I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[SB621]

Toopatient - I'm so sorry that you went through that! This is the third incident of my life where my family (or SO's family who are now my family) have been affected. One when we were not home, and the entered through my bedroom. This was the most emotionally scarring for me as a child. One we walked up on as he was trying to enter, and he tried saying he had gotten the house wrong, he was caught almost immediately. Now this instance, which happened in the dead of night.

They do not have a security system, though I'll be suggesting it. They do have dogs that are normally very vocal, but of course, they knew this person, very well. We'll be installing one in our home, I can guarantee that.

We have pretty much gone with anything SO's sister wants to do. She stayed back at home last night, though she had school today so I haven't gathered how it went. She's been told she can stay with us any time she wants for however long she wants. We have an extra room that can be entirely hers. We will see if that happens. Her father and mother are divorced, and he feels she shouldn't be in the house at this time, and may have some influence over that, in which case, again, she'll stay with us.

There are just so many things to think about, and that weigh you down, and so many extra thought processes that we are going through. There are so many could haves, and so many what ifs, and so many how did we miss this thoughts. Even though SO and I were not there, we are jumpy and constantly looking behind us now, because it just feels like we can never be sure anymore.

I hope she did okay last night and today at school.

Each person responds differently. She may be dealing with the stress of what happened by continuing to live her life. That is okay too. My psychologist made sure to remind me that people are all different and there is no "right" answer.

It sounds like she's got great support!

How is her mom doing? I'm sure this is hard on her too.

I find her more concerning really. I don't know how to explain it other than to say, she acts as if it was just a thing that happened, like a speeding ticket, or a flat tire, or a bounced check. She's dealing with all of the paperwork and legal stuff after, but there's nothing of what we are going through. There's no insecurity, there's no devastation, almost like no recognition of how severe this is. I can't decide if it is a matter of extreme repression of emotion for the sake of others (somewhat like I've done), or if it is repression based on trauma (which I've done), or a combination or something else. I recognize that she has repressed things. After my ex (who was incredibly, INCREDIBLY abusive), I locked everything about that time period away. The only memories I have from a three year stretch are those of my family and horses, and those that include a good friend who died a few years later, but do not include my ex. Any group memories, memories of my ex and myself, memories of me with my ex around people, they are incredibly fuzzy, or non existent. My subconscious seems to have thrown them away. I thought perhaps that was the case, but she can describe how things happened in detail to me vs. SO's sister's boyfriend literally cannot remember. His mind has truly shut it away. So I don't know what to make of her yet, but I'm waiting to see.

I hope they are all able to do whatever they need to get past this event. Some stuff is just too big to "recover" from, but you can move on and keep living. I hope her mom is just being strong to get through the required paperwork and then will take the time to take care of herself.

TooPatient - I agree. Time will tell. SO and I are going to a lake house this weekend. It's been planned for several months and I think it is just the thing we need to recoup a bit. His sister is going to her first counseling session today. Last nigh SO and I talked a little more about it, but also both expressed that there are some things we just never want to know the answers to. We are installing a deadbolt on our back door, and we'll be looking into security systems. I think we are fortunate to have moved to a very low crime rate area and I am not thankful that our neighbors are so close. We made home made pizza last night and each enjoyed a home made beer that his client made, and it definitely was a more relaxed evening. We recognize that things will probably never be the same for us or his family, but we'll find our Okay again.

In response to the school issue above, if the principal does not let your daughter re-take the exam, I'd approach the school board with her current work with the tutor, and a statement from her tutors. Never be afraid to take a step further when it comes to your children's future! My mom and second grade teacher went above guidance and the VP to the principal to get me into the gifted program in elementary school and it made a world of difference to my education!

I highly recommend the home security system Vivent. I have gone through ADT and Briggs but Vivent blows them all out of the water.

 

[JaneSmith]

I'm sorry to pop this in the middle of your discussions, but I've no one else who will appreciate it and don't have nice enough pics for SMTB.
Internet hugs to you all.




I bought myself a cartier trinity today, for a significant birthday ... in Paris!

 

[Enerchi]

Yay Janesmith!!! and happy 'special' birthday!!!
Its gorgeous!! The red box and everything?? pouch? cert??? fun fun FUN!!! How amazing --- in Paris, no less!!

 

[dragonfly411]

SB - Thank you for the recommendation. We will definitely look into it. SO and I discussed it last night and he agreed we should have a system put in.

Janesmith - YAY! For your new ring!!! Love it!!!!!

 

[SB621]

SB - Thank you for the recommendation. We will definitely look into it. SO and I discussed it last night and he agreed we should have a system put in.

Janesmith - YAY! For your new ring!!! Love it!!!!!

Opps sorry I spelled it wrong! http://www.vivint.com/en/ We love them!!!!!!!! I know most ppl in our area are switching from their systems over to Vivint. Much more modern technology then places like ADT etc.


CONGRATS on your birthday and Cartier, Janesmith!

 

[JaneSmith]

Thanks guys!
Enerchi, yep, little red box and all! Good lord there are some fine baubles in that store.

 

[Enerchi]

Thanks guys!
Enerchi, yep, little red box and all! Good lord there are some fine baubles in that store.

Indeed!! Just a FEW temptations! Did you try on some of the pave trinity's? And the champagne? My DS and I got the full treatment in one of the Vegas Cartiers last November... Loved it!

 

[TooPatient]

JaneSmith --
Happy birthday! What a beautiful ring to celebrate with!

 

[minousbijoux]

My random venting of evil thoughts regarding a few pet peeves:
poor spelling - SPELL CHECK is your friend - use it!! Ok, I know that I can get thinking and my fingers go to fast for my brain or vice versa and there are typos.... but consistently spelling the SAME WORD(S) WRONG over and over and over?? I don't care if you are typing on an electronic ABACUS or using birch bark and tar - check your spelling!!! The dictionary is your friend - USE IT! This is not grade school, this is real life and it makes you look stupid....

and... here's another:
people who fixate on one item/brand/company/style/colour only. The world is our oyster, folks - spread your wings, try new things, branch out, live on the wild side, take a chance, open your eyes to other options!!! People vary for a reason and companies are out there to provide us w/ a myriad of options. LOSE the obsession already!

oh, and while I'm ranting:
desperate needy people that seek attention at every opportunity. If the world isn't looking, they need to create drama and bring the focus back to 'themselves'. HOLY CRAP does that get old, quickly... skip the needy behaviour... no ONE CARES!!

These are the things that are currently dancing on my last nerve. Thank you for being patient with my explosion ... back to happy thoughts now...

I bow before the sheer awe and admiration I feel for Enerchi at this moment! Sniffle, sniffle, see? I'm so choked up I'm starting to get all teary. Really, HALLELUJAH, Enerchi! I, too, have no respect for those on this website who start endless inane threads because they need attention. Can't you people stop thinking about yourselves for one minute and think maybe you can suck it up and help others for a while instead of making it ALL ABOUT YOU?!! REALLY? And if you can't, then the least you can do is to spell correctly.

There are no excuses for bad grammar and spelling. Ever notice how sometimes when you're typing something, there is a little squiggly red line under what you've just written? It means its misspelled! And you know what? Every time you continue to misspell the same things after you've been kindly corrected over and over by generous and well meaning members of this board, it reads as disrespect and/or complete selfishness. No one is in such a hurry here or is so important that it warrants a grammatically incorrect post, or one shot through with spelling mistakes. If we all take the time to reread and proof what we've written, why are you excused from doing so? Trust me - start doing that, and posting less and people might just start taking you a bit more seriously. Oh and one more thing if it applies: if someone is looking for a certain shape stone, don't randomly suggest they look at a completely different shape. If they want a blue stone, don't recommend a yellow one. If they want a plain platinum Tiffany setting, Puhleeeeeeez (and yeah, I know that's misspelled, lol) don't suggest that a halo might be just what they truly want and need...*

*and to be perfectly clear, those examples are made up off the top of my head to protect the guilty. But hopefully, you know who you are. Now as my Mom used to say: "Just Stop That!"

Enerchi: How'd I do?

