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Need input. 2nd marriage engagement ideas

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Might be getting married again. I previously had a gorgeous 3ct cushion cut with bagettes as an ER with a micropave wedding ring. It was gorgeous but alas, nicer than the marriage. It's now a beautiful solitaire necklace I wear daily.

Conflicted as what to do for this new engagement ring. I'm 46. I've done the big engagement ring thing already. A big part of me would love just to have the cartier diamond trinity wedding band and that's it. What do you do while engaged? Wear that?

I'd love any input.
 
I think you should buy whatever ring you've been coveting and wear it on your ring finger :)

I'm married, but I don't always wear my wedding set at work since it's a lot of delicate detail and pave, so I'll wear a blingy diamond band, or one of my colored stone rings.
 
im a little bit sentimental so personally i dont want to wear my w band until im actually married. Do you have need to wear an engagement ring at all? If so, could you maybe just buy a stone and put it in a simple solitaire. onces your married you can just buy a matching stone and turn them into earrings.
 
I'm not very sentimental so I would probably just wear the band while engaged. But as Nielseel pointed out, if you are sentimental you could just forego an engagement ring altogether. Or you could get a colored stone ring, wear it while engaged and then wear it as a rhr after the wedding.

There's no right or wrong here - I recommend you do what makes you happiest and feels right to you!
 
How about a nice colored stone eternity ring? You could always wear it with the rolling ring later if you felt so inclined.

I love the rolling ring idea, by the way!
 
I would absolutely get what you really want and damn convention or the fact that it is a second marriage. Who cares- second, third, whatever..it is your marriage with the love of your life (sometimes it takes a try or 2 to get it right!) and you deserve to get the ring of your dreams-whatever that is. So if it's a big honking ER diamond go for it! Or if it's the Cartier trinity band then so be it. But don't allow your age, or the fact that it is a second marriage have any role in that decision. And big congratulations on your upcoming engagement!!!! :appl:
 
I am currently married, but if I was to get married again, I would not have an engagement ring, I would just do the wedding ring and I would wear it now or you could just wait until you get married, I wouldnt worry to much about what other people thought. Good luck in your decision.
 
Wear whatever YOU want to wear! My SIL didn't want an engagement ring so when my brother proposed, he proposed with the wedding band she wanted- a plain 2mm platinum band from EWB. She wore it during their engagement, got it polished before the wedding and my brother slipped it on her finger during their vows. Very simple and sweet.
 
It is of course your preference - still, if it were me, I would wait to wear the Cartier diamond trinity until the actual wedding; to me, the vows and exchange of new (to the couple) bands during the marriage ceremony infuse the wedding bands with the promises made to each other, and are symbolic of the next journey as a married couple. I would maybe choose for an ER to wear during the engagement period something simple, like the Svea from etsy vendor Jeweler on the Roof - it has three tiny diamonds and a very slim band - beautiful and special yet reasonably priced, and possibly could be worn with the Cartier trinity after marriage.
http://www.etsy.com/listing/72071524/14k-gold-svea-15mm?ga_search_query=svea this 1.5mm version would be my choice, but there's also a delicate 1mm version: http://www.etsy.com/listing/122102910/platinum-svea
 
I think you should wear whatever you want to whenever you want to. I wore an engagement ring on my right hand throughout my engagement...when I wore it at all that is...and no one who actually mattered questioned my relationship. As a married woman I regularly wear either just an e-ring or no ring at all and no one notices, minds or cares. If you want the cartier ring (gorgeous, btw!) then get and wear it. Have it polished and serviced right before the wedding and put right back in it's proper place at the ceremony.
 
I love the idea of an eternity ring as an engagement ring. It could be worn with your wedding trinity bands later, or as an alternate weekend band, or as a right hand ring.

I also love the idea of a three stone band, of any size. It could be worn in any of the ways above, and it echoes the trinity's sentiment of yesterday-today-tomorrow. What can be better for either engagement or wedding?

Congratulations on your upcoming engagement!
 
Thanks for all the input! I love the idea of getting a simple solitaire to use later as an earring. But I also feel better knowing its no big deal to not have an ER. Funny how things change with age!

I appreciate all the support and wisdom! We'll see what develops!
 
If you just want the Cartier you should get that! My opinion is you could wear it as an engagement ring if it's important to you to have an engagement ring and then wear it as a wedding band once you're married. However, I certainly don't think you should forgo a separate engagement ring simply because it's a second marriage and certainly not because you're older than you were the first time! SO, if it's actually something you would like, you should get one. If not, go with the trinity band and enjoy it whenever and however you wear it. I think things only have the meaning you place on them and what means one thing to one person can mean something totally different to someone else. I also don't really believe in juju or tradition for tradition's sake, so there's that :)

Congratulations!
 
I adore the look of a trinity ring stacked with a diamond eternity. Perhaps a diamond eternity e-ring, and trinity as the wedder? You could even wear the eternity on your right hand and the trinity alone on your left, once married. But honestly, stuff it! If you want a trinity solo and no e-ring, go for it! I personally think that is a really classy, elegant idea. Please let us know what you get, you sound like you have beautiful taste!!
 
I'd wear my fiance's birthstone, set in a very simple gold solitaire setting...
I'd choose a not very big not very small size, like a 1ct stone. After the wedding, i'd wear my WB on my ring finger and the birthstone ring as a RHR.
For example, my DH's birthstone is ruby, so i'd wear something like this:

ruby_solitaire_ring.jpg
 
Just wear whatever you want.

You're 46. That's plenty old enough not to give a damn.
 
rosetta|1363518508|3407012 said:
Just wear whatever you want.

You're 46. That's plenty old enough not to give a damn.
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:appl: :lol: Oh so true, Rosetta!!! Love how you think!! :appl: :lol:

Why not start a stacker collection? :lickout: Maybe a coloured stone/diamond combination in your favourite metal (RG is lovely!! - or YG/WG/Plat...) and then when you are married, make the "engagement stacker" a RHR and continue to add to the stacker collection for events - birthdays, anniversaries... etc.

The Cartier trinity as a wedding band sounds awesome! I love that idea!! But - being of 'an age' myself, I'd personally prