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Ladies, I want your opinion on these 3 proposal ideas..Thanks!

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The plot:

So the ring comes this week or next (next week being thanksgiving weekend). My fiance-to-be''s (hopefully...even though she is dying to get engaged, so I know it is a resounding "yes") birthday is right after Thanksgiving.

Idea #1:
After asking her father for permission, I am going to ask his help in making this happen. We are going to throw a "surprise" birthday party for my fiance-to-be; family and close friends will be there. I will take my GF to get a manicure (gotta have beautiful looking hands for what is to come!) and have an early dinner at this gorgeous restaurant that overlooks a waterfall. I will either propose by the waterfall before or after dinner (before will allow us to enjoy the engagement over dinner together). I will tell her not to call any of her family/friends, because they are waiting for us for her surprise "birthday party"... I think that filling her in on the party is the only way to not have her call anyone after the proposal...Following dinner, we will go back to her parent''s house for the surprise birthday party...little will the guests know that the surprise is on them! They yell "Surprise!!!"....We yell back, "Surprise, we''re engaged!!!". By default, the birthday party becomes our engagement party with all family and close friends to celebrate! ....Only downside to this idea is that we don''t have the night to spend together because we will be home (I live out of town). So it involves our families more, but we don''t get the romantic time together to share our engagement just as a couple.

Idea #2:
There is a 30+ foot waterfall near my house (which surprisingly, isn''t very well known in the area and is tucked back off of a dirt path). I am thinking we''ll just go for a walk (which we enjoy) to this "new trail" I found...5 minutes down the trail, we "unexpectedly" stumble across a huge waterfall, and I''ll pop the question then. I think I like this because it is spontaneous (even though it is premeditated) and will be done during the day...so we can do dinner and enjoy the whole day/night together. All in all, she''ll have plenty of opportunities to show off her ring, but I think we should enjoy the engagement in our own way as a couple first.

Idea#3:
Low-key proposal at my place. Dinner, candles, wine, play some cards and listen to music after dinner… While playing cards (betting with change that is laying around the house) go all in with a bad hand and lose all my change…the game would be over, but I’ll say I can buy back in (the ring)… and I’ll get the ring out of my pocket, drop to a knee at the kitchen table, and ask her to marry me.
 
For good measure, here is the ring!

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I like number 3. It''s more intimate :) And your screen name made me laugh out loud-- for real
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#3. When I read it I actually did the "Awwww" sound out loud at my desk. I love it! and the whole buying back in with a ring...perfect! I just love it!!
 
I like #2. I like it being out in nature. I like it being unexpected. And I like it leaving the rest of the day/evening to enjoy together.

Very pretty ring!!
 
I like number 2. FI and I are huge waterfall explorers, and I always thought he''d propose by one. I think you can incorporate 2 and 3 by going to see the waterfall and then dinner, wine, and candles etc...

I love the idea of an outdoor proposal. That way, you can have a little bit of breathing room to capture "the moment"!

Good luck!
 
Id go #2 as well!! Sounds so beautiful and romantic. And maybe if its not a frequently visited spot you could go there earlier and pop some champagne on ice out of the way, some flowers and a picnic blanket maybe as well??!

good luck
 
I will ditto Swedish: I LOVE YOUR NAME
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To answer your question:

All ideas are very thought out (kudos for that alone!) and very very sweet. I, personally, would prefer an intimate proposal--whether it be outside, at a location my bf and I both love, or at home with a lovely candle lit dinner.

You have to ask yourself what kind of woman your gf is. Is she the type that will want to spend "that evening" quietly (and very romantically) alone with you, or is she the type that will want to celebrate with family and friends? Both options are great, but because it is a proposal, I'd want it to be just my honey and me.

I don't know how much that helps you (sorry, I'm the indecisive type) but maybe it will help you mull over all of your options.

BUT DO REMEMBER: No matter what you decide to do, she'll be thrilled! Don't worry about it too much!!!

Congratulations!!!
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I like #3 personally... I like the intimate factor that its just you 2
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Good luck!
 
