I may be off the list, but for all the wrong reasons

[janinegirly]

crickett, sorry to hear this, but I think it''s great that you were direct with him and he was honest, even if it must''ve been hard to hear. Because, too often the guy will take the cowardly approach and not say things honestly, but be evasive which the girl will then somehow twist in her head to = something encouraging, and round it goes.

In this case, he was honest, and you''re taking action. That''s the best way to go. This way you know where things stand and don''t waste time. Because time is the one thing you can never replace! You''ll find a new bf!

Good luck and keep us posted on how the next phases go, you''ll probably have some ups and downs and weak moments. This is a great place to come and vent (and of course make sure you have your support group ready IRL too!).

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 10/20/2009 9:45:09 AM
Author: ckrickett
thanks all you guys so much you''re great.
I went to buy boxes and storage this morning and when I came home he asked me were I went, I don''t think it was quite sunk in with him yet that I am actually leaving our house.

I''m sorry to hear that things aren''t going quite as you hoped. However, I think it''s an extremely positive thing that you guys finally had this discussion, espescially before actually taking the next steps to get engaged/married.

As cliche as it sounds, if it''s meant to be, it will work out. If not, just think positive, and know that there will be other guys out there, and "the one" for you is walking this earth somewhere!

Good luck with the moving. We are all here for you!

 

[Snicklefritz]

HUGS! You''re making a lot of tough decisions that need to be made. Wishing you both the best!

 

[winelover23]

CK - I''m so sorry you are going through this, big hugs to you! I''m proud that you are strong enough to make this tough decision but hopefully this will open up the door to the life you truly deserve. Hang in there, we''re all here for you!

 

[sunnyd]

Oh CK, sorry to hear this, but you''re doing what''s best for you. I hope everything goes smoothly for you both and that you find what you''re looking for.

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 10/20/2009 10:23:17 AM
Author: ladypirate
*hugs* ckrickett. I''m sorry you''re going through this, but I''m glad it came out now-- you deserve someone who is committed to you 100%. Good luck and please stick around PS! Small talk wouldn''t be the same without you.

oh gurl I ain''t going no where... I''m still getting my James Meyer ring... just means I have to save save save!

 

[HopeDream]

CK

It sounds like some of the weight has been lifted from your heart.
Transitions are never easy, but hopefully having a little space will bring clarity and perspective to both of you.
life is an adventure, and you are a brave woman.

I''m hoping for your highest good, whatever that turns out to be.

more hugs,

HD

(If you feel like you need a break from PS, that''s fine, and I hope you stick around)

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 10/20/2009 11:36:59 AM
Author: HopeDream
CK


It sounds like some of the weight has been lifted from your heart.

Transitions are never easy, but hopefully having a little space will bring clarity and perspective to both of you.

life is an adventure, and you are a brave woman.


I''m hoping for your highest good, whatever that turns out to be.


more hugs,


HD


(If you feel like you need a break from PS, that''s fine, and I hope you stick around)

thanks but no break is needed, the support here from the ladies and this general community is absolutely fantastic.

 

[Jessie702]

Ck, i am so sorry hon. I feel its better that you asked this instead of two years down the road when MORE would have been invested. Dont worry though, you seem strong, and i know you will be able to make it through this. Its good to see you arent moping around, and actually went and got boxes this morning. We are always here if you need to talk hon!

((((((((CK))))))))) <~~~those are hugs

 

[tlh]

Huge hugs to you. I agree that moving out will be the best thing for either going forward with your relationship- or making the breaking up easier. I don''t have any advice, and where you are coming from I don''t know that you need any. That said, your approach doesn''t make it hurt any less... or your feelings/ pain any less real. HUGE HUGS to you.. and a little dust too... a dust for the best FOR YOU... whatever outcome that may be .

 

[FrekeChild]

((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

I''m happy you sound so upbeat. We''ll be here if you need anything.

 

[ringless]

I''m so sorry to hear that. Please keep in touch!

