I give up...

[FrekeChild]

I can''t figure out a necklace or a necklace design, or well, anything. As far as earrings and necklaces go, I''m lost. I was originally going to wear the earrings I got on sale, but I just...no. Not feeling them anymore.

So HELP ME!!!! PLEASE?!?!?!?!?!

I don''t even know what color!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[FrekeChild]

And here''s what I''ll be wearing over it after the ceremony...

Oh, the only jewelry I know I will be wearing is my ering, wedding band, and Big Blue as a RHR.

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[E B]

IMO- Dramatic, dangly earrings and no necklace. What is your wedding jewelry budget?

 

[kama_s]

What earrings did you get before? Asking so I know what you don't like anymore! Also, what are your likes and dislikes, do you like pave, pearls etc or do you want to stay away from them?

I LOVE these Nadri earrings, I've been eyeing them for a year now. I think they'd go really well with your dress and you totally have the personality to rock them!

ETA: I was just going to say the same thing as Ebree, I think earrings and bracelet, no necklace because it might conflict with your bolero.

 

[FrekeChild]

Right now, around $200, but I''m planning on selling the gemstones I was going to use (2.5ct blue zircon, 4.45ct silver topaz, 7.4ct silver topaz) so it should be quite a bit more. Problem is, I''m going to my jeweler tomorrow to see if they have anything that makes my heart skip a beat. Right now I''m leaning towards something blue...

A problem with big dangly earrings is that I''m planning on wearing my hair down, and things tend to get stuck in them--which is one reason I''m second guessing the big earrings I got before....

As for a bracelet, I''m considering wearing a sky blue topaz bracelet that FI bought me a couple Christmases ago...

No veil, no hair jewelry...

 

[FrekeChild]

Earrings I have...

 

[galvana]

ok - with your hair down and the boleo - i would say just something small for earrings, i agree dangly ones wont work w/ hair down.
IMO - earrings wont really matter here, the dress is stunning - the bolero is AMAZING - and your hair down will look awesome.
less is more sometimes and i hate to say this but you could wear little studs and it would be ok. perfect even!
and definitly no necklace, and just pick a small pair of anything for earrings (i hope this isn''t offending you).
but i guess what im trying to say is, you could go without earrings, LOL -
the dress is a statement - stunning
the bolero is a statement - stunning
hair down with go perfect - love it.
they are fantastic on their own
the model w/ your dress on, can''t see her earrings, no necklace and she looks awesome.

the blue bracelet from FI sounds nice -
small earrings, studs - to match would be great!

 

[EMPTorres]

Since you might wear your blue topaz bracelet, what about blue topaz earrings?

http://www.overstock.com/Worldstock/Topaz-Blue-Ballet-Earrings-India/3481742/product.html

http://www.overstock.com/Worldstock/Sterling-Silver-Dancing-Swan-Blue-Topaz-Earrings-Indonesia/3374262/product.html

http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/14k-White-Gold-Gemstone-1-4ct-TDW-Diamond-Earrings/2870213/product.html - these are a little over budget

http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/Sterling-Silver-Multicolor-Topaz-Dangle-Earrings/2050361/product.html - these are kind of boring

http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/10k-White-Gold-Blue-Topaz-and-1-4ct-TDW-Diamond-Earrings-I-J-I1-I2/3348995/product.html - a bit over budget

Or I think these would look fabulous with the lace on the top of your dress

http://www.whiteaisle.com/lily_earrings.html - of course the ones in silver

http://www.whiteaisle.com/lace_cuff.html - bracelet that will compliment the earrings.

 

[cocolaw]

what about these? small earrings

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[House Cat]

Freke,

Do you have any idea how you''re wearing your hair? Photos? How bad is the situation of hair and earring getting tangled? If really bad, maybe a small drop earring? I think a little something should be seen off the earlobe.

 

[FrekeChild]

Probably something like this...loose curls. My hair is longer than hers, and a light brown.

