My mother sent me this lovely email tonight..

[OUpearlgirl]

No advice, just hugs!

 

[VRBeauty]

I think you''re doing a wonderful job of maintaining your equilibrium in the face of your mother''s manipulation. What you''re doing is lovingly staying detached from your mother''s craziness and need to control. I know it can''t be easy -- and I''m sure you were hoping that your mother could step up at least a bit for your wedding -- but it sounds like that might be beyond what she''s capable of. Personally I''m not a fan of trying to get back at her in any way. You wouldn''t get any satisfaction from it, and there''s a huge possibility that the situation would get even worse.

If there''s any way you can swing a few sessions with a therapist, please consider doing so. You deserve to enjoy your wedding, not just survive it, no matter what your mother does.