I''m getting married in less than 3 weeks and really, really want a different wedding dress!

[MommaChristine]

I''m getting married August 2 and am freaking out because I really want a different wedding dress. My dress is poofy and has a bunch of pick ups and my wedding is very modern and contemporary. I can''t afford another dress and can''t exchange mine so there''s really nothing I can do but I am really concerned that I''m going to feel uncomfortable and awkward on my wedding day. Actually, I''m pretty positive that I will feel that way. I know that my dress doesn''t fit in with our whole wedding theme or venue and I''m now kicking myself for not listening to my mom and trying on more styles! I don''t know what to do ..

 

[Dannielle]

Do you have a picture of your wedding dress? That way we can all gush over it and make you feel fabulous about it

 

[musincy]

There''s a reason you bought the dress... you must have felt fabulous in it when you tried it on. I bet you''re just having the same doubts everyone else does about their dress. I''m sure you will look lovely!!

 

[princessplease]

Date: 7/14/2009 8:13:27 AM
Author: Dannielle
Do you have a picture of your wedding dress? That way we can all gush over it and make you feel fabulous about it

Ditto

 

[MommaChristine]

LOL Dannielle, you are sweet. I actually posted pictures after my first fitting and received a ton of compliments but for some reason I am really dreading wearing this dress. I can feel it in my stomach and chest! I''ll post the picture from my first fitting but then I''m going to post a few pictures of my venue and a few other things so that it helps everyone to understand. The ONLY thing formal about this wedding is my dress!

 

[MommaChristine]

Our ceremony room .. there''s floor to ceiling windows on the walls you can''t see.

 

[Lanie]

i think it is a beautiful dress...

I''m waiting to see the venue before I make a comment, but I bet you will be fine...

Do you think you could really find a dress and have it altered in 3 weeks and be happier?

 

[MommaChristine]

Our reception room .. this is during the day with no set up.

 

[Lanie]

Ok, I think you are fine. If you were having a BBQ outside or a beach wedding, then I might be a tinge worried.

Even if the only formal thing about the wedding is your dress, you are the bride and you can wear whatever you want. Is there a way to make your surroundings a little more formal and maybe that would ease your mind? Dress up the reception/ceremony venue a little more?

What was your mom saying about it? Was she suggesting that you get something more casual, or just a completely different style?

ETA: Just reread your post, and you said that the decor/theme of everything you are doing is more modern and contemporary. So dressing up the venue isn't a good suggestion on my part! I honestly think you will be fine! You look so beautiful in that dress! Look at your SMILE in the photo. Maybe get a pair of killer shoes that go with the style of your dress and that will make you feel instantly better. How are you going to do your hair?

 

[MommaChristine]

The other side of the ceremony room.

 

[MommaChristine]

Lastly the bridesmaid dress and shoes.

 

[MommaChristine]

.. and the back. The brooch has a plastic cover over it but it''ll be a colored flower brooch.

 

[cammy85]

I really think you look fabulous in your dress, and if you can''t be slightly overdressed at your own wedding, when can you be? No one is going to care if your dress "seems" more formal than the space, you''ll probably be the only one that will feel that way anyway. Everyone is going to focus on how radiant, beautiful and happy you look. That dress fits you like a glove and looks fabulous! I say rock the dress!

 

[MommaChristine]

Lanie - My mom hates the dress. She hates the pick ups and the poofyness .. the only thing she likes about it is the color with my complextion! Our colors are black and green and I''m debating on dying my petticoat black to make it a bit less formal but I haven''t decided for sure yet. I''m wearing the same floral shoes that my bridesmaids are wearing (I REALLY wanted this amazing pair of CL''s but they were $1000 and FI said no) and I am thinking about wearing my hair down even though it''s a strapless gown. I was thinking down with loose curls and a floral hair comb on each side to tie in our floral theme. How could I dress up our wedding? Do you have any ideas? Our tables are going to be green linen with a black table runner and a green centerpiece. I''ll post a picture of our centerpiece and then our cake for reference!

Ours will have green hydrangeas instead of the white.

 

[cocolaw]

i think it''s just pre-wedding nerves!! you look gorgeous, it all goes together beautifully, and look at the enormous smile on your face when you are wearing the dress!!!!!

 

[KatyWI]

OK, deep breath. If there's really no way you can find another dress, you have to let us help you fall back in love with yours!

However... with your gorgeous figure, you might be able to find something for only a few hundred dollars at preowned wedding dresses or DB, and if the thought of wearing your dress is actually making you feel sick, maybe someone would be willing to loan it to you, at least?

But seriously... I can honestly say that I sort of loathed pick-ups when I tried on dresses, but I specifically remember the pics from your fitting causing me to eat my words (or thoughts, as the case may be). You are absolutely radiant and stunning in that gown. The pickups are not the first thing you notice about it because while they are there, they are not as structured as most, and while it is definitely a beautifully full and formal gown, I don't think that it "doesn't go" with your venue.