 

[Sharon101]

Date: 8/1/2009 7:50:00 AM
Author: iloveprincesscuts
ok - with your hair down and the boleo - i would say just something small for earrings, i agree dangly ones wont work w/ hair down.
IMO - earrings wont really matter here, the dress is stunning - the bolero is AMAZING - and your hair down will look awesome.
less is more sometimes and i hate to say this but you could wear little studs and it would be ok. perfect even!
and definitly no necklace, and just pick a small pair of anything for earrings (i hope this isn''t offending you).
but i guess what im trying to say is, you could go without earrings, LOL -
the dress is a statement - stunning
the bolero is a statement - stunning
hair down with go perfect - love it.
they are fantastic on their own
the model w/ your dress on, can''t see her earrings, no necklace and she looks awesome.

the blue bracelet from FI sounds nice -
small earrings, studs - to match would be great!

Totally agree. Small cute earrings. Maybe even pearls! The dress looks amazing & doesnt need too many accessories.

 

[charbie]

freke- have you thought about a small illusion necklace? that might just give you the "feel" of jewelry, but won''t overwhelm anything.

 

[FrekeChild]

I was considering having something like the new Tiff''s aqua DBTY necklace made, but with a bigger stone, and perhaps swiss or london blue topaz instead of aqua since it would be able to handle the cobalt of the shrug better.

I''m not keen on doing pearls unless they are silver/blue, because the only white element of my entire ensemble is my shoes--the ceremony ones that will likely only be worn for 45 minutes. A pair of medium teal/blue suede shoes will be worn afterward.

 

[decodelighted]

Have you tested out hair down with that high collared jacket? I worry about that. Loose flowing curls only look good unencumbered. Its like the hair & the collar are going to be fighting for attention around your neck IMHO. The LAST thing you''d wanna add to that mix is more NECK focal points.

Bracelet?

 

[Dogmom]

How about these from Ross-Simons? they are substantial, but not so dangly as to get caught in your hair.

Here is the link if you want a closer look.

 

[SapphireLover]

Date: 8/1/2009 12:36:26 PM
Author: FrekeChild
I was considering having something like the new Tiff''s aqua DBTY necklace made, but with a bigger stone, and perhaps swiss or london blue topaz instead of aqua since it would be able to handle the cobalt of the shrug better.


I''m not keen on doing pearls unless they are silver/blue, because the only white element of my entire ensemble is my shoes--the ceremony ones that will likely only be worn for 45 minutes. A pair of medium teal/blue suede shoes will be worn afterward.

I has Sally from Heartofwaterjewels make me a necklace like this. I originally asked for her pillbox design as a pendant. When it arrived i realised it was very similar (unintentionally) to the Toffany aqua necklace above. It was really reasonable (defo within your budget in sterling silver). I had a pale aqua, but she has some stronger coloured ones and might even have blue topaz in if you''d prefer.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Freke - I am going to go against the majority and say the small pendant is exactly what I was thinking would go with the ensemble. But I also agree with deco. The high collar and long hair seem to compete. What if you had half of your hair pulled back away from your face so it only falls on your back and not in front of your shoulders?

 

[House Cat]

If hair is down: Small drop earrings, but make sure they can be seen. Dark blue might not do because they might hide in the shadows of your hair. I still like your original earrings for hair down, but I''m a little more bohemian and I like big earrings and long hair. So, it''s a matter of taste. I would think a small, light blue earring or small crystal drop earring. If the earring is dramatic enough, no necklace, just a bracelet.

If hair is up: Studs. Maybe even studs with a jacket of some kind. Then, your very tiffany neclace would work, but keep it really delicate.


I really, really like the neckline plain with that gown. But, I think it really comes down to whether or not you are comfortable with leaving that area bare. Some people aren''t.

I love the hair inspiration you provided. I feel confused about what input to give, because deco has a very good point about hair being caught up in the collar. I love the idea of your hair being down with that gown. I think I remember you saying you wouldn''t be wearing the bolero for long, so maybe your hair and collar won''t be much of an issue.

If I had my vote, it would be for hair down, drop earrings, and a bracelet.

