I am so furious with my husband right now...

[diamondseeker2006]

It runs in their genes, Italia!!! When we were first married, we lived outside of Chicago for 4 years and we had the most horrendous winters while we were there. My husband was involved with a plant start-up and worked very long hours. These big storms would come and I would BEG him to please come on home! But he would never leave early. He only left if the whole plant shut down.

I really think it is part ego. If other guys are involved, they do not want to have to say that they can''t come (or have to leave early) because their wife is worried about the weather. They''d probably never live that down. They are fully convinced that they are excellent defensive drivers and can handle driving in any circumstances. Our natures are very different. For the most part we (females) are the nurturers and want to be sure our family is safe and cautious.

We live in the south now and rarely have weather we have to argue over, but so far, he has made it home, thankfully.

So I don''t think it has anything to do with not respecting you, but it has everything to do with how they see situations differently than we do. We see huge danger and they see none, or an adventure.

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Aww sorry Italia!

I''m in Chicago too - I know how unbelievably crappy it is out, and COLD, and icy, and I do not blame you on bit for being furious.

I can totally see my BF doing the same thing (but with football, not hockey), and I totally sympathize.

I hope he gets back from the game safe and sound. Sorry dear - hugs!

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 1/14/2009 9:26:17 PM
Author: Princess
"I''m going to play frisbee."
"No you''re not."
"But I want to."
"The doctor said you could rupture your spleen if you run. No. No frisbee."
"You''re mean."
"Tough sh*t."

LMFAO Princess! "You''re mean." Ahahaha!

It''s funny, my husband has never once done this. He never argues with me when I don''t want to do something that I feel is dangerous, either. (Granted that isn''t often.) Either I''m lucky or he''s lazy lol.

 

[packrat]

I don''t think my husband would''ve gone. If the weather is that bad, he wouldn''t take the chance. He has a lot of drama to deal w/from me on a day to day basis..doubtful he''d compound it by attending a sporting event in horrendous weather.

 

[arjunajane]

Date: 1/14/2009 4:19:54 PM
Author: strmrdr

Date: 1/14/2009 4:12:37 PM
Author: Steel

I understand - gotta respect the code.


Funny how a man could remember a set of rules in a code but not to pick up his socks...put the seat down...hmmm.

rule 254 says we can make them up on the spot as needed

I thought it was a woman's perogative to change their mind..?

Maybe we're not so different after all.

I am sorry Italia, it does sound like pretty typical guy behaviour to me. I hope you can get through to him before anything bad happens.

 

[sklingem]

Any updates???

 

[onvacation]

Date: 1/14/2009 1:31:04 PM
Author: rob09
If I lived outside of Chicago I would NOT take any risks - especially today. I assume that there is no way to take public transportation? (i.e. Metra etc.)
R.

Ermm.. I hate to tell you this, but I was on both the Metra and Amtrak yesterday, which BOTH had derailing accidents early last evening. I have my fingers crossed he didn''t go the public transportation route!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Well, I left work super early to get home and the roads weren't really bad...wet, a bit slushy, but not terrible.

We talked about why I felt his obstinance was disrespectful...he understood, and apologized. It was a nice conversation since my anger had gone away and he had resigned himself to the fact that going might me a big risk NOT worth taking.

In the end, we ended up going together...we had a very nice time, the Hawks won, and it was a great opportunity to "people watch".

As a side note, I never really hated my husband...I hated his behavior, and I was overly frusterated. I love my husband, 98% of the time he's a wonderful man with a good heart...2% of the time he's thick skulled and unfazed by hazzard. But, marriage is about taking the good and the bad...we're just fine.

 

[MonkeyPie]

I''m glad to hear it worked out, Italia