If you have had a Bridezilla moment...

[SarahLovesJS]

What was it and what was it over? I thought this might be a funny thread to start..

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Nope, not yet. I''m cool as a cucumber.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I had one...for sure...

The day before my wedding (Friday) I arranged a pretty seamless schedule for all my bridesmaids. We had mani/pedi''s and then we had to bring everything wedding related to the hotel for the wedding.

My one BM "M1" decided that she didn''t like her outfit for the rehearsal dinner. She asked me if it would be okay for her to go to the mall (which was about 10 minutes from the nail place) and pick up a new dress. I was like "sure, no problem"...I figured that we could still easily get all the nuts and bolts done with 3 in people instead of 4. However, immediately my other BM "M2" decided that she would like to go with M1 to the mall...and just announced that she was going.

My MOH L and I were like okay...we''ll go back to my house, gather all the things L had bought for my personal shower, we''d go to the hotel get checked in...and then everyone would meet back at my parents house for the big haul over.

L and I got everything...drove to the hotel...checked in...put everything in the room...and made it to my parents house...all told, probably about an hour and a half...and we never heard from M1&2. We called them, and got put into voicemail. My MOH, L, was pissed...so much so that she somehow managed to fit everything into her tiny Malibu!

We made it back to the hotel when the M''s finally called to ask where we were! We told them that we were completely done running and back at the hotel already with everything (including their bags!!). They told us they would meet us at the hotel...and while we were waiting my mom asked if we could please go pick up some candy she had ordered for the hospitality suite. L and I were on our way out the door when in walks M 1&2. We told them where we were going, and left. My mom then asked them if they could please pick my aunt up from the hair salon (1 mile away)...and M1 asked my mom for gas money!

So...

Here it comes...

When I heard this, I lost it on them. I told them they were "worthless as bridesmaids" and that I was so disappointed. I said I can excuse a lot of things...like ditching out of the moving things, and ducking our calls...but to charge my mom to dive one mile to pick up my aunt who was having her wig styled (she was undergoing breast cancer treatments at the time, and flew in from Miami for our wedding) was something I would never forgive.

 

[Blair138]

I am a control freak by nature. I have been getting really worked up about a lot of things lately and my mom likes to call me bridezilla.

She will probably tell you I act like a Bridezilla but I don''t thing I''ve had a BAD freakout yet... I know I am going to freak out right before the wedding so I hired a DOC and am going to try really hard to stay calm. I freak out to my friend at work because she knows how I feel, she got married just under a year ago.

 

[brightlight]

I''ve never had a bridezilla moment, but I''m about to go guestzilla on a bridezilla, groomzilla, and their families. I have never in my life encountered such selfish and self-centered people. The bride and groom come from WEALTHY families who are paying for all their wedding expenses and honeymoon, giving them a monetary gift, and still financially supporting them. These two pay for none of their own living expenses. NOTHING. Yet, they insist on turning this wedding into a fundraiser for themselves - in this economy of all times. The mothers are telling guests to give them checks (minimum of $300/person) instead of gifts from their registry. They''re skimping on things lthat would make a difference to the guests like the type, quantity, and quality of the food and the bar selection in order to save money, b/c the bride and groom get to keep the money from the wedding budget that they don''t spend. They sent out HUNDREDS of invitations to random acquaintances they knew wouldn''t come in order to receive more gifts. They also get a discount that''s applied to their wedding from the hotel if guests stay there, so they''re telling everyone to book under their names even though it''s much cheaper to book the rooms independent of the wedding. At the same time, they''re splurging on everything that has to do with themselves - jewelry, attire, spa treatments, etc. Did I mention the bride had four bridal showers and invited the same guests to all of them? Both families also insist on getting as much attention for their children''s weddings as possible, so they call up and harrass everyone about the wedding. They don''t understand why no one cares about this wedding, and no one is calling them asking about it. It really burns them that people don''t worship their children. Some people just have no sense of graciousness or respect for the work one does to earn money.

