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IrishEyes

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I know in the wake of the events today, it''s maybe selfish to be thinking about myself right now. However, I just have a situation and I''m really depressed about it, I can''t help it. I thought my PS family may understand, so I''m posting to relieve some stress!

So as some here on PS know, I recently attained my AJP from the GIA. I plan on starting the GG program soon. I have been back from the Middle East for 1 year, yet I have not worked since then (excluding a short stint as a cocktail waitress which I quit cause I was being sexually harrassed
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). I returned to school for my bachelor''s in Psychology after I got back from my deployment, but after two semesters, I realized my heart wasn''t in it anymore and that I wanted to go the jewelry career route. So I did the GIA thing, loved it and couldn''t wait to start looking for a job.
Well, that''s the problem. I can''t find a job. At least not where I live. I currently live right now in central Illinois, in a small town with not too many jewelry stores. Basically, there is only 1 really nice one, the others are "maul" stores that charge way too much for sub-par merchandise - you all know what I mean! I am from Chicago and miss living there BADLY!! Unfortunately, we can''t move back up there for two reasons: 1. my husband isn''t done with his degree until December (that is why we live in this hell hole) and 2. We simply can''t afford to move up there right now. Obviously, the taxes are much higher in the chicagoland area, and housing, even a condo, is out of our budget right now. Even if we get a VA loan, we can''t afford it as of yet. So I am stuck down here for now.
I had phenomenal help with my resume, thanks to a fellow PS''er!! It looks great and makes me look pretty accomplished. So 2 weeks ago, I went into the store that I wanted to work for, the nicer one, and brought my resume to the VP, a guy I had actually met several months before when I was in the store "browsing". I was really excited because he not only remembered me, but said he was impressed with my knowledge and that the store was actually looking for some new employees. So I was pretty psyched. He said that he needed to meet with the president of the store and discuss my resume with him, but not to worry, that the pres would be impressed with my GIA credentials and my extensive history of customer service. He said they would get together over dinner and then he would let me know if they could set up an interview for me. So a week went by, I didn''t hear anything. So I called the VP (this was right before the holiday weekend) and he said the him and the pres didn''t have dinner reservations until Tuesday nite. He told me to give him a call or an email if I hadn''t heard anything by this week. Well, it''s now going on Thursday nite, 2 days after their meeting, and I haven''t heard anything. So I shot him an email last night just asking how everything went and if we could set something up. Still haven''t heard from him. No response. I know in my heart that they don''t want me to interview.
I''m so upset, I really thought this might pan out. The doozy of it is, nobody else I''ve turned my resume into has called me either. I simply have never been able to get a job in this town, since the moment I moved down here a few years ago. I HATE IT HERE!! I NEVER had a problem getting a job in Chicago. EVER. My husband, while he is being supportive, is disappointed. We are starting to struggle for cash. He''s in his last semester of school, so he only has a part-time job that doesn''t pay much. My car is starting to have some problems, as it is almost 6 years old. His car is on the outs too. and forget about the diamond upgrade I wanted so badly, that won''t happen for years now. Not to mention the baby we want to adopt in a few years. If I don''t start working soon, we will never leave this damn town.
My only other options are to work down in a town about 45 minutes south of here ( If I can find a job there, that is), or commute 4 hours a day ( 2 hours there and 2 back) by train the Chicago and work there, where at least I know I could actually get a job! I will not settle and start working a mediocre "temporary job" like a receptionist or fast food or something, as I''m afraid it would just turn permanent when I never get the kind of job I am looking for....
I feel like a loser. I feel like a failure and inadequate, and very depressed. I''ve stopped hanging out with my family because I hate it when they ask me if I''m working yet, and why not? Telling them not to ask is even worse, as unfortunately, my family gossips alot and they just start pitying me and talking behind my back about how I''m not working yet, etc, etc. I can''t beleive that me, an intelligent, ambitious, attractive, educated person cannot find a simple job in the jewelry business. Like I said, I just feel very shaken and am losing confidence in myself, something that I usually don''t have a problem with.
Anyway, sorry for the ranting. I just feel so sad and depressed. It''s affecting my marriage because I don''t feel like an "equal" to my husband right now, as our joint checking account is all HIS money, as is everything else we have....
Sorry.....
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Oh Irish... I''m so sorry you''re feeling so sad.

Finding a job is difficult. It''s a shame that you are having as much trouble as you are. I would call the guy from the store tomorrow. Explain that you sent him an email, but are anxious and you didn''t know if it went through, or something like that.

One thing that you can try to do is look for places to live after your husband graduates. Would it be possible to move in December? Since you hate it there so much, and since it''s obviously affecting you state of mind, I think that should be an option...

The only other thing I can suggest is to enjoy the summer. It sucks not to have a job, but at least it''s during this time of year...
 
