LIW Updates

[maebelle]

Figured as it was getting closer to the holidays we should have another update thread!

I'm currently driving myself crazy. I am 95% sure that my SO is going to propose soon (like within three months or so). We've talked about rings, he knows what I want, he drops massive hints, not just at home but in public. This all sounds great right? Except now that I *think* I'm in the final stretch I want to ask about it being the final stretch, but I also don't want to ruin any plans he might have. I've noticed this is a conundrum many of us LIWs share.

So I was hoping that people had some more well... straightforward! news to share to maybe tide me over

 

[delta_loves_alpha]

Mine is getting close too! He's dropped a couple of hints that make me think Christmas-time. eek!!!!

It felt like September absolutely FLEW by, so I'm thinking October/November will too. I'm doing my best to not wish away the time until engagement, but I wish it would just be December already!

 

[shanshans2005]

Me too!! I really think mines might be December as well. He has talked about eloping which is great!!! He is coming in town Dec 1-14 for his cousin's wedding and my graduation. Then we see each other Dec 19- Jan 5 before I move to California. So idk when. I know when he is here we plan to go to Disney World so it might be then but I'm not too sure. I'm trying to go crazy and really expect it just in case it doesnt happen then which would TOTALLY SUCK!!

 

[Resonance.Of.Life]

Sometime this month

 

[tuffyluvr]

Soon, I hope!!! The ring has been sitting in the house for several weeks and it's driving me bonkers!

 

[maebelle]

Soon, I hope!!! The ring has been sitting in the house for several weeks and it's driving me bonkers!

At least I don't have to worry about that! My SO is so bad at keeping gifts that I tend to get them the second he has them himself. I don't think I'd be able to stand having it in the house, never mind knowing where it was in the house

 

[jlp86]

I thought it was going to be soon (next couple of months) but now I am having doubts. Apparently the jeweler that we trusted our ring be made by still hasn't come through so now we are going to find a different jeweler. So, I guess it depends on how quickly we find a new jeweler and start the custom process over, which could take some time. It hopefully should still be before Christmas which was the original plan!

 

[star sparkle]

My ring was bought this past weekend! But I don't think I'll get it for the next 6-8 months, and I'm afraid it's going to drive me crazy. In a good way, but still.

 

[tuffyluvr]

Maebelle--I have no idea how he does it! I am so bad--I get so excited about giving gifts, I want to give them the moment I get them in my grubby little mitts! I thought he would do it last weekend, or the weekend before when we were In Catalina! Now I'm wondering if he is going to make me wait until our vacation to Mexico in December, ugh!!

 

[CaprineSun]

Well, we (well he since it was all his money ) have bought a stone!
I have not seen it (the actual stone-- I have seen the ASETs, IS images, etc), but he is sooo pleased with it! I'm excited!

Now, I have no idea when he will set it. So, that means, I have no idea when he will propose. Likely, at least 6 months from now, I'm guessing?

I'm not sure, but now I can have better peace of mind being a LIW knowing that a beautiful stone is bought. For now, I will enjoy being a LIW with you all here!

We plan to continue living out our lives now per our usual routines. Might as well get nice and cozy.

 

[MayFlowers]

Great thread maebelle! I have been wondering how everyone is doing and I just love hearing from everyone!

As for me, I think it won't happen before February of next year. I had mentioned within a few threads before that he was planning to propose once he got his first bonus from work. Well he just got his first bonus yesterday, but I know he won't be proposing soon. He had only worked for a few weeks before the bonus pay period ended, so it wasn't nearly as much as they will be from now on. He won't get another bonus for 3 months, which doesn't feel so long. I just hope diamond prices don't rise again. I hate stalking a diamond on a website only to have it's price raised out of our budget!

I just got a new job (going to update my job thread now) and am keeping my other part time job as well. So I have barely had any free time. I am going to get a gym membership and hope to start going soon. That will help keep me busy and my mind of my LIW status. And hopefully by the end of these 3 months, I will be looking good and will feel like the time has flown by!

Gotta run now, but I hope to have some time soon to come back and respond to everyone's updates!

 

[maebelle]

MayFlowers,

I just motivated myself to get a gym membership a couple of weeks ago, so far it's going well.

You've get the knowledge of the bonus at least, February really isn't that far a way. I keep second guess myself because while he is not busy at the moment December, January, and February are going to be extremely busy for my SO (he'll be interviewing for residencies) Then he'll be relatively not busy March-June, then extremely busy with residency. So it'll either happen before December OR March-June OR who the heck knows when. I've obviously thought too much about this

Glad that we've got so many engagements coming up soon, dust to everyone

 

[Magpie09]

I think it will happen sometime next year. On the other hand it looks like we will be going ring shopping in the next few months!! I am barely containing my excitement as it will be my first ring shopping expedition. Hopefully we will go soon and I can wow him with my knowledge of sparklies

 

[maebelle]

and I can wow him with my knowledge of sparklies

Sometimes I think I scare my SO with my knowledge of sparklies. A friend lives next to a man who is a jeweler, and I think I talked about spinels and zircons with him for about an hour.