Thank you ... I needed to get that out of my system.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 5/29/2009 10:48:39 PM
Author: brightlight
I''ve never had a bridezilla moment, but I''m about to go guestzilla on a bridezilla, groomzilla, and their families. I have never in my life encountered such selfish and self-centered people. The bride and groom come from WEALTHY families who are paying for all their wedding expenses and honeymoon, giving them a monetary gift, and still financially supporting them. These two pay for none of their own living expenses. NOTHING. Yet, they insist on turning this wedding into a fundraiser for themselves - in this economy of all times. The mothers are telling guests to give them checks (minimum of $300/person) instead of gifts from their registry. They''re skimping on things lthat would make a difference to the guests like the type, quantity, and quality of the food and the bar selection in order to save money, b/c the bride and groom get to keep the money from the wedding budget that they don''t spend. They sent out HUNDREDS of invitations to random acquaintances they knew wouldn''t come in order to receive more gifts. They also get a discount that''s applied to their wedding from the hotel if guests stay there, so they''re telling everyone to book under their names even though it''s much cheaper to book the rooms independent of the wedding. At the same time, they''re splurging on everything that has to do with themselves - jewelry, attire, spa treatments, etc. Did I mention the bride had four bridal showers and invited the same guests to all of them? Both families also insist on getting as much attention for their children''s weddings as possible, so they call up and harrass everyone about the wedding. They don''t understand why no one cares about this wedding, and no one is calling them asking about it. It really burns them that people don''t worship their children. Some people just have no sense of graciousness or respect for the work one does to earn money.


Thank you ... I needed to get that out of my system.

Wow that sounds like these people are being horrid and rude to say the least!!!

Man that is unreal..lol and I got frustrated with FI''s fam for inviting a few random people..this blows that waaaay out of the water.

 

[brightlight]

Date: 5/29/2009 10:51:12 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS

Date: 5/29/2009 10:48:39 PM
Author: brightlight
I've never had a bridezilla moment, but I'm about to go guestzilla on a bridezilla, groomzilla, and their families. I have never in my life encountered such selfish and self-centered people. The bride and groom come from WEALTHY families who are paying for all their wedding expenses and honeymoon, giving them a monetary gift, and still financially supporting them. These two pay for none of their own living expenses. NOTHING. Yet, they insist on turning this wedding into a fundraiser for themselves - in this economy of all times. The mothers are telling guests to give them checks (minimum of $300/person) instead of gifts from their registry. They're skimping on things lthat would make a difference to the guests like the type, quantity, and quality of the food and the bar selection in order to save money, b/c the bride and groom get to keep the money from the wedding budget that they don't spend. They sent out HUNDREDS of invitations to random acquaintances they knew wouldn't come in order to receive more gifts. They also get a discount that's applied to their wedding from the hotel if guests stay there, so they're telling everyone to book under their names even though it's much cheaper to book the rooms independent of the wedding. At the same time, they're splurging on everything that has to do with themselves - jewelry, attire, spa treatments, etc. Did I mention the bride had four bridal showers and invited the same guests to all of them? Both families also insist on getting as much attention for their children's weddings as possible, so they call up and harrass everyone about the wedding. They don't understand why no one cares about this wedding, and no one is calling them asking about it. It really burns them that people don't worship their children. Some people just have no sense of graciousness or respect for the work one does to earn money.


Thank you ... I needed to get that out of my system.

Wow that sounds like these people are being horrid and rude to say the least!!!

Man that is unreal..lol and I got frustrated with FI's fam for inviting a few random people..this blows that waaaay out of the water.

I know! It takes all my self-control to keep from telling them how rude and self-centered they are, b/c they just wouldn't get it. I know this, b/c another guest got really angry and yelled at one of the mothers, and she just didn't understand. She feels her child deserves everyone's attention and money. I don't want to give them what they want, which is more attention, so I just ignore them. When I have to speak to them about this wedding, I'm just completely stone-faced and don't any questions about it at all. They're the type of people who would just say, "Oh, they're just jealous of us." What really gets me is that they're justification for asking for checks instead of gifts is that their kids need the money b/c they're young and just starting out. Hello, your kids are over 30! Tell them to get jobs.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 5/29/2009 11:06:37 PM
Author: brightlight
I know! It takes all my self-control to keep from telling them how rude and self-centered they are, b/c they just wouldn''t get it. I know this, b/c another guest got really angry and yelled at one of the mothers, and she just didn''t understand. She feels her child deserves everyone''s attention and money. I don''t want to give them what they want, which is more attention, so I just ignore them. When I have to speak to them about this wedding, I''m just completely stone-faced and don''t any questions about it at all. They''re the type of people who would just say, ''Oh, they''re just jealous of us.'' What really gets me is that they''re justification for asking for checks instead of gifts is that their kids need the money b/c they''re young and just starting out. Hello, your kids are over 30! Tell them to get jobs.