Bless you heart. I am sorry that you are having such a rough time trying to find a job. If you took one in Chicago would it be a long term career type job? One that you would keep after you moved? as for your family I would ignore them for the moment you dont need any negtive nancys making you feel worse. I would give it until next tuesday and then start looking elsewhere. Even if you only end up working whereever for a little bit you will feel better when you are not home all day focusing on the fact that you are jobless. Good Luck!
 
I can try to call tomorrow, but I have some military stuff I have to do all day
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The real kicker is that I applied for unemployment last month AND WAS DENIED!!!
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Apparently because I left my job because I wasn''t making any cash ($3.09 an hour plus tips, which I was only bringing home 12 dollars in tips a night because my boss was an alcoholic pervert who was too drunk to cut all the girls on the floor, thereby resulting in every girl only making a few measly dollars) and never "confronted management" on my problem, they said I should''ve just stuck with the job, that that was an insufficent reason for leaving, and they won''t give me any money. HELLO, I make only $160 a MONTH!!! That''s all I get from my drills with the military every month, and since I''m getting a medical discharge soon, even that will go away. So now I can''t even get money from the state...

We won''t be able to move in December. We just can''t afford it. We may be able to afford to live in the ghetto up in chicago, but that''s not something I want!! I''m not putting my safety at risk.
 
Matatora, yes, it would be a career type job, or at least a job for a few years until I move up the ladder to a better position. I don''t think I can wait until tuesday, I will probably call him tomorrow and see what the deal is, why they are rejecting me, so to speak. But I''ll remain nice, I won''t cuss him out! although I''d like to for leading me on
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Feydakin, that is certainly an option I''ve considered. I just worry that I might get stuck in that type of store forever, that a nicer store won''t want to hire me if I have crappy stores on my resume. But you are right, at this point, I need to pay my bills! I have hundreds of dollars in medical bills and thanks to the wonderful VA care for our servicemen (sarcasm), I can''t get any help in paying for them. I have a medical condition that requires me to have exploratory surgery every other year, but I have no health insurance anymore, even military. So I need a damn job. I''ll have to compromise my ethics I suppose....
 
Irish Eyes,
Oh hugs, I'm so sorry. I agree with Steve take a job with a chain store until you can secure a better position elsewhere. I worked for a department store in their jewelry dept, before I got the job at the high end jewelry store. I know it's not the best, but better to have a hand in the business than not. I also used to be a corporate recruiter, so this is good advice. Hang in there!!!!
 
Irish Eyes...
I am sorry to hear about your sadness. It is ok to be to be upset. I know that you must be so frustrated and it is must really get your knickers that this is not a good situation for you.

But take a deep breath and know that it will all be well. I agree that you should take a position in one of the Maul stores. Just hink of it as a ladder. I know that with any business you have to work the sh*t jobs before you get the ''gem''
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it will be wonderful and hugs to you....
 
Hey Irish ---

You said you''re in central IL and it would take a 2 hour train ride each way to commute to Chicago. What about a jewelry store in one of the suburbs? Can you get to the western suburbs? There are a lot of stores in Naperville; if you go further east there are some really nice ones in Oak Brook (where the money is
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If you can get to Fox Valley Mall in Aurora there are a couple of B&M stores in the mall itself and there is one on the outskirts.
 
It''s still a 2 hour commute into the suburbs. The train here only runs into Central Station downtown Chicago, then you get on a train out to the suburbs, so in some aspects, working in the suburbs is even longer a commute.

I appreciate all your comments and well-wishes, it really does help! Unfortunately, until I have work, I don''t see myself feeling a great deal better
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Thank you again so much for your kind words!!
 
Thank you Steve, that really does make me feel better! I guess I get caught up on my impression whenever I go into those places - generally they seem to have salespeople who don''t know too much and diamonds that are 3x as much money as they are actually worth. BUT, as everyone has said, I need a stepping stone and I have to pay my bills, so I will have to consider it!

The upside to all my problems is that since we are in a bind with cash lately, there''s not alot of eating out = I weigh less!!!
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LOL, just kidding!!
 
Irish Eyes- I''m so sorry to hear about your situation!! I lived in Macomb, Jacksonville, and other small-towns in IL previously, so I feel your pain! I agree with previous thoughts about the mall situation- but I know it must be difficult. Do you exercise? It may not offer the joy your career will, but it can help give you some confidence. I wish you much luck!!
 
Well........ perhaps I spoke too soon. You will never beleive this but I just checked my email and the president of the store emailed me and wants to set up an interview!!

Yea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I know that I can have a great interview! I am so glad I am getting the oppurtunity to even HAVE one! So many times I don''t even get a call back, let alone an interview!!

