In-laws leaving reception early

[zoebartlett]

I just posted about a wedding my FI and I went to this weekend. It was my FI''s nephew''s wedding. We had a great time and it was the first time I had hung out with my FI''s family at such an occasion. Usually when we all get together it''s for other reasons, so it was fun to be at a wedding with everyone. At some point early in the evening, I asked where my FI''s parents were. He said that they had left a while ago. I''m not sure why, but I got really annoyed at this. I''m sure my FI wasn''t pleased that I expressed my unhappiness that his parents left their grandson''s reception so early. He didn''t get why I was so irked. His parents aren''t into big crowds and they rarely go out at all. I''m sure they didn''t know the music and/or didn''t feel comfortable dancing. Okay, receptions aren''t everyone''s thing. Fine. That''s understandable. But to leave your grandson''s wedding reception so early that you don''t visit friends and family? I don''t get it at all.

Actually, I do know why it bothered me so much. I was thinking about our wedding next year. If they leave super early at their own son''s wedding (my FI), would I be justified in being annoyed? I really hope this doesn''t make me sound like a bridezilla. If it does, awww, I was doing so well!

 

[monarch64]

I don''t think you should worry over them leaving your reception early, parents usually want to stay around for dinner and cake and to visit with everyone. maybe one of them wasn''t feeling well today? Would you feel comfortable calling them and just saying, "we were looking for you at the reception and noticed you left early, is everything ok?"

 

[dmamsquared]

It is what it is and you can''t change it. Don''t look for trouble. At least they showed up. I only say this because we just attended the best wedding ever, I was having myself a grand ole time. My hubby suggested that we blow the joint. I took the time to say goodbye to everyone. Then we split. Don''t sit in judgement and by all means, don''t project. If they decide to do the same for your wedding, you won''t take it personal, right?

 

[zoebartlett]

Yeah, I know it''s a silly thing to be worried about, and yes, it was good that they came. I don''t know, I guess I feel sometimes that they miss out on things and they act way older than they are. I don''t mean to sound like I''m judging them, but yeah, I guess it does sound that way. I really like them a lot and I am very happy to be joining their family. I guess I just see the differences between my parents and my FI''s parents -- how they do things, etc. My parents are very outgoing and social and his are much more content to hang out at home by themselves. It''s like night and day. Maybe I''m just getting used to their differences. If something were wrong and one of my FI''s parents was sick or something like that, of course I wouldn''t be upset...I''d be concerned.