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ok status is nanny A is buh-bye...paid her for the day and called and said its not working out. so the ?''s i ask are as follows: (not in any particular order)
1) where are you from?
2) (if from a diff country originally)...what did u do there..tell me about your family and work and life there
3) where do u live now and with who?..in detail about family situation
4) talk to be about your previous employments...if dealing with kids...how long? what age? i even ask the names of some of the kids they worked with and what areas she worked...
5) why they left their last employment
6) are you comfortable dealing with newborns..how do u deal with crying babies...knowledge of diaper changes, bottle handling, feedings, burpings etc...i basically want to know that they are comfortable with all of this.
7) what will be your daily activities with the baby..in terms of activity and such..
...thats all i can think of at the moment..bc im sooo tired lol....there are more...but i would love to hear everyones input on how to weed out "bad nannies"
1) where are you from?
2) (if from a diff country originally)...what did u do there..tell me about your family and work and life there
3) where do u live now and with who?..in detail about family situation
4) talk to be about your previous employments...if dealing with kids...how long? what age? i even ask the names of some of the kids they worked with and what areas she worked...
5) why they left their last employment
6) are you comfortable dealing with newborns..how do u deal with crying babies...knowledge of diaper changes, bottle handling, feedings, burpings etc...i basically want to know that they are comfortable with all of this.
7) what will be your daily activities with the baby..in terms of activity and such..
...thats all i can think of at the moment..bc im sooo tired lol....there are more...but i would love to hear everyones input on how to weed out "bad nannies"
mia1181
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Just popping in to post this list from another nanny site. Just pick out the most important issues to you. I also think role-playing questions are a great way to weed out. Describe a scenario and see how they would respond. Maybe use an issue with your MIL.... And don''t be afraid to ask about when the children are older too. I know it''s hard to ask questions on very young infants because they aren''t doing much, but if this person is going to be long -term maybe you''ll want to know how they would handle a tantrum, etc. Even though you probably are unsure of how you will even handle tantrums in the future, you can still get a sense of their caregiving style. And you really need to find someone that thinks like you do.
Interview Questions for Hiring a Nanny
First Question
• Why are you interested in this job? (Asked at the beginning to weed out people just looking for money, connections to famous people, a nice place to live, opportunity to travel, have nothing better to do, etc.)
About Being a Nanny
• Why do you wish to be a nanny or why did you choose to become a nanny?
• What do you think the difference is between a babysitter and a nanny?
• What qualities do you think are important in a nanny?
• If our roles were reversed, what would you look for in hiring a nanny?
• What appeals to you about taking care of children in their own home (vs. a day care center or your home)?
• What kind of professional development in childcare do you have?
• Are you a member of any nanny associations?
• Do you have CPR certification, first aid training?
• How is your driving record? Have you had any accidents and if so, please describe.
• When do you think it would be appropriate for a nanny to sleep during a child’s nap? To make personal phone calls during work?
• Are you willing to do occasional overnight stays with the children?
• Are you willing to stay with the children for a week or more if we (the parents) go out of town?
• How do you feel about having friends over during work time or overnights?
• What do you see as a nanny''s responsibilities when traveling with the family?
• How would you find ways to be helpful when traveling with children? What would you pack in a carry-on for children for a long plane flight?
• During the hours my children are in school, what do you consider your role and responsibilities to be?
• How do you see a nanny''s role changing as the children get older?
• What do you want from me as a potential employer? What are you looking for in an employer?
• How are you at voicing your concerns about unexpected issues that may arise? Are you able to do this, or do you tend to defer to the parents?
• How have you responded when a former boss has brought up unexpected issues with you?
• Can you give me some examples of unexpected issues that have come up in your previous jobs and how you and your former boss(es) worked things out?
• How would you feel if I brought up an issue with the children and I felt very strongly that I wanted it handled a certain way? In other words, if I couldn''t see a way to compromise on an issue, do you think you could work with that?
• Would you be willing to sign a confidentiality clause? What does confidentiality mean to you?