 

[FrekeChild]

The high colored jacket will not be in my hands until November. It''s being custom made for me, and the collar will not be as high. I''m not worried about it because the jacket will not be used until after the ceremony anyway, and the reason behind it is just so my shoulders aren''t bare outside.

However, I''ve considered wearing my hair up as well. Perhaps something like this:

 

[FrekeChild]

And this came from a discussion in CS about the wedding necklace from a few months ago...

 

[decodelighted]

I'm not a huge fan of bold colored gemstones... so weigh any advice knowing that preference ... but I think there's a lot going on in your look already w/o adding colored stones in the form of a necklace or earrings. That blue jacket is BOLD .. the dress is already an untraditional color. The whole thing could start heading toward "Prom" or "Formal Cocktail Party" very quickly.

Coco Chanel said put on your accessories & then take one (or more) off. Less is more. Too many focal points is plain old confusing to the eye.

Part of me wonders if you're a bit self concious about being the center of attention on that day ... and wanting to hide behind THINGS and doo dads & "statements". People will be there to see YOU & your FI ... you want your own natural beauty to shine through. Trust that it will be there & you'll be glowy and luminescent and beaming so much that people won't be looking at what necklace you're wearing. Does that make sense?

Is this all bridal nerves driven? The buying & selling & shoe search & rethinking & ordering etc etc. Because you just can't *buy* peace of mind.

Or upgrade to it.

 

[iheartscience]

I say no necklace and I like the earrings from Ross-Simon or something else similar. The neckline of the dress is enough of a focal point and I think a necklace would just detract from the overall look. If you do a bracelet I would keep it very dainty-something like a DBTY. And don''t kill me but I wouldn''t do any blue jewelry other than your e-ring and Big Blue. I would just do diamonds or "diamonds" in everything else. You don''t want to be too matchy matchy with the blue. And what happened to the grey fur jacket?! I loved that!

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 8/1/2009 5:04:26 PM
Author: decodelighted
I''m not a huge fan of bold colored gemstones... so weigh any advice knowing that preference ... but I think there''s a lot going on in your look already w/o adding colored stones in the form of a necklace or earrings. That blue jacket is BOLD .. the dress is already an untraditional color. The whole thing could start heading toward ''Prom'' or ''Formal Cocktail Party'' very quickly.

Coco Chanel said put on your accessories & then take one (or more) off. Less is more. Too many focal points is plain old confusing to the eye.

Part of me wonders if you''re a bit self concious about being the center of attention on that day ... and wanting to hide behind THINGS and doo dads & ''statements''. People will be there to see YOU & your FI ... you want your own natural beauty to shine through. Trust that it will be there & you''ll be glowy and luminescent and beaming so much that people won''t be looking at what necklace you''re wearing. Does that make sense?

Is this all bridal nerves driven? The buying & selling & shoe search & rethinking & ordering etc etc. Because you just can''t *buy* peace of mind.

Or upgrade to it.

Are you trying to psychoanalyze a psych major?

I''m not going for "bridal". If anything, I would say I''m going for more of a "red carpet" look.

Is it bridal nerves? No. So far the only two things I''m second guessing are the fur thing which, while lovely, was purchases on a whim not to mention I didn''t realize it was real fur when I bought it. The second purchase, was the earrings. Both of which I bought before I bought the dress, figuring that they would go with anything.

I have sought out two pairs of shoes, and I will be wearing both pairs of shoes. No complications there.

The necklace has been a concern of mine since the beginning. I had bought a giant 7ct white topaz a long long time ago, and decided to wear that, then I decided to get a second white topaz and wear that too. But two stones looked weird. So that is when people started suggesting other stones to go along with it. Which never went anywhere.

I am not self conscious at all about being the center of attention. If anything, I think that''s kind of a silly assumption. There will be 20ish people there, half of which are relatives, all of which are super close and I''m never the type to be self conscious about anything anyway.

There are some alterations that are being made to the bolero-the collar won''t be as high, the sleeves will be longer (hello, January!), and the part over the bust will be different. However, my total crap photoshop job does not do such a gorgeous garment justice, and I would not post it because of that. And the bolero is going to be worn outside. Not during the ceremony, and probably not during dinner. It''s to help me stay warm, and it''s blue because matching the dress would have been horrific, and this color calls to me, and looked great with the silver of the dress.

