How Rude!!!!

[HollyS]

Date: 11/14/2007 4:08:16 PM
Author: aljdewey

Date: 11/10/2007 3:15:25 PM
Author: pennquaker09
''Dave or I could have written that tirade! We were adamant -- NO CHILDREN!!!!! Period. End of story. Not gonna happen. Children may have fun at weddings, but not at ours. Thank you.

I don''t even want to see them in more upscale restaurants -- go to Denny''s!

I don''t dislike children, I dislike the parenting of most parents.

Tell these thoughtless individuals -- and make d--- sure your mother and mother-in-law do too -- that there will be no children allowed at your wedding and you''re sorry if that means they will not be joining you for the big day. Don''t roll over, and don''t sweat their tacky behavior. Stand firm!''

I think that''s a bit much. Well, I''m biting my tongue, but yeah that''s overboard. I''ve been to many upscale restaurants and never had an issue. My parents took me to upscale restaurants when I was younger. You''re not paying for them to eat so it really can''t be compared to a wedding. I wouldn''t feed my kid Denny''s to save my life.

You are entitled to your opinion, of course, but I have to say that I''ve been to several upscale problems where I''ve witnessed issues with unruly children.

While I understand that they have to learn someplace, I don''t think it should be at the expense of others who 1) didn''t bring their children just because they wanted an escape from such behavior for an evening or 2) don''t have children and didn''t sign up to be a ''training camp'' experience for someone else''s children at a very heavy cost to them.

While I may not be paying for those children to eat at the upscale restaurant, I''m spending quite a few of my own coins to have a certain elegant dining experience. I''m not receptive to allowing ANYONE -- whether it''s an unruly child or an incredibly obnoxious drunk -- to infringe on that experience.

AMEN, SISTER!

 

[pennquaker09]

I suppose I''ll keep my kids at home so as to not infringe on someone''s "experience."

 

[anchor31]

Date: 11/15/2007 4:54:45 PM
Author: pennquaker09
I suppose I''ll keep my kids at home so as to not infringe on someone''s ''experience.''

I think it''s been said repeatedly that the problem is more with the parenting than with the kids. If you don''t let your children do the kind of stuff that has been talked about, I''m sure it''s fine!

For us, inviting children was never an option because we can''t afford to have a 200+ guestlist. So it wasn''t even a question of behaviour... And since we are offering free wine and beer at the reception, it would make me uncomfortable. I know that some people do it, but I will not allow people under 18 (local legal drinking age) to attend.

 

[pennquaker09]

Date: 11/15/2007 6:56:18 PM
Author: anchor31

Date: 11/15/2007 4:54:45 PM

Author: pennquaker09

I suppose I''ll keep my kids at home so as to not infringe on someone''s ''experience.''

I think it''s been said repeatedly that the problem is more with the parenting than with the kids. If you don''t let your children do the kind of stuff that has been talked about, I''m sure it''s fine!

For us, inviting children was never an option because we can''t afford to have a 200+ guestlist. So it wasn''t even a question of behaviour... And since we are offering free wine and beer at the reception, it would make me uncomfortable. I know that some people do it, but I will not allow people under 18 (local legal drinking age) to attend.

I was referring to the restaurant thing. The wedding thing I understand. I''m like you, we''ve got various kinds of alcohol, and I don''t feel comfortable with kids there.

 

[KimberlyH]

As a person who loves, loves, loves kids (I am a teacher-in-training who substitutes and babysits, I find being around children, in the appropriate setting, to be quite an amazing experience) I definitely sit in the "there are places (restaurants included) that are inappropriate places for children to be" and the parents that take them there make me want to scream. A fancy restaurant or upscale wedding is not the place for teaching children how to behave appropriately while dining out (start small, Bucca di Beppo will do), especially younger children; and really how much fun is it for them to sit still, be quiet, don''t interrupt, etc. as they will be required to do if properly parented at many points throughout the evening? There''s a happy medium between Denny''s and Daniel where kids and parents can enjoy themselves (and parents can use the teaching moments presented to them) without being disruptive to adults who have the right to go to an upscale wedding or restaurant and expect an experience that doesn''t include children behaving like, well, children do.