KITCHEN TEA/BRIDAL SHOWER issue!!!!!! help!!

[ooohdiamonds]

we are moving into our new home just before our engagement party which will take place october-november next year (2010)... our house will be built and finished by the middle of 2010. so i think its best to have a kitchen tea then.... BUT we want to get married ia year later in 2011.


we dont plan on getting married until at about 1 year after engagement, so we have time to get everything planned out perfectly

but i want to have kitchen tea!!!! people bring stuff for the house including plates, appliances, crockery etc.. Because traditionally you are meant to move in AFTER marriage, right?>

would it be wrong to have a kitchen tea/bridal shower somewhere before or after our engagement. any tips of ideas on this would be appreciated, because i dont want it to look stupid!

thanks

 

[honey22]

In my honest opinion, it''s a bit rude to simply want a party so you can get gifts. How would you feel if you were your friends and invited to this party? It''s a bit tacky.

Anyway, traditionally you don''t throw yourself a kitchen tea party, someone will throw it for you (if you are lucky).

Having parties and getting married are not just about getting gifts.

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 7/17/2009 5:29:04 AM
Author:ooohdiamonds




would it be wrong to have a kitchen tea/bridal shower somewhere before or after our engagement. any tips of ideas on this would be appreciated, because i dont want it to look stupid!

thanks

I understand where you're coming from but, to me, it would be totally inappropriate to do this before you've even got engaged

Your family / friends may well buy you a 'moving in' gift (as is traditional here in the UK) but this idea just doesn't sit right with me. Having said that, I don't know your friends/family so may they'd be o.k with it?

 

[Clairitek]

Bridal shower BEFORE engagement? Um... if I got invited to a party like this I would definitely not go. It just screams "gift grab." Your closer family and friends might very well know your intentions of getting engaged and then getting married but it still just doesn''t seem right.

If you end up moving in together before you are engaged or married then just use the stuff you currently own or do the thrift store thing to fill your home with what you need to get by until after the wedding when people will probably be happy to give you something nice to commemorate your big day.

 

[zipzapgirl]

I agree with everyone who said that this wouldn''t be well received if done before you are engaged.

I suggest you throw your own housewarming party and let people know indirectly through a best friend/family member that you''ll be doing this in lieu of a bridal shower later. I''m not sure even that would help you out with your timing issues or that all of your guests would go along, but I''d say it''s your best shot.

It does suck a little that "furnishing the home" is so closely related to weddings--back in my single days, it always used to burn me that married friends had all of the nice things for their home while those who hadn''t found the right guy or weren''t ready to get married were skimping by buying one nice thing at a time. Timing can be a real pain in the butt in these situations.

**Mini-vent over and done. Thanks**