If you hated the ring ...

[emeraldlover1]

I know I''m late to the thread but when I knew my fiance was looking for an engagement ring I was very specific with what I wanted. I did this because I probabaly would not have the guts to tell him that I didn''t like it if he got me something that I didn''t like. Not because I can''t talk to him but because he is pretty sensitive about this stuff and I wouldn''t want to hurt his feelings. Luckily he was so nervous that I wouldn''t like it that he asked for my input. Now...the funny thing is we looked at a lot of settings but in the end he was the one that found the Tacori setting in a window of our jeweler. So...technically he actually found it.

Mytal does amazing work so I can''t imagine her sending something out that wasn''t perfection. He went to far.

 

[laurel25]

CharmyPoo - please don''t get too upset until you actually see the ring. When I first saw the picture of my ring that Pearlman''s sent me I almost wanted to cry because I thought that my beautiful ring looked awful. The prongs/head looked out of proportion to the shank and the stone looked horrible and dead (a concave sapphire, which was SO lively and beautiful in person). Everyone on the colored stones board told me to just wait and see how it looked in person and calmed me down. And you know what? It was GORGEOUS in person. It didn''t look out of proportion at all, the stone was a beautiful as I remembered it, and I loved it. I think (and know now from personal experience) that it''s really, really difficult to photograph jewelry. Colors look off, sizes and proportions look wrong, stones look dead, etc. Just wait and see what it looks like in real life and then make a decision on what you think. If you don''t like it then, then contact the designer and explain the issues you have calmly and unemotionally and see where you can go from there.

 

[wishinpink]

I also say, wait until you see the ring to panic! The Maytal designs I have seenare absolutely gorgeous... I do hope your ring is gorgeous as well!!!!! Do post pics!!

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 12/21/2008 12:47:18 PM
Author: CharmyPoo
Sorry everyone - I don't have much of an update. He got the ring yesterday but he wouldn't show me. I can't figure out if he is pulling my leg or not because he gets a kick out of teasing me. He may be trying to throw me off.


My boyfriend said he is extremely disappointed in the ring and went on and on about how awful it was. I think he went too far which makes me think he is lying .. LOL. He was saying the prongs were different sizes which seems odd to me because Maytal is known for her detail and precision. He also mentioned how the diamond wasn't as nice as he remembered. Anyways, he concluded that he was too embarassed to show me and I will have to wait. I suspect he is teasing me and the ring is actually gorgeous. Well ... I guess we will have to all wait and see how it turns out.


On a side note, we have a really open relationship so we don't butter anything up. We usually say it like it is.

Hey Charmypoo, your last reply here made me smile! I hope your man has a good sense of humour, and that he is teasing you!

But, if not, when you do get the ring, by all means mark it up to miscommunication with the jeweller and get it fixed asap. Hey, miscommunication happens, even with the very best of intentions!

I'm sure it will all be sorted, and I can't wait to see it on PS!

 

[October2008bride]

Date: 12/21/2008 11:19:11 PM
Author: wishinpink
I also say, wait until you see the ring to panic! The Maytal designs I have seenare absolutely gorgeous... I do hope your ring is gorgeous as well!!!!! Do post pics!!

I totally agree!! My hubby panicked when he saw the pics of my ring - though it looked rough and chunky. I think part of the problem was that the vendor sent 4 pics and 2 were from someone else''s ring! haha.

Either way he was so freaked out.

When the ring came, it was delicate and lovely.

Honestly - I think he is pulling your leg and the ring is beautiful. If it was Maytal who made it, I highly doubt that she would make ''clunky'' when you asked for ''delicate''.

Good news is that your FF and you are on the same page if there are issues...no hiding the fact you feel so-so about your ring for the rest of your life. That is the upside to being totally open and honest eh?

Can''t wait to see the ring. I have a feeling it will be incredible!

 

[CharmyPoo]

We will have to see. He is still not budging on showing me the ring! I was telling him that I can't concentrate on work or sleep but still no. I am not sure if he is kidding or not - he mentioned that he showed it to one of our friends and even she noticed the prong size different without a loupe. He also said that he knows I am upset but he is just as upset for letting it go so bad. He may be keeping the ring a secret as he is planning to go through with his original proposal plans and do a reset later. Who knows .. I may be taken for a ride (punishing me for seeing that photo ... LOL). I just have to be careful that I am in no shape or form bashing anyone's work - I hope it is clear in the thread that I just really don't know at this point!

mommy2iz, laurel25 - I am glad I am not the only one. All my friends (except for one) has been crazy happy with their e-rings. I felt like a terrible b*t$h for complaining and whining. The thing is my boyfriend understands my appreciation for his effort and this has nothing to do with our love for each other.