About the Nanny’s Experience
• Describe your childcare experiences and why they ended.
• How many children have you cared for at a time in your previous positions? What were the pros and cons to caring for different numbers of children?
• What would your references say about you?
• What were the best parts of your previous jobs?
• What do you find to be the most challenging part of working with children?
• What was your worst experience when caring for a child and how did you resolve it?
• What was your worst experience with a family and how did you resolve it?
• Can you tell me a time when you felt like you lost motivation in a job?
• Can you tell me about the most difficult child/family/parent you worked with?
• Have you ever abused a child, or been accused of abusing a child? If you were accused, how did you handle it? What was the outcome?
• Have you ever had to handle an emergency? If so, what happened and what action did you take?
• How many hours at a time are you used to caring for a child? What would be the maximum number of hours you could care for a child before needing a break?
• How do you like to communicate with your employer about the child’s day? Do you use a log, or just talk about the day, or phone calls, etc?
• What additional household responsibilities are you comfortable taking on as a nanny? i.e. meal prep, laundry, cleaning, setting up appointments, pet care, etc.
• Would you care for a sick child?
• What would you do if a child made a real mess with diapers, vomiting, etc?
• How would you keep my child safe out in public?
• How would you keep my child safe at home?
• How do handle stopping at the gas station, bank or convenience store for a quick errand when you have children in the car? What is your rule for the children being able to stay in the car?
• Have you worked with other household staff before? Please describe some positives and negatives you''ve experienced working with household staff.
• Have you ever been part of a nanny team? Please describe the pros and cons of that experience.
• If you have guns in your household ask - Are you comfortable working in a household with guns? Do you know gun safety and are you able to shoot? If not, do you want to learn?
• If you work at home, ask - Have you ever worked for parents who work at home? Are you comfortable with that? What pros and cons do you see working for WAH parents?
Child Rearing and Discipline Style
• In a nutshell, what is your overall child rearing philosophy?
• What child development books/authors do you like?
• What is your view on nutrition for children?
• What is your general philosophy on etiquette for children?
• What is your basic philosophy on discipline?
• If you feel comfortable discussing, how were you disciplined as a child? What would you do (or did you do) differently with your own children?
• What is your opinion on spanking?
• How do you feel about imaginative play that includes the use of toy guns as props?
• What are your thoughts about masturbation? How would you handle it if you noticed that my (insert age) was masturbating?
• What would you do if my child bit another child? What would you do if my child bit you?
• What would you do if my child hit or hurt another child? What would you do if my child hit or hurt you?
• How would you handle it if my child lied to you?
• What are your thoughts on sunscreen and protection from the sun for children?
• Do you feel comfortable arranging play dates? How would you go about setting them up?
Age Group - Newborn to 1 year old
• How do you handle a crying baby?
• What would you do if the baby won’t stop crying?
• How long do you think a baby should be left to cry?
• How long do you think a newborn should be left before being fed?
• How long do you think a newborn should be held?
• What about rocking to sleep?
• What methods do you like to use to help a baby learn to sleep through the night?
• Do you know baby massage?
• What would you do to encourage the baby to bond to you?
Age Group - Children 1 to 2 year olds
• What do you see as your primary responsibility to a child this age?
• What activities would you engage in with a child this age?
• How much television do you think is appropriate for this age? What kinds of shows?
• What is your general philosophy on discipline at this age?
• How would you handle the following: throwing things or tearing books.
• If our child wanted to play/read/etc while you were cleaning up something, what would you do?
• How would you handle a temper tantrum in a grocery store? In our home?
• What is your philosophy on letting children explore their surroundings?
• What would you do to encourage the child to bond to you?
Age Group - Children 2 to 3 year olds
• What role should outdoor play and interaction with other toddlers have in a child’s day?
• What types of educational activities would you engage a child this age in?
• How much television do you think is appropriate for this age? What kinds of shows?
• What indoor/rainy day activities would you engage a child this age in?
• What is your general philosophy on discipline at this age?
