ve met 30 guys and not hit it off with any of them! They should have a disclaimer like for a diet... "Results Not Typical"... but it''s dating... I mean, COME ON, not everybody meets THE person right away... some people just get lucky... while others have their date show up with an entire backpack full of scottish literature to discuss on the date. oh yeah, true story! she''s given up dating at this point.

 

[caligal]

Sumbride- HOW funny! I guess you sometimes have to kiss a few toads to find the prince. Hey- we are on the same timeline for engagement... by December for us (although I have a strong feeling it will be early fall- Sept. or Oct.).

 

[MustangFan]

We met on Match.com
It took us 2 months to meet, I really thought that he was cute, and we''d hit it off, but as time went on and he didn''t seem that interested I kinda started dating other people through match. I just thought we''d be friends online and IM each other a couple times a week. Then after two months he says why don''t we meet? I can''t believe we''ve lasted talking this long and I want to try and be friends with a girl for the first time in my life. I said ok, but just friends right? He said yes, because I had bad experiences online. Well we went out for coffee the second week in August 2005 and as I excepted... he was really my type and had a cute butt! But STILL didn''t think anything of it!!! We remained friends and I had to give him a girls perspective on someone he was dating, took to a wedding after a month of dating and told everyone it was his gf and she just stopped calling. At the time, it wasn''t hard for me at all to console him. She called back after 3 months of us dating and I lost it, I ususally keep my cool, but just couldn''t. Anyway he was not interested in her in the slightest. But, back to when we were still friend .... a fork in the road, I was dating this "Gaylord" (my boyfriend calls him lol) My boyfriend now invites me to a party and I say "Can I bring a friend?" He says who? Steve. Who the HELL is he???!!!! We to this day still fight over the way he said it. He "claims" to have never said it that way!!!! (Yeah Right!) He was jealous, after meeting up several times, he started to have feelings for me.

After 3 weeks of dating I knew he was the one, but I waited for him to tell me he loved me first. He said I think I''m falling for you after 3 weeks, and we were laying on his couch a day later and I whispered I love you. He said that''s what I wanted to tell you yesterday, I love you too! I am very a "now" type of person so I said a couple days later let''s get married. He said no, I''m not ready, but a month later he reconsidered without telling me he reconsidered and ask me to help sell his truck, motorcycle and car. I really wanted to believe it was all for my ring, but I didn''t want to get my hopes up. It was!!! He told me around my birthday in April. I doing this all for you!! can''t lose you. So here we are ring shopping for a month now!! And I love every minute of it. He''s getting to pick something on his own
Now, then it''s the big count down to wait, when , when , when.???? We are thinking of doing a marquise set up in our acre backyard for the reception. I haven''t told him yet, but I would love to get married on July 7, 2007, that''s the luckiest date I can think of 777 engraved on our wedding rings. He engrave on a stone outside our house this weekend
Mike
Sorry so long, but it''s a great story I think.

 

[sumbride]

Date: 5/22/2006 12:14:07 PM
Author: caligal
Sumbride- HOW funny! I guess you sometimes have to kiss a few toads to find the prince. Hey- we are on the same timeline for engagement... by December for us (although I have a strong feeling it will be early fall- Sept. or Oct.).

YEA!!!!! That''s awesome!!! I''m hoping for August because of our planned vacation, but if he really wanted to surprise me, he''d do it before then! We''ll see!

I just chatted with my mom and told her the "news" and she said "I guess I''ll have to start saving for the wedding." Start? uh oh. I''m one of two daughters, I''d just kind of assumed she had already started... especially since she''s been asking "when" for so long. ah well, at least she''s going to help.

 

[galeteia]

Date: 5/22/2006 12:09:19 PM
Author: sumbride

That is funny! My friends have tried it, but some of them have expressed annoyance that we met on my FIRST online date, and they've met 30 guys and not hit it off with any of them! They should have a disclaimer like for a diet... 'Results Not Typical'... but it's dating... I mean, COME ON, not everybody meets THE person right away... some people just get lucky... while others have their date show up with an entire backpack full of scottish literature to discuss on the date. oh yeah, true story! she's given up dating at this point.

Amen! When I count up the number of boyfriends, dates, and whatnot that I've had, it took me ages to find The One. I've come across plenty of frogs in my time, and what's worse, is that it sometimes took me up to a year or more to discover they weren't princes.

I've been in so many relationships where I moved from "Wow, we really understand one another" to "What planet are you from?!"

Y'all know what I am taking about!