 

[MrsHToBe]

*hugs*, ck!
Thinking of you.. XOXO.

 

[radiantquest]

That's unfortunate, but I wouldn't say sad. It seems to me that you are going to be happier apart. It puts alot of stress on a relationship when there are doubts. I am sure that it stung when he told you that he didn't want to marry you, but much better than going through the motions being boyfriend and girfriend doing what you thought was expected without really feeling it.

I say good for you! If you decide that you really want each other then you can start again, if not then you can move on.

 

[kittybean]

Sorry to hear about this, Ckrickett. It sounds like you are handling the situation with a lot of grace and maturity, which is wonderful. Lots of hugs coming your way, lovely lady, and let us know if you need support.

 

[Tuckins1]

Oh my, i''m sorry that you are dealing with this. It sounds like you are in a pretty good place, though. Just know that we are all here for you if you need some support. Please keep us updated!

 

[AustenNut]

Just to echo everybody else, it sounds as though you''re handling this really well. I hope that everything works out how it''s supposed to be (in whatever manner that is). You''ll be in my thoughts.

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

Sorry to hear you''re going through this, but you have a great head on your shoulders and are handling everything with such maturity. Glad to hear you''ll be sticking around here too! I think I speak for the other ladies when I say we really like having you around! Take care of yourself!

 

[Luckyeshe]

{{{{HUGS}}}}, CK!

Thinking of you and wishing you the very best!!!

 

[cindygenit]

oh CK I am so sorry, but I''m sure things will get better for you soon.

((HUGE HUGS)) darling.

 

[Blackpaw]

oh crickett im very sorry

im glad you''re an independent persons who realises straight up that this isnt the end of anything...

but it still hurts...{{{HUGS}}}

 

[katamari]

I be wishing the best for you through this, ckrickett. ((((hugs))))

 

[crossmyfingers]

Wow, it sounds like you guys are being really civil about this. I hope it works out for the best for you both. Sorry to hear it CK, but hopefully you''ll figure it all out soon. Keep us posted!

 

[jaylex]

oh, ck

! i''ve been off PS for a couple of days and missed all of this...

I''m so sorry to hear that you''re going through a rough (?) transition right now.. I hope everything works out the way you want it to, once you figure out what you want.

I know you''re a strong woman so I have no doubt that you''ll make it through this (whatever the outcome) as your same awesome self!

Good luck with the packing (is it ok if I wish you that or is that in bad taste

?)
We''re here if you need to talk!
<3 Jaylex

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 10/20/2009 11:01:57 PM
Author: jaylex
oh, ck

! i''ve been off PS for a couple of days and missed all of this...


I''m so sorry to hear that you''re going through a rough (?) transition right now.. I hope everything works out the way you want it to, once you figure out what you want.


I know you''re a strong woman so I have no doubt that you''ll make it through this (whatever the outcome) as your same awesome self!


Good luck with the packing (is it ok if I wish you that or is that in bad taste

?)

We''re here if you need to talk!

<3 Jaylex

no bad taste at all.... I will take dust for packing yup yup...

and you ladies really are the best this means so much to me!

 

[bee*]

Lots of moving dust being sent. I think you are an extremely strong woman as so many people stay in a relationship where it''s not 100% just for fear of moving on. Best of luck to you!!

 

[treefrog]

Awl, ckrickett... I am so sorry to hear this. I''m sure that wasn''t an easy conversation or decision. Yeah, it will take some time to fully sink in for each of you.

Hang in there.

Treefrog

 

[dragonfly411]

packing dust to you crickkett!

 

[Bia]

damn ck! I''ve been busy busy busy the last few days (and sick to top it off!)...

I''m sorry I missed this initially, BUT you seem to be doing exactly the right thing for you. You''re a strong one!

Lots of packing-up-and-moving-on *dust* for you sweets.

 

[Winks_Elf]

(((BIG HUG!)))

Sorry things didn''t work, but brava to you for knowing that he''s not the one. I''m glad for you that you guys are being civil.