Things to be worn during ceremony:
Dress
Stuart Weitzman''s
ering
Big Blue
blue topaz bracelet
Necklace TBD
Earrings TBD

Things to be worn after ceremony:
Dress
Cynthia Rowley''s
ering
wedding band
Big Blue
Blue bolero
blue topaz bracelet
Necklace TBD
Earrings TBD

Is that really all that much?

 

[decodelighted]

It wasn''t an assumption ... it was a guess.

I *wonder* versus I *know/think/believe*. Red carpet helps me understand more. Are both sets of shoes blue?

I don''t know. So much of a strong color just seems heavy-handed to me. Like a blue theme rather than an elegant outfit/glowing bride. If I were choosing, there would be a *max* of ONE strong colored item. As an accent.

And your list: yes, it does seem like a lot to me -- not in number of items as much as in potential *dominance* of each item.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 8/1/2009 5:17:42 PM
Author: thing2of2
I say no necklace and I like the earrings from Ross-Simon or something else similar. The neckline of the dress is enough of a focal point and I think a necklace would just detract from the overall look. If you do a bracelet I would keep it very dainty-something like a DBTY. And don''t kill me but I wouldn''t do any blue jewelry other than your e-ring and Big Blue. I would just do diamonds or ''diamonds'' in everything else. You don''t want to be too matchy matchy with the blue. And what happened to the grey fur jacket?! I loved that!

If I do a bracelet it will be the one FI gave me. Every item of jewelry will have some kind of sentimental meaning to it, Big Blue is of course my PS Gift and my dad''s wedding gift to me, my ering, my wedding band, the bracelet if I wear it. The money going towards this necklace is from a piggy bank that my (now deceased) brother and his (also deceased) wife started for me when I was born. My mom continued it for me as a child, and when I was old enough to "get it" I started adding to it myself. My mom always wanted me to use it towards something for my wedding--specifically something I could pass down to further generations. So I am going to. When I got it it had $15 in it. When I counted it out the other day, it had $200+ in it. When I was younger I dreamed of using it for a tiara, and that is SO not happening.

The grey fur overwhelmed me because I''m so dang short(you want it?). So while it went perfectly, it needs a skinnier taller person with smaller boobs. I had a friend take a pic, and all of a sudden I looked like a dang linebacker with football pads on. Super snuggly though. And of course it killed me that it was real.

So as you can see, this ISN''T just another "bride" purchase. It has a lot of emotion behind it as well.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 8/1/2009 6:14:49 PM
Author: decodelighted
It wasn''t an assumption ... it was a guess.

I *wonder* versus I *know/think/believe*. Red carpet helps me understand more. Are both sets of shoes blue?

I don''t know. So much of a strong color just seems heavy-handed to me. Like a blue theme rather than an elegant outfit/glowing bride. If I were choosing, there would be a *max* of ONE strong colored item. As an accent.

And your list: yes, it does seem like a lot to me -- not in number of items as much as in potential *dominance* of each item.

The SWs are white satin with swarovkis of aqua, sapphire, aurora borealis, and white scattered on. The CW''s (aka walking around shoes) are blue suede (Vegas/Elvis? Totally not intended.) and kind of a deep teal. I''m planning on trashing those by walking around Vegas streets in them, and thats one reason I''m not wearing the SWs for walking around after the wedding. That and the SWs are like walking around in sky scrapers. The dress will be floor length--on me right now it''s about 6 inches too long, but I''ll get it hemmed obviously.

I don''t see the dominance in any of the items really though. Can you explain?

I''ll go ahead and find pictures of things and post them...

 

[FrekeChild]

Blue Suede Cynthia Rowleys. In real life they are a bit more teal and slightly darker if I remember correctly.

 

[FrekeChild]

My Stuart Weitzmans. Crystals courtesy of me. ETA: Eek! Sorry that pic is so huge!

 

[FrekeChild]

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