You are all happy, and loving being in a relationship with a guy, and then all of a sudden he says something and it's all "*screech to halt* Whaa? Yikes! Back away, not today, disco lay-dee..." And let's face it: we ladies are cursed with hope. Maybe we can work on him, and wiggle him into that Mr. Perfect mold we've been building all our lives...

But no. And it hurts, and we mourn the loss of the man he could have been, but wasn't. Or am I totally projecting here?

Sure, I've met interesting people online. But I was never tempted to meet them until R came along. It was 'results not typical' right from the get-go.

But the profile helped immensely. I was able to check some basics off right away: Dark hair, check. Post-secondary education, check. (Ooo, going into a PhD! Check check check *pen breaks, and just starts rubbing face on checklist and purring*) Um, I mean... errr...

Eloquent, literate, and loves to cook. Check!

To each their own checklist, but those profiles really help, because the good ones seem to cover the bases.

 

[galeteia]

Well that was odd. Even though the QUOTE tags end before my post starts, it quoted all of my post too!!

Ah well. It's still legible, I suppose.

Edit: WOOT! I fixed it.


Mustangfan, that is a cute story. How long were you two friends before you actually became a couple?

Oh my god. I just talked to my S.O. who was happily telling a friend of his about all that's gone on, ring shopping, etc. Apparently, his friend recently asked his girl to marry him ... and she said no.

After two weeks of hearing nothing but "When is that dratted man going to propose?!" it was a shock to hear of a girl who turned her boyfriend down. Poor guy. I was beginning to forget that not everyone has a happy ending!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Aw, how sad. Is he doing okay?

 

[galeteia]

Date: 5/22/2006 5:54:29 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Aw, how sad. Is he doing okay?

Apparently he''s been travelling and has a slew of friends who have been coming over to spend time with him, so he''s doing okay.

It also sounds like he had a hunch it would end this way, and asked "because he had to know" which kinda implies he had suspicions.

I suppose it is no different than the stories I''ve read on here where girls have given their boyfriends the ultimatum: "Do you want to marry me or not?" when it seemed their manfriends were dragging their heels.

Still. Tough.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Aww, well I wish him well. Women *and* men deserve to be with a mate who can''t wait to merge into marriage! I''m sure his time with buddies is helping ease the pain. And now he can move on to a love that will last a lifetime. Still, having been in a similar situation, I can only sympathize with the pain involved. Good news is, life goes on. And it even gets better than imagined.

 

[MustangFan]

knew someone recently who is a doctor, in NYC.... fiance came home after moving in with him to NY and after 8 months of engagement she just flat out said she couldn''t do this and left, like that! She hated New York, but I would think she would atleast give long distance a try, maybe his hours got to her. Who knows! He proposed to her because he didn''t want to loose her like the last girl and she left anyway.
Poor guy

 

[galeteia]

My ex had the most annoying favorite expression ever: "Doubt means don''t" which I thought was a bit extreme (since I second-guess myself often) but when it comes to the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, it''s important that they be the ''right'' one.

 

[MustangFan]

we were friend 4 monhths total IM world and real life all together. Around the the third of Oct I called him one night late and started spilling the beans about the guy I had hopes in, didn''t except me for who I was and wanted me to start changing after 2.5 months. M says.... there''s nothing wrong with you, you are a beautiful person inside and out. I was just about to call you, I was sat here thinking of you... just had a get together everyone left early, and I''m here all alone outside by the fire because everyone just left like dominos. I told him I think I was better off alone because of 4 failed relationships in 1 year of being back on the dating scene. (I had a fiance whom I dated from 16-21, never experienced anything else or had to) He says, no you are not better off single, because the truth is..,. It sucks being single! and it''s moments like these when I wish I had someone to sit by the fire with. I then admitted to having feeling for him all along, but held it back because I really want to settle and make something work w/ S, but you can''t make a castle out of chicken shit.
Me and M have been together ever since and we wouldn''t change each other for anything in the world.
Had been in contact with S months back and told him that we were getting married and he stopped e-mailing me, after that. Guess he thought he had a chance to sqeeze back into my life, fat chance in hell!! lol

 

[galeteia]

We all know there are plenty of frogs out there-- at least a profile can save a girl from a case of slimy lips!

I got tired of men liking parts of me and hating other parts, and seeking to ''correct'' them. Amazingly, my sweetie loves ''every little part of me'' even the quirks and flaws that drove my exes crazy from the start.

How did y''all know he was ''the one''?