Adding to the chorus of hearting your name...anywho on to the question at hand. I love #2 and #3. I know this doesn''t help narrow it down too much. But I am a fan of couple only proposals, which is totally my opinion/preference. I know lots of girls who prefer it the other way around. Again, which type of girl is yours? I also really like Beachrunner''s idea of incorporating the dinner and candles after the proposal at the waterfall. Or you could do a nice picnic at the waterfall and then back to your place for the cards idea and propose then. Which ever one you choose will be perfect because you have put so much thought into the moment, really, that is all a girl wants! Good Luck and let us know which one you go with!
 
I think they''re all sweet, but, which one is the most her? Or ''you'' (as in, the two of you as a couple)? That''s probably how I''d choose in your shoes.
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I like #2 and #3. Number 2 has great picture potential, but is weather dependent. I love the outdoors, so I would really enjoy it, plus you always have a place to go back to to reminisce.
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#3 is really cute as well, as long as you can handle the anxiety/excitement of holding on to the ring while you lounge and play games. It would drive me nuts! I think she will love whatever you do, and kudos on your thoughtfulness and creativity!
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Date: 11/20/2008 1:12:30 PM
Author: swedish bean
I like number 3. It''s more intimate :) And your screen name made me laugh out loud-- for real
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i looove that idea. or #2. #1 sounds great, but a little complicated. i dont want you to be stressed out.
 
Aw they are all sweet, choose what you think she will love.. private proposal or in front of others?
 
I like #1 because I love parties and I love being around people and I love suprises and I love being the center of attention.
I''m a Leo, what can I say.

What type of girl is your future fiancee?
 
Date: 11/20/2008 2:41:37 PM
Author: Starset Princess
I like #1 because I love parties and I love being around people and I love suprises and I love being the center of attention.
I'm a Leo, what can I say.

What type of girl is your future fiancee?
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Oh yea! I forgot to say, IF SHE'S A LEO, she'll like #1 !!!

Starset, I had to laugh because you sounded like my cousin the way you wrote that. And yes, she's a LEO too.
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Thank you for all of the suggestions; she is not a Leo, I am though! Maybe that is why I came up with the idea!?! I honestly think she would enjoy either one; she is definitely a people person and will definitely be eager to show off the ring. But at the same time she loves our time together, just us as a couple. We''ve been together for 9 years, most of it was long distance in college, and we are finally going to be in the same city. So option 2 and 3 would be in the city where I live (where we''ll be living for awhile), and option 1 would be at home.

I thought I''d just note, that the proposal in option 1 would be in private (not in the restaurant)...I figured I''d do it at the waterfall (although this waterfall is more public than the one in option 2).... Further, its winter here, and freezing. So those 2 could be quite miserable if it is too cold.
 
I liked #3 the best. Its very similar to how my friend proposed to his girlfriend recently. They were playing some sort of dominos and he kept on trying to deliberately lose to her so he could "pay her back" with the ring. He said that after 2 1/2 hours of playing he finally managed to lose to her and casually presented her with the ring as a "payment".

All three options are really nice though. I don''t think that you can go wrong.
 
9 years, yowza! That's awesome! I would be wanting to show off that puppy as well! haha. Go with whatever proposal you love and that is most meanigful to you and your gf.. I'm sure she'll appreciate anything!
I'm a Cancer (horoscope) so anything romantic and thoughtful I would absolutely love.
 
Like ams, I said "awww" after reading #3 too. It''s witty and cute and she won''t see it coming. It''s also sweet and intimate.

I agree with others when they suggest that you take her personality into consideration. I like the idea of throwing her a surprise party so she can show off her ring and celebrate with friends and family. Can you combine #3 with the parties mentioned in #1 and #2 (I think there was a party involved in #2?)? If you know who she''s going to call first...give them the heads up but make them swear not to tell anyone??? Or you could always hide her phone and tell her that you really need to get going and she doesn''t have time to look for it
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Can''t wait to hear about your final decision!!!
 
How about you plan to go with #2 but if it''s cold and freezing out you can fall back on #3? #1 would be very fun but kind of stressful to pull together -- but if she''s a super people person and would love it then maybe it''s worth the trouble!
 