• How would you handle a temper tantrum in a grocery store? In our home?
• How do you feel toilet training should be approached?
• What would you do to encourage the child to bond to you?
Age Group - Children 3 to 5 year olds
• What methods of limit setting or discipline do you find effective for this age?
• What types of educational activities would you engage a child this age in?
• What is your opinion on preschool for children this age?
• If you are interested in homeschooling – ask about it: What is your opinion on homeschooling?
• What television shows do you feel are appropriate for this age child?
• Are you willing to supervise play time with other children in our home and/or take our child to gymnastics/activity groups which may or may not require your active participation?
• How would you handle it if you walked in on our 4-5yr old and a playmate playing without clothing on?
Age Group - Children 5 to 12 year olds
• What are your feelings about outdoor play without direct supervision (i.e., the child is outside and the caregiver is in the house with a younger child)?
• Are you comfortable reviewing and assisting with homework?
• Are you willing to supervise friends of our child who are invited to our home while you are in charge?
• When children are in school, how many extra-curricular activities per week do you think is appropriate for them? What kinds of activities would you suggest for different age groups?
Personal
• How do you think your closest friends would describe you and your personality?
• Tell me whatever you feel comfortable sharing about your childhood and your current relationship with your family.
• What do you like to do in your free time?
• What television shows do you enjoy watching?
• What books do you enjoy reading?
• What kind of music do you like?
• What would you consider the ideal vacation?
• Where would be your dream place to live?
• Where have you traveled and what was one of your favorite places and why?
• What kind of a housemate are you? (for live-in nannies)
• Do you smoke, drink, use drugs, or swear a lot?
Final Question
• Why are you interested in this job? (Asked again at the end. Because now the nanny knows the job and family and if she is still interested, she can really make her best case at this point.)
Interview Questions for Hiring a Nanny
First Question
• Why are you interested in this job? (Asked at the beginning to weed out people just looking for money, connections to famous people, a nice place to live, opportunity to travel, have nothing better to do, etc.)
About Being a Nanny
• Why do you wish to be a nanny or why did you choose to become a nanny?
• What do you think the difference is between a babysitter and a nanny?
• What qualities do you think are important in a nanny?
• If our roles were reversed, what would you look for in hiring a nanny?
• What appeals to you about taking care of children in their own home (vs. a day care center or your home)?
• What kind of professional development in childcare do you have?
• Are you a member of any nanny associations?
• Do you have CPR certification, first aid training?
• How is your driving record? Have you had any accidents and if so, please describe.
• When do you think it would be appropriate for a nanny to sleep during a child’s nap? To make personal phone calls during work?
• Are you willing to do occasional overnight stays with the children?
• Are you willing to stay with the children for a week or more if we (the parents) go out of town?
• How do you feel about having friends over during work time or overnights?
• What do you see as a nanny''s responsibilities when traveling with the family?
• How would you find ways to be helpful when traveling with children? What would you pack in a carry-on for children for a long plane flight?
• During the hours my children are in school, what do you consider your role and responsibilities to be?
• How do you see a nanny''s role changing as the children get older?
• What do you want from me as a potential employer? What are you looking for in an employer?
• How are you at voicing your concerns about unexpected issues that may arise? Are you able to do this, or do you tend to defer to the parents?
• How have you responded when a former boss has brought up unexpected issues with you?
• Can you give me some examples of unexpected issues that have come up in your previous jobs and how you and your former boss(es) worked things out?
• How would you feel if I brought up an issue with the children and I felt very strongly that I wanted it handled a certain way? In other words, if I couldn''t see a way to compromise on an issue, do you think you could work with that?
• Would you be willing to sign a confidentiality clause? What does confidentiality mean to you?
About the Nanny’s Experience
• Describe your childcare experiences and why they ended.
• How many children have you cared for at a time in your previous positions? What were the pros and cons to caring for different numbers of children?
• What would your references say about you?
• What were the best parts of your previous jobs?
