LIWs - question for you!

[TravelingGal]

Seriously...duh...most women would want to know. And quite a few of those women, while saying they would want to know, would refuse to really believe it when they''re given the truth.

 

[blondebunny]

although it would be a tough thing to swallow...I would want to know...like others have stated...I have wasted however long with this guy while I could be could looking for the Mr. Right that wants to marry me..

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 6/23/2008 1:31:06 PM
Author:LaurenThePartier
I''m a member of a very male dominated forum, and there is a debate right now about long term relationships and what to do when your GF is elated to get married, but you just don''t see marrying HER, and probably won''t ever want to marry her.

Put in the position of the girlfriend, what would you want your SO to do?

1. Continue to pretend like he wants to get married to you.

2. Tell you he doesn''t feel like he wants to get married, and doesn''t know if he ever will.

3. Other?

I would absolutely want to know how you felt. There are plenty of men that would love a chance to marry a great woman, and if you are not one, please step out of the way. If you aren''t honest with her, NEITHER of you can be happy in the long run!

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 6/23/2008 1:31:06 PM
Author:LaurenThePartier
I''m a member of a very male dominated forum, and there is a debate right now about long term relationships and what to do when your GF is elated to get married, but you just don''t see marrying HER, and probably won''t ever want to marry her.

Put in the position of the girlfriend, what would you want your SO to do?

1. Continue to pretend like he wants to get married to you.

2. Tell you he doesn''t feel like he wants to get married, and doesn''t know if he ever will.

3. Other?

2 and 3

I would want him to tell me he doesn''t want to get married to me, he never will, and then dump me.

Living in 2 to 6 months of heart break is 100 times better than living a lie.

And any man that would continue a relationship with someone that is so in love and they don''t feel the same is an a-hole. I''m sorry to write that but they are and it makes me angry to hear that there are still men like this out there.

 

[krispi]

For the life of me, I can''t understand what makes people stay in a relationship when the know it''s not going anywhere. It''s one thing to not be certain yet, think it''s possible, and need more time to decide, but if you''ve already make up your mind that it''s not ever progressing beyond the current stage, then why waste both of your time? You could be out there looking for the one, instead of spinning your wheels. I know it''s something that plenty of people do - I''ll just never understand why. I know that I wouldn''t want anyone to knowingly waste my time, and I''d never want to do that to anyone else either. If a guy told me that he knew for certain that we weren''t going to end up together in the end (and yes, I''d want him to tell me) then I''d be out the door. It might not be what I want, but there are more productive ways I can spend my time.