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I have been engaged since the beginning of November. We FINALLY picked our wedding site right outside of Los Angeles. The dates available? March 14 or May 2, 2009. The only downside to March 14 is that there is a possibility of rain. However, only the ceremony is outside and it only rains approximately 4 days in March. The only downside to May 2 is that it is the weekend before Mothers Day. I''m not sure if my anniversary is going to interfere with Mothers Day later in life, or if I''m going to feel like I have to combine both celebrations.

I realize this isn''t a huge problem, but I''d love some input! Which would you pick? A day with a small possibility of rain, or the weekend before Mothers Day?
 
Are you talking about this year? If so, I''d pick the latter date to give more time to prepare.
 
Date: 3/11/2008 1:42:37 PM
Author: surfgirl
Are you talking about this year? If so, I''d pick the latter date to give more time to prepare.
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She said 2009.
 
I''m getting married in March of ''09, but only chose that month because we were getting a really good deal on a great venue. I wouldn''t take Mother''s Day too highly into consideration .. my grandparent''s anniv is May 4th, my parent''s is May 20th. I think Mother''s Day is generally the second or third Sunday of the month.

If you''re concerned about weather, I''d hold off for the month that gives you better odds. I live in NJ though, so May would sound better to me.

Hope this helps! =)
 
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I posted this on the other one, but figured I''d move it to the one with more responses

I think both have their pros and cons...
If you choose March there is a good chance that you will get better prices on various vendors since it isn''t "wedding season" yet (at least that''s what I''ve found in Nor. Cal) and most vendors aren''t booked super far in advance for March dates.
However, I have been having a problem with every flower I choose not being in season until May despite being typical "spring" type flowers.

I am not sure that May 2 would ever interfere with mothers day, isn''t it the second weekend in may? Maybe I am wrong on that though. Besides, they are 2 very different occasions, don''t you think? Your Hubby will spoil you for your anniversary and your kids will treat you for mothers day, right?


Either way, they both seem like good choices to me, good luck
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I think either date would of course be just fine, but I think it would be fun to do a little nod to the moms at the wedding if you choose to do the May date
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Sorry, I''m not much help!
 
I''d do May personally...as another outdoor bride rain was my biggest fear! And I second the idea of honoring the mothers...it would be very sweet!
 
May and September are my favorite 2 months of the year....May is so pretty b/c it is the beginning of the spring...It would definitely be May for me!!!!
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I think I'd pick March, it's not as busy a wedding season and you may be able to haggle with other vendors for a better price on other things. If you are near Mohter's Day your wedding flower prices are going to be through the ROOF, Mother's Day is as bad as Valentine's day when it comes to flower prices normally.
 
What are your chances for rain in May versus March? If they are about the same and costs weren''t an issue, I''d pick May. The things I would think about with a March wedding are Spring Break (are your guests going to be vacationing with children?), people with allergies (March is awful for allergies), blooms/flowers may be different in early spring, cold fronts (in March sometimes cold snaps can come through quickly). Just a few off the top of my head..
 
I would rather have march. The chance of rain is low, the vendors are more avaliable and a lot cheaper, it isn''t going to be too hot like may very well might be in south CA.
Plus, lots of women get married in may and that will crowd out your celebration even if not for mother''s day. I am getting married in sep which is another really popular month and it does make it harder. One of my mom''s close friends can''t come because her son''s wedding is the day before and they are both having a hard time. We had to eliminate one of our top choices for caterer because she was in Vegas for another wedding the day before. I will be unlikely to get time off from work for aniversaries since three other girls with senority will want their aniversaries off as well and we can''t all be off at the same time. This list goes on. If we weren''t getting married on the exact five year mark from when we met, I would NEVER have done it in a popular month.
 
I''d choose May 2nd -- it sounds better to me, plus it gives you more time to plan. I wouldn''t be worried about rain on a particular date right now -- it''s so far away. I''d still go with May though.
 
I''d choose the May date also. I love the months May, June and July.
 
According to weather.com, it rains 4-5 days in March. It hasn''t rained on March 14 in 3 years (that''s as far back as weather.com allows me to look). Mother''s Day is always the second sunday is May. Spring break isn''t really an issue for our guests.

Gypsy, thanks for pointing out that flowers may be more expensive the weekend before Mother''s Day--I hadn''t even though about that!!

Does anyone know is peonies will be available in March? I love peonies and orchids!
 
Does either work better for your schedules? If you''re really torn, try calling a few vendors and ask if there''s a price difference between the two dates; you might save a considerable amount if you choose the March date.

My best friend was married ON Mother''s Day. I was her MOH, and I think the only ones who were sore about the date were my own mother and grandmother because we couldn''t be together that day. They didn''t do anything special for the moms that day, but it would have been lovely.
 
If you don't mind me asking, what kind of venue did you pick? I think that contributes to what month you should pick. For example, hotel ballrooms are year-round, while gardens look pretty dull usually in March I believe. I think peonies might be more Mayish, but I could be wrong.