 

[JaymeC]

I am thinking that 2012 will be my year. I know my SO is saving, and with our "timeline" of having a wedding and starting a family it makes sense. I feel like I am riding a LIWitis rollercoaster. Sometimes its barely there, then next thing I know it is at an all time high! I am in a couple weddings this year and people all around me are getting engaged, so I think that adds to my anxiety. But it sure els good to know that he is saving and working toward some bling. I am also sending a prayer to the diamond gods to stop these escalating prices!

 

[LJL]

2012 will also be my year. Though it sounds weird to have wedding plans before we are engaged, we have a sort of timeline based on when we finish grad school, plan to take the bar, and plan on moving. We have tentatively discussed a wedding in Fall 2013 and he knows I want a long engagement so I'm looking at mid-2012 for the proposal. Also seems about right as far as money/saving. I cant imagine how you ladies have the ring in the house and NOT go bonkers. I think my SO might propose to me while I'm sitting on the couch the day that he gets the ring.

 

[OrchidVee]

Well, the ring has been made and is currently in a cabinet in our apartment. I was expecting a proposal 2 weeks ago for my birthday or last weekend in New York City...neither of them happened. In NYC, my bf could tell that I was getting upset (especially after the perfect proposal spots had already been visited) and we started talking. I finally got it out of him whether or not it was going to happen while we were there. He finally told me no because I was expecting it and he knew I wanted it to be intimate. He said that he had considered it, but he wanted it to be special and at a place that meant something to both of us. I was upset in my head at first, but then realized that he has put a lot of thought into this and I would rather wait it out and let him plan something amazing. So, no ring yet (even though I have seen the completed project..he doesn't know that thankfully haha), but I can only hope that he doesn't wait MONTHS to propose!

 

[MissStepcut]

2012 will also be my year. Though it sounds weird to have wedding plans before we are engaged, we have a sort of timeline based on when we finish grad school, plan to take the bar, and plan on moving. We have tentatively discussed a wedding in Fall 2013 and he knows I want a long engagement so I'm looking at mid-2012 for the proposal. Also seems about right as far as money/saving. I cant imagine how you ladies have the ring in the house and NOT go bonkers. I think my SO might propose to me while I'm sitting on the couch the day that he gets the ring.

I would think that's totally nuts... if I weren't doing the same thing Since he's a year ahead of me in law school, there's a pretty big tax incentive for him to marry me before he's a first year.

My update is that as soon as we get our insurance application in for the stone, BGD is going to set it and then, well, it's in his hands.

(I'm Suchende on the list, btw).

 

[tuffyluvr]

Well, the ring has been made and is currently in a cabinet in our apartment. I was expecting a proposal 2 weeks ago for my birthday or last weekend in New York City...neither of them happened. In NYC, my bf could tell that I was getting upset (especially after the perfect proposal spots had already been visited) and we started talking. I finally got it out of him whether or not it was going to happen while we were there. He finally told me no because I was expecting it and he knew I wanted it to be intimate. He said that he had considered it, but he wanted it to be special and at a place that meant something to both of us. I was upset in my head at first, but then realized that he has put a lot of thought into this and I would rather wait it out and let him plan something amazing. So, no ring yet (even though I have seen the completed project..he doesn't know that thankfully haha), but I can only hope that he doesn't wait MONTHS to propose!

I wore my ring around the house for a couple hours last night BF is at work until tomorrow morning and I had a rough week at work, so I figured I deserve it!!! Seriously though, if he doesn't hurry up and get a move on, I'm just going to propose to myself.

Off to distract myself with a mani pedi... gotta keep my nails looking good, just in case

 

[LJL]

2012 will also be my year. Though it sounds weird to have wedding plans before we are engaged, we have a sort of timeline based on when we finish grad school, plan to take the bar, and plan on moving. We have tentatively discussed a wedding in Fall 2013 and he knows I want a long engagement so I'm looking at mid-2012 for the proposal. Also seems about right as far as money/saving. I cant imagine how you ladies have the ring in the house and NOT go bonkers. I think my SO might propose to me while I'm sitting on the couch the day that he gets the ring.

I would think that's totally nuts... if I weren't doing the same thing Since he's a year ahead of me in law school, there's a pretty big tax incentive for him to marry me before he's a first year.

My update is that as soon as we get our insurance application in for the stone, BGD is going to set it and then, well, it's in his hands.

(I'm Suchende on the list, btw).

Whats this tax incentive you speak of? I need all the powers of persuasion I can get!

 

[MissStepcut]

2012 will also be my year. Though it sounds weird to have wedding plans before we are engaged, we have a sort of timeline based on when we finish grad school, plan to take the bar, and plan on moving. We have tentatively discussed a wedding in Fall 2013 and he knows I want a long engagement so I'm looking at mid-2012 for the proposal. Also seems about right as far as money/saving. I cant imagine how you ladies have the ring in the house and NOT go bonkers. I think my SO might propose to me while I'm sitting on the couch the day that he gets the ring.

I would think that's totally nuts... if I weren't doing the same thing Since he's a year ahead of me in law school, there's a pretty big tax incentive for him to marry me before he's a first year.