Man that is crazy! I mean my parents are paying for over 60% of wedding costs; however, we are still putting out money for things. We''ve paid for/are still paying for our photographer, videographer, DJ, rev., our rings, our honeymoon (although his Grandma gave us some $$ toward it as a flight and my Mom helped us out with plane tickets),lots of little things like decorations and guest book, and my bridal portrait. We''re also rethinking whether we want to have a bar or not now that we''ve gotten some nos (think we may be able to afford it) and if we are having it..then FI and I will be paying for that as well. I know we could be paying for the whole thing theoretically if it were years from now, but we ARE just starting out. He''s been on his job a year and a half and I just graduated from college. We''ve saved for over a year to pay for the things we''re paying for and still managed to hit some economic bumps like unexpected car repairs and bonus cuts due to the economy (hence my parents and his Grandma are helping more with the honeymoon than planned originally). And as for the just jealous thing..oh I know that all too well. A family member of mine got married last summer and invited me, but not FI. The wedding ended up the same day as FI''s family reunion..so obviously I went to his family reunion. She''s so furious about me not coming to her wedding that she has since started snubbing me and avoids talking to me (and her parents are mad as well). It''s all about HER in their world. They can''t understand why I would miss her wedding even if it was to meet more of my future family!

I won''t even go into the rest it''s too long.

I think there are a lot of people out there right now that don''t care about my wedding that probably should (e.g. some of my bridal party and close family members), but I don''t think it''s because they''re jealous..I just think they probably don''t actually care about me or FI very much. Lol. I''ve always found the jealous thing to be a weird accusation.

 

[FrekeChild]

Hmmm...Yeah. Although it was at a point where my dad and I were having a heated argument about something else, and everything just came pouring out about how crappy I felt about everything.

And uninviting people is probably a big bridezilla move too...

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Date: 5/29/2009 11:40:34 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Hmmm...Yeah. Although it was at a point where my dad and I were having a heated argument about something else, and everything just came pouring out about how crappy I felt about everything.


And uninviting people is probably a big bridezilla move too...

Well, having heard what happened to trigger all that though, I wouldn''t say it was a bridezilla moment. Just natural, considering all the crap you went through

Brightlight, that is ridiculous. I can''t believe how selfish they are - $300 minimum??? What do they think this is, some charity fundraiser or something? And the charity is themselves? Gah!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 5/29/2009 11:40:34 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Hmmm...Yeah. Although it was at a point where my dad and I were having a heated argument about something else, and everything just came pouring out about how crappy I felt about everything.


And uninviting people is probably a big bridezilla move too...

I

you Freke hehe. I am about to follow in your uninviting path essentially..in that our reply date was today and we haven''t heard from quite a few of FI''s extended family members. If they do not reply by Monday..I don''t think I am going to have FI call them unless we KNEW they were coming..I am just going to cut them and have the word go out that anyone that didn''t reply does not have a seat/meal reserved for them.

 

[brightlight]

Date: 5/29/2009 11:54:20 PM
Author: Brown.Eyed.Girl

Date: 5/29/2009 11:40:34 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Hmmm...Yeah. Although it was at a point where my dad and I were having a heated argument about something else, and everything just came pouring out about how crappy I felt about everything.


And uninviting people is probably a big bridezilla move too...

Well, having heard what happened to trigger all that though, I wouldn''t say it was a bridezilla moment. Just natural, considering all the crap you went through

Brightlight, that is ridiculous. I can''t believe how selfish they are - $300 minimum??? What do they think this is, some charity fundraiser or something? And the charity is themselves? Gah!

Actually, yes. That''s how they came up with the $300/person number - that''s how much you would pay per seat at a charity event dinner.

