How to deal with rude friends? (Vent)

[Indylady]

Date: 6/29/2009 4:12:47 PM
Author: TravelingGal
I will not meet you in your house

I will not hear you bitch and grouse

I will not meet you here or there

I will not pay your bill, unfair!

I will not watch you eat and slurp

I will not hear you belch and burp

I do not like your mean old SCAM

I will not MEET you Pam-I-Am!


Seriously, buh-bye.

Hilarious and perfect!

 

[iota]

Date: 6/28/2009 9:34:35 PM
Author: Squirrly
um, wow?
in situations like this i would fall off the face of the earth until i feel rested and calm enough to check in and see how the taxing person is doing, and quickly disappear again if taxing > my patience. of course with 2 jobs and school the disappearing act is quite simple for me, actually the proving i''m still alive is harder, so this might be easier said than done.

if it makes you feel any better i fully admit to avoiding calls, ims, emails, and texts (and often times the more frequent the calls/texts/ims the longer i ignore) when i''m in no mood to deal with anything. yes i''m a horrible person, but after 5 calls in 5 or less hours, no messages, finally getting a ''hey i have something important to talk to you about'' message, then calling only to talk for 15 minutes just to see how i''m doing... i screen. and sometimes i do it to people who i quite possibly am their only friend, and i do feel horrible (trust me some of the times sound exceptionally horrific for me to screen calls, but i can''t do the repeated ones, especially when people know my cell is pay per minute and i only talk rarely on it and mostly for emergencies/major vent calmings), but if i''m not collected and calm enough in the first place, i''m not going to be of any help to them with their drama which is generally why they call.

in the case of people i was close to when younger, sometimes for a great deal of my pre-college years, it''s best to remember the fun we had and acknowledge that life has lead us on very different paths and if we had met now and not before we wouldn''t have much of a friendship, much less anything worth reminiscing over.

for your own sanity, distance. there''s a reason tax day comes once a year, and taxing personalities should be encountered in person with a similar frequency. solitaire works wonders for phonecalls when unavoidable.

haha. I love this.

 

[tlh]

People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I don''t think you need selfish people like this in your life, no matter how long you''ve been friends, or what troubles they''ve been through. Your friend is completely in control of her destiny... if she is chosing to live life looking in the rearview mirror... she''s going to get into a lot of accidents.

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” Charles R. Swindoll

 

[Bia]

Okay, I didn't read beyond the salad thing because I wanted to first say, who the hell cares how much salad anyone ate? Why didn't you just use the coupon and then split the bill?

going back to reading...

I firmly believe that friends should be in your life only when they:
-Make you a better person for knowing them
-Supportive of you when you need help
-Appreciate you and alll that you do for them
-Are there for you through thick and thin

*If YOU'RE a good friend, then you do all of these as well. If this girl is no longer a friend in these ways, then you might want to think about why she's still in your life.

 

[jaylex]

soo I have an update.



the bouncy, burpy friends are having a
BOUNCY BURPY BABY!

yes. I just found out today that they are procreating (it was an accident.) Even if you don't believe in God PLEASE pray for their child (kinda kidding, kinda not).

She called to tell me today that she's approx. 6 weeks along and due in March. BF and I are running as far away as possible so they don't get the idea to ask us to be Godparents or something.

ps.
we havn't hung out with them since the "incident"

lol

 

[choro72]

Thus, my theory of diminishing IQ is supported...

Good job on keeping your distance!

 

[thatsthegirl212]

I read your post but not everyone''s comments so forgive me if I say something similar to someone else! Personally, I would have dropped this ''friend'' a long time ago, she or her bf cates little for your feelings and actions, she puts herself first with little or no regard to anyone else. Do not remain friends with her because you feel sorry for her childhood, think about what a true friend does for you and I doubt she will fall into that category. I''m sorry she was abused, it is tragic but she''s an adult now and needs to act like one.
Good luck!