how many men wearing diamond earrings to work in an office?

[tigerhearted]

Date: 3/22/2010 1:07:03 PM
Author: ziggyziggy
i dont see myself as beckam but i definitely do not run with the mr rogers crew. i work in a typical office environment. i like a little jewelry on my ear but do not know if its accepted in the office and do not want it to hinder my career if most people view it negatively.

I think it would be safest to check with a manager or human resources or something, if your main concern is whether it''s accepted in the office or how it will affect your career. They might have a dress code that covers issues like these.

 

[motownmama]

just going on the tiniest of info, I would say IT sounds like it would be fihe.

 

[PumpkinPie]

Date: 3/22/2010 1:02:34 PM
Author: kenny

If you want to wear a diamond, wear a diamond.

If you want to fit in, do what your peers do.

There is no wrong choice.

I agree fully with Kenny - unless it will in some way break the dress code or cause you trouble with your supervisor but that would be incredibly unlikely I think

 

[Black Jade]

Best advice I''ve seen is to look and see if any other men have earrings, if they don''t then I wouldn''t.
But even if some do, you might check to see where they work and how they are perceived. As in, is it all the mailroom guys wearing earring and never getting promoted? Or the other IT people.
Current economy is bad and though self-expression is all very well and in an ideal world no one would pay attention to things like this, in real life, it can matter a lot and an earring is not worth a job loss IMO.
I don''t think people scrutinize your ears enough to notice if you have a pierced ear hole with no earring in it--I think they will notice if you wear an earring, and that they will not notice if you don''t, whether or not your ear is pierced. I also don''t think pierced ears on men have said ''gay'' since about thirty years ago (when it was a particular ear, I forget if left or right and then only in places like the Village in NY). Nowadays it''s an issue of ''conservative enough'' or ''serious enough'' or ''not street'', as you put it.
I do think a .50 would be too large. I think that if you decide it''s okay to try to wear one, you could have a more modest one for work (.12 -.25) and a .50 for social occasions.
My husband would never ever wear an earring,neither would my 24 year old son; my 22 year old son wears one (used to have a heck of time with his ''borrowing'' mine''); and my 15 year old son is asking permission to wear two earrings, one in each ear, which is apparently the style among people his age, just one isn''t ''in'' anymore. But my husband is making him wait until he''s eighteen before he gets them pierced.
None of them have an office job, though,so they have no experience that would apply.
It seems to me better than my dad''s generation. It was not at all acceptable for a man to wear any jewelry other than a tie pin and a wedding ring in my dad''s generation so he had to satisfy his jewelry urges by constantly buying jewelry for my mom. However, she never wore anything he bought, it stayed in the jewelry box because she''s not a blingy person. How much easier if he could just have worn it himself.
But now I''ve got a lot of it (smile).

 

[yssie]

Ditto PPs.



It would be nice if people didn't judge us by unfair or unrelated metrics... but they do, and while it's easy to say "oh I won't ever need so-and-so's approval, I don't care what they think" you just never know what tomorrow might bring. This is life. Don't make it harder for yourself than you absolutely need to - this isn't a life-changing decision, so pick your battles.



ETA: I'm in IT too, my work environment is such that while men in jeans and a (clean!) tee is fine, earrings would be the talk of the office - and probably not in a good way. Yours may be quite different..

 

[512BB]

I''m a computer programmer too (and I work with a bunch of engineers) in a pretty conservative work environment, and I don''t think anybody would have a problems with a diamond stud at my work. Might catch some flack from some people though. We have plenty of people with tattoos, though I don''t think any of the men wear earrings, and there are no problems. Personally, in my work I would feel comfortable with at most a .30ct stud, but I don''t have very big ears, so you might be fine with .50ct. Our dress attire is business casual, dress pants and either a button down shirt or a polo is the norm, with the exception of dress down friday or working somewhere that jeans are more appropriate.

 

[kenny]

I think the jump from no earring to a small diamond stud is a huge jump.
Compared to that jump, the jump from a small to a large diamond is less of a big deal.

I mean if you are going to wear something why not wear something you can see more clearly?

I'm vaguely considering mounting one of my 0.8 ct rounds into an earring.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 3/22/2010 3:53:07 PM
Author: ziggyziggy
wow .50 is too large? i was seriously going for .70 LOL. i dont need to look like a celeb but i do have big ears, hehe.

as long as you got the biggest stud in your office including all the women.

 

[Imdanny]

This is not to answer your question (I don''t know the answer) but generally style wise, I have to disagree that it''s the same thing as wearing a nice watch. I think it''s a step beyond that.

Men have been wearing wristwatches since WWI. Wedding bands since WWII. I just don''t think an earring (not talking about my personal opinion) has the same general consensus and acceptance (which again, is not to attempt to answer your question- I''m just responding to a point you made in your OP).

In an ideal world, you could wear it and people would be happy to see it and happy for you, but I can''t say if the people at your workplace will welcome it and/or not hold it against you. I have no way to know the answer to that.

 

[Amethyste]

I have a hand tattoo - a vine with flowers going on the top of my hand to my right ring finger...
My company - have an employee handbook that says " No visible tattoos are allowed".
Hmmmm.. I guess they really wanted me to work there! My office is commercial insurance.

Put a small-er ( not .70 ) stud in there, and play it by "ear" hehe...

In my office, there are several men with a stud in the ear. It's no big deal.