ETA: Right now I am looking at June or July of 2009 or 2010. The weekend for June is June 20, 2009 which is Father's Day weekend I believe. FI doesn't mind and my Dad thought it'd be kind of sweet.
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Sarah,the venue we are looking at is a hotel. There is an indoor ballroom and the ceremony would be outdoors. There is a rain option available also (a completely covered porch/balcony where the cocktail hour will ve held). I''m happy to post the venue once I''ve signed a contract with them (I''m posting on a public forum, after all). I live in LA, so I don''t think the outdoor areas would be bare in March? I could be wrong though.

Why is every wedding decision so hard to make? I wish I were able to be one of those brides that just feels what''s right, makes a decision and moves on...
 
Date: 3/11/2008 10:05:41 PM
Author: CaliCushion
According to weather.com, it rains 4-5 days in March. It hasn't rained on March 14 in 3 years (that's as far back as weather.com allows me to look). Mother's Day is always the second sunday is May. Spring break isn't really an issue for our guests.


Gypsy, thanks for pointing out that flowers may be more expensive the weekend before Mother's Day--I hadn't even though about that!!


Does anyone know is peonies will be available in March? I love peonies and orchids!
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Cali-

Dont quote me, but I believe peonies are in season in May/June. You will probably be able to get them in March, but you will pay alot for them. I love peonies too, and wanted them for my September wedding, but it just really didnt make sense, b/c they totally weren't in season.
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I know early june is the end of peony season but I don''t know when it starts. Try calling some local florists and see what they tell you.
 
Sounds lovely! Hmm...I think March should be fine. May might actually start getting a little warm. I know what you mean I am trying to decide on a date and on a venue. I found two I really like, and one of them I think is the one but I am scared to make a decision and be done with it. I am kind of afraid I am going to change my mind or something, but then again there are only so many venues in my area. So in other words I know how you feel.
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I''d go with May, but that''s because 1) my birthday is in March and I don''t want to get married the same month as my birthday and 2) I am getting married on May 1, 2009. Mother''s Day didn''t even cross my mind at all. I am getting married outside in NJ though, so May seemed like a good month weather wise (hopefully).
 
Thanks for the help everyone. I''ve e-mailed photographers for pricing, but I didn''t ask if there would be a price difference for March vs. May. I should do that.

Peonies are in season starting mid april. There''s some gorgeous varieties here: http://4irises.com/PeoniesBloomSeason.html
I''m not sure how much of a price difference there would be from mid-march to may 2.

I left out another detail: I may be moving across the country in September. I''m having the wedding in CA regardless, but one part of me thinks it''s easier to just get it over with in March and start my new life on the East Coast, if that is the case.
 
Date: 3/11/2008 11:53:34 PM
Author: CaliCushion
Thanks for the help everyone. I''ve e-mailed photographers for pricing, but I didn''t ask if there would be a price difference for March vs. May. I should do that.


Peonies are in season starting mid april. There''s some gorgeous varieties here: http://4irises.com/PeoniesBloomSeason.html

I''m not sure how much of a price difference there would be from mid-march to may 2.


I left out another detail: I may be moving across the country in September. I''m having the wedding in CA regardless, but one part of me thinks it''s easier to just get it over with in March and start my new life on the East Coast, if that is the case.
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Yeah I would go with March then! Where are you moving if you don''t mind me asking?
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Sarah, if we move, we''ll be going to DC for my fiances career. He has much better career opportunities there and is currently interviewing. Truth be told, he makes more money than I ever can, plus I want to take time off work to have kids in about 3 years.
 
I live in VA!
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DC area is great, crowded, but great. So much shopping yaaay!
 
I think May is nicer. Spring is in bloom and I just think March can be riskier.

The weekend before Mother''s day is not material to me. It will never be any closer to Mother''s day than 8 days, and I just do not think that is that big a deal.
 
I don''t know if you have already researched the peony thing, but I just went through this myself.
I was set on using them for my bouquet, and was told by numerous vendors that they were not able to get them for my April 12th wedding, unless we imported them from Ecuador at $20-$25 per stem!!!
We ended up finding them, they are being imported from New Zealand for somewhere around $25 for 5 stems. Much better, but not an easy task! If peonies are important to you I would definately look into the cost in March before setting your date.
HTH!
 
Thanks, happyinlove. Wow, peonies are expensive! Don''t even get me started on the cost of photographers I love...
 
Date: 3/12/2008 12:39:43 AM
Author: CaliCushion
Thanks, happyinlove. Wow, peonies are expensive! Don''t even get me started on the cost of photographers I love...
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Sigh I know these expenses are driving me nuts.
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One of the photographers I looked at was about $9,000 plus travel plus accommodations. Which I am sorry, but I don''t want to pay that.
 
Cali,
I do think they drop in price quite a bit in late April and May since they are available from lots of growers in California by then. April 12 was just too if-y still, but if you get married in May you shouldn''t have a problem.
 
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