IYO...what would be the ideal age difference b/t ...

[msop04]

My husband is six years younger than me... yeah, I'm his sugar momma.

Not sugar a momma, but a Cougar!...

Cougar and sugar momma! LOL

 

[msop04]

Age is a meaningless number. What matters is mutual interests and values.

I totally agree!

 

[Dancing Fire]

How old is your daughter, and how mature is she? How mature is her bf?

I'm young at heart but I'm not immature, and older guys can't seem to understand the difference between "she's responsible yet carefree" and "aww, how cute, little girl doesn't understand how to take care of herself". It's disturbing. I don't like to be patronized, so I can't really be with older men. Even if they don't intend to tell me what to do, I feel like they treat me like a kid and it grosses me out.

My husband is a few months younger than me, and my happier relationships have been with younger guys.

My daughter is 27 and mature for her age. Him? 32.5,but really don't know him that well.

FK, Your husband? ... when did you get marry?

 

[Dancing Fire]

My husband is six years younger than me... yeah, I'm his sugar momma.

Not sugar a momma, but a Cougar!...

Cougar and sugar momma! LOL

msop...Your not alone there are many cougars on PS... I can hear them roaring now!..

 

[Niel]

Ive always been attracted to men older than me. My husband is 6 years older than me....

but to be fair MSOP I'm his sugar mamma too.

 

[ForteKitty]

FK, Your husband? ... when did you get marry?

About 2 months ago. I decided it was finally time to make an honest man out him.

 

[anne_h]

I'm sure there are empirical studies and data published on this.

I've read some of the same stuff missy mentioned - namely that couples who marry younger are more likely to divorce. I've also read that more-educated couples are less likely to divorce.

I'm sure someone has studied the "ideal" age difference between married partners (eg: age difference with lowest probability of divorce). Although - that assumes staying married equals being happy, which may not be the case for everyone.

Anne

 

[TooPatient]

Age is a meaningless number. What matters is mutual interests and values.

Yep!

I personally think 29 is a great age difference

Been together just shy of 10 years. Married 5 months.

 

[Dancing Fire]

FK, Your husband? ... when did you get marry?

About 2 months ago. I decided it was finally time to make an honest man out him.

Congrats!.. you just broke my heart!...

 

[Dancing Fire]

I'm sure there are empirical studies and data published on this.

I've read some of the same stuff missy mentioned - namely that couples who marry younger are more likely to divorce. I've also read that more-educated couples are less likely to divorce.

I'm sure someone has studied the "ideal" age difference between married partners (eg: age difference with lowest probability of divorce). Although - that assumes staying married equals being happy, which may not be the case for everyone.

Anne

1-3 yrs...

 

[LaraOnline]

The idea of dating a man more than say 3-4 years older than me always made me feel pretty sick in the stomach.
Why does he want me younger? So he can boss me about? And why would I want a man so much older? To pay for me?
Obviously I have issues! lol Any older guy that came on to me was firmly ignored.

And at a physical level kinda

My man is 3 years older than me. Feels pretty good to me.
When we first met, he felt old enough to be 'protective', and young enough to be fun.
And there is the sense that we are making our own way in life, together.

Really, as men have a shorter lifespan than women, we should really consider marrying down!
We need young, vigourous and ambitious men to work hard and provide for our babies!

 

[LaraOnline]

In my newspaper today the headline is 'Older Dads and Ugly Facts' lol
http://www.theaustralian.com.au/new...anTheWorld+(The+Australian+|+The+World+News)#

I am excited lol and am feeling a small sense of schadenfreude, due to the seemingly relentless social pressure powerful men have foisted on the female half of the population over the years...which has been excused as a kind of biologically-ordained and therefore exusable male sexual meanness...looking forward to movies where young boys are hired to represent middle aged men, going forward, and male newsreaders are sacked for getting older...
The only downside? My dad was actually an old coot, 15 years older than my 21-year-old mum.
Hmmm.
Unfortunately the story is hidden by a paywall, but the story reads:

Older fathers are more likely to produce uglier children, scientists believe.
The extra genetic mutations that build up in older men's genes are already known to raise their children's risk of autism, schizophrenia and some other diseases.
The research suggests the impact is so strong that it also affects the appearance of those who have older fathers.
"We have found a significant negative effect between paternal age and people's facial attractiveness," said Marin Fieder, an anthropologist at Vienna University and one of the research team leaders.
"The age of the father at conception is not only a determinatant of the risk for certain diseases but also predicts facial attractiveness."
In the research, published in the journal Nature, a group of six men and six women was shown photographs of 4018 men and 4416 women, mostly aged 18-20, and asked to rate their attractiveness.
When the researchers analysed the results they found subjects with older fathers tended to be consistently rated less attractive than those with younger fathers.
The study is the latest to challenge the idea that the mother's age affects a child's health and to show that, for life long health, paternal age is far more important.
Why should this be? In women, eggs are created during fetal development and stored until puberty.
In men, sperm are produced throught life.
With age, the sperm producing cells lose their ability to copy a man's DNA exactly, so errors creep in and are passed on.
"Every 16 years the mutation rate doubles," Mr Fieder said.
"Other researchers found 25 mutations per sperm in a 20-year-old but at age 40 it is 65 mutations. By 56 it doubles again."
By contrast the number of new mutations passed on by the mother was always about 15, regardless of age.