 

[brightlight]

Money really can''t buy class. Even if it could, these people wouldn''t use the wedding money to buy it.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 5/30/2009 12:07:12 AM
Author: brightlight
Money really can''t buy class. Even if it could, these people wouldn''t use the wedding money to buy it.

Lolol!! Love it!

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Date: 5/30/2009 12:07:12 AM
Author: brightlight
Money really can''t buy class. Even if it could, these people wouldn''t use the wedding money to buy it.

lol!

 

[FrekeChild]

Woot Sarah! GREAT plan!!!! I think that sounds just about perfect!

And yeah BEG. Totally...

 

[loriken214]

Date: 5/30/2009 12:07:12 AM
Author: brightlight
Money really can''t buy class. Even if it could, these people wouldn''t use the wedding money to buy it.

Brightlight, are you going to this wedding????

Lori

 

[Gypsy]

I think I had a few.

Actually my biggest two were the day of. We had a timeline and were supposed to take pics and blah, blah, blah bonding with the family before I see John and I was just...not having it. After being fussed about since 8am, and not having seen John since the afternoon before, at around 2:00 (45 minutes before we were supposed to have our pre-ceremony shoot and intro) I was like... I WANT MY GROOM AND I WANT HIM NOW, EVERYBODY GET OUT OF MY WAY. Only my MUA and the photographer were there to actually see me lose it, but I was just fed up with all the hens clucking around me and I wanted my best friend and my island of sanity THERE NOW. Then when we were doing the formals, I did not have the patience for any BS from ANYONE so at one point I told the backseat photographers who were interfereing with an expedient photoshoot by my professional photographers that "I HIRED PHOTOGRAPHERS FOR A REASON, PLEASE LISTEN TO THEM, THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING."

I was okay until the day of. But man... those moments before the ceremony I was like... I AM THE BRIDE AND YOU WILL LISTEN TO ME BECAUSE THIS IS MY D*MN DAY.

 

[loriken214]

Date: 5/29/2009 11:55:07 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS

Date: 5/29/2009 11:40:34 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Hmmm...Yeah. Although it was at a point where my dad and I were having a heated argument about something else, and everything just came pouring out about how crappy I felt about everything.


And uninviting people is probably a big bridezilla move too...

I

you Freke hehe. I am about to follow in your uninviting path essentially..in that our reply date was today and we haven''t heard from quite a few of FI''s extended family members. If they do not reply by Monday..I don''t think I am going to have FI call them unless we KNEW they were coming..I am just going to cut them and have the word go out that anyone that didn''t reply does not have a seat/meal reserved for them.

GO SARAH!!!

Lori

 

[Rock Your Socks]

I come from Australia and My big sister by 10 years moved to scotland about 5 years ago. She comes back at least every 18months. But my most bridezilla moment was fairly recently when she told me that because all of her friends work during the week she would be going out the night before my wedding for drinks (without me). And considering i''m getting married at 11am in the morning and we have to be ready for the photographers by 9.30am, i said to her " I don''t want you going out, getting drunk and stumbling home at 3 in the morning and going to my wedding with a hangover". Well that went over well, let me tell you, she just said I''m a grown woman and i can do what i like.

I had to bite my tongue from then on and i just hope she doesn''t ruin my day somehow....

I truly and honestly believe that every bridezilla moment starts because deep down we panic that if we don''t have some sort of control over everything it will all fall apart or nobody will like your weddingdetails or say if it were to rain or the food was missing figs in a salad at the reception it''s truly that sense of i want everything to go smoothly and perfectly!

 

[Elmorton]

My bridezilla moment was when I saw one of my BMs wearing an elastic headband and a bun as her hairdo (I said the gals could do their own). To me, it looked like she was on her way to a workout. I asked BM 1 to offer to re-do it and she said "No can do! I told her it was cute!" so I nabbed a mutual friend who has a flair for drama and I said "I hate BM2''s hair! FIX IT!" and as I was getting put in my dress, I peeked into the adjoining room just as our friend was gesturing "SHE HATES IT! WE HAVE TO GO BACK TO YOUR ROOM!" The look on my friend''s face was so sad - kindof a mix of "what the heck?!" and "really?!?!" I don''t regret asking her to fix it, but HOW it was handled could have been a little better.