 

[minousbijoux]

And DF: I apologize for not giving you the full attention your post is due. That sounds horribly scary and damaging; in our minds, there is something so safe, sacred and impenetrable about our homes that when they are breached, it literally rocks us to our core. I am sorry for all of you, but especially, SO's sis. No matter what she's going through, feeling or not, she is really lucky to have you - that I'm sure of!

SB: thanks for the lead on a good home security system - I think its time for me to upgrade as well!

 

[TC1987]

BuzzFeed's "22 Things Miley Cyrus Looked Like" was pretty funny.

I got swarmed by yellowjackets. Flipped on the light, walked out onto the porch, let the door slam behind me, and then instant cloud of yellowjackets that were not there the day before. f f f f f f f f ! Good thing I am not allergic.

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

My random venting of evil thoughts regarding a few pet peeves:
poor spelling - SPELL CHECK is your friend - use it!! Ok, I know that I can get thinking and my fingers go to fast for my brain or vice versa and there are typos.... but consistently spelling the SAME WORD(S) WRONG over and over and over?? I don't care if you are typing on an electronic ABACUS or using birch bark and tar - check your spelling!!! The dictionary is your friend - USE IT! This is not grade school, this is real life and it makes you look stupid....

and... here's another:
people who fixate on one item/brand/company/style/colour only. The world is our oyster, folks - spread your wings, try new things, branch out, live on the wild side, take a chance, open your eyes to other options!!! People vary for a reason and companies are out there to provide us w/ a myriad of options. LOSE the obsession already!

oh, and while I'm ranting:
desperate needy people that seek attention at every opportunity. If the world isn't looking, they need to create drama and bring the focus back to 'themselves'. HOLY CRAP does that get old, quickly... skip the needy behaviour... no ONE CARES!!

These are the things that are currently dancing on my last nerve. Thank you for being patient with my explosion ... back to happy thoughts now...

I bow before the sheer awe and admiration I feel for Enerchi at this moment! Sniffle, sniffle, see? I'm so choked up I'm starting to get all teary. Really, HALLELUJAH, Enerchi! I, too, have no respect for those on this website who start endless inane threads because they need attention. Can't you people stop thinking about yourselves for one minute and think maybe you can suck it up and help others for a while instead of making it ALL ABOUT YOU?!! REALLY? And if you can't, then the least you can do is to spell correctly.

There are no excuses for bad grammar and spelling. Ever notice how sometimes when you're typing something, there is a little squiggly red line under what you've just written? It means its misspelled! And you know what? Every time you continue to misspell the same things after you've been kindly corrected over and over by generous and well meaning members of this board, it reads as disrespect and/or complete selfishness. No one is in such a hurry here or is so important that it warrants a grammatically incorrect post, or one shot through with spelling mistakes. If we all take the time to reread and proof what we've written, why are you excused from doing so? Trust me - start doing that, and posting less and people might just start taking you a bit more seriously. Oh and one more thing if it applies: if someone is looking for a certain shape stone, don't randomly suggest they look at a completely different shape. If they want a blue stone, don't recommend a yellow one. If they want a plain platinum Tiffany setting, Puhleeeeeeez (and yeah, I know that's misspelled, lol) don't suggest that a halo might be just what they truly want and need...*

*and to be perfectly clear, those examples are made up off the top of my head to protect the guilty. But hopefully, you know who you are. Now as my Mom used to say: "Just Stop That!"

Enerchi: How'd I do?

Minou, can I have your babies?

 

[minousbijoux]

I got swarmed by yellowjackets. Flipped on the light, walked out onto the porch, let the door slam behind me, and then instant cloud of yellowjackets that were not there the day before. f f f f f f f f ! Good thing I am not allergic.

Oh no, no, no! This just should not be! I'm sorry but I see no redeeming value in yellow jackets whatsoever, and to top it off, they are just plain rude! Swarming you in your own home?! Hate them.

 

[SB621]

Minous and Enerchi I'm SORRY I CAN'T SPELL!!!! Ok I know that was directed at me but I KNOW I think type and when I go back to re-read some of my posts I wonder what the heck I was talking about

And OMG PS has some form of spellcheck???? I never see any red lines but I know I mispell all the time. I wonder if it is my browser??