 

[kenny]

"Other researchers found 25 mutations per sperm in a 20-year-old but at age 40 it is 65 mutations. By 56 it doubles again."

By contrast the number of new mutations passed on by the mother was always about 15, regardless of age.

This is why lesbian couples conceive the healthiest babies.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Older fathers are more likely to produce uglier children, scientists believe.
The extra genetic mutations that build up in older men's genes are already known to raise their children's risk of autism, schizophrenia and some other diseases.
The research suggests the impact is so strong that it also affects the appearance of those who have older fathers.
"We have found a significant negative effect between paternal age and people's facial attractiveness," said Marin Fieder, an anthropologist at Vienna University and one of the research team leaders.
"The age of the father at conception is not only a determinatant of the risk for certain diseases but also predicts facial attractiveness."

I believe the risk for certain diseases part, especially autism, but attractiveness?..

 

[gem_anemone]

My hubby is 6.5 years younger than me. I'm pretty immature so it works for us.

 

[AGBF]

One of my best friends (whom I have mentioned here many times...she is the mother of my godson and has been married for over 40 years) has the answer. Women n their 40's, at their peak of sexuality, should be paired with adolescent males who are the only ones who can keep up with them. She has two sons in their 30's, by the way, and both are fathers of boys.

Deb/AGBF

 

[msop04]

Ive always been attracted to men older than me. My husband is 6 years older than me....

but to be fair MSOP I'm his sugar mamma too.

It's happening more and more these days! LOL

 

[msop04]

One of my best friends (whom I have mentioned here many times...she is the mother of my godson and has been married for over 40 years) has the answer. Women n their 40's, at their peak of sexuality, should be paired with adolescent males who are the only ones who can keep up with them. She has two sons in their 30's, by the way, and both are fathers of boys.

Deb/AGBF

Now, that's a great idea, AGBF!!

 

[Sakuracherry]

I was always attracted to older guys when I was younger. My husband is two years older than me and we get along fine. Maybe some of us desire younger partners as we grow older? Some women at work were discussing how cute the members of one direction are and some of them said that they'd like to date younger boys! Anyway, I don't think age matters much in romantic relationships. I know many happy couples with a big age gap between them. When my close friend started seeing a 53 years old man 7 years ago, I was shocked, though. She was only 19 and he was older than her parents.

 

[ForteKitty]

When my close friend started seeing a 53 years old man 7 years ago, I was shocked, though. She was only 19 and he was older than her parents.

Are they still together? That big of an age difference is shocking!

 

[Sakuracherry]

Yes. They are. She finally told her parents about the boyfriend last year and they almost fainted.

 

[Laila619]

I say 4-5 years, because that's what hubby and I are. He is older.

 

[ForteKitty]

Yes. They are. She finally told her parents about the boyfriend last year and they almost fainted.

Not asking in a judging way at all, but does she plan on having a family with him? I'm really curious.

 

[Sakuracherry]

She has given up since he made it clear that he'd never want to start a family. He did not have a good relationship with his parents when he was a child. For a year or two, she hoped that he'd change his mind, but it never happened. He didn't even want anybody to know they were together.

 

[ForteKitty]

But she's still so young!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Yes. They are. She finally told her parents about the boyfriend last year and they almost fainted.

I would too if that was my daughter...

 

[Sakuracherry]

I know I'm happy as long as she's happy. There's nothing I can do. They both work in the same field and he's pretty established. There are certain things he has done for her that greatly helped her advance her career. She had admired him for a long time before they met for the first time. It didn't take much time for him to show that he had a romantic interest in her. I could never imagine dating a man around his age, but it's none of my business. To her, being in a relationship with him is more important than having kids or get married at some point in her life.

 

[Sakuracherry]

My strict Japanese mother who didn't let me pierce my ear once said she wouldn't care much about my future husband's age, but I'm pretty sure she would have fainted as well if I had taken home a man around her age.

 

[Dancing Fire]

I was always attracted to older guys when I was younger. My husband is two years older than me and we get along fine. Maybe some of us desire younger partners as we grow older? Some women at work were discussing how cute the members of one direction are and some of them said that they'd like to date younger boys! Anyway, I don't think age matters much in romantic relationships. I know many happy couples with a big age gap between them. When my close friend started seeing a 53 years old man 7 years ago, I was shocked, though. She was only 19 and he was older than her parents.

He need a big supply of Viagra..

 

[momhappy]

I don't think that there is an ideal age difference, but I do think that wider spreads can be a bit odd and probably more prone to break-ups as the age difference becomes more apparent (I'm thinking of examples like Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher, etc.).