Now, my MOH would tell you that I was a bridezilla by making her cover up her tats. Yes, maybe I was, but I don''t regret how I handled that quite as much

 

[Clairitek]

1. When one of my MOHS called me today and asked me just how much I liked her long hair. She was dying to cut it because it was blowing in her face, etc. I asked her to not chop more than 2 inches because I really love it long. We joked about how bridezilla-ish it was. Now that I type this all out I am feeling bad so maybe I will call her tomorrow and tell her to do whatever she feels will make her the most comfortable. That has been my mantra with everything bridesmaid related so far so perhaps I should keep up my laid back ''tude.

2. Not allowing one of the MOHS (different one from #1) to bring her on/off boyfriend. They are very very much on right now but we are having a very small wedding and I sorta put my foot down. He is invited to the post wedding bar crawl but not to the ceremony or dinner. Actually... put this moment down as a GROOMZILLA moment since my FI is really the one putting his foot down here.

 

[Sabine]

Mine was over my mom wanting to wear an ivory and gold dress to my wedding. I thought it made her look like she was trying to steal the spotlight. People on here agreed. In retrospect, I don''t know if anyone would have really noticed, but I still glad she got it in a different color.

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 5/30/2009 6:10:20 AM
Author: Rock Your Socks
I come from Australia and My big sister by 10 years moved to scotland about 5 years ago. She comes back at least every 18months. But my most bridezilla moment was fairly recently when she told me that because all of her friends work during the week she would be going out the night before my wedding for drinks (without me). And considering i''m getting married at 11am in the morning and we have to be ready for the photographers by 9.30am, i said to her '' I don''t want you going out, getting drunk and stumbling home at 3 in the morning and going to my wedding with a hangover''. Well that went over well, let me tell you, she just said I''m a grown woman and i can do what i like.

I had to bite my tongue from then on and i just hope she doesn''t ruin my day somehow....

This isn''t a bridezilla moment - you''re just viewing the situation with some common sense. Whatever happens with your sister please do not allow it to ruin your big day

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 5/29/2009 10:48:39 PM
Author: brightlight
I''ve never had a bridezilla moment, but I''m about to go guestzilla on a bridezilla, groomzilla, and their families. I have never in my life encountered such selfish and self-centered people. The bride and groom come from WEALTHY families who are paying for all their wedding expenses and honeymoon, giving them a monetary gift, and still financially supporting them. These two pay for none of their own living expenses. NOTHING. Yet, they insist on turning this wedding into a fundraiser for themselves - in this economy of all times. The mothers are telling guests to give them checks (minimum of $300/person) instead of gifts from their registry. They''re skimping on things lthat would make a difference to the guests like the type, quantity, and quality of the food and the bar selection in order to save money, b/c the bride and groom get to keep the money from the wedding budget that they don''t spend. They sent out HUNDREDS of invitations to random acquaintances they knew wouldn''t come in order to receive more gifts. They also get a discount that''s applied to their wedding from the hotel if guests stay there, so they''re telling everyone to book under their names even though it''s much cheaper to book the rooms independent of the wedding. At the same time, they''re splurging on everything that has to do with themselves - jewelry, attire, spa treatments, etc. Did I mention the bride had four bridal showers and invited the same guests to all of them? Both families also insist on getting as much attention for their children''s weddings as possible, so they call up and harrass everyone about the wedding. They don''t understand why no one cares about this wedding, and no one is calling them asking about it. It really burns them that people don''t worship their children. Some people just have no sense of graciousness or respect for the work one does to earn money.

Thank you ... I needed to get that out of my system.

I didn''t read through this thread when I replied to it the first time but DAMN this is the most attrocious behavior I''ve EVER heard of when it comes to a family and their children''s wedding.

Are you actually going to attend?