And yes definitely check out Vivent! We love them. They run off your cell phone so I can change my thermostat, unlock/ lock my door, turn off/on my security system or even get video to who is at my door all off my cell. Plus their response time is the best out there. And our home owner's insurance gave us a little discount for having them. They were $4 a month more then ADT but we actually USE this system. Plus they have a key fab that you can put on your key chain to turn off/ on your system so no messing around with codes if you dont' want too. Just hit the keyfab.


As for me- there was a huge spider on my back deck. I mean straight out of some horror movie!!! It's very large body was at least 5 inches not counting legs. This was not a spider you could kill with a shoe! I have no shame to say I ran screaming into the house carrying all my children (2 kids and 2 dogs). Even DH was freaked out by how big that thing was!!!

 

[chrono]

My laptop, PC and iPhone have spellcheck but not my Tablet. It irks me when I spot typos and grammatical errors in my posts so sometimes I keep editing it until it looks right. This is mainly why I dislike using my Tablet. Can any Tablet users advice as to whether I can download a spellcheck apps or something similar?

 

[LibbyLA]

Indeed!! Just a FEW temptations! Did you try on some of the pave trinity's? And the champagne? My DS and I got the full treatment in one of the Vegas Cartiers last November... Loved it!

Enerchi,

While I understand (and somewhat support) your rant about spelling and grammar, I have two things to say. First, if you're going to complain about spelling, perhaps it would be a good thing to spell "trinities" correctly. Second, I know some very intelligent people who can't spell worth a hoot and use poor grammar. My brothers and my fiancé come to mind. They're not educated or book-smart, but if push comes to shove and I need something fixed or figured out, I know I can count on one of them to be able to do it, and hang the spelling and grammar. The ability to speak and write proper English is not going to help anyone make an emergency repair to a busted trailer axle on the side of the interstate.

Unfortunately, I'm a natural-born proofreader. Kindles are both a blessing and a curse because they make it so easy for me to highlight and annotate mistakes (and I've actually contacted several authors about problems I found). I am much less picky about spelling and grammar in informal communications like the ones on forums. I know that even the best of us make mistakes even after we've proofread.

I understand the frustration with correcting people's repeated misspellings of words. However, you're not the boss of the correctees, so they are free to do whatever they choose and you are free to be aggravated with them and ignore them. Not everyone values the same things and not everyone is capable of the same level of spelling and writing.

liz

(who's a professional programmer, teaches a college-level programming course, and is well-known for being pickier than picky with work-related tasks but who is willing to cut people some slack in a place where we're supposed to be enjoying ourselves...)

 

[Mayk]

Indeed!! Just a FEW temptations! Did you try on some of the pave trinity's? And the champagne? My DS and I got the full treatment in one of the Vegas Cartiers last November... Loved it!

Enerchi,

While I understand (and somewhat support) your rant about spelling and grammar, I have two things to say. First, if you're going to complain about spelling, perhaps it would be a good thing to spell "trinities" correctly. Second, I know some very intelligent people who can't spell worth a hoot and use poor grammar. My brothers and my fiancé come to mind. They're not educated or book-smart, but if push comes to shove and I need something fixed or figured out, I know I can count on one of them to be able to do it, and hang the spelling and grammar. The ability to speak and write proper English is not going to help anyone make an emergency repair to a busted trailer axle on the side of the interstate.

Unfortunately, I'm a natural-born proofreader. Kindles are both a blessing and a curse because they make it so easy for me to highlight and annotate mistakes (and I've actually contacted several authors about problems I found). I am much less picky about spelling and grammar in informal communications like the ones on forums. I know that even the best of us make mistakes even after we've proofread.

I understand the frustration with correcting people's repeated misspellings of words. However, you're not the boss of the correctees, so they are free to do whatever they choose and you are free to be aggravated with them and ignore them. Not everyone values the same things and not everyone is capable of the same level of spelling and writing.

liz

(who's a professional programmer, teaches a college-level programming course, and is well-known for being pickier than picky with work-related tasks but who is willing to cut people some slack in a place where we're supposed to be enjoying ourselves...)

