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sk8rjen

sk8rjen

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Quick update -- yesterday I mentioned in another thread that the stone and bands made it to NY and I hadn't heard from Mark yet. Well, there was a reason -- M called him Monday and cancelled it. Asked him to take the stone back (but we were past our window, so asked him to send them all back to us as they were). I actually called and asked him to sit on it for a day (in case M wanted to change his mind).
So right now I guess I need to be away from here for a while. I don't know what's going to happen yet, but I have asked him to leave (not what I want, but it seems necessary right now).

I have really come to adore you all! I wish you girls all the best and I will probably pop in often to make sure everybody's getting engaged in a happy, timely matter.

Lots of love,
jen
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Oh God, Jen. I am so sorry. I hope everything turns out the way you want it, and you''re going to be okay. Please try to come back when you feel able to. We''re always here to listen. Big hugs to you.. I''m sorry.
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Jen, I am sad reading this. I do not know all the details, but I can feel how hurt you are and I am sorry. I hope it all works out for you...please do not stay away too long...
 
OH Jen- Big hugs!
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I''m so sorry to hear about this. Seek the solace of good friends and family right now.
 
Oh Jen, I''m so sorry. Hopefully he''ll realize what he''s missing out on while he''s away. I know it was a hard decision, but you did it for you, and that''s who you need to think of right now. I''ll be waiting for him to come to his senses.

love,
Sum
 
Hugs to you, Jen
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Oh Jen, I'm so sorry to hear this!!
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Take care of yourself, honey, I'm sending you lots of hugs and good vibes. I hope things turn out for the best for you, whatever the outcome. I also hope you won't leave us for too long...

ETA: I hope that doesn't mean you want me to take you off the list...
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Im really upset to hear this. It must have been so hard for you to do that and I hope that things will get better and he''ll realise what he lost
 
Oh Jen.. I just went back and read all of your topics because I wasn''t aware of your situation. I am so sorry that you are going through a difficult situation. Hopefully he''ll have some time to himself, and he''ll figure out more what he wants. My boyfriend is my first everything, and I have to admit, that it''s really, really hard because I have no idea about the unknown, and sometimes you just kind of wonder. I''m rooting for you!
 
Thanks, ladies. It''s so hard for me to re-read this all. I still am in a state of shock. He spent most of last night trying to convince me he wants to be with me forever, but I am just really stung. Especially b/c I didn''t find out what he did until yesterday evening, even though he made the call Monday (and we had a great date-night Monday). (sigh) I just have a lot of thinking to do right now and I know he does too. My eyes look like they''ve both been hit, they''re SO swollen from crying. I cried until sleep and started the waterworks back up when I woke up. His mom just showed up and wanted to talk to him privately. She''d called me yesterday to tell me she had some clothes she''d bought for the boys and I gave her a heads-up (1st time I''ve ever talked to her about our relationship like that). It actually felt good and she''s really supportive of us and told me she can "see the love in both of your eyes when you''re together." Sorry to ramble.

No, Anchor, don''t take me off the list just yet. Give me a little bit of time first, if you don''t mind. Thanks!

thanks again, ALL of you,
jen
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Jen, I''m so sorry. It''s so hard to be in a loving relationship, and yet be on different pages from each other. No advice, just sympathy, and I hope that things work out.

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Date: 5/24/2006 12:30:48 PM
Author: sk8rjen
Thanks, ladies. It''s so hard for me to re-read this all. I still am in a state of shock. He spent most of last night trying to convince me he wants to be with me forever, but I am just really stung. Especially b/c I didn''t find out what he did until yesterday evening, even though he made the call Monday (and we had a great date-night Monday). (sigh) I just have a lot of thinking to do right now and I know he does too. My eyes look like they''ve both been hit, they''re SO swollen from crying. I cried until sleep and started the waterworks back up when I woke up. His mom just showed up and wanted to talk to him privately. She''d called me yesterday to tell me she had some clothes she''d bought for the boys and I gave her a heads-up (1st time I''ve ever talked to her about our relationship like that). It actually felt good and she''s really supportive of us and told me she can ''see the love in both of your eyes when you''re together.'' Sorry to ramble.

