Is having more keeping me from enjoying what I have?

[donnabrsd]

I wonder when enough is enough. Will I be collecting forever? So many PSers have claimed to have enough and be done and yet there is always something new to explore and covet. That is part of the fun! And it is a wonderful educational journey. But I’m starting to worry that the constant desire for more is making me less likely to enjoy what I already have.

I also resisted buying something recently, and was feeling like I was being smart to not just hoard another piece of jewelry… but now I’m sad I missed out on it. One of a kind pieces or sales cannot be found again!

This is such a bunch of random thoughts. Feel free to add your own!

I think the enjoyment factor is different for everyone. For me, I never thought that I had too much jewelry to enjoy what I had. I wore almost everything and rotated items depending on my mood and outfit for the day. I probably had about 150 times at one point (15-17 years ago in my 30-40s), reduced to about 75-80 in my early 40s and now I have 12 items of jewelry.

I purchased what I wanted as long as I had the money if something looked beautiful and/or fun to wear. Most items were from a local jewelry mart, so nothing super high-end. I never intended to sell my jewelry, I thought my kids would just get it all. I think my first purge was when a friend did one of those in-home gold selling events where you bring in all your jewelry you no longer wear and they purchase your gold. Last year, I gave my kids the opportunity to take what they wanted but they wanted nothing, so I sold it all

I don't think I will ever be done purchasing but I've become very selective making sure it is something I will wear for years to come.

 

[donnabrsd]

I was always happy with the engagement ring that I had when I first joined PS. I joined because I was in the market for studs..Then got hooked..I saw my beautiful diamond that I loved so much shrink before my eyes. Next..my setting was too high…I needed a new setting. I changed the setting twice since joining..but used the same beautiful diamond that continued to shrink. I got wrapped up in the whirl of all the beautiful jewelry that was on here. I ventured into moissanite too..I’m finding I don’t wear it..That was one of my expensive learning experiences because I paid a lot of money for numerous moissanite beautiful things...that I don’t wear. Next was a fascination with bands. I have so many now. I have favorites that I wear but the others sit. That was another expensive lesson. I’ve come to a point where I just want to reset my 3.01 ACA in a tapered baguette setting..It was what I started with..The diamond is bigger than my original from when I joined here...but I will feel like I’ve come full circle. I truly don’t want any more jewelry. I have enough beautiful jewelry to keep me happy. My frantic searching for acquiring beautiful things has diminished. I’m perfectly content with what I have. I am done..I do think in the beginning having more did make me not truly appreciate the things I did have .

I agree that this forum can make many want for something bigger, better or different. How could it not with so many beautiful things. I was changing settings, upgrading diamonds and buying a variety of jewelry long before I found PS so I don't feel I got pulled into anything different than what I was already doing. I think my age has put me in a different mind-set as to what I want and need. I also feel like I am coming full circle with my wedding ring. Not that I am going back to my original setting, but back to a simpler setting; solitaire with tapered diamond sides. Your solitaire with tapered baguettes is lovely!

 

[MamaBee]

I agree that this forum can make many want for something bigger, better or different. How could it not with so many beautiful things. I was changing settings, upgrading diamonds and buying a variety of jewelry long before I found PS so I don't feel I got pulled into anything different than what I was already doing. I think my age has put me in a different mind-set as to what I want and need. I also feel like I am coming full circle with my wedding ring. Not that I am going back to my original setting, but back to a simpler setting; solitaire with tapered diamond sides. Your solitaire with tapered baguettes is lovely!

Thank you! The tapered baguette setting was my dream setting from when I was twenty years old. That was a long time ago!! I’m in exactly the same place! I also feel I’m at full circle after getting my last reset.
The only thing I was missing to round out my collection was a ring in yellow gold. That’s being done with David now using my diamond cushion I had set in my bangle bracelet. I’m content to see everyone get their dream rings now..

