Ladies, I want your opinion on these 3 proposal ideas..Thanks!

[gwendolyn]

No idea where her school is so this may be a crazy suggestion, but could you surprise her at school, propose and then travel with her back home for Thanksgiving?

ETA: Oh, my head is a mess, tomorrow's the day before T-Day--I'm in England so it all feels rather far away to me, sorry!

 

[Bia]

If you have to ask her dad, then definitely wait. A few weeks is not long...we''re just so eager to get our own proposals that it seems like an eternity right now!!!

Your GF is going to be so beyond thrilled! I am so excited for you both!!! Don''t forget to come back with details (and pictures buddy!!!

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[LoveRoundBrillants]

i like #3...but as others have said you could combine #2 and#3. Good Luck and the ring looks Goergeous!

 

[trillionaire]

Is there anyway to have someone generally there or available to take pictures of the two of you if you go with the waterfall? A trusted friend who will be excited to help out? They can be hiding somewhere and you can call them on the cell to come around the corner after it''s done or something?

 

[ITSJUSTCARBON]

My mind is telling me to wait and go through with what I had planned... but my heart is telling me to go pick up the ring, drive to ask her dad, and drive to ask her... haha is there not something to be said for marrying a man that couldn''t wait for the "perfect" proposal since he was so excited to get the ring, ask the dad, and propose all within 6 hours?

 

[ITSJUSTCARBON]

As far as pictures, I was going to hide a camera somewhere for the proposal...whether it was done at the waterfall or in my kitchen... I don''t want anybody to be around...just us.

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 11/25/2008 12:03:09 PM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
My mind is telling me to wait and go through with what I had planned... but my heart is telling me to go pick up the ring, drive to ask her dad, and drive to ask her... haha is there not something to be said for marrying a man that couldn''t wait for the ''perfect'' proposal since he was so excited to get the ring, ask the dad, and propose all within 6 hours?

That sounds like the perfect proposal to me. So sweet!

 

[CNYHopeful]

ILOVECARBON, I think that''s so sweet you''re putting all of this thought into the perfect proposal. No doubt when the time comes, she''ll appreciate it too!

Although sometimes it''s hard for us ladies to admit it, waiting for the right time and set of events to take place will make it extra special (and less overwhelming for both). When my BF explained to me that he has a plan and he a specific time frame for a reason (unbeknownst to me), it makes the wait soooo much more bearable and even a little enjoyable.

We''re going to visit my parents 3.5 hrs away for Thanksgiving this weekend, and I don''t think he''s asked them for permission yet. I''m curious to know from a guys perspective how you''d suggest a LIW treats her MIW when she assumes he may ask her parents that day?

Best wishes to you when you''re doing all of your planning! Enjoy this time of growing together!

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 11/25/2008 12:03:09 PM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
My mind is telling me to wait and go through with what I had planned... but my heart is telling me to go pick up the ring, drive to ask her dad, and drive to ask her... haha is there not something to be said for marrying a man that couldn''t wait for the ''perfect'' proposal since he was so excited to get the ring, ask the dad, and propose all within 6 hours?

LOL, we hear stories like that on here (one where the guy couldn''t wait and proposed in a parking lot!) and they are really adorable. It really depends on the lady though. MOST are just thrilled to be engaged, but occasional few are disappointed that they didn''t get a "perfect proposal."

You only have a few more days until Thanksgiving... or weeks until X-mas. The pressure eases up over time. I mean, it must... My boyfriend has had my ring since July

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[ITSJUSTCARBON]

CNY, if you think your BF is going to ask your parents for their blessing, I''d suggest you take every suggestion your BF gives you...such as going shopping with friends..but I''d assume he''ll be pretty sly about getting it done in secrecy!


As for my GF wanting the perfect proposal, I honestly don''t think she cares... I don''t think she wants a parking lot proposal, but spur of the moment would be fine with her. She definitely doesn''t want a lavish proposal, but she''d like the idea of getting to show the ring off AND sharing with friends and family that we''re FINALLY engaged!

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 11/25/2008 12:32:00 PM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
CNY, if you think your BF is going to ask your parents for their blessing, I''d suggest you take every suggestion your BF gives you...such as going shopping with friends..but I''d assume he''ll be pretty sly about getting it done in secrecy!