• What do you find to be the most challenging part of working with children?
• What was your worst experience when caring for a child and how did you resolve it?
• What was your worst experience with a family and how did you resolve it?
• Can you tell me a time when you felt like you lost motivation in a job?
• Can you tell me about the most difficult child/family/parent you worked with?
• Have you ever abused a child, or been accused of abusing a child? If you were accused, how did you handle it? What was the outcome?
• Have you ever had to handle an emergency? If so, what happened and what action did you take?
• How many hours at a time are you used to caring for a child? What would be the maximum number of hours you could care for a child before needing a break?
• How do you like to communicate with your employer about the child’s day? Do you use a log, or just talk about the day, or phone calls, etc?
• What additional household responsibilities are you comfortable taking on as a nanny? i.e. meal prep, laundry, cleaning, setting up appointments, pet care, etc.
• Would you care for a sick child?
• What would you do if a child made a real mess with diapers, vomiting, etc?
• How would you keep my child safe out in public?
• How would you keep my child safe at home?
• How do handle stopping at the gas station, bank or convenience store for a quick errand when you have children in the car? What is your rule for the children being able to stay in the car?
• Have you worked with other household staff before? Please describe some positives and negatives you''ve experienced working with household staff.
• Have you ever been part of a nanny team? Please describe the pros and cons of that experience.
• If you have guns in your household ask - Are you comfortable working in a household with guns? Do you know gun safety and are you able to shoot? If not, do you want to learn?
• If you work at home, ask - Have you ever worked for parents who work at home? Are you comfortable with that? What pros and cons do you see working for WAH parents?
Child Rearing and Discipline Style
• In a nutshell, what is your overall child rearing philosophy?
• What child development books/authors do you like?
• What is your view on nutrition for children?
• What is your general philosophy on etiquette for children?
• What is your basic philosophy on discipline?
• If you feel comfortable discussing, how were you disciplined as a child? What would you do (or did you do) differently with your own children?
• What is your opinion on spanking?
• How do you feel about imaginative play that includes the use of toy guns as props?
• What are your thoughts about masturbation? How would you handle it if you noticed that my (insert age) was masturbating?
• What would you do if my child bit another child? What would you do if my child bit you?
• What would you do if my child hit or hurt another child? What would you do if my child hit or hurt you?
• How would you handle it if my child lied to you?
• What are your thoughts on sunscreen and protection from the sun for children?
• Do you feel comfortable arranging play dates? How would you go about setting them up?
Age Group - Newborn to 1 year old
• How do you handle a crying baby?
• What would you do if the baby won’t stop crying?
• How long do you think a baby should be left to cry?
• How long do you think a newborn should be left before being fed?
• How long do you think a newborn should be held?
• What about rocking to sleep?
• What methods do you like to use to help a baby learn to sleep through the night?
• Do you know baby massage?
• What would you do to encourage the baby to bond to you?
Age Group - Children 1 to 2 year olds
• What do you see as your primary responsibility to a child this age?
• What activities would you engage in with a child this age?
• How much television do you think is appropriate for this age? What kinds of shows?
• What is your general philosophy on discipline at this age?
• How would you handle the following: throwing things or tearing books.
• If our child wanted to play/read/etc while you were cleaning up something, what would you do?
• How would you handle a temper tantrum in a grocery store? In our home?
• What is your philosophy on letting children explore their surroundings?
• What would you do to encourage the child to bond to you?
Age Group - Children 2 to 3 year olds
• What role should outdoor play and interaction with other toddlers have in a child’s day?
• What types of educational activities would you engage a child this age in?
• How much television do you think is appropriate for this age? What kinds of shows?
• What indoor/rainy day activities would you engage a child this age in?
• What is your general philosophy on discipline at this age?
• How would you handle a temper tantrum in a grocery store? In our home?
• How do you feel toilet training should be approached?
• What would you do to encourage the child to bond to you?
Age Group - Children 3 to 5 year olds
• What methods of limit setting or discipline do you find effective for this age?
