i am slowly becoming ridiculous

[HollyS]

There is nothing wrong with, say, "planning ahead". I started a 3-ring binder with ideas quite a few years before the engagement, let alone the wedding planning. It made for wonderfully stress free real planning when the time came. Start gathering color, floral, dress, table, location, food, and invite ideas. Go ahead and buy the wedding magazines that you like and cut out pictures. Other great sources are home decorating publications. Some of my floral ideas came from my stash of past year VICTORIA magazines.

Oh, and it won't hurt to create a file for him either. Fill it with ring pictures. My BF would roll his eyes, and give a heavy sigh when I mentioned 'his file', but he was grateful for it when he was ready to transition to being my FI. (And, if I'm being completely honest, I started my search for the holy grail of e-rings many, many, many years before he was ready to even entertain the idea.)

As long as your guy doesn't feel any pressure from you while you are gathering your ideas, indulge your fantasies and have a good time! And, am I correct in remembering that you said you were living together? If so, he may just occasionally take a peek at your file to determine just what you like in order to surprise you someday. It could happen.

And while you're driving yourself crazy thinking about the future, remember to start stashing away for the future. Now would be a great time to start funneling some moola into a special account for your someday wedding.

 

[FrekeChild]

Hee hee. We have a "wedding change jar" thats on the kitchen table that we put all our spare change in. I figure we have at least 2-3 years to save...

 

[tberube]

Date: 2/27/2008 2:03:24 PM
Author:jbear
I''ve been lurking on this board and thought I''d post. As an introduction: my BF and I have been together about 2 years, blah blah blah... recently moved in together, blah blah... we love and are very happy with each other, blah blah... I wonder when he''ll propose, blah blah...he says he wants it to be a surprise, blah... I think it''ll happen everytime he sneezes, blah, blah blah... then I think it will never happen, or at least not in my timeframe, blah blah blah... slowly descending into madness and obsession over this one thing and it is consuming my life, blah blah blah blah...


The other day I made an excel spreadsheet with some potential guests for the wedding . Um... I am not even engaged and there is no wedding date on the horizon. I did not go as far as to add HIS guests. I guess I thought that would be the crazy line.


I''m so embarrassed.

Heeheehee....

love your sense of humor!!

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Oh, honey.

I had my dress bought, alterations being done, wedding in Vegas completely planned, and plane tickets bought before my husband even officially proposed.

I feel your pain, I got to the point about 2 years in where I thought it would never happen. We''d been living together almost the entire relationship, and we were so happy together. Right before we hit our 4th year, we were faced with this urgent rush to plan a wedding (no, I wasn''t pregnant, his company made their numbers and was taking company + spouse on an incentive trip, and I had missed 3 amazing vacations in prior years before).

Sometimes something just lights a fire under they''re arses and they realize that yes - I DO want to spend the rest of my life with this woman.

Just breathe - post often in LIW, because honestly, the vents I could take here are what helped keep me from taking it out on DH at the time. LIW is a wonderful support group for women like us.

And, a little pre-planning NEVER hurts.

 

[rizz]

you guys have inspired me! lol I think I''m going to have to step it up and start making these fabulous folders you speak of!

So far I''m just in the obsessed with rings stage, which includes lurking here everyday and just recently I have been going ring shopping and reporting back home to bf. Yesterday I came home from shopping all giddy and high on life...he was just like ok what did you try on today! lol

I think LIW board is the place for me! Although kinda scared you guys will make me worse!

 

[sillybean]

Ah! This could have been me talking about this! I''ve done some crazy things. Like today, after looking at diamonds and getting to try a bunch on, I could NOT shut up about diamonds! I talked about it in the car on the way home, again in the car when he picked me up from a friends, talked about it in Target while picking up some cat food, talking about it on the way home, talked about it during dinner, AND talked about it while watching my favorite TV show CSI (Las Vegas). Oh yeah. I also mentioned it for the phone call before he went to sleep. Am I ring obsessed? ABSOLUTELY!! We need a support group.

I just drool when I think about getting my diamond.

He told me he wanted me to go with to pick the diamond, I said I didn''t want to go.. I picked the setting and what my wedding band would be like eventually... I dont want to pick the diamond! I know it''s going to be less than a carat to begin with though, and I''m ok with that. Blah, anyways, carat size doesnt matter as much to me.. I just want his love and a pretty sparkly thing to show it off!

Some obsessive things I''ve done already: Planned my wedding date (haha!) Oct 2010, Told him that his friends are not invited (joking), told ALL of my friends my wedding date, asked my parents what they''ll be paying for, told my parents what they''ll be paying for (joking), looked in many many diamond stores, tried on TONS of diamonds, compare diamond prices up the wazoo, switched from being a princess cut girl to a round (brilliant?) girl .. the list goes on and on. I''ve even gone to a website and built my virtual wedding party in like 5 different styles!! (hmmm maybe I should look again). I am also constantly looking at diamonds online, I LOVE reading about proposals and such-- so cute!! Cant wait until it''s me