I loooove the idea of #2!!! Private proposals are definitely my cup of tea :)
 
OK.. IMO:

#1: too much could go wrong (the more you plan, the more is bound to go wrong)- 1. you''d have to tell her dad to BE QUIET if you want the engagment to be a surprise at the surprise party. 2. if my SO took me to get a manicure out of the blue, I think it would be really fishy! (I think she''ll know something is up unless you take her to get manicures on a regular basis) 3. I think you should have some alone time that night :)

#2: I think it''s sweet and romantic- just make sure you don''t drop the ring and lose it in the woods... yikes! Just make sure wherever you open that ring case, the ground is intact and easy to find something if you were to be nervous and accidentally drop it! (I''ve told my boyfriend NEVER to propose on a dock, over water, or anywhere else he could risk losing the ring forever if it''s dropped) This is my favorite idea! It''s a great spot for pictures. Bring the camera!

#3: Sounds safe and romantic, but what do you do if she''s not in the mood to play cards? You might want to come up with a plan B just in case!

Good luck- and whatever you choose, I think it will be great!
 
I got a little teary at #3. So that gets my vote! (And I''m not a teary/cries at romantic movies kind of girl AT ALL!)
 
So it seems that the consensus is to go for a low-key just-us proposal. Which I also think is the best, since we get to spend that time together. I also want to do it in the city that I live in, because that is going to be our home for the next several years (at least) and I think it is romantic to get engaged where we''ll be starting our married life together. However, we met in our hometown many years ago, and it is always going to be "home" to us because our whole family is there.

So here is the new problem... I get the ring today (which I''m very excited about!!!) and I''d have to wait several weeks to do it where I live, but if I do it at home over Thanksgiving I''ll only have to wait a few days! If I do it this week, she''ll have plenty of opportunity to show the ring to family and even plan to look at dresses around Christmas time. The downside of proposing at home is that we won''t be able to share the night alone...we each stay at our own parent''s houses... Thoughts? Should I just stick it out a couple weeks and do it where I live? I am kind of leaning that way, but I am so anxious to get engaged! PLEASE HELP!
 
When are you both leaving to go home for Thanksgiving? Maybe you could spend the night before you leave together and propose then? (Would that make it have to happen tonight?) That would give her a big announcement to share with everyone upon her arrival home for the holiday. You could hide the ring and as she''s rushing around to pack for the trip you could pull it out and say... don''t forget to pack this and will you marry me.... or something. LOL

Either way, how exciting! Good luck!
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DO IT THIS WEEK!!!!
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Remember who you''re asking though...a bunch of impatient LIW.
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Date: 11/25/2008 11:11:03 AM
Author: girlie-girl
When are you both leaving to go home for Thanksgiving? Maybe you could spend the night before you leave together and propose then? (Would that make it have to happen tonight?) That would give her a big announcement to share with everyone upon her arrival home for the holiday. You could hide the ring and as she''s rushing around to pack for the trip you could pull it out and say... don''t forget to pack this and will you marry me.... or something. LOL

Either way, how exciting! Good luck!
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FABULOUS idea! I think what girlie-girl said is soooo cute.
 
I wish I could do it before we go back home (she hasn''t move to where I live yet...she is finishing up at school). So a no-go on proposing before we go home (but I love the idea!!!). I know all of you LIW would disagree, but trust me it isn''t easy being the MIW for the perfect time to pop the question!!! The sooner the better!

Another aspect to consider is that I still have to ask her father for permission...
 
Date: 11/25/2008 11:24:49 AM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
I wish I could do it before we go back home (she hasn''t move to where I live yet...she is finishing up at school). So a no-go on proposing before we go home (but I love the idea!!!). I know all of you LIW would disagree, but trust me it isn''t easy being the MIW for the perfect time to pop the question!!! The sooner the better!


Another aspect to consider is that I still have to ask her father for permission...
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LOL, I think you are adorable! I love when men are so excited about the women that they love!
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Though I am with the other ladies on this one... give her the ring! NOW! DO IT!
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