I have a quick question about my future wedding...

[LuvinMyLife86]

So heres my situation...

BF has told me that we will be engaged before the end of the year, but we also want to be married some time next summer. He has told that he will pop the question some time after September and sometime before January. My question is am I being unrealistic in thinking I will be able to plan a wedding (June 09 being the earliest and September 09 being the latest) if we are not engaged until December? Will that be enough time to book everything? I live in Northern California, I dont want anything extravagent or huge, but I do want something nice that ourselves and our families will enjoy.

 

[katamari]

Congrats on your upcoming engagement! I have no idea about wedding planning, I just though you might want to post this in BWW since these are the women who are more into the wedding planning stages. They will probably be more able to help (though many pop into LIW, too).

 

[jcarlylew]

Lots of couples (including PS''ers) have been able to plan a whole wedding in less than 6 months. But if you have specific venues in mind, i dont think it would work to start booking those now.

congrats!

 

[Rhea]

The summer are the busiest wedding months and depending on area things can book up easily two years in advance. It may mean that you need to be more creative or pick a weekend that is less popular. It can be done, you just need to be more creative.

If you already have a time frame in mind have you considered starting your search for location and other vendors now?

One of my friends was married in late May and was technically engaged (by her defination ring on finger, question asked while boyfriend on his knee) in Jan. It looks like she planned the wedding in four months but once she and her boyfriend knew they''d be married they started planning even though they didn''t consider theirselves engaged. The wedding was planned in nine months. Would you be open to doing something like that to make sure you got your location, photographer, and had time to get a dress in?

 

[sunnyd]

I agree with Addy. If FF has no problem with it, why not start planning? Express concerns about waiting, because while it can be done, it might be additionally stressful because you don''t have the luxury of time. Congrats!

 

[Pandora II]

If you are very flexible with date/venue you might be okay.

I had a 19 month engagement as that was the soonest I could get a summer Saturday with my venue. I wouldn''t have wanted less time, I have a stressful job, my parents live 2 hours away (wedding was where they live) and most of our guests were OOT.

 

[neatfreak]

I booked and planned a wedding in <6 months in San Francisco. Everything was perfect! So if you have an open mind about venues, dates, and vendors it can easily be done. But I agree with everyone else, if your BF has no problems with it, why not start the process now?

 

[KesVayReas]

Hi Luvin.
I think you would be able to pull it off. I planned a large, elaborate wedding starting in Feb. 07 and got married in July 07. Everything went perfectly... Just no time to procrastinate. It was the perfect time-line for me.

 

[VMal]

Early Congratulations LML86!!

I ABSOLUTELY think you can pull it off. My girlfriend got engaged in the end of May and is getting married next week, September 6th, leaving her less than four months to plan!! And-- It is going to be pretty extravagant!

As the other PSers have already mentioned, be creative, organized and do whats right for you.

Everything will work out, they always do!

Best of luck and don''t forget to post pics!!

xo

 

[Izzy03]

I am not very far into my wedding planning, but in total I will have 8 months to plan.

From my experience so far, looking for a venue was VERY time consuming! Most of my time was spent online searching for every possible place the wedding could be held. I had the venues email me their wedding packages so I could figure out costs. After decided which venues would be suitable based on information given to me online, I set up appointments to view the suitable rooms. Visiting the venues to see if I liked them only took a few hours (they were all in close proximity to each other).

MY ADVICE: You don''t necessarily have to visit venues, but get all the information you can gather on all possible venues now!! You can do it from the privacy of your own computer, and it is definitely the hardest part. If you have all the information you need now, it will save a lot of time later.

Go on THE KNOT and start saving images of dresses, table settings, cakes, and flowers you love. Narrowing down what you want is time consuming and can be done now.

If you are open to having a Friday or Sunday wedding, you really should be fine.