I'm going to put all my bad news into one post

[dragonfly411]

I'm so sorry LGK. I imagine O.P. is still looking after you, as he felt it was his duty. ((HUGS))

 

[NewEnglandLady]

LGK, I'm so, so sorry to hear about the loss of your kitties. They were a much bigger part of your life and family than your father, so don't feel guilty about grieving the loss of them more than the loss of your father.

I was re-reading "Merle's Door" recently, which is a book about a dog. Naturally, the dog dies and a little girl in the book starts crying and says "Boy, you don't get this sad about some people". She may have only been 6, but I couldn't agree with her more.

 

[Circe]

Some years just suck. I am really, really sorry that this is one of them for you. Losing one beloved pet is hard enough, but both together sounds heartbreaking. I hope it is, somehow, comforting to know that at least they didn't have to miss one another: and that, somehow, OP is still around.

I'm also very, very sorry about your father. It sounds like an impossible amount to have to process. If you need to talk, this place is good for that ....

 

[movie zombie]

grieving for those that you loved and returned your love [O.P. and Rat] is a part of loving. they were fortunate that you were there for them....life would have been much harder had you not taken them in when opportunity presented itself which was later in their life rather than as a kitten. they will both live and be loved in your heart. that you feel a presence is more proof of that love. there are times i still think i see my LaHonda girl that died in december...... you have a lot of love to give and there are cats in need of it. share that love in honor of O.P. and Rat.

re your dad: i don't know how old you are now but you have not had a father's love since at least age 16. any death is sad. but please do not feel guilty for grieving more for O.P. and Rat. they were there for you when you needed them. it is ok to not grieve for an "absent" parent.

there are some things you can do during this time. find a way to honor you kitties. plant a tree or bush in their memory and watch it grow. if you have a picture of them together, display it and light a candle. find some small things to do to honor your loving relationship.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I'm sorry you lost your dear cats. You made their lives better, and they knew they were loved.

 

[coati]

LGK-I'm so sorry about O.P. and Rat. They sound like wonderful and unique kitties, and I loved reading about them. So sorry for your loss.

I'm also sorry about your father.

 

[mrscushion]

I am very sorry to hear about your losses and the difficult time you are going through. O.P. sounds like the most wonderful animal, ever. I did not know cats could be so kind. I hope you continue to see his orange shadow here and there.

 

[dragonfly411]

LGK - I wanted to come back and add that 2011 really has been a trying year. It isn't just you, so don't feel like it's just bad things happening to you. I know that when I have a stream of bad things happen, I tend to watch those around me carry on and feel isolated, so I don't want you to feel that way either. You will make it through though and find happier days ahead, I'm sure of it!

 

[madiamondgirl]

LGK,
My heart breaks for you. As with many others here, I know what you're feeling. I've lost my furbabies due to illness. WeIl it's never easy to deal with. When I lost my beloved Charlie (a wonderful black cat I had for 11yrs) from kidney failure I was a mess. . I mean I was completely and utterly lost!!! 6 months later, I got 2 Siamese brothers: Sammi and Neko. About 3 years ago, Sammi suddenly got sick. I took him to the Veterinarian and we thought he had allergies. Sammi and Neko had a long history of upper respiratory infections since they were kittens. The Veterinarian, never took X-rays. He just gave him a steroid shot. Fast forward a 1.5 days later. I came home and Sammi's breathing was labored. We rushed him back to the Dr and he told us he needed a specialist. We took him to an emergency care hospital. There we were told that his lungs were filled with fluid (thanks to the steroid shot) and he was in heart failure. The Dr said he had a heart problem that had gone undetected for a long time. After 2 days in ICU in an Oxygen tank; the Dr's had exhausted all possible attempts to save him. I decided to put him down, he was only 8 years old. I held him and said good bye. It was the most gut wrenching experience of my life. I was inconsolable for a days. His brother Neko was lost. He would walk around the house crying out for him. It was just awful.
A few months later, I found another Siamese breeder. When I told her my story about loosing Sammi, she gave me first pick of a new litter. I brought home a beautiful Siamese lady named Jazmyn. Neko and Jazmyn were fast friends! He's her big bro! After I got married last year and moved, it was hard on Neko. He's very attached to me and sharing me with my husband is not an option in his mind. The age difference between him and Jazmyn is about 10yrs. She's very active and needed another partner in crime. So... I adopted a siamese mix named Buddy. Buddy is all black just like my beloved Charlie. He kisses the ground Neko walks on -LOL and he's Jazmyn's play mate. Buddy is just the most lovable, happy go lucky little guy! I just love him to pieces!

These lovely creatures are our family and to loose a family member is a great loss. I hope you find comfort in all the responses in this thread. Perhaps when the time is right, Dex will need a few playmates.

I'm sorry to also hear about your father. Please don't beat yourself up about how you feel. Just because someone is related to you, even if it's a parent doesn't necessarily mean they are FAMILY.

Hang in there.

 

[MAC-W]

LGK - I have nothing but hugs for you. Pets can be such big parts of our lives and losing them sort of turns your world upside
down for a while until you figure out how to cope. Give yourself lots of time to mourn. Time and lots of tears seems to be the
only thing that ever works for me. I hope you find comfort in knowing that you probably gave him the life that he longed for.

Absolutely 150% +1 to this. Except I would change the probably to definately.

You sound like a great catmom LGK and I hope I can reincarnate as one of your cats in a future life.

ETA: I have my fingers and toes crossed that the second half of 2011 is great for you and negates the first half.

 

[cnspotts]

(((hug)))

 

[HollyS]

Actually, the whole last decade sucked, and we aren't off to a good start this year, either.

But this is your vent.

I'm sorry things have been crappy for you. Hang in there.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

So sorry for all of your loss...

 

[Mayk]

so sorry for your loss.... What a great home your gave your furry kids!

 

[Indylady]

LGK--thinking of you. So sorry to hear about your loss. It is beautiful to hear about the relationship you had with OP and Rat, and the relationship they had with each other.

 

[that_someone_special]

*hugs* Sounds like those kitties were very well loved and found the perfect owner(s)

 

[Cehrabehra]

I'm so sorry :*( It is so hard to lose a good friend.