How would you feel about a man proposing without a ring?

[Laila619]

If he had plans to take me ring shopping the next day, then that would be fine. If it were a proposal where he had no plans to EVER give me a ring, then NO! I would not be happy.

 

[sunnyd]

I wanted him to propose without the ring. We both wanted to be engaged, but funds were holding up the ring buying process. I told him to just do it without, but he, being a traditionalist, wanted to have the ring in hand when he got down on one knee. So six months later, we were finally engaged with a ring.

 

[princesss]

Wouldn''t bother me in the slightest - I''m sure I''d know it was a serious proposal and not daydreaming by his demeanour. If he did it because he couldn''t afford a ring? Fine. If he did it so we could pick it out together? Fine. If he did it because he realized at that moment that he never wanted anyone but me, and he had to ask as soon as he figured it out? *swoon*

 

[misssoph]

My husband proposed on a beach, in Fiji, watching the sunset while drinking Moet!, very romantic but no ring...We went shopping together after we got home, I found an antique ring I liked and we designed something similar with a jeweller. I really much preferred it that way, now the ring is something we did together which is symbolic of a marraige. He is very proud of the ring and likes to tell people he designed it himself.
On a practical note I didnt rreally see what I liked in the retail stores, so I doubt that he would have been able to find it either.

 

[tyty333]

Date: 1/15/2010 7:56:58 PM
Author:HopeDream
My BF and I were discussing engagement, and he said that the PS community would find proposing without a ring intolerable, I disagreed.

What do you ladies and gents think about a man proposing without a ring?

I dont think what your BF said it true at all. I think there are more PSers who would want some say so in their ring
vs being presented with a ring not of their choice. There may be some who want a BF to have a ring when they
propose but they will have wanted to give a lot of input to it (from what I''ve gathered).

 

[MayFlowers]

My BF plans to propose without a ring. That is because he wants me to have a say in the ring that I get. We have discussed it and I am perfectly fine with him proposing without a ring. We will probably begin ring shopping immediately though.

I know a few people mentioned telling family and friends and what they would say if they did not have a ring. On that note, depending on how long my ring selection takes, BF and I will probably hold off telling anyone until I have the ring. If we end up going custom or choosing a ring that may take longer than a few weeks to get, then we will probably begin to tell everyone without the ring. The only reason I want to wait until I have the ring is that my parents are very traditional and would probably be shocked that BF has let me pick out the ring, that he didn''t propose with a ring, etc.

All that aside, if there was never any intention of giving me a ring ever, then I would be upset. I view the engagement ring as a symbol of both parties'' commitment to each other. So, that is important to me.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Mine did and didn''t bother me in the least. He wanted to get married ASAP, so I suppose he thought that begging, er asking, would be a good place to start

without wasting time...... I got a ring a couple of months later and was married within 9 months of the proposal. Will celebrate 25 years this Sept.

cheers--Sharon

 

[Allison D.]

Date: 1/15/2010 7:56:58 PM
Author:HopeDream
My BF and I were discussing engagement, and he said that the PS community would find proposing without a ring intolerable, I disagreed.

What do you ladies and gents think about a man proposing without a ring?

You were right as far as I''m concerned.

My hub proposed sans ring; he wanted my help selecting it.

That said, it was never about the ring anyway for me. It was about marrying the right guy.

 

[TooPatient]

I wouldn''t have a problem if he proposed without a ring. All I really want is for him to tell me he loves me and wants to spend his life with me (and make it official by getting married).

If he COULDN''T buy a ring, I''d have no problem with never having a ring.
If he wanted to propose first and pick a ring out together, that is nice too.
If he WOULDN''T buy a ring, we''d have to talk. I guess it would depend on WHY he wouldn''t buy one. (saving for house = okay, afraid for my safety = okay, bought a new toy for him = iffy, doesn''t want people to know = BAD)


Honestly, I would LOVE to have a ring & simple proposal. It would make me very happy for both of us to have a ring on our hands to symbolize our life together & the love we share. I''d certainly prefer to have a ring (not necessarily with the proposal, but at some point in life) BUT -- I''d much rather have the man.

 

[Echidna]

Date: 1/15/2010 7:56:58 PM
Author:HopeDream
My BF and I were discussing engagement, and he said that the PS community would find proposing without a ring intolerable, I disagreed.


What do you ladies and gents think about a man proposing without a ring?

Well, my newly-minted fiancé did just that on Tuesday and I thought it was GREAT

We are now ordering a ring together, but the fact that it wasn''t presented in that moment does not make either the proposal or the ring any less special

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I was proposed to without a ring. I accepted and my heart still jumped for joy.

Almost a year after we were engaged he dropped to his knee with a second proposal - this time with my dream ring. Took me COMPLETELY by surprise and I have to admit - the fact that he worked so hard to get me my dream ring after I had already accepted his proposal made me feel it was something he wanted to give to me and less something he felt he had to give to me.

 

[Alienor]

Having your better half and best friend ask you in marriage is what matters, not the ring. I am still madly in love with my husband even though I have an engagement ring but no wedding band. The commitment and the blessing to spend the rest of my life with him is much more important to me. I would have still said yes even without a ring.

 

[Pandora II]

I told my husband that I''d be VERY unhappy if he deprived me of the fun of shopping for our engagement ring!

So, he proposed with a beautiful scrabble board instead, then I got a placeholder ring and finally the real thing - and a new proposal with each!

That said, it''s very common to get engaged and then shop for the ring together here in the UK. Princess Diana and Sarah Ferguerson both picked out their own e-rings after the engagement.

 

[rosetta]

i agree with pandora II.

here in the UK, nearly all my friends chose their own rings after the proposal, thereby relieving their fiances of the stress of guessing what kind of ring they wanted, and also enjoying the wonderful experience of hunting for the ring together. This method has much to recommend it!

 

[LaurenThePartier]

I would absolutely have no problem with it.

My husband and I were engaged without a ring (discussed getting married, had the wedding paid for, dress purchased, etc.), but he was waiting on the ring to be finished to re-propose.

 

[OcMrsB]

when my husband proposed, it was unplanned, he had just felt in that moment he needed to ask me

the next day we started shopping for rings, and we found a diamond together and set it in a setting we both loved. wouldnt have had it any other way!

 

[beltane]

I was proposed to without a ring, and I was relieved! I knew a proposal was probably coming within the next year, and to be honest I was starting to stress about what the ring would look like. We have different tastes. He likes curvy and ornate and yellow gold. I like simple and white gold. So when he proposed and said "I hope you don''t mind if we start ring shopping tomorrow..." I was thrilled.

I ended up picking a ring he said he totally would NOT have chosen for me, but is happy that I love it and because of that he loves it too.

 

[HopeDream]

Thanks for the responses ladies!

I think my BF was impressed that even on LIW it wasn''t just all about the ring.

 

[princesss]

Date: 1/29/2010 1:11:57 PM
Author: HopeDream
Thanks for the responses ladies!

I think my BF was impressed that even on LIW it wasn''t just all about the ring.

Wow, he doesn''t think very highly of us at all, does he?

I think posters that want the ring and just the ring are few and far between on here. There are some that see it as a vital part of the proposal, and that''s totally valid, but I think PS just generally attracts people that like to know their stuff, and for 99.9999% of us, that includes knowing we''ve got a rock-solid relationship with a really great guy.

 

[risingsun]

If a man wants to go ring shopping together after the proposal, couldn''t he have made the same suggestion prior to the proposal

That would be my preference. The proposal with the ring was very special for both of us.