I think this got a little off course... I think the biggest part of the rant and I know I plused it ++1 comes in around a "driven agenda" because you have something or you've decided it's the "cat's meow" posting on every thread and leading newbies to your new obession isn't always helping new posters. I loved the discussion recently about ovals and cushions and so happy to see some experts pop in and give informative, experienced based decisions. I think the grammar thing we all make mistakes but when you've been hanging out and watching the posts it gets frustrating.. I haven't been posting for two reasons.. one my daughter has taken a lot of time and energy and we are reaching the piviotal point which is surgery next week.. the second reason was it was getting frustrating to watch people who don't know better get led down a path. I miss seeing some of the old timers post who really had a lot of knowledge and tons of experience to help lead people. Previously I always learned something lately it sometimes feels like a popularity contest to be swayed to jump on a new bandwagon... A while ago... I think I stopped learning and I started to drift. I know Enerchi (Energy for us southern girls who don't get fung whatever) and she is the sweetest person.. and I believe was looking for a way to vent that took off down a path that really was a red herring (what's the term.. someone remind me you know we are talking about this but it's really this!!!!).... my brain is not working right now.. I'm just focused on wrapping up work and getting my kid to surgery next week. I think in some ways DF hit the nail on the head when he asked people why they were not posting as much.. I commented on that thread and my feelings were similar on the post from Energy... that I plused...+++ don't slay me.. I don't have time to come back and defend myself!

 

[SB621]

Minous and Enerchi I'm SORRY I CAN'T SPELL!!!! Ok I know that was directed at me but I KNOW I think type and when I go back to re-read some of my posts I wonder what the heck I was talking about

And OMG PS has some form of spellcheck???? I never see any red lines but I know I mispell all the time. I wonder if it is my browser??


And yes definitely check out Vivent! We love them. They run off your cell phone so I can change my thermostat, unlock/ lock my door, turn off/on my security system or even get video to who is at my door all off my cell. Plus their response time is the best out there. And our home owner's insurance gave us a little discount for having them. They were $4 a month more then ADT but we actually USE this system. Plus they have a key fab that you can put on your key chain to turn off/ on your system so no messing around with codes if you dont' want too. Just hit the keyfab.


As for me- there was a huge spider on my back deck. I mean straight out of some horror movie!!! It's very large body was at least 5 inches not counting legs. This was not a spider you could kill with a shoe! I have no shame to say I ran screaming into the house carrying all my children (2 kids and 2 dogs). Even DH was freaked out by how big that thing was!!!

EKKKKKKKKK I meant to say I know that ***wasn't**** directed at me.....so sorry it was meant to be teasing!!!!!!!!! NOT SERIOUS AT ALL! Ok foot in mouth and going off to the corner!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Man I need to proof read better!

 

[VRBeauty]

Mayk - best wishes to you and your daughter as you prepare for the surgery!

 

[minousbijoux]

Mayk - best wishes to you and your daughter as you prepare for the surgery!

+ thousands, as we all wish you the best! Something like this puts it in perspective for me and I'll let my spelling pet peeve go! If it were up to me, I'd put up with all the misspellings in the world here if everyone would have safe and successful surgeries - including your daughter, Mayk!

 

[TooPatient]

Mayk -- I hope the surgery goes well! Take care of yourself and let us know how it went when you get a minute. I'll be sending you and your daughter lots of hugs and good thoughts.

 

[Enerchi]

Good luck MayK - lots of positive vibes and DUST DUST DUST for you, your daughter and all of your family to help cope during these exhausting times!

SB - phew! thank you! I was so worried I'd upset you!! My rant was written after a particularly challenging few days of issues at home and "back and forth" stuff, along with a fixation on certain "iron clad" beliefs... so - NO!!!! not about you *AT ALL*!!! I just came here, to my safe place, to rant and blow off steam. I felt it was safer here than in the living room! LOL!

LibbyLa - I had no idea the plural for trinity was 'trinities'! PS is more than just diamond info! who knew?

 

[SB621]

Enerchi I have nothing but love for you! I'm so sorry by blunder caused you stress!

MayK of course your DD is in my thoughts and prayers. I can't imagine how stressful this has all been on your family.