 

[kama_s]

Yeah, I had my first (and hopefully last) freak out yesterday at my father over my brother''s suit. We are having a hard time getting him something that looks good on him, for a decent price. My dad (and I fully agree) doesn''t want to spend upwards of 500$ (our only option as of right now) on a suit for him since he''ll outgrow it within the year. Ayways, I just absolutely flipped on my father because he just wasn''t understanding how difficult it has been getting my brother an outfit, and he kept making ridiculous suggestions (such as, jeans and a button down shirt or an Indian suit). I replied by saying that while I didn''t care about the family/bridal party matching, I didn''t want them to dress so differently that my wedding begins to look like a circus and have that documented forever in pictures I''m paying a fortune for.

Ahhhh, poor dad e-mailed me later saying that we should get my bro that 500$ suit because it''s a once-in-a-lifetime event.

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 6/2/2009 5:47:26 PM
Author: kama_s
Yeah, I had my first (and hopefully last) freak out yesterday at my father over my brother''s suit. We are having a hard time getting him something that looks good on him, for a decent price. My dad (and I fully agree) doesn''t want to spend upwards of 500$ (our only option as of right now) on a suit for him since he''ll outgrow it within the year. Ayways, I just absolutely flipped on my father because he just wasn''t understanding how difficult it has been getting my brother an outfit, and he kept making ridiculous suggestions (such as, jeans and a button down shirt or an Indian suit). I replied by saying that while I didn''t care about the family/bridal party matching, I didn''t want them to dress so differently that my wedding begins to look like a circus and have that documented forever in pictures I''m paying a fortune for.

Ahhhh, poor dad e-mailed me later saying that we should get my bro that 500$ suit because it''s a once-in-a-lifetime event.

Aww honey. That''s funny. Circus. Yeah. I can understand that though. ((HUGS)).

Can you get him slacks and a nice shirt and a tie? How old is he?

We had a couple of people show up wearing strange things. Like John''s cousin (the millionaire-- several times over) who showed up looking like a poor liberal arts teacher in tweed. And he was part of the processional. No tie. Shirt was rumpled. Coat was tweed with the elbow patches (in CA in September) and... twill pants (nice dockers). My mistake. I thought that since John had mentioned that he and the GM were wearing a tux and that we had decided that everyone else in the wedding party could just wear DARK SUITS, he would get the hint. Apparently not. His girlfriend? Looked STUNNING in a gold (like metallic gold) cocktail dress and heels, hair perfect, makeup perfect... the perfect guest. He looked like her lackey. And yes, he''s in MANY of the pictures... and I would have FLIPPED if I''d known before hand. But when he just showed up wearing that, I just put on my metal ''ignore.. la, la, la..." button and dealt with it. One of John''s sisters showed up in a floor length evening gown. The other in a sun dress. They were baffled by the "cocktail attire" thing apparently.

 

[Porridge]

I refuse to tell people what my dress looks like! Only the BM''s, mum, FMIL, FSIL and you lucky PSers got the exclusive show...

I want it to be a surprise!

 

[Gypsy]

Pardon me. I went back to look at the photos. He was wearing a tie. It was just the same beige color as everything else he was wearing so I didn''t notice. Oh, and except for the elbow patches, everything (shoes, tie, everything) was beige. He was the beige man. With the date that looked like a hollywood superstar (she''s really a beautiful and wonderful lady his GF).

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

Date: 5/31/2009 1:18:00 AM
Author: Clairitek
1. When one of my MOHS called me today and asked me just how much I liked her long hair. She was dying to cut it because it was blowing in her face, etc. I asked her to not chop more than 2 inches because I really love it long. We joked about how bridezilla-ish it was. Now that I type this all out I am feeling bad so maybe I will call her tomorrow and tell her to do whatever she feels will make her the most comfortable. That has been my mantra with everything bridesmaid related so far so perhaps I should keep up my laid back ''tude.


2. Not allowing one of the MOHS (different one from #1) to bring her on/off boyfriend. They are very very much on right now but we are having a very small wedding and I sorta put my foot down. He is invited to the post wedding bar crawl but not to the ceremony or dinner. Actually... put this moment down as a GROOMZILLA moment since my FI is really the one putting his foot down here.

Claritek, you''re too sweet. I love that your ''Zilla moments aren''t really that awful at all, and you still feel bad about them (well, the hair, at least!) You''re a very gracious, kind person. That radiates through in your posts, for sure!