Thank you all for your kind words, and listening to my depresssed self rant and rave! I can only hope this goes well and it works out for me! Hopefully in a few weeks I will FINALLY be employed, and with a store that I feel is really great!
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Yay for you that's great news. Good luck on your interview!!!! Keep us posted on when it's going to happen and we will send good luck vibes your way!!!!!!
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Hahaha! Congrats, Irish! You sound a lot like me--you absolutely psyche yourself out of stuff like this when everything is going to work out just fine...

When is the interview! I''m pulling for you...
 
From one fellow Illinoisian to another -- I''m sending out good vibes!
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Good luck!
 
Hehehe.... thanks guys!! You''re all so awesome!!! Thanks for the well wishes and I''ll let you know what happens, the interview isn''t for about 2 weeks as they are really busy.

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Date: 7/7/2005 6:31:40 PM
Author: IrishEyes
Well........ perhaps I spoke too soon. You will never beleive this but I just checked my email and the president of the store emailed me and wants to set up an interview!!

Oh, Good Lord! That is amazing! I was just reading along, ready to be sympathetic, then I read this! Congratulations!!!!

Deb :-)
 
I second the suggestion to take a job in a mall store. You will learn some things. Some things you will often use later and some you will keep as ammunition only when you need it to close a tough sale. Get into the salesmanship side. Learn how to "close". Use your military background to your advantage.

Soon enough, you will find December has arrived. It is so easy for me to say and so much more difficult for you to deal with every day, but December will come. Don't loose hope.
 
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Looking for a job can be hard and can take TONS of patience...

During the bust here in the Silicon Valley, sometimes interview processes would take 2-3 months! I interviewed with a few companies and really had to be persistent and STALK THEM to get them to respond to me. BUT that kept me in front of them and let them know I was serious about the job. I consulted for over a year and a half while looking for a permanent job...and while lots of other people could not get work, I worked very steadily and was able to stay afloat during the bad times here.

So my advice is don't get discouraged, don't put too many eggs in one basket, stay persistent and positive, there is always a good job out there. You just have to find it.

If this interview/job does not pan out....then keep looking and stay positive. Think about what you said about having to go into a bigger city...it's not unheard of for people to commute 1-2 hrs here in the BayArea to live in an affordable area and work here in the Valley. It may be a great opportunity to think outside of the box and do something different for a while, keep looking locally but do something in the meantime..consulting or temping or something to keep you busy maybe.

Good luck on the interview..you will find something!
 
Irish


Have you contacted GIA''s job placement person?

I think they have a job fair coming up.

Also

Go to the AGS site. See what AGS members are in your area or reasonably close and call them.

They used to have a jobs posting area, but I forget the link to it. If you don''t see it on their site, give em a call.


Hope this helps


Rockdoc
 
IrishEyes,

I just rode the roller-coaster with Deb. I was concerned, then suddenly very excited for you.

Please keep us informed as to how this goes. We would be pulling for you anyway, but since this is jewelry-related you have hyper-support working for you here
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If things don''t pan out in your interview I think Steve''s suggestion is a good one.
 
Irish Eyes:

Keep your chin up. Job hunting is an interesting dance. It took me years of cyclying through several jobs I didn''t really want - but did a good job at anyway - to find a job that was at least on par with my basic expectations (not that it does not have plusses and minusses).

I know you will do well with your job interview.

Let me know if I can help.

Perry
 
Hi Irish,

I was so sad for you and then so happy. I have to say that I REALLY, really know how you feel, because I went through a similar situation last year. My whole life I dreamed of going to med school, but I never had the courage to apply. I did a bachelor''s degree and then a master''s degree in biology. After my master''s degree (2004) I applied to med school and was soundly rejected, 100 people away from being the LAST person on the waitlist. That year everything fell through, even my backup plan which was Pharmacy.

From August 2004 to April 2005, I basically did nothing. I couldn''t find a job, not even as a clothing sales person! NOT EVEN AN INTERVIEW! The only job I was interviewed for was a position in forensic science... unfortunately because of my master''s degree was in biology, but my theisis was in insects, so they offered to have me work in the insect decomposition of corpses. I was like.... NOOOOOOOOO...I was so depressed. Especially since my other two siblings were both simultaneously accepted into med school. I felt exactly like you, like a failure, all the money was my boyfriend''s money, and I was just managing it. I couldn''t imagine my life being any different then cooking for my boyfriend and considering career options that made me want to vomit.

Fast forward into this year, I get accepted into two med schools, and I feel that in so many ways, I am very lucky. So what I am trying to say is stay on the course of your dreams. Sometimes, things have to get very, very bad before they get better. I think of life as a wheel of fortune, you go to the very bottom before you go to the top again. What is your reality now, will not be your reality in a year or two. You have to keep your focus on what you want in life and go after it! Think of all these obstacles as tests you have to pass before you reach your goal. I am rooting for you
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