But at least now you have a fabulous bag to wear with your gorgeous ring!I upgraded from a 2.1 round to a 3 in my mid 30s, so no it's not too big. Speaking from personal experience, a halo (in my case a different cushion stone), a birkin/kelly, is not going to wane your desire for a 3ct. Been there, done both, still got the upgrade.
that would probably be when I am 45 or 50 I upgraded from a 2.1 round to a 3 in my mid 30s, so no it's not too big. Speaking from personal experience, a halo (in my case a different cushion stone), a birkin/kelly, is not going to wane your desire for a 3ct. Been there, done both, still got the upgrade.
Thank you for sharing.@skydiamond88 thanks for reading my post and giving it some thought. If I can help one other person with my tale, well it's well worth it.
I don't want to hijack your original topic. With that said, I am not a "regular" amongst the PS community here, so I ask anyone to take my opinion "with a grain of salt." Guess what I'm trying to say is I am by no means an "expert" in the diamond and jewelry division-smile-I just know me and the life experiences around me.
And at the risk of boring those who already know the story a bit, I'll give you the version, since you asked (which I thank you for). If nothing else, it makes for a good read, I suppose
So, my current marriage is my second one (husband's too) and we didn't do the whole "engagement ring" thing...doing that felt silly to us at the time plus we were oldish when we met/engaged-smile. For whatever reasons, in early 2017, I decided I wanted a diamond solitaire for my cancer battle and (what was) my upcoming 60th birthday. I fell in love with CvB designs and somehow found a pre-loved Casablanca Setting on Diamond Bistro. Rather impulsively, I snatched up the pre-loved Casablanca and pursued finding an OEC diamond for its center.
Now, I've never had nice jewelry in my life, nor did my mom or any of the women in my life have beautiful (or any) jewelry. My folks were poor Italian immigrants and that's how I was raised. I do not have much family, nor do I have a large circle of friends. So, I had ZERO idea about how large the Casablanca Setting was and how large a diamond center for it...2.43 OEC...how large and COSTLY that diamond would be!! Most important, I gave zero thought to how SELF-CONSICOUS and UNCOMFORTABLE I'd be wearing so much diamond! How would I know beforehand, right?
I am from humble means and my husband and I are not wealthy. I lived in New York City (Manhattan) for 15 years, which is a different world...lots and lots and lots of wealth. But NYC was my world until we moved to Michigan. I never gave size sensitivity any thought. Never really gave thought to the "wealthier" or affluent folks in NYC and what they donned for jewelry. That wasn't my world but it was "there." The expensive, flashy jewelry looked okay...it's jewelry, right? What's the big deal??? Why would I care about the SIZE of a diamond, right? So, this was embedded in my mind, really...assimilated, I guess.
But I now live in southern Michigan in a small farming community near Ann Arbor. I circle with extremely humble people. I am not affluent, nor is my community or the people in it. But it is an Ann Arbor suburb, so...
I just didn't think things through...never entered my radar.
Immediately, I found myself "hiding" and spinning my ring anytime I wore it. I realized I was very uncomfortable wearing it...anywhere. I felt uncomfortable with the glances & stares I got from others. I felt terribly self-conscious and detested wearing the ring. Plus on my hand, the 2.43 OEC in the Casablanca looked ridiculous...it really did.
So, there goes the Casablanca. Now enter thoughts for a "custom" setting for this gigantic 2.43 OEC which was an absolute disaster and a huge mistake. I thought perhaps OUT of a halo, the 2.43 OEC would be okay, at least that's what I hoped and that's what I was told (although I had STRONG doubts). Wrong!
So, now the 2.43 OEC goes back into the Casablanca and out for sale (which no one wanted). Then I am told, "You know what the problem is...YOU are a MRB person." I'm like, "Okay, I am a MRB person." So, in comes a horrible MRB 'cause I know zero about diamonds, right?