 

[nala]

I have to laugh every time a PSer writes
“This is my last splurge or reset, etc. and then I’m done,” and the following month they are posting a new project or reset. I’ve learned never to even say I’m done bc tho I have sooo much—jewelry is like art to me. If I see a new piece that speaks to me, I must own it! I don’t know why I must own it but I suspect it’s because I want to be able to prolong the enjoyment of this piece and gaze at it for hours when I reach for it or wear it. I want access to this wearable art that doesn’t clutter up my home. Let’s face it—a salt shaker takes up more space than 49 rings? I do periodically purge and sell and that money goes to my new jewelry purchases. I always reason, if an action as simple as buying jewelry can bring me pleasure, then why not? That means everyone I love and all the big things in life are going swell. I dread the day that I’m too preoccupied with real issues to enjoy jewelry. And yet, having lived thru loved one’s death and seeing others struggle with cancer, I feel so blessed to be able to appreciate, acquire and accessorize my life with art work.

 

[MamaBee]

I have to laugh every time a PSer writes
“This is my last splurge or reset, etc. and then I’m done,” and the following month they are posting a new project or reset. I’ve learned never to even say I’m done bc tho I have sooo much—jewelry is like art to me. If I see a new piece that speaks to me, I must own it! I don’t know why I must own it but I suspect it’s because I want to be able to prolong the enjoyment of this piece and gaze at it for hours when I reach for it or wear it. I want access to this wearable art that doesn’t clutter up my home. Let’s face it—a salt shaker takes up more space than 49 rings? I do periodically purge and sell and that money goes to my new jewelry purchases. I always reason, if an action as simple as buying jewelry can bring me pleasure, then why not? That means everyone I love and all the big things in life are going swell. I dread the day that I’m too preoccupied with real issues to enjoy jewelry. And yet, having lived thru loved one’s death and seeing others struggle with cancer, I feel so blessed to be able to appreciate, acquire and accessorize my life with art work.

@nala I should correct myself to say my last big splurge. Haha There will be no more resets for Emmy or Winter. I will most likely buy something “off the rack”..but no more big resets. I also have some stones that I can set but they won’t be big purchases. I told my husband I don’t need any more large purchases. He laughed in my face!

 

[nala]

@nala I should correct myself to say my last big splurge. Haha There will be no more resets for Emmy or Winter. I will most likely buy something “off the rack”..but no more big resets. I also have some stones that I can set but they won’t be big purchases. I told my husband I don’t need any more large purchases. He laughed in my face!

I wasn’t referring to you in particular—but I know that I’m the reset queen according to many in this forum— tho I can think of many who come close and yet are constantly posting about how it’s their last, lol. But it’s all in good fun. I’ve learned to laugh at myself and hope no one takes it the wrong way.

 

[Cerulean]

I wasn’t referring to you in particular—but I know that I’m the reset queen according to many in this forum— tho I can think of many who come close and yet are constantly posting about how it’s their last, lol. But it’s all in good fun. I’ve learned to laugh at myself and hope no one takes it the wrong way.

I totally agree lol. I’ve learned to say “never say never”

 

[Sparkledrops]

YES!
LOL, you nailed it!
I'm a lover of beauty in everything, but especially diamond light shows.

I am 100% satisfied (actually thrilled) with my color-volcano.
I glance (or stare) at it several times a day.
I look forward to entering locations with ideal light conditions for my daily 4th of July fireworks show.

Some guys are concerned they'll get caught staring at womens' boobs.
I worry about getting caught staring at the flashing police car lights on my finger.

IMO Octavia is the ultimate diamond cut.
And no, Karl and Yoram don't pay me - though maybe they should.

@kenny , May I see your Octavia?

 

[MamaBee]

I wasn’t referring to you in particular—but I know that I’m the reset queen according to many in this forum— tho I can think of many who come close and yet are constantly posting about how it’s their last, lol. But it’s all in good fun. I’ve learned to laugh at myself and hope no one takes it the wrong way.

@nala didn’t think you were referring to me. I also know a few people that say they’re fine but they’re not. Haha
I love how you reset your diamond. It actually gave me the confidence to get mine done. I heard too many stories about how a diamond got chipped during a reset. I thought that if you can do it as much as you do..Winter would be fine! haha

 

[MissGotRocks]

I always laugh when people say they’re done or finishing up or whatever. As long as you are here, you are potentially a few clicks from a new pretty! Even though I am fairly settled with jewelry, I never say never!

