How many gifts to get off the registry when attending a wedding?

[sasa]

DH and I are attending a wedding in July. Usually we just give red envelope when attending weddings. But for this wedding we''re buying off the wedding registry, since we never buy off a registry before I was wondering how we should do this? Do DH and I each purchase a gift off the registry or we can buy one jointly?

 

[musey]

You can do either, but I think most couples (married or otherwise) purchase joint gifts. The number doesn't matter, just settle on a budget that you would have planned for the red envelope and find a gift (or a few smaller gifts combined) on the registry that fits your budget.

 

[musey]

There is another thread currently going on that might help you, too:
https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/when-buying-from-a-registry.115308/

 

[sasa]

Between the house remodeling and the baby I totally forgot about this thread.

Thanks musey! I will go check out the other thread.

 

[D&T]

Date: 5/15/2009 2:49:01 AM
Author: musey
You can do either, but I think most couples (married or otherwise) purchase joint gifts. The number doesn''t matter, just settle on a budget that you would have planned for the red envelope and find a gift (or a few smaller gifts combined) on the registry that fits your budget.

ditto this...

 

[qtiekiki]

Date: 5/15/2009 2:49:01 AM
Author: musey
You can do either, but I think most couples (married or otherwise) purchase joint gifts. The number doesn''t matter, just settle on a budget that you would have planned for the red envelope and find a gift (or a few smaller gifts combined) on the registry that fits your budget.

Thritto.

Just curious, how come no red envelope for this wedding?

 

[zhuzhu]

For those of you who live in the States, can you tell me how much cash is appropriate for a wedding red envelope?

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 5/15/2009 1:34:08 AM
Author:Bobo ^__*
DH and I are attending a wedding in July. Usually we just give red envelope when attending weddings. But for this wedding we''re buying off the wedding registry, since we never buy off a registry before I was wondering how we should do this? Do DH and I each purchase a gift off the registry or we can buy one jointly?

I responded in that other thread, but didn''t mention that DH and I buy jointly. I never spend a lot on wedding gifts because people get SO many items that I often feel the presents are lost in the huge lot. Even for someone I know really well, I only spend about $30.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/18/2009 3:30:52 PM
Author: zhuzhu
For those of you who live in the States, can you tell me how much cash is appropriate for a wedding red envelope?

I think it really depends on your relationship to the couple, and of course your circumstances. You could give as little or as much as you want, though I think that a standard range is probably $50-500, with most between $50-200.

Just based upon the gifts that we received

most people spent between 50-100, whether in cash or gifts. Very very few people gave more than $100, and those that did were either immediate family or extremely close family friends.

Hope that helps!

 

[Haven]

Date: 5/18/2009 3:30:52 PM
Author: zhuzhu
For those of you who live in the States, can you tell me how much cash is appropriate for a wedding red envelope?

This completely depends on your social circle. I''d say that people in our circle of friends give between $200 and $500 from each couple, with $250 being the most common amount. My parents'' social set gives $200 to $300 from each couple.

We usually give $250 or $300 from the two of us.

Give whatever amount reflects your ability, and your affection for the couple.

MC--How awful that your gift gets lost in the shuffle! I can say that I was extraordinarily grateful for each and every gift we received, and we cherished the gifts and the notes that our friends and family took the time to give and write.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 5/18/2009 5:09:40 PM
Author: Haven

This completely depends on your social circle. I'd say that people in our circle of friends give between $200 and $500 from each couple, with $250 being the most common amount. My parents' social set gives $200 to $300 from each couple.

We usually give $250 or $300 from the two of us.

Give whatever amount reflects your ability, and your affection for the couple.

MC--How awful that your gift gets lost in the shuffle! I can say that I was extraordinarily grateful for each and every gift we received, and we cherished the gifts and the notes that our friends and family took the time to give and write.

It's so nice when people take the time to say thanks. One reason the "shuffling" issue has come up is because my two kids have gone to 20 birthday parties since Sept. lol Between that, the holidays, and weddings, I feel that our generousity has been overlooked among the piles of gifts. We use to give out lavish gifts, but recently have reined back our giving because it's just become too expensive.

 

[sasa]

Thanks for everyone''s suggestion!

QT, usually we give red envelope because the couple don''t have registry. But this time the couple have registry so we thought we''ll buy something off the registry.

zhuzhu, the standard for DH and I is $100 per head so that means if DH and I attend a wedding, usually we put at least $200 in the red envelope. If we are very close to the couple then we put more.

MC, sorry to hear you feel that way. But I can relate.

 

[qtiekiki]

Bobo
That makes sense. We have a couple registries for our wedding, but we actually preferred cash. We did the registries in case people wanted options.

zhuzhu
Depends on how close we are to the couple. For acquaintances, we give $50 a head. For friends, we give $200 - $300. For cousins, we give $300 - $500.