New MRB...disaster. So, the MRB goes as a trade-in to a brick 'n mortar store in Ann Arbor for a beautiful 1.91 OEC for my "custom" setting due to my "size sensitivity" and "what the setting calls for." AS I WRITE THIS STUFF NOW, IT SOUNDS RIDICULOUS!
So, the new 1.91 OEC while precious also did not work in the CvB setting. Part of the problem was the setting, part of it was the ill fit of the 1.91 OEC in the custom CvB setting...too small.
So, out with the custom CvB setting (on consignment with Erica @LAD), out with the first 2.43 OEC (on consignment with Erica @LAD), gone is the Casablanca (sold). Gone is the 2.10 MRB. And now I have a 1.91 OEC and no setting, an annoyed husband and we're $29,000 poorer.
I take full responsibility for all of this and I feel awful. I was clueless about how uncomfortable I'd be at this time in my life sporting so much bling. People scoff at me when I tell them this but it's true. No "Diamond Shrinkage Syndrome" here. I guess a big beautiful diamond solitaire ring is just not that important to me any more. It's just not who I am, or where I am at this point in my life.
I guess IRL, I am very private and quite self-conscious. I don't want jewelry, or other outward displays to represent or define me. I hope you understand. It's just not for me.
I love diamonds and diamond stuff, love looking at it and I admire & adore beautiful diamond jewelry on others...just don't need to own it and certainly don't want to wear (a lot of) it right now. Life changes.
Sigh...brevity is also not one of my strong suits...apologies.
Thank you for sharing your life story !! It’s very touching and gives live prospective . I am sure you will sell that last stone and invest money in something what makes you happy !nice vacation -help others -purchase some great memories@skydiamond88 thanks for reading my post and giving it some thought. If I can help one other person with my tale, well it's well worth it.
I don't want to hijack your original topic. With that said, I am not a "regular" amongst the PS community here, so I ask anyone to take my opinion "with a grain of salt." Guess what I'm trying to say is I am by no means an "expert" in the diamond and jewelry division-smile-I just know me and the life experiences around me.
And at the risk of boring those who already know the story a bit, I'll give you the version, since you asked (which I thank you for). If nothing else, it makes for a good read, I suppose
So, my current marriage is my second one (husband's too) and we didn't do the whole "engagement ring" thing...doing that felt silly to us at the time plus we were oldish when we met/engaged-smile. For whatever reasons, in early 2017, I decided I wanted a diamond solitaire for my cancer battle and (what was) my upcoming 60th birthday. I fell in love with CvB designs and somehow found a pre-loved Casablanca Setting on Diamond Bistro. Rather impulsively, I snatched up the pre-loved Casablanca and pursued finding an OEC diamond for its center.
Now, I've never had nice jewelry in my life, nor did my mom or any of the women in my life have beautiful (or any) jewelry. My folks were poor Italian immigrants and that's how I was raised. I do not have much family, nor do I have a large circle of friends. So, I had ZERO idea about how large the Casablanca Setting was and how large a diamond center for it...2.43 OEC...how large and COSTLY that diamond would be!! Most important, I gave zero thought to how SELF-CONSICOUS and UNCOMFORTABLE I'd be wearing so much diamond! How would I know beforehand, right?
I am from humble means and my husband and I are not wealthy. I lived in New York City (Manhattan) for 15 years, which is a different world...lots and lots and lots of wealth. But NYC was my world until we moved to Michigan. I never gave size sensitivity any thought. Never really gave thought to the "wealthier" or affluent folks in NYC and what they donned for jewelry. That wasn't my world but it was "there." The expensive, flashy jewelry looked okay...it's jewelry, right? What's the big deal??? Why would I care about the SIZE of a diamond, right? So, this was embedded in my mind, really...assimilated, I guess.
But I now live in southern Michigan in a small farming community near Ann Arbor. I circle with extremely humble people. I am not affluent, nor is my community or the people in it. But it is an Ann Arbor suburb, so...
I just didn't think things through...never entered my radar.