• What types of educational activities would you engage a child this age in?
• What is your opinion on preschool for children this age?
• If you are interested in homeschooling – ask about it: What is your opinion on homeschooling?
• What television shows do you feel are appropriate for this age child?
• Are you willing to supervise play time with other children in our home and/or take our child to gymnastics/activity groups which may or may not require your active participation?
• How would you handle it if you walked in on our 4-5yr old and a playmate playing without clothing on?
Age Group - Children 5 to 12 year olds
• What are your feelings about outdoor play without direct supervision (i.e., the child is outside and the caregiver is in the house with a younger child)?
• Are you comfortable reviewing and assisting with homework?
• Are you willing to supervise friends of our child who are invited to our home while you are in charge?
• When children are in school, how many extra-curricular activities per week do you think is appropriate for them? What kinds of activities would you suggest for different age groups?
Personal
• How do you think your closest friends would describe you and your personality?
• Tell me whatever you feel comfortable sharing about your childhood and your current relationship with your family.
• What do you like to do in your free time?
• What television shows do you enjoy watching?
• What books do you enjoy reading?
• What kind of music do you like?
• What would you consider the ideal vacation?
• Where would be your dream place to live?
• Where have you traveled and what was one of your favorite places and why?
• What kind of a housemate are you? (for live-in nannies)
• Do you smoke, drink, use drugs, or swear a lot?
Final Question
• Why are you interested in this job? (Asked again at the end. Because now the nanny knows the job and family and if she is still interested, she can really make her best case at this point.)
nycbkgirl
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Bff and I are taking a family poll based upon this topic..the question is...would u place a nanny cam when hiring a nanny to stay with ur kids whether it be home alone with child or with someone else? and why...then if yes ..would it be hidden or disclosed?..
.maybe this would be a good ps poll>?
so i got a chance to ask SIL last nite and she says...hidden cam
bff asked her mom and she says... no cam at all
zoebartlett
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Date: 7/22/2009 7:34:33 PM
Author: swingirl
You would be putting your nanny in an awful position by knowing she is going to have a conflict between your instructions and your MIL''s instructions and she has to work with your MIL everyday. But it really sounds like you want a MIL Cam more than a Nanny Cam. I predict trouble ahead because the real problem is with your MIL. If you are not comfortable with your MIL''s care than stand up for your kids and get rid of her. Don''t use a nanny to fight the MIL battle.Date: 7/22/2009 5:19:41 PM
Author: nycbkgirl
true ...i was just going to elaborate what i forgot to mention.....i dont think nanny would ever be alone in the house (not for more than an hr at most but that might be way down the line if ever) but my point is MIL isnt one of my favorite ppl (as many of u already know lol) i really want a nanny cam for the sound and to see if they are doing what i want them to be doing with the kids. i want my nanny to be listening to me and not MIL bc MIL likes to do things her way (even tho i tell her off) but when im not around then she does what SHE wants and a nanny cam will help me see what goes on. so, its not really for worries of abusing the children, more of making sure my kids are taken care of the way I want them to be ..am i making sense..so telling them would defeat the purpose i guess bc they wouldnt do or say anything that i wouldnt wanna hear
...maybe i shouldnt tell them the first week and then tell them once i see what goes on?..ok im rambling now. sorry lol.
I agree with this. I''d be upfront and talk to your MIL about your wishes and expectations. I''d have the same conversation with your nanny. It does sound like your nanny would be in an uncomfortable position -- not one I''d want to be part of, personally. I''d think really hard before using a nanny cam to spy on your MIL. That could cause a lot of problems.