 

[TooPatient]

My heart has just broken a bit. Someone who should be a very special part of my life has always been a bit off but has now hit a new low. I've blocked her from calling my cell phone (would have the house phone too if the provider could do that ) and will be sending written notification that she is no longer welcome at my wedding and is to stop calling me.

FI is being wonderfully supportive and sympathetic, but it still hurts.

 

[Enerchi]

My heart has just broken a bit. Someone who should be a very special part of my life has always been a bit off but has now hit a new low. I've blocked her from calling my cell phone (would have the house phone too if the provider could do that ) and will be sending written notification that she is no longer welcome at my wedding and is to stop calling me.

FI is being wonderfully supportive and sympathetic, but it still hurts.

Oh no... You've been through a lot lately...I'm sorry you've now got this happening too. Sorry to hear you'll be missing a big part of your life on this special day. Stay strong TooPatient. Thinking of you

 

[gregchang35]

Oh no TP!

My heart goes out to u and DH. Am so glad that he is so supportive for u, and that is why you guys are getting married! Yay to that!!!!

 

[yssie]

DF, I'm so sorry! That sounds utterly terrifying - I can only imagine how exhausting it must be trying to help SO's family recover.
It's not much of an offering but big, big big ::HUGS::!!

TooPatient - I'm so glad to read that they finally let her into algebra!!! And GOOD FOR YOU for fighting for it, and I hope "A"'s chat with the VP doesn't scare her too much



So, in the spirit of random comments... DH and I just got back from a roadtrip to Chicago. The Cinci zoo is awesome, the Phillies actually won something (DH's first game at Wrigley!), I have a sunglasses tan that makes me look like a raccoon, the Cartier Trinity bangle has been upgraded from a "would very much like" to a "need", and I've fallen madly in love with VC&A's Magic Alhambra three-drop onyx & white/grey MOP earrings... which apparently come in at just over $7k

 

[canuk-gal]

I'm sorry to pop this in the middle of your discussions, but I've no one else who will appreciate it and don't have nice enough pics for SMTB.
Internet hugs to you all.




I bought myself a cartier trinity today, for a significant birthday ... in Paris!

Love it...I did the same last year...sans the BD excuse! Which Paris location??

cheers--Sharon

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I am at the end of my wick, OKOK, poor pun. But I do need some help.

I love candles and burn them daily. However, I am frustrated by the amount of wax left behind after the wick has expired and want to reuse the wax. Has anyone done this...successfully?

I have googled "how to"...but want to know if there is a special trick to placing the wicks---should I use more than one to ensure a more even burn? Is Michael's a "good" place to buy wicks??

Any tips about the process would be appreciated folks. Thanks in advance.

cheers--Sharon

 

[dragonfly411]

SB - Thank you for the link to Vivint. I am going to be showing it to SO TONIGHT!

MinousBijoux and Yssie - thank you for the support. Do not apologize, any support is helpful!

To expand a tiny tiny bit, someone died. That person's children are now trying to gather his belongings, which is fine, but they sent a tow person to our home this weekend while we were not home, and without us giving them our address, which is not fine!
They were looking for a borrowed tractor, which we returned to SO's mom's house last night and have told them we did. We are expressing that we do not want to be involved in any way, and they are not to contact us anymore. We'll be putting up no trespassing signs today, and I told SO, front fence line and a gate are now HUGE priorities. Bigger than finishing our bathrooms. I am just reeling. I was so anxious last night, every noise made me jump. My acupuncturist provided me with bach flower sleeping remedy which I finally went down and took and I was out like a light after that. I'm trying to seek natural ways to remedy my anxiety and sleeplessness. Bach therapy seems to be helping, as well as acupuncture, and I'm on daily yoga as I am SIGNED UP TO BECOME A YOGA INSTRUCTOR and that seems to be helping as well (sorry for bad grammar with the smilies). We had really hoped that our weekend vacation (which was planned for months) would be helpful, but it really got ruined by this new nonsense. We were trying to be nice and helpful, and they violated the little trust we had in them. We're just exhausted. I hope that this will be the end of any involvement for us.

In that hope, after this post, I'm posting all positive stuff. So let's talk about how I get to be a yoga instructor!