As for my GF wanting the perfect proposal, I honestly don''t think she cares... I don''t think she wants a parking lot proposal, but spur of the moment would be fine with her. She definitely doesn''t want a lavish proposal, but she''d like the idea of getting to show the ring off AND sharing with friends and family that we''re FINALLY engaged!

Exactly how I feel.

(we are 5+ yrs)

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 11/25/2008 12:32:00 PM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
CNY, if you think your BF is going to ask your parents for their blessing, I''d suggest you take every suggestion your BF gives you...such as going shopping with friends..but I''d assume he''ll be pretty sly about getting it done in secrecy!



As for my GF wanting the perfect proposal, I honestly don''t think she cares... I don''t think she wants a parking lot proposal, but spur of the moment would be fine with her. She definitely doesn''t want a lavish proposal, but she''d like the idea of getting to show the ring off AND sharing with friends and family that we''re FINALLY engaged!

Awww, then please go the impatient 6-hour route!! That would be seriously *SO* incredibly sweet and how wonderful will she feel when you surprise her (maybe with some flowers too) to say you just couldn''t wait another day and HAD to ask her then and there to spend your life together. I would totally swoon if my guy let his heart lead the way like that.

 

[girlie-girl]

Date: 11/25/2008 12:03:09 PM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
My mind is telling me to wait and go through with what I had planned... but my heart is telling me to go pick up the ring, drive to ask her dad, and drive to ask her... haha is there not something to be said for marrying a man that couldn''t wait for the ''perfect'' proposal since he was so excited to get the ring, ask the dad, and propose all within 6 hours?

I don''t know what could be more perfect than a man who JUST COULD NOT WAIT to get engaged. I think it''s so sweet.

If you drive to ask her father permission first and then to meet her, how much driving is involved? Is it reasonable that you could get to her Dad and then to her before you had to hit the road to drive back to her parents'' house? That way you could share some alone time and she could still announce the engagement upon arrival.

Or, assuming you''re sharing dinner together... you could ask her Dad beforehand and have him suggest at a point during dinner that everyone stand up and say what they''re thankful for. You could go around the table in order, just make sure you''re the last in the line. Then you could stand up and say how thankful you are to have met such a wonderful woman such as ____ and then pull the ring out, get down on one knee and propose in front of everyone at dinner!!

I''m not a lady in waiting any longer (I got married in August) and I still say don''t wait! LOLOL

Besides, everyone will want to SEE the ring and if they''re all gathered for the holiday, it seems perfect.

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 11/25/2008 12:32:00 PM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
As for my GF wanting the perfect proposal, I honestly don''t think she cares... I don''t think she wants a parking lot proposal, but spur of the moment would be fine with her. She definitely doesn''t want a lavish proposal, but she''d like the idea of getting to show the ring off AND sharing with friends and family that we''re FINALLY engaged!

I feel the same way about the upcoming holiday. I would love to be able to tell my parents that we''re engaged in person but they live 5+ hours away. Both sets of parents are coming to our home for Thanksgiving and it would be my dream come true if we can share our exciting news with everyone at the same time rather than making phone calls.

I vote for the crazy driving all over the place and proposing tonight idea. What a romantic whirlwind!

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 11/25/2008 12:46:20 PM
Author: girlie-girl

Date: 11/25/2008 12:03:09 PM

Author: ITSJUSTCARBON

My mind is telling me to wait and go through with what I had planned... but my heart is telling me to go pick up the ring, drive to ask her dad, and drive to ask her... haha is there not something to be said for marrying a man that couldn''t wait for the ''perfect'' proposal since he was so excited to get the ring, ask the dad, and propose all within 6 hours?

I don''t know what could be more perfect than a man who JUST COULD NOT WAIT to get engaged. I think it''s so sweet.


If you drive to ask her father permission first and then to meet her, how much driving is involved? Is it reasonable that you could get to her Dad and then to her before you had to hit the road to drive back to her parents'' house? That way you could share some alone time and she could still announce the engagement upon arrival.


Or, assuming you''re sharing dinner together... you could ask her Dad beforehand and have him suggest at a point during dinner that everyone stand up and say what they''re thankful for. You could go around the table in order, just make sure you''re the last in the line. Then you could stand up and say how thankful you are to have met such a wonderful woman such as ____ and then pull the ring out, get down on one knee and propose in front of everyone at dinner!!

I''m not a lady in waiting any longer (I got married in August) and I still say don''t wait! LOLOL

Besides, everyone will want to SEE the ring and if they''re all gathered for the holiday, it seems perfect.

I saw a proposal almost exactly like that at a graduation party... Except the two graduates went around and said something about everyone who was there, and how they had supported them through this milestone. The last person was the girlfriend, and EVERYONE else knew what was happening, and we were all SO excited, it was so much fun! I would personally LOVE to share my proposal with my family, and I am not a center of attention person, it just seems so perfect to me! Go for it if you can!

 

[ITSJUSTCARBON]

Tough decision, I will let you know what unfolds! I am leaning towards this week, regardless of how I do it... I don''t think I can force myself to wait a couple weeks. Found some waterfalls back home too, maybe take my dogs for a walk in the state park...play around with them in the snow and propose when the moment is right. But I am definitely thinking this week!

 

[sammyj]

Date: 11/25/2008 2:24:18 PM
Author: ITSJUSTCARBON
Tough decision, I will let you know what unfolds! I am leaning towards this week, regardless of how I do it... I don''t think I can force myself to wait a couple weeks. Found some waterfalls back home too, maybe take my dogs for a walk in the state park...play around with them in the snow and propose when the moment is right. But I am definitely thinking this week!

bah! I''m sooo excited for you!!! I actually felt my heart racing reading through the last string of posts. A spur of the moment proposal is too sweet for words. Can''t wait to hear what happens! The countdown begins......

 

[CNYHopeful]

How sweet! Wishing you the best when the moment arrives and lots of joy this week. Sounds like you found the perfect spot. Keep us posted!

Thank you also for your advice. I''ll gladly follow his lead

 

[ITSJUSTCARBON]

So the verdict is tomorrow morning. I am asking her father tonight, and going to convince her to go for a stroll tomorrow morning before we go to all the Thanksgiving festivities... The more I thought about it, the more I didn''t want to wait for a "perfect" proposal... The perfect proposal shouldn''t necessarily be in some certain place, but more so the perfect proposal is at the perfect time. I think she''ll be completely taken off guard, which is what I want to do. She expects a proposal at some point in the next few months (and even more so around Christmas), so I think tomorrow is perfect. What could I be more thankful for on Thanksgiving than to confirm that I''ll be spending the rest of my life with the woman I''ve loved and practically grew up with? I can''t think of a more perfect proposal than at the waterfall I used to ride my bike to with my dad when I was a little kid. I know it doesn''t have significant meaning to her, but it soon will! And it''s beautiful!!! I can''t thank all of you enough for all of your advice, you are all truly amazing. I know none of you will have to wait any longer for the perfect proposal than the perfect time for that proposal; which I hope is soon. Best wishes, and happy holidays!!!

 

[gwendolyn]

Awwww!! Wonderful idea, and so so so sweet about being thankful for being able to spend your life with her! She is going to SWOOOOOOON!

 

[FrekeChild]

Woot!!!! I''m so excited for you!!! You''ll have to come back and tell us how it goes!!! And most importantly, bring PICTURES!!!!

 

[DiamondsforDee]

Hooray this is so exciting! She is going to have a lot more than usual to be thankful for this year.

Pictures are expected asap.

 

[girlie-girl]

I hope you''re able to sleep tonight.

hehe Good luck tomorrow!

 

[trillionaire]

OMG, I am going to cry. I am such a sentimental fool!

You are going to have the most memorable Thanksgiving, what a fantastic decision! Good luck, and congrats in advance!

 

[SparklyLibra]

Bumping for any news from ITSJUSTCARBON!


I''ve just caught up on this thread and wondering how it went?


~SL

 

[rnbwsktles]

No updates yet??

I got engaged on Thanksgiving weekend myself, 11/29

He said he thought of the idea on Thanksgiving and knew it had to be that weekend in order for it to work. I was expecting a Christmas proposal, but this was cuter

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 12/8/2008 10:14:35 AM
Author: SparklyLibra

Bumping for any news from ITSJUSTCARBON!



I''ve just caught up on this thread and wondering how it went?



~SL

DITTO!

 

[KatM]

Date: 12/12/2008 11:35:15 PM
Author: LaraOnline

Date: 12/8/2008 10:14:35 AM
Author: SparklyLibra

Bumping for any news from ITSJUSTCARBON!



I''ve just caught up on this thread and wondering how it went?



~SL

DITTO!

Definitely. Get back here and let us know!