Immediately, I found myself "hiding" and spinning my ring anytime I wore it. I realized I was very uncomfortable wearing it...anywhere. I felt uncomfortable with the glances & stares I got from others. I felt terribly self-conscious and detested wearing the ring. Plus on my hand, the 2.43 OEC in the Casablanca looked ridiculous...it really did.
So, there goes the Casablanca. Now enter thoughts for a "custom" setting for this gigantic 2.43 OEC which was an absolute disaster and a huge mistake. I thought perhaps OUT of a halo, the 2.43 OEC would be okay, at least that's what I hoped and that's what I was told (although I had STRONG doubts). Wrong!
So, now the 2.43 OEC goes back into the Casablanca and out for sale (which no one wanted). Then I am told, "You know what the problem is...YOU are a MRB person." I'm like, "Okay, I am a MRB person." So, in comes a horrible MRB 'cause I know zero about diamonds, right?
New MRB...disaster. So, the MRB goes as a trade-in to a brick 'n mortar store in Ann Arbor for a beautiful 1.91 OEC for my "custom" setting due to my "size sensitivity" and "what the setting calls for." AS I WRITE THIS STUFF NOW, IT SOUNDS RIDICULOUS!
So, the new 1.91 OEC while precious also did not work in the CvB setting. Part of the problem was the setting, part of it was the ill fit of the 1.91 OEC in the custom CvB setting...too small.
So, out with the custom CvB setting (on consignment with Erica @LAD), out with the first 2.43 OEC (on consignment with Erica @LAD), gone is the Casablanca (sold). Gone is the 2.10 MRB. And now I have a 1.91 OEC and no setting, an annoyed husband and we're $29,000 poorer.
I take full responsibility for all of this and I feel awful. I was clueless about how uncomfortable I'd be at this time in my life sporting so much bling. People scoff at me when I tell them this but it's true. No "Diamond Shrinkage Syndrome" here. I guess a big beautiful diamond solitaire ring is just not that important to me any more. It's just not who I am, or where I am at this point in my life.
I guess IRL, I am very private and quite self-conscious. I don't want jewelry, or other outward displays to represent or define me. I hope you understand. It's just not for me.
I love diamonds and diamond stuff, love looking at it and I admire & adore beautiful diamond jewelry on others...just don't need to own it and certainly don't want to wear (a lot of) it right now. Life changes.
Sigh...brevity is also not one of my strong suits...apologies.
But you have watches worth 4+ct.I'm almost 60 and I still don't have a 3ct on my finger or any diamond for that matter.
@SimoneDi I think my next upgrade has to be a 3ct or else I will waste more money on a setting of a 2.5ct knowing I will change it to a 3ct as soon as I could. Esp since I've tried that 3.1ct Tiffany ring (which looked substantially larger than a 2.5ct ring I tried there as well). I definitely want a 3ct next
Here is a picture of my current ring.
I think I got my 3ct in my late thirties. Loved it and wish I'd kept it (sold to a friend, but now regret). I also have Birkins and Kellys. A lot of ladies where I live have these handbags but sport smaller diamonds. I used to know this girl in her early 30's who had like 30 Hermes bags but wore a 1ct+ diamond. I don't know why - it's all down to personal preferences. But I would personally spend the money on bling, if I had to choose btw that and a handbag. Handbags, you can always buy later.
I suspect if you went to a handbag forum, they'd prob tell you to do the opposite.
I am of no help!
PS. my finger size is 4.
@skydiamond88 thanks for reading my post and giving it some thought. If I can help one other person with my tale, well it's well worth it.
I don't want to hijack your original topic. With that said, I am not a "regular" amongst the PS community here, so I ask anyone to take my opinion "with a grain of salt." Guess what I'm trying to say is I am by no means an "expert" in the diamond and jewelry division-smile-I just know me and the life experiences around me.
And at the risk of boring those who already know the story a bit, I'll give you the version, since you asked (which I thank you for). If nothing else, it makes for a good read, I suppose
So, my current marriage is my second one (husband's too) and we didn't do the whole "engagement ring" thing...doing that felt silly to us at the time plus we were oldish when we met/engaged-smile. For whatever reasons, in early 2017, I decided I wanted a diamond solitaire for my cancer battle and (what was) my upcoming 60th birthday. I fell in love with CvB designs and somehow found a pre-loved Casablanca Setting on Diamond Bistro. Rather impulsively, I snatched up the pre-loved Casablanca and pursued finding an OEC diamond for its center.
