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LIW: What is keeping you "waiting?"

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francesfarmer

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I understand in most of your cases there is something holding up the engagement. I am curious as to what it is?
Thank you!
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Me. I want to live together first.
 
The fact that I'm in school getting my BA.
The fact that BF is in school getting his PhD.
The fact that $20k a year just does not cut it.
The fact that we can't make over that until one of us graduates.

Oh yeah, and that we aren't ready yet. But that's 90% financial.
 
Before it was because we werent ready.. Now because of money!
 
about 300 miles...
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money-we have enough-BF just wants to make sure the ring doesn''t dent too much of his savings-which I''m OK with cuz when we get married we can buy a house right away!!!
 
We are waiting until we are no longer in an LDR.. and he is moving to the town where I live Monday! So hopefully I won't have to wait too much longer!
 
school: we''re both finishing our degrees next year.

visa: he''s obligated to spend two years working in his country
 
We''re not being held up being engaged. We''re engaged- rings and all!
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I still consider myself a "lady in waiting" [well, both of us, I guess!] because we''re not allowed to legally marry. The government is keeping us waiting. Indefinitely.
 
Date: 6/29/2008 12:43:28 AM
Author: WishfulThinking
We''re not being held up being engaged. We''re engaged- rings and all!
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I still consider myself a ''lady in waiting'' [well, both of us, I guess!] because we''re not allowed to legally marry. The government is keeping us waiting. Indefinitely.
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Hopefully this will change very soon... California is setting a good example right now. Two of my friends got married on June 17. They''d been engaged for four years!!
 
Date: 6/29/2008 1:45:53 AM
Author: musey
Date: 6/29/2008 12:43:28 AM

Author: WishfulThinking

We''re not being held up being engaged. We''re engaged- rings and all!
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I still consider myself a ''lady in waiting'' [well, both of us, I guess!] because we''re not allowed to legally marry. The government is keeping us waiting. Indefinitely.
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Hopefully this will change very soon... California is setting a good example right now. Two of my friends got married on June 17. They''d been engaged for four years!!
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Thanks, Musey. Congrats to your friends! We are hoping the CA ruling stands after the Nov election, but unfortunately it''s so easy to go back and forth at the ballot box in CA [because of how their constitutional amendment process works] that no one can know for sure. It''s nice to know this is a start though!
 
Easing ourselves into a lifelong commitment. I want to live together as a couple for a least a year or two, perhaps more, before we take that step. Being in love is one thing, washing someone''s socks every week for a lifetime is another.
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We just got engaged after 4 years. Reason for the wait? He was ready while I wasn''t. So I guess I wasn''t technically a LIW since I really wasn''t the one waiting
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Him.


The proposal is very important to him (more than I ever thought it would be) so he wants it to be extra special. We have the ring, its in the house, and all I know is that it will be sometime this year. I''m guessing maybe in November during Thanksgiving (our families will be celebrating together for the first time) or in December.

Although...I think it may be sooner. I left to Mexico last week on a business trip and the night before, he took out the ring from its super mega hiding spot and showed it to me so that I wouldn''t forget what it looks like...such a tease
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Him. He has the day picked out that we''re going to officaly begin the search for the diamond that he''s going to purchase, and the day picked out he''s going to propose. It''s obviously important to him so I''m just backing off and waiting patiently!!


Or trying to at least...

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Money. We bought a house in February and a lot of savings have been going into it. Here''s to hoping it won''t be toooo much longer!
 
What''s keeping my MIW (man in waiting) is ME!
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I have three years left to get my JD/MHA and I don''t want a long engagement or have to plan a wedding while in school.
 
We''ve been together 4 years - the reason we''re not engaged? We were still young when we got together, 18 and 21. I was also working my way through a Law degree.

Now after 4 years of dating, I''ll only be a LIW until the end of this summer :) We''re researching the ring together now and he''ll propose when he wants to, although I have a feeling when it''ll be!

Wedding-wise though, I''ll have to be a LIW a little while longer. I have 2 years left of my PhD, so we''d like to get married in 3. We''d like to give people 2 years notice anyway since we hope to get married in Florida and would like to give people a chance to save (as well as ourselves!)
 
Money for a ring (bf is a Realtor and we all know the US market is not good)
 
Finances. My boyfriend just graduated and started a full time job, so as soon as his loans are paid down and he has some money saved.. it should be by the end of this year, hoping!
 
- Money. Things are kind of tight right now; I know he wants to splurge on the ring a bit and that''s just not in the cards yet. He also wants to be more financially stable in general before he''ll feel ready.
- Want to live together for awhile first. Since we spent the first year of our relationship 3 hours apart, living together and living in the same city will definitely be good learning experiences.
 
School. I don''t graduate until April 09, and he just started in a new job recently. We won''t get engaged until next year some time.

Unless he''s playing a very elaborate trick on me. lol.
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I guess I don''t have a really good reason.
We bought our home together almost 5 years ago, and we live and operate as a married couple so there is no big rush.
 
Unfortunately its the money thing. We would love to be engaged, but my FF just finished school and is looking for employment. We live at his parents house - and can''t yet afford to buy a house or pay for a wedding - and we can''t be engaged and living at his parents house, so...
Our goal is for the end of this year or beginning of next.
 
I don''t even really know why but, I am okay with it...I can wait until April/May 2009. We are waiting for the sake of waiting...but it''s good, I learn new things about him every day...some good, some bad. I know that by the time we finally do get married I will have no doubts. Also, we have only been living in the same city for a little over a year--before that it was one year of long distance and before that we weren''t dating exclusively. Everything in our relationship moved very slowly (exclusivity, moving in together, etc.), this is just a continuation of that.
 
Even though we have been best friends for a year, we have only been dating almost 3 months, lol. We at least want a year of dating under our belt before we get engaged. Even though we would both be happy to get engaged now.
 
Not much! We got the stone on Saturday from WF (eeeeeeeeheeeheeeee!!)
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- but I really have my heart set on a
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MWM Setting
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so I'm willing to wait for that even if I have to wait all summer!
 
Date: 6/30/2008 3:13:32 PM
Author: wishful
Not much! We got the stone last Friday from WF (eeeeeeeeheeeheeeee!!)
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- but I really have my heart set on a
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MWM Setting
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so I'm willing to wait for that even if I have to wait all summer!
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OOH OOOH OOOOOOOH MWM!??!! Which one, which one?! He is my favourite.
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ETA: Oh dear me, I'm so rude--congrats on getting the stone!!!
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OH Gwen.....I hope I don''t torture you but.....I''m going for the Torcheire. I loved it too the moment I saw it I said THATS the setting I want!!!!!

So simple (with a little extra) and classic. I can hardly wait. But Mark is going on vacation till July 14th and I know he''s a busy guy in general.
 
money (isn''t it always?) - we both have debts to pay off
SO - waiting for him to ''grow up''. Not that he is immature, i think he just needs to grow a bit more into a responsible role. Fortunately, his job (working for the state) and us moving in together and having a dog has really helped. not to mention 85% of his friends from H.S. are now getting married :)
Ring - well, not anymore, since getting my grandma''s ring. maybe once it is appraised and fixed
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