brooklyngirl
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nycbkgirl
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i established that i dont care what my MIL says about me and i would not be spying on her lol..she takes care of the kids very well (even tho some of her ways are not preferred by me but still takes care of them) and i would not need to spy on her in any way. and i was joking that she would say stuff about me...i really dont think she ever would.Date: 7/24/2009 8:26:46 AM
Author: ZoeBartlett
Date: 7/22/2009 7:34:33 PM
Author: swingirl
You would be putting your nanny in an awful position by knowing she is going to have a conflict between your instructions and your MIL''s instructions and she has to work with your MIL everyday. But it really sounds like you want a MIL Cam more than a Nanny Cam. I predict trouble ahead because the real problem is with your MIL. If you are not comfortable with your MIL''s care than stand up for your kids and get rid of her. Don''t use a nanny to fight the MIL battle.Date: 7/22/2009 5:19:41 PM
Author: nycbkgirl
true ...i was just going to elaborate what i forgot to mention.....i dont think nanny would ever be alone in the house (not for more than an hr at most but that might be way down the line if ever) but my point is MIL isnt one of my favorite ppl (as many of u already know lol) i really want a nanny cam for the sound and to see if they are doing what i want them to be doing with the kids. i want my nanny to be listening to me and not MIL bc MIL likes to do things her way (even tho i tell her off) but when im not around then she does what SHE wants and a nanny cam will help me see what goes on. so, its not really for worries of abusing the children, more of making sure my kids are taken care of the way I want them to be ..am i making sense..so telling them would defeat the purpose i guess bc they wouldnt do or say anything that i wouldnt wanna hear...maybe i shouldnt tell them the first week and then tell them once i see what goes on?..ok im rambling now. sorry lol.
I agree with this. I''d be upfront and talk to your MIL about your wishes and expectations. I''d have the same conversation with your nanny. It does sound like your nanny would be in an uncomfortable position -- not one I''d want to be part of, personally. I''d think really hard before using a nanny cam to spy on your MIL. That could cause a lot of problems.
nycbkgirl
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yeh so the ?''s are great and i still will ask just to see the answers but they arent a predictor. so yes a trial day or two is necessary and i will make it clear to the nanny i choose to try that this is just that...a trial period so that i wont feel uncomfortable telling them we didnt work out.
nycbkgirl
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MIL and I are getting along somewhat better these days and she called me now to tell me she has a job interview mon morn and if she eventually gets the position (its not open yet so would take a while) she would have to work days and couldnt be here with the kids
...now i will have to be her with nanny (if i can ever find one
) and wont be able to work afterall
nycbkgirl
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be there*Date: 7/24/2009 1:56:05 PM
Author: nycbkgirl
MIL and I are getting along somewhat better these days and she called me now to tell me she has a job interview mon morn and if she eventually gets the position (its not open yet so would take a while) she would have to work days and couldnt be here with the kids...now i will have to be her with nanny (if i can ever find one) and wont be able to work afterall
brooklyngirl
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Tacori E-ring
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Moms do it all the time. Ask all of the twin mommies on here. It IS possible to care for two babies at once. You just need to find an experienced nanny. I am guessing you always knew the situation with your MIL was temporary? I am curious, did you say you require someone to sit by Jackie while she is sleeping or did I misunderstand?
brooklyngirl
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I think the nanny will be just fine with two children at once. It can be done, and is done all the time in day care, where there are usually more than 2 children per nanny (if I remember correctly from when my nieces were in corporate daycare, and that place ROCKED!).
About watching the babies sleep, well, your apartment is on the ground floor, so I wouldn't feel comfortable at all leaving a baby on the balcony without supervision. You never know.
About watching the babies sleep, well, your apartment is on the ground floor, so I wouldn't feel comfortable at all leaving a baby on the balcony without supervision. You never know.
pennquaker09
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We have a part-time nanny for the time being. Essentially, she comes to help me out when I need to get things done around the house. On occasion, she is there with the twins unsupervised, but I don''t have any nanny cams. I made sure that I hired a person that I could trust and I feel like having cameras in the house to watch her would be in violation of that trust. Maybe I''m naive, but I feel like if you need a nanny cam, you probably have the wrong nanny.
lucyandroger
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My advice is to stop focusing on "weeding out the bad nannies" and instead focus on finding the right nanny for your children. You''re much more likely to get good results that way.Date: 7/24/2009 7:53:04 AM
Author: nycbkgirl
gak when i saw the list i did this literally...wow those are so great and detailed questions!! but i still feel some nannies are trained with their responses and u couldnt root out all the bad ones based upon an interview.
Bff and I are taking a family poll based upon this topic..the question is...would u place a nanny cam when hiring a nanny to stay with ur kids whether it be home alone with child or with someone else? and why...then if yes ..would it be hidden or disclosed?..
.maybe this would be a good ps poll>?
so i got a chance to ask SIL last nite and she says...hidden cam
bff asked her mom and she says... no cam at all
And give the questions Mia posted a shot! I''m sure if you have a good instinct about people you can tell the difference between canned responses and genuine responses. Nanny cams won''t protect your children from harm, only let you watch it afterwards so put the effort in upfront - it''ll be worth it!
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no lol as Bkgirl pointed out, i live on the ground floor...and i do not feel comfy leaving kids sleeping there w.o. supervision. she doesnt have to watch her...she can relax or do whatever she wants ...same as she would do inside ..just stay outside.. (unless she wanted to eat or bathroom break thats a diff story) im not the parent Nazi lol.
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im glad u feel like u can trust someone..based upon?...instinct?....my instinct may be good but its not that good and i would never trust a stranger no matter what. i dont trust many ppl as it is...IMO ppl throw that word around like the word THE...trust is something so sacred and special...if i trust u in my life then that means smthg big!
i didnt know u have twins???....please respond to my pending thread
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finding the right nanny means rooting out the bad ones no>? like i said i will def ask the ?''s but i can learn how to answer those myself in a matter of minutes.Date: 7/25/2009 8:02:11 AM
Author: lucyandroger
My advice is to stop focusing on ''weeding out the bad nannies'' and instead focus on finding the right nanny for your children. You''re much more likely to get good results that way.Date: 7/24/2009 7:53:04 AM
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gak when i saw the list i did this literally...wow those are so great and detailed questions!! but i still feel some nannies are trained with their responses and u couldnt root out all the bad ones based upon an interview.
Bff and I are taking a family poll based upon this topic..the question is...would u place a nanny cam when hiring a nanny to stay with ur kids whether it be home alone with child or with someone else? and why...then if yes ..would it be hidden or disclosed?..
.maybe this would be a good ps poll>?
so i got a chance to ask SIL last nite and she says...hidden cam
bff asked her mom and she says... no cam at all
And give the questions Mia posted a shot! I''m sure if you have a good instinct about people you can tell the difference between canned responses and genuine responses. Nanny cams won''t protect your children from harm, only let you watch it afterwards so put the effort in upfront - it''ll be worth it!
so another poll response:...my SIS dittoed my views and would def put a hidden nanny cam....but only in the beg and once she sees a trust relationship brewing...she would either get rid of them or tell nanny they are there. (she also does NOT trust easy)..she said ppl that do trust strangers are very naive and can get burned easilly...and u dont want that to be at the expense of ur kids ....this is SIS''S response
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well jackie is just is a difficult baby and she barely sleeps during the day...and we try to keep her outside in the fresh air, she doses off and can sleep in the stroller for a while...jon does not like 2 sleep outside at all (dh actually got him to sleep for 2 hrs today
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Good luck finding a new nanny. I know it sounds crazy, but maybe try craigslist - that''s how I got my nanny job a few years back for a high-profile family in NYC. I can imagine agencies will have fewer college educated candidates...but I suppose it depends what you''re looking for. Keep us posted, and let us know what you decide about the nanny cams!
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thanks! ive been m.i.a for a while..sooo pooped...interviewed another applicant and it was strange...i felt like she was judging me with her face and demeanor
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nyc-gut instinct and having a good feeling about someone is important! It''s not the only thing b/c some people have a good poker face, but it certainly counts, so if you got a bad vibe, move on! You should feel great about the person who''ll be watching your babies..along with them having solid credentials, referrals,etc. (and be ok with nanny cam, hehe).
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