No, Anchor, don''t take me off the list just yet. Give me a little bit of time first, if you don''t mind. Thanks!

thanks again, ALL of you,
jen
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No problem, Jen. I hope you come back to us soon with good news...
 
Jen I''m sorry to hear this, I went back through old threads looking for some information, but didn''t really get what was going on...however even without knowing the story, I can hear the sadness in your ''voice'' on here and I know it''s tough...I will keep my fingers crossed that you two can work things out if that is what you really want, and if not, you will find the strength to move on and do what is best for you and your family. Good luck and keep us posted.
 
Oh sweetie I''m SOO sorry! Ugh I am just so pissed for you that he cancelled it without talking to you or even mentioning it.

Take care of yourself and have faith that things will work out for the best. ::::HUGS!::::
 
I was so sorry to hear about this. I don''t know what to say other than I''ll be thinking about you.
 
Oh God Jen, how could he do this to you out of the blue!
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This is awful! How could he possibly think everything would still be ok and the same as usual with you guys after he did something like this? Of course both of your eyes look like they''ve been hit, I bet you feel like you''ve been punched in the stomach.
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I know at least a little how you feel. Something similar happened to me before. Actually engaged but with no ring, I even bought a new house, happy afternoon of furniture shopping that day with no warning, just bam.. the whole ''I need a little space but I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you.'' yeah right. week later I get a ''dear jane'' email.
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Just hang in there. I suppose it''s possible that this isn''t the end of the relationship just a bit of cold feet. Have you considered some couple counseling to figure out what the h@ll is going on?

You have all of our love and support!
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Oh Jen, I am sooo sorry. Biggest hugs to you. Hope it all works out for you.
 
Jen -- I''m soooo sorry.
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I''m unclear on exactly what happened and what your BF did, but it''s clear that it was unexpected and very saddening. Just wanted to offer my support.
 
Oh Jen, I''m so sorry. I hope that everything works out in the end.

Hugs,

Blenheim
 
Jen! I don''t have anything really constructive to add -- just that I''m sorry you have to go through this - but I''m sure everything will work out for the best!! Sometimes those silly boys just need a wake up call to get them in the right frame of mind.

and don''t forget about us!
 
Jen,
I''m so sorry! Did you post something that happened on another thread? All I could find were posts about the pears. Regardless, that wasn''t the right way to tell you that he isn''t ready to move forward.
Hopefully you can take a little time for yourself right now and we''re always here to talk!!
 
Jen, just wanted to tell you I''m thinking about you and offering up my support. I''m sorry you''re going through this and I hope that things can be mended. This was a pretty lousy move on his part, particularly the execution of it. I do hope that he realizes the mistake he''s made and that you two can work it out if that would be what''s best for you. Hang in there. *hugs*
 
Oh hunny I can feel something awful happened. I hope there is more to the story than what you are able to tell us. And I am not pushing I just hope you have a little more to work with. We are all here for you no matter what happens! And in case you never revisited the thread about handing the list over to a new person, I was very touched that you "nominated" me! You are a special person! I hope to see you around boy or no boy!

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Jen, I''m sorry you''re going through this right now. I wish you the best of luck in whatever resolution you two choose and workign through it.
 
Jen hugs to you. Hang in there.
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Jen, I''m so sorry sweetie! Things will work out the way they''re supposed to. Most importantly, love your little boys right now. I hope you will be feeling better soon.
 
Jen...I''m so sorry! What a terrible way to find out...how horrible. I hope that the best solution comes to you guys quickly, I can''t imagine how much you must be hurting right now. What a jerk. I can think of few ways that would be worse for him to tell you he''s not ready. ((((((hugs))))))
 
Jen,

I am very sorry you are going through this. Please remember, all of us have had our issues in relationships, partnerships take a lot of work...it kind of comes with the territory...I hope things can be mended between you two...if you really love eachother and both are willing to give 100%, then it will work, maybe just needs some time, and that is ok... Hugs!
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I am so sorry to hear things have turned out this way but you had to listen to what your heart was telling you and that can''t be a bad thing. Please hang in there and know you have everyone''s support here. Sometimes we really do need to take a step back to see what is really important to us.
 
Oh, Jen! I am so sorry to hear this! My heart goes out to you and I hope that you two are able to have a long talk at least (if you haven''t already). Please know that I am thinking of you and hoping that everything works out for the best.

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