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I always tell myself I am not buying anything more. LOL. I am always happy to be wrong!

cheers--Sharon

 

[LilAlex]

I always tell myself I am not buying anything more. LOL. I am always happy to be wrong!

It's like pushing yourself away from the table after a too-big celebratory meal with "I will never eat another thing!" -- not the most objective time to gauge your future behavior!

 

[yssie]

It's like pushing yourself away from the table after a too-big celebratory meal with "I will never eat another thing!" -- not the most objective time to gauge your future behavior!

But indisputably the best time to go grocery shopping!

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I think the enjoyment factor is different for everyone. For me, I never thought that I had too much jewelry to enjoy what I had. I wore almost everything and rotated items depending on my mood and outfit for the day. I probably had about 150 times at one point (15-17 years ago in my 30-40s), reduced to about 75-80 in my early 40s and now I have 12 items of jewelry.

I purchased what I wanted as long as I had the money if something looked beautiful and/or fun to wear. Most items were from a local jewelry mart, so nothing super high-end. I never intended to sell my jewelry, I thought my kids would just get it all. I think my first purge was when a friend did one of those in-home gold selling events where you bring in all your jewelry you no longer wear and they purchase your gold. Last year, I gave my kids the opportunity to take what they wanted but they wanted nothing, so I sold it all

I don't think I will ever be done purchasing but I've become very selective making sure it is something I will wear for years to come.

i think the fact you wore everything means you got value for money in enjoyment
im sad the kids don't want becauae sooner or latter what comea around goes around and it'll be back in fashion

did you buy something nice with the $$$ ?
i sold some real ugly pieces for scrap and paid the rates (property taxes) and had a bit left over to make it worth while
i did also feel a sence of releaf to be ride of it
now i only have things i either love or things that have a clear path to be remade into wearable lovable items

 

[donnabrsd]

i think the fact you wore everything means you got value for money in enjoyment
im sad the kids don't want becauae sooner or latter what comea around goes around and it'll be back in fashion

did you buy something nice with the $$$ ?
i sold some real ugly pieces for scrap and paid the rates (property taxes) and had a bit left over to make it worth while
i did also feel a sence of releaf to be ride of it
now i only have things i either love or things that have a clear path to be remade into wearable lovable items

Yes, I completely feel that I got my money's worth and the funds that I recouped were a bonus.
I purchased a sapphire ring near the same time so the funds basically replenished my bank account.
I thought about having items repurposed, but with the cost of custom it did not make sense to go that route. I felt like finding them new homes would give someone else the opportunity to enjoy them.

 

[MamaBee]

@nala Did I mention I’m getting a yellow gold ring made for my diamond cushion? The diamond was in my solitaire bangle bracelet..I missed seeing it on my hand. I didn’t have an alternative yellow gold engagement ring for my left hand. I’m using a lab diamond to set into the bangle. That bangle was pricey so I wanted to use it. This doesn’t count right? I’m finished after this..

 

[Cerulean]

@nala Did I mention I’m getting a yellow gold ring made for my diamond cushion? The diamond was in my solitaire bangle bracelet..I missed seeing it on my hand. I didn’t have an alternative yellow gold engagement ring for my left hand. I’m using a lab diamond to set into the bangle. That bangle was pricey so I wanted to use it. This doesn’t count right? I’m finished after this..

hardly counts as a reset! as far as i'm concerned, you're already finished!

 

[canuk-gal]

@nala Did I mention I’m getting a yellow gold ring made for my diamond cushion? The diamond was in my solitaire bangle bracelet..I missed seeing it on my hand. I didn’t have an alternative yellow gold engagement ring for my left hand. I’m using a lab diamond to set into the bangle. That bangle was pricey so I wanted to use it. This doesn’t count right? I’m finished after this..

PS'ers have the BEST narratives!!!!!

 

[MamaBee]

L

PS'ers have the BEST narratives!!!!!

I have to justify why I have to get the diamond in my bangle reset into another ring!