Gypsy
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So... our guest list was at 75 with 60 expected. That included all the people John and I thought were important, plus a 7 duty invites. Not included were ANY of John''s 20 first cousins (with spouses brings us up to 40) guests or any of my mother''s first cousins (ridiculous amount of them) or my father''s side of the family (also a crazy amount, and I don''t speak with them anymore).
Then two weeks ago, my mother expanded the list to include, at her expense, 4 duty invites on our side of the family (2 couples), 6 of her friends (3 couples) whom she has been lifelong (since her teens) friends with, and my stepfather''s siblings (with their spouses). This brought our count up to the nineties with 75 expected.
Now, my parents have (finally) accepted John into our family. And have offered to (aside from paying for their guest additions) help pay for this wedding. We were shocked but touched.
And we were stupid.
So today we are going over wedding budgets and so forth with my mom, and I brought the guest list.
My mother was fine with it and EVEN REDUCED ABOUT PEOPLE FROM THE LIST! (Shock and awe).
And we decided to include my step father in the wedding planning.
My step father is a lovely man with a generous heart. But he''s never had children and is frequently like a child himself (if any of you remember his behavior when my mother was sick you''ll know what I mean).
He threw a HISSY FIT that his nieces and nephews weren''t invited. ALL TWENTY OF THEM (when you include their spouses). 3 of whom I have never met. And all but one I have spent less than 6 hours of TOTAL TIME with in my LIFETIME. My mother and I argued as much as we could against this. But he threw a TANTRUM and well...
the list is at 110 now (I cut a few ''and guests'' to get this down to as low as possible). They''re helping to pay for it, and my mother doesn''t work. So we had to give in, apparently.
So I tell John, who is upset. Because his mother was SERIOUSLY upset that he wasn''t inviting his 40 (twenty plus spouses) first cousins on his father''s side.
WELL, now that I''m inviting STEP- first cousins. Guess who we''ve got to invite in order to avoid alienating his mother and sisters? You''ve got it. His first cousins (that he doesn''t even WANT to invite).
So the guest list?
ONE HUNDRED FIFTY PEOPLE.
None of the venues I''ve looked at can comfortably accommodate that.
John''s pushing for Vegas again.
My grandparent''s are telling me to elope somewhere tropical.
And I feel like crying. I really wanted the California wedding with my grandfather in his cherry red scooter walking me down the aisle.
I''m so disheartened. I wish I could just tell Step dad where he can stick his neices and nephews, but I can''t. Not even because of the money. But because of my parent''s marriage.
Then two weeks ago, my mother expanded the list to include, at her expense, 4 duty invites on our side of the family (2 couples), 6 of her friends (3 couples) whom she has been lifelong (since her teens) friends with, and my stepfather''s siblings (with their spouses). This brought our count up to the nineties with 75 expected.
Now, my parents have (finally) accepted John into our family. And have offered to (aside from paying for their guest additions) help pay for this wedding. We were shocked but touched.
And we were stupid.
So today we are going over wedding budgets and so forth with my mom, and I brought the guest list.
My mother was fine with it and EVEN REDUCED ABOUT PEOPLE FROM THE LIST! (Shock and awe).
And we decided to include my step father in the wedding planning.
My step father is a lovely man with a generous heart. But he''s never had children and is frequently like a child himself (if any of you remember his behavior when my mother was sick you''ll know what I mean).
He threw a HISSY FIT that his nieces and nephews weren''t invited. ALL TWENTY OF THEM (when you include their spouses). 3 of whom I have never met. And all but one I have spent less than 6 hours of TOTAL TIME with in my LIFETIME. My mother and I argued as much as we could against this. But he threw a TANTRUM and well...
the list is at 110 now (I cut a few ''and guests'' to get this down to as low as possible). They''re helping to pay for it, and my mother doesn''t work. So we had to give in, apparently.
So I tell John, who is upset. Because his mother was SERIOUSLY upset that he wasn''t inviting his 40 (twenty plus spouses) first cousins on his father''s side.
WELL, now that I''m inviting STEP- first cousins. Guess who we''ve got to invite in order to avoid alienating his mother and sisters? You''ve got it. His first cousins (that he doesn''t even WANT to invite).
So the guest list?
ONE HUNDRED FIFTY PEOPLE.
None of the venues I''ve looked at can comfortably accommodate that.
John''s pushing for Vegas again.
My grandparent''s are telling me to elope somewhere tropical.
And I feel like crying. I really wanted the California wedding with my grandfather in his cherry red scooter walking me down the aisle.
I''m so disheartened. I wish I could just tell Step dad where he can stick his neices and nephews, but I can''t. Not even because of the money. But because of my parent''s marriage.
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