Now, I've never had nice jewelry in my life, nor did my mom or any of the women in my life have beautiful (or any) jewelry. My folks were poor Italian immigrants and that's how I was raised. I do not have much family, nor do I have a large circle of friends. So, I had ZERO idea about how large the Casablanca Setting was and how large a diamond center for it...2.43 OEC...how large and COSTLY that diamond would be!! Most important, I gave zero thought to how SELF-CONSICOUS and UNCOMFORTABLE I'd be wearing so much diamond! How would I know beforehand, right?
I am from humble means and my husband and I are not wealthy. I lived in New York City (Manhattan) for 15 years, which is a different world...lots and lots and lots of wealth. But NYC was my world until we moved to Michigan. I never gave size sensitivity any thought. Never really gave thought to the "wealthier" or affluent folks in NYC and what they donned for jewelry. That wasn't my world but it was "there." The expensive, flashy jewelry looked okay...it's jewelry, right? What's the big deal??? Why would I care about the SIZE of a diamond, right? So, this was embedded in my mind, really...assimilated, I guess.
But I now live in southern Michigan in a small farming community near Ann Arbor. I circle with extremely humble people. I am not affluent, nor is my community or the people in it. But it is an Ann Arbor suburb, so...
I just didn't think things through...never entered my radar.
Immediately, I found myself "hiding" and spinning my ring anytime I wore it. I realized I was very uncomfortable wearing it...anywhere. I felt uncomfortable with the glances & stares I got from others. I felt terribly self-conscious and detested wearing the ring. Plus on my hand, the 2.43 OEC in the Casablanca looked ridiculous...it really did.
So, there goes the Casablanca. Now enter thoughts for a "custom" setting for this gigantic 2.43 OEC which was an absolute disaster and a huge mistake. I thought perhaps OUT of a halo, the 2.43 OEC would be okay, at least that's what I hoped and that's what I was told (although I had STRONG doubts). Wrong!
So, now the 2.43 OEC goes back into the Casablanca and out for sale (which no one wanted). Then I am told, "You know what the problem is...YOU are a MRB person." I'm like, "Okay, I am a MRB person." So, in comes a horrible MRB 'cause I know zero about diamonds, right?
New MRB...disaster. So, the MRB goes as a trade-in to a brick 'n mortar store in Ann Arbor for a beautiful 1.91 OEC for my "custom" setting due to my "size sensitivity" and "what the setting calls for." AS I WRITE THIS STUFF NOW, IT SOUNDS RIDICULOUS!
So, the new 1.91 OEC while precious also did not work in the CvB setting. Part of the problem was the setting, part of it was the ill fit of the 1.91 OEC in the custom CvB setting...too small.
So, out with the custom CvB setting (on consignment with Erica @LAD), out with the first 2.43 OEC (on consignment with Erica @LAD), gone is the Casablanca (sold). Gone is the 2.10 MRB. And now I have a 1.91 OEC and no setting, an annoyed husband and we're $29,000 poorer.
I take full responsibility for all of this and I feel awful. I was clueless about how uncomfortable I'd be at this time in my life sporting so much bling. People scoff at me when I tell them this but it's true. No "Diamond Shrinkage Syndrome" here. I guess a big beautiful diamond solitaire ring is just not that important to me any more. It's just not who I am, or where I am at this point in my life.
I guess IRL, I am very private and quite self-conscious. I don't want jewelry, or other outward displays to represent or define me. I hope you understand. It's just not for me.
I love diamonds and diamond stuff, love looking at it and I admire & adore beautiful diamond jewelry on others...just don't need to own it and certainly don't want to wear (a lot of) it right now. Life changes.
Sigh...brevity is also not one of my strong suits...apologies.
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