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Shiny_Rock
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I saw this on Oprah yesterday and thought I''d share for anyone who didn''t see it.
Oprah was doing a kind of celebration of love type of show and had a few different couples on to talk about marriage and what works for them.
There was one couple who had been married for thirty or forty something years and 27 of those years they had sat down EVERY SINGLE NIGHT and wrote out a LOVE LETTER to each other. Whether they were angry or not. They weighed the letters (all in spiral notebooks) and it was around 105lbs of love letters.
The husband had suggested it around a time that they had lost a child and his wife was thinking of leaving him because she said she couldn''t talk about it with him without crying and being upset so he didn''t want to talk about it, she took it as him not caring when actually he just didn''t want to see her hurt. It brought them back together and they said kept them together.
The letters are simple (there are three parts although I can''t remember all three exactly, the first is what is going on at the time, the second is "I love you because...", and the third had something to do with asking a question).
One was from the lady and she had put something like "I love you for cleaning the yard today". One from him was "I love you for fixing my plate at supper tonight." One of her''s was "I love you for being a great father to our children."
There was one where they had had an argument and her letter was "I love you today." Period. He said sometimes the letters are their only communication in a day when they are upset with each other. She said somedays she doesn''t like him very much and she CHOOSES to love him... that is what the entry was about. They write before bed and then read each other''s letter and talk/reflect on it.
At the end of their talk he got down on one knee (as if proposing) had a little ring box and everything and said that he couldn''t wait for the next 50 years or something and put the ring on her finger. Their story was amazing and made me realize that there are SEVERAL things that as a young person and as a person wanting to be married could learn from all of these couples.
Two of them had said it''s the little things that REALLY matter (the big ones count too) but it''s really all the little ones. Like, holding the baby so you can do something, mowing the yard, fixing a plate...
If any of you saw it I hope it affected you the way it did me and if you didn''t see it I hope you enjoy my "re-telling" of it.
Best of luck to all of the LIWs!
Oprah was doing a kind of celebration of love type of show and had a few different couples on to talk about marriage and what works for them.
There was one couple who had been married for thirty or forty something years and 27 of those years they had sat down EVERY SINGLE NIGHT and wrote out a LOVE LETTER to each other. Whether they were angry or not. They weighed the letters (all in spiral notebooks) and it was around 105lbs of love letters.
The husband had suggested it around a time that they had lost a child and his wife was thinking of leaving him because she said she couldn''t talk about it with him without crying and being upset so he didn''t want to talk about it, she took it as him not caring when actually he just didn''t want to see her hurt. It brought them back together and they said kept them together.
The letters are simple (there are three parts although I can''t remember all three exactly, the first is what is going on at the time, the second is "I love you because...", and the third had something to do with asking a question).
One was from the lady and she had put something like "I love you for cleaning the yard today". One from him was "I love you for fixing my plate at supper tonight." One of her''s was "I love you for being a great father to our children."
There was one where they had had an argument and her letter was "I love you today." Period. He said sometimes the letters are their only communication in a day when they are upset with each other. She said somedays she doesn''t like him very much and she CHOOSES to love him... that is what the entry was about. They write before bed and then read each other''s letter and talk/reflect on it.
At the end of their talk he got down on one knee (as if proposing) had a little ring box and everything and said that he couldn''t wait for the next 50 years or something and put the ring on her finger. Their story was amazing and made me realize that there are SEVERAL things that as a young person and as a person wanting to be married could learn from all of these couples.
Two of them had said it''s the little things that REALLY matter (the big ones count too) but it''s really all the little ones. Like, holding the baby so you can do something, mowing the yard, fixing a plate...
If any of you saw it I hope it affected you the way it did me and if you didn''t see it I hope you enjoy my "re-telling" of it.
Best of luck to all of the LIWs!
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