Either way, I am not that upset anymore. If the ring turned out bad, we will just start over - no big deal. I am actually getting pretty excited about starting over although it will be a huge waste of money (the boyfriend reminded that it wouldn't be the biggest waste of money - we lost more in our kitchen and some other adventures). I was thinking this might be my opporunity to upgrade to a chunky cushion and start over with the setting. I searched all the sites but nothing comes close to what I am looking for.

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 12/22/2008 3:41:43 AM
Author: CharmyPoo
I was thinking this might be my opporunity to upgrade to a chunky cushion and start over with the setting.

LOL spoken like a true PS-er! I''m somehow feeling confident now that your man is a cheeky fellow who is spinning a funny story! I can''t wait to see the ring in real life!

You better tell him your shopping adventures and upgrade plans, that might get him to propose more quickly!

 

[CharmyPoo]

I have a little update - I finally got to see the ring. My boyfriend gave me the ring box with a ring pop in it .. but then eventually did show me the ring and let me try it on. He joked and asked if I wanted to get married .. I said eventuaally. He said .. ok that's my proposal. He is joking of course.

So on to the ring. It is prettier than the photos I saw and I am sure many will love it. The diamond looks huge on my hand. However, we decided we are still going to send the ring back. Here are the reasons:
1) I am really picky about prongs and all of the prongs are different sizes with the double prongs being a different widths apart. I know this will drive me crazy.
2) This is also a split shank design and the curves are not as we discussed - the result is that it looks very bulky and heavy on my hand (at least in my opinion). I wanted a very tiny split that curves up like Harriet's Red Spinel and the Daniel K split crown.
3) I wanted to set the ring as low as possible without looking too low. It is a little high in my opinion.
4) I wanted the band to be less than 2.0 mm ideally 1.8mm at the thickest point. The ring is 3.71 mm at the thickest after the split with the rest of the band hovering around 2.5 mm and up. This is so far from what I wanted.
5) I am also not big on the v-step pave since it has too much metal showing and I like less metal.
6) I am huge on symmetry. I recognize that handmade jewelry aren't perfect but there is one detail that is really bothering me. I am going to draft an email and see how things go.
7) This one is minor. We asked the ring to be 3 1/8 but it is 3 1/4 so it is a little too big.

If she won't fix it, I guess we will be starting over with perhaps Leon Mege or 23rd Street Jewelers.

On a side note, we invested in some hidden pink diamonds. We won't be doing that again - they are invisible

 

[bgray]

charmypoo--any chance we can see the ring? i know you have a pretty big stone. is it possible she made the ring thicker to counterbalance the stone.............i too wanted something extremely thin but when the stone gets to be over a certain size it can get tricky

 

[CharmyPoo]

I will try to get pictures. We can''t find the camera right now. I don''t want to post the photos she sent because they are awful representation and doesn''t capture the beauty of the ring. I hope we didn''t lose the camera after a Christmas party.

My stone is not large - well not small - it is 1.5 ct (hehe.. it''s a dwarf compared to your diamonds). I know the band can definetly be thinner as I have seen it done for larger and smaller stones in similar settings. I wanted a really delicate ring and we said it about 20 times. I have gone through phases of anger but now it''s like I am starting over.

 

[musey]

Date: 12/23/2008 12:35:16 AM
Author: CharmyPoo
My stone is not large - well not small - it is 1.5 ct (hehe.. it''s a dwarf compared to your diamonds).

Actually, that''s on the large side of average (well, mode) for PS rings, if I''m not mistaken.

Results have been calculated: and the average PS e-ring size is...

I think people get caught up in all the big bling around here, and forget that those honkers aren''t the ''norm''

 

[CharmyPoo]

PS does warp our perception. I can''t believe I am sitting here complaining about a beautiful ring. It is prettier than anything I have seen in a local store yet I can''t be happy! Boy - I have issues. I am lucky to have a man that puts up with me. He is having a horrible day with me finding everything. I just found my christmas present while cleaning up.

 

[mjlover]

i think thats great that you were able to sort through this ''less than ideal'' situation and considering you were very specific and the ring wasnt what you asked for im sure it wont be an issue. 1.5 is huge! My stone is 1.01 ... but im an aussie thats not too small over here

Cant wait to hear back on what your ring looks like once you have it all sorted!

 

[LaraOnline]

Yeah, I think 1.5 is huge as well, congratulations, looks like your man wants the best for you!
As mj said, you have been very specific about what you wanted, and I wonder if the ring is different for technical reasons? It will be interesting to discuss this with the jeweller after Chrissy.
Look forward to hearing how it all turns out!

 

[CharmyPoo]

I don''t buy that it is a technical reason but I am not a jeweler. The Daniel K split crown comes with center stones larger than mine and the delicacy of the setting is perserved. In addition, I have seen tons and tons of examples on Leon Mege''s site that has thin bands with even more elaborate settings. I don''t think the uneven sized prongs is due to my diamond.

Anyways, I take it back My diamond is big but a cushion this size faces up like a 1.2 ct so it really isn''t that big.