Look at your smile! And your teeny waist! And the way the skirt falls! You look in that picture like you are positively GLOWING.

So... I still think you should get another dress if you are really and truly sick over it. It is not worth looking back on this day for the rest of your life and hating it. But if you think there's any chance you can stick it out and fall back in love with the one you already have, you are going to be a STUNNING bride!

Hang in there, and let us know what you decide!

 

[cocolaw]

and i disagree....i think your bridesmaid dresses are pretty formal! black satin with a brooch in the back!! i think it all goes together really well!

 

[cocolaw]

and what does your jewelery look like?? i think with this dress i would just do simple earrings!! no big sparkly bracelet!

 

[Lanie]

DON''T DON''T DON''T DON''T DON''T die your pettycoat black. It will not look good with the style of the dress.

Those are really pretty centerpieces by the way. I don''t think you need to dress up your reception at all. I didn''t realize it was that modern and pretty, and the interior design is its own decoration. It will be pretty no matter what.

Can I suggest something that I hope doesn''t hurt your feelings? I would not do those shoes. They are FABO, but not with your dress. I think if you wear those shoes, AND put a broach on them, you will have too many competing looks. I would do a solid color for your shoes...same style, or maybe even a D''Orsay so there is less fabric. That''s just my opinion...if you are sold on them, you are sold on them, and that''s fine. I think you''ll be fine.

 

[MommaChristine]

We''re doing a variation of this cake. Ours will have a white backdrop with black outlining and piping and each flower will be a different color .. it''ll also be round and 4 tier.

 

[Thomperchik]

MC - I think your dress can go both ways. I think if anything, it compliments your wedding because the style is classic! However, if you had a less formal dress, you probably wouldn''t be able to pull it off.

You will look beautiful & good luck!

 

[KatyWI]

OH MY GOD I LOVE THAT CAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I totally wish I had found something like it before I made my decision. Great choice! I think your wedding is going to be just amazing!!

 

[meresal]

The fact of the matter is, you can't afford another dress, so you need to figure out a way to make YOU feel comfortable.

Here's my opinion, switch the flowers from green hydrangea to white, like in the pictures, or do half the tables green and half white. It will instantly make your reception feel more formal.
Your florist shouldn't be ordering the flowers for another week or two so the change should be doable, if you are open to changing some things around.

By the way, your dress is gorgeous and it looks stunning on you. Would you share what your groom is wearing? That could make ALOT of the difference as well. You will be next to him all night, so if he is dressed equally as formal then you will look fine.

 

[Anastasia]

I don''t think that modern = not formal. Your reception has very clean lines, but that doesn''t mean that it is not formal.

I also don''t think that the bride''s dress has to "match" the venue. You are the bride, not a piece of furniture.

You look beautiful in your dress. I am betting that when you get all dressed on your wedding day, that you are going to realize that you made the right choice, and forget all about it.

 

[Loves Vintage]

Wow. Your dress is really gorgeous! And, you look gorgeous and very happy in it!! Your dress is so romantic. I actually like the pick-ups on this dress, and I don''t normally like pick-ups! Something about the randomness of the pick-ups makes this dress very lovely and romantic.

So, in this photo, you seem very happy in this dress. Any chance your mom''s comments about the dress are getting to you?

 

[Lilac]

Honestly? I think your dress is stunning and you look amazing in it. I personally don''t think the bride really can be "overdressed" at her own wedding!! If you absolutely hate the dress (even though it''s gorgeous) then see if you can possibly find another one for a couple hundred dollars, but I don''t think you''ll find anything in that price range so quickly that can be ready in time that''s even HALF as beautiful as this dress.

I think you should also stop worrying about "dressing up" your wedding because like I said, it''s YOUR wedding so you can be as dressed up as you want and I don''t think anyone will even think twice about it!

 

[luvbug]

Personally, I think your dress looks great on you and you do look happy in it. It is also extremely flattering to your beautiful figure. And your venue is amazing!!

....But as someone who changed their own dress recently I totally understand how you are feeling and there is no one but you who can decide if you''ll be uncomfortable on your day. My dress actually made me dread my wedding so I knew there had to be a change.

If you have any wiggle room in your budget, there are some really beautiful dresses in the wedding shop at Nordstrom (returnable) that are 200, 300, and 400$$

http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/6005465/0~2376776~2374327~6005464~6005465?origin=leftnav


Like this one is under 200$

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Girl, I think you''ll be FINE!!!

I think you look gorgeous. I think the dress is gorgeous on you and suits you very well. And I definitely think it''ll be fine in the venue. The room looks very grand, being so tall and beautiful. I think your dress will be FINE!!!

Enjoy it - trust me, you look fabulous!!!

 

[luvbug]

and this one just over 200$

No matter what...you'll be a radiant bride

ETA: sorry those pics are huge

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

See?

I honestly do think it looks great in the room.