I''m in love!

[squeaksluv]

Hi everyone! Just wanted to drop in and say hello. The past few months have been a total whirlwind for me. ''J'' and I moved in together, I know it may seem really quick but we sorta lived together when I was with my exFI and he was staying with us.

About two weeks ago (was it really only 2 weeks?) I went with him to California to meet his family and celebrate his mother''s birthday. Wow, what a family! The father is a bigwig entertainment lawyer who has worked with many many A list celebs (he declined from talking about them though). His mom used to be a model but now pretty much stays at home and takes care of things (I swear she looks like she could be in her 30s although I know she''s much older-I''m going to have to find out who her plastic surgeon is!!!

). J has a younger sister (she''s my age and very cool) and an older brother who is married. When we arrived at LAX his family had sent their car for us, much to the embarassment of J, I thought it was cool! When we pulled into his family''s place I think my jaw hit the floor of the car...mansion would be an understatement, it looked more like a hotel! The house is set up in the hills and has amazing views of LA. His family was surprisingly laid back and we had such a good time. I went shopping with his sister who, btw, is worse than I am when it comes to clothes and shoes. The car''s entire trunk was full to the brim with her shopping bags!! I had the best time and was sorry to leave. Since we got back J asked me to move in with him and so we''ve been settling in with that!

It''s crazy to think how different things are from last year. If you would of told me last year that I''d be together with J I would of said you''re crazy, now I look at him and can''t imagine how I was without him for so long.

So last night we got on the subject of marriage. We were out with some of his friends for an engagement party and having a great time. As we''re walking down the street trying to catch a taxi we start talking about marriage and all and somehow it turns into a playful teasing of sorts. At one point he grabs me and kisses me and said "so if I asked you to marry me right now would you?" I look at him and he has this playful teasing look on his face and I''m totally wondering how to play it. Was he serious? Kidding? I had no idea so I just laughed and said ''not without a ring I wouldn''t!''. He laughed and starting teasing me about how materialistic I was (which we both know I''m not really..not much anyway!)

. And then he said he''ll just have to see about ring then...at that point we were interruped by some of his friends from the party

so I''m totally confused now. So all night I couldn''t sleep replaying the entire exchange, this morning I went through it with all of my girlfriends who think he was serious but was trying to play it cool to see where my head was at. What do you guys think? I want him to know that I want him and yes, if he asked me to marry him I would in a heartbeat (yes I know it''s so sudden and so soon but somehow deep in my heart I just know this is it). So I''m not sure what to do now.

 

[robbie3982]

Awe, Squeaks, first just let me say congrats on being in love! I''m so happy that things are going so well with you and J. Right before FI and I got together I dated a bf for almost 4 years, we were planning on getting married (weren''t engaged yet though) and we were living together. I know exactly how you feel about things changing so quickly. Just a few months ago I was thinking about how at that time last year I was waiting for ex bf to propose and now I was waiting for FI (then bf).

I think that J was definitely testing the waters to see where your head is. Yay!

As far as letting him know that you really do want to, I would bring it up with something like "I know we were kind of joking around the other day about it, but I really do want to marry you." Maybe not those exact words, but just something to let him know that you weren''t just kidding.

 

[Mara]

it's really great you are so happy with J..and that you two seem to click so well. but DO NOT rush into anything like marriage or even a proposal! you both just got out of relationships where you thought you were happy and you were both just engaged. just take your time! if it's right now then it will be right in a year. there's no rush. just enjoy each other and what you have found. you are still in the 'beginning relationship stages' of bliss. to me quite honestly no real decisions should be made in that time. not even living together. as you know a relationship changes as it evolves. i would just take it easy.

just some 'voice of reason' food for thought.

 

[KimberlyH]

I am so happy for you, squeaks!

But I''m going to echo Mara on this one, just enjoy where you are for a while instead of forging ahead to marriage. The getting to know you (in a relationship as we know you know him already) is so important and so much fun. Revel in it for a while before getting engaged.

 

[snlee]

squeaksluv, let me first say how happy I am for you that you found love again!

I agree with Mara. Even though you are so happy and in love right now, there''s no need to rush into getting married. You both just came out of very serious relationships, so I wouldn''t rush into anything. Take things slow and enjoy your time together!!!

 

[sk8rjen]

Congrats, girl! You sound like you are floating

I''m sure he probably understand the fact that you were kind of playing along with his sudden hypothetical question (a more real answer might have been a bit scary for you both this soon anyway!) I''m sure if you two are eventually headed for the altar, he knows it (like you do) so don''t stress. But I also agree with the otheres-- just enjoy this new love! The rest will happen when it''s meant to, whenever that is (I know that can be tough once that subject is brought up, but many couples talk like that early just to feel the other out a bit)

Again, I am SOOOOO happy for you!!

jen

 

[appletini]

I''m so glad you gave us an update! Its good to know that he is thinking about the future, and while he might have said it jokingly, it does mean that he is serious and is thinking about it. But again, no need to rush, just have so much fun being in love! And your LA story made me think a little of the book Bergdorf Blondes (I''m reading it right now)....in a good way.

 

[firebirdgold]

YAY!

 

[Kaleigh]

Oh how fun!!! So happy for you!!! I agree with everyone else about not rushing anything. Just enjoy being in love and take your time. All will come together in the long run.

 

[aussiegirl23]

Squeaks!

You sound like you''re bouncing around the room you''re so happy!!! This new guy sounds like he''s turned your life upsidown... in a GOOD way! Enjoy the newness and excitement of it all... you deserve it

keep us updated... we love happy new beginnings!

Aussie

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Wow, compared to all the marriage-phobic guys we see on here, it is terrific to hear of a guy in love actually bringing up the topic!!! I think you gave him a pretty good answer, actually. And his reply about seeing about a ring is very encouraging!!! To me, length of time of dating can almost be irrelevant. (And of course, you did know him before you started actually dating.) I''m sure we can all think of couples who married quickly who stayed married a long time, and couples who dated for years who split up. I''m not recommending that you rush out and elope, but I like it that he is thinking about commitment rather than just asking you to move in with him.

 

[Mannequin]

Good to hear from you Squeaks! Congratulations, but as the other ladies said, just relax and enjoy.