My update is that as soon as we get our insurance application in for the stone, BGD is going to set it and then, well, it's in his hands.

(I'm Suchende on the list, btw).

Whats this tax incentive you speak of? I need all the powers of persuasion I can get!

Haha! Well, since I'll be a student while he's a first year associate, the benefits of being married to a poor student add up to something like $700/month more in take home pay (taking into account state, city, federal taxes and maybe some sort of education expense tax credit? Not totally sure what all goes into it).

 

[LJL]

That credit sounds nice.. but I wouldnt be able to get it I guess I will have to keep not-so-subtly hinting! I definitely think there are parts of PS that make the waiting harder (and some that make it easier) - there was actually a time when I wasn't allowed to come on here since it made me that insane and I would nag him too much. I do feel bad for him sometimes though - tried to explain that the longer I go w/o getting a sparkly, the more knowledgeable/demanding I will be. He quickly slapped a budget on the situation - but I have been saving on the side

 

[OrchidVee]

Well, the ring has been made and is currently in a cabinet in our apartment. I was expecting a proposal 2 weeks ago for my birthday or last weekend in New York City...neither of them happened. In NYC, my bf could tell that I was getting upset (especially after the perfect proposal spots had already been visited) and we started talking. I finally got it out of him whether or not it was going to happen while we were there. He finally told me no because I was expecting it and he knew I wanted it to be intimate. He said that he had considered it, but he wanted it to be special and at a place that meant something to both of us. I was upset in my head at first, but then realized that he has put a lot of thought into this and I would rather wait it out and let him plan something amazing. So, no ring yet (even though I have seen the completed project..he doesn't know that thankfully haha), but I can only hope that he doesn't wait MONTHS to propose!

I wore my ring around the house for a couple hours last night BF is at work until tomorrow morning and I had a rough week at work, so I figured I deserve it!!! Seriously though, if he doesn't hurry up and get a move on, I'm just going to propose to myself.

Off to distract myself with a mani pedi... gotta keep my nails looking good, just in case

Would you believe me if I told you I didn't put it on today while I was studying??? I have been studying so much I felt that I deserved to look down at something else besides muscles! lol

 

[sjay184]

I am guessing first quarter or first half of 2012.

 

[tuffyluvr]

OrchidVee--I love it!!!! We're like LIW twinsies! And, yes, you do deserve to have a little break to look at something more interesting than insertion points. Hopefully you're not working on those poor little formaldehyde-soaked kitties or fetal pigs. Ugh. Diamonds are much prettier!

 

[SomethingSinful]

We had a great time on our second anniversary -- it was the 17th. We went to the Boiling Crab and it was very yummy. Then, we opened a nice bottle of wine and stayed up way too late for a weeknight

 

[OrchidVee]

OrchidVee--I love it!!!! We're like LIW twinsies! And, yes, you do deserve to have a little break to look at something more interesting than insertion points. Hopefully you're not working on those poor little formaldehyde-soaked kitties or fetal pigs. Ugh. Diamonds are much prettier!

We are LIW twins!!! Well, in my undergrad A & P course, I did work on both of those. Honestly, the cat was harder for me than the pig! I figured the smell would get me, but that I was able to deal with that!

 

[MayFlowers]

I've got another mini update. Nothing has really progressed, but based on a recent conversation with BF, I think I will be here for a while longer. Yes, BF mentioned using his next bonus to get me a ring. However, he has enough saved right now to buy me a very decent ring and I have made it very clear that I would be happy with anything that he got me. It doesn't have to be my dream ring.

When I brought up this fact a few weeks ago, he confessed that it's not that he's trying to save more money or that he doesn't want to marry me. Instead, he's worried about the actual wedding. When BF's brother passed away in April, a whole can of worms and drama was opened on both sides of his family (divorced parents) who are now in a full on feud. His mother's side has been absolutely horrible recently and we have basically cut off all contact with all of them (except his mother who is currently unavoidable because BF still lives with her). He is stressed about who to invite because he doesn't want to invite his mother's side, but is worried about the drama that that will all start. At the same time, he is still very much upset about his brother's death, which is completely understandable as I still cry and get upset about it as well. He had planned to ask his brother to be his best man and I think that no matter when we get married, the fact that he won't be there standing next to us is going to be a huge hole and upsetting to all of us. I think that BF just isn't ready to deal with that part of it yet.

I don't know when he will be ready, and he may be ready by the time the next bonus comes around. It may be better once we get past the holidays, which I know will create drama because we won't be attending his mother's side's activities. It may get better once we move in together and have cut contact completely with his mother's side. But, at this point, I feel like it may be a year before he proposes or it could be three months.

 

[maebelle]

MayFlowers, I love that you and your SO are so open with each other in such a trying time. Is it important to you to have a big wedding? With all the family drama, I'd almost say to elope and avoid it.

While I thought I might be getting closer, my SO just told me yesterday that he's going to be on a tight budget due to all the travel he's going to have to do soon, which looks like I'll be waiting even longer

 

[NCSUchick27]

I think it will either be in December or January for me. He has already purchased the ring and is just waiting for it to be made. The ring should be ready in a few weeks.

This is the ring we ended up deciding on: