need a temporary engagement ring

[Hest88]

Heh, yeah, I think he fled in dismay.

Even if his intentions were pure, I agree the wedding is not the place for this sort of switch. The wedding is the place to celebrate and honor their commitment. This idea just feels very wrong.

 

[tigerhearted]

Date: 2/17/2010 10:32:57 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

Date: 2/17/2010 6:05:38 PM

Author: vespergirl

Maybe the OP is afraid that if one of them breaks off the engagement he won''t get his expensive ring back - but then he shouldn''t propose if he''s that insecure about the relationship.


When Bobby Brown proposed to Whitney Houston, he did something slightly similar - he popped the question with a 1 ct ring, then after she said yes, he pulled out the huge 7 ct honker a few mintues later, and she said that she loved the proposal, and was blown away by the huge ring.


I honestly wouldn''t like that type of proposal, but if the OP insists on doing something like that, I would NOT present her with the bigger ring at the altar - maybe at the rehearsal dinner at the latest.


I agree with some previous posters though that say that if their fiance did that they would be offended & rethink the marriage. It''s one thing if you don''t have money when you get engaged & upgrade the ring later in the engagement when you can afford to do that, but it sounds like he''s planning to ''test'' the woman which is really stupid.

LOL! Well if this ain''t proof positive that it is a bad idea, I don''t know what is!

Hah! My thoughts exactly!!

 

[luckynumber]

i came back to see if the OP came back to defend his utterly stupid idea.

if my BF tried to "test" me or trick me like this, he would be my ex-BF in a flash.

lordy.

it takes all kinds.

i''m sorry, i''m not usually so rude to posters, but i feel very strongly about this for some reason!

 

[IceExplorer]

Date: 2/18/2010 3:45:31 PM
Author: luckynumber
i came back to see if the OP came back to defend his utterly stupid idea.

if my BF tried to 'test' me or trick me like this, he would be my ex-BF in a flash.

lordy.

it takes all kinds.

i'm sorry, i'm not usually so rude to posters, but i feel very strongly about this for some reason!

With such welcoming and friendly comments...I'm sure he can't wait to respond!!!

What if she "tested" him by saying: Don't even consider trying to propose with less than 3 carats!!!
Would he be in his right to test if she was serious?

He never said it was a test. He said he was travelling to Hawaii. Maybe he's scared to check the bag with it inside or have it exposed from his carry-on while getting screened.

Stories are like diamonds, they are multi-faceted. We shouldn't be as quick judging people as we are diamonds.

We do agree on one thing... it takes all kinds!

 

[hazelstone]

I have to say I am really surprised that people have been weighing in on this and claiming that if it were a "test" type deal, they would reconsider the relationship. If something like that could make you reconsider your relationship, you really aren''t ready to be married. Even if you think the thing is poor judgment, or insulting, would it really make you change your mind about committing to someone you were supposedly ready to commit to? Marriage is full of ups and downs, and if you aren''t completely committed to the idea of weathering all of them you aren''t ready to be married.

All the speculation seems frivolous, but if it is indeed some kind of test I don''t blame him. Sure, we would like to think the best of our partners, but there are a lot of women out there who are very good at making men believe that they love them for who they are rather than what their salary is. This is a way to get an idea of where her priorities are. I don''t necessarily think that it would be taken badly by someone who really was in love--I think they would be happy with the first ring, and surprised and happy with the second. If it were me, I would just feel good that my man was able to confirm my good intentions--if it made him feel more comfortable that would be what was most important to me. That''s just my take on it.

 

[cakegirl]

But why would someone commit to someone they had so little confidence in that they had to test them with an ill timed jewelry trick?

 

[Gypsy]

For the love of Pete folks. Way to assume facts not yet in evidence.
http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-eternity-ring_10070 or http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-ring-platinum_9717
To the Op. If you want a ring for 2500 to propose with, how about these bands?

Then she can wear them alone, or with her engagement ring. I''m sure you have reasons for proposing with something other than the 3 carat. I know in some cultures the diamond ring is the wedding ring, and a nice band is the engagement ring. So... I suggest one of the two above.

 

[luckynumber]

ok, so i shouldn''t assume.

please OP, come back and EXPLAIN yourself!

if he was worried about the safety of the ring in hawaii, why would he wait till the day of the wedding to give her the real ring?

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

I think if the OP posted this in hangout, or even asked if people thought his plan was a good idea, then the opinions he got would be perfectly reasonable.
He didn''t, though - he just asked if there was a nice ring he could propose with for around 2k.

For what it''s worth, here''s what I would choose at that pricepoint http://rockdiamond.com/index.php/jewelry/halo-diamond-ring-45-cushion-floating-halo- but then I''m in love with these Daussi rings at the moment!

Good luck with your proposal, wish you every happiness.

Jen

 

[Lew Lew]

Why didn''t OP just say "Can you help me find an engagement ring with a 1 carat stone for about $2,000?". Instead, he had to preface it with "I already have a $45,000 3 carat near flawless ring". He would have gotten lots of helpful responses if he didn''t preface it that way.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 2/19/2010 5:57:01 AM
Author: Mrs Mitchell

I think if the OP posted this in hangout, or even asked if people thought his plan was a good idea, then the opinions he got would be perfectly reasonable.
He didn''t, though - he just asked if there was a nice ring he could propose with for around 2k.



Jen

Date: 2/18/2010 11:17:05 PM
Author: Gypsy
For the love of Pete folks. Way to assume facts not yet in evidence.
http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-eternity-ring_10070 or http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-ring-platinum_9717
To the Op. If you want a ring for 2500 to propose with, how about these bands?

Then she can wear them alone, or with her engagement ring. I''m sure you have reasons for proposing with something other than the 3 carat. I know in some cultures the diamond ring is the wedding ring, and a nice band is the engagement ring. So... I suggest one of the two above.

I agree with Gypsy and Mrs M, if the OP comes back lets get on with trying to help him find a diamond for 2k as he requested.

 

[Rockit]

Putting the rest of the issues here aside, I too, was going to suggest a Daussi ring. Their distinctively cut diamonds face-up large for their weight, they offer diamonds in a range of color grades – including less-pricey "middle alphabet" grades, the metal work is solid, and the pieces are reasonably priced. They have many pretty styles from which to choose, and one could find a wonderful ring that could transition easily to a RHR after its tenure as ER comes to an end. Only caveat: although many people absolutely adore the unique Daussi look, if you are a die-hard RB aficionado, the Daussi''s may not float your boat.

If it is to be an RB, my vote is to make it an exceptional one that may be reset, with other stones or alone, as a totally different piece, if desired, later.

Another option might be to side-step diamonds altogether and try to find a lovely sapphire or spinel to set with baguette diamonds, in a diamond halo, or, maybe, as a solitaire with a diamond-studded band. However, keep in mind that a top-quality 1ct blue sapphire will be smaller than a 1ct diamond and will eat up all the budget, and more, before it is even set. Perhaps, if the colored stone idea works, finding a less-costly pink or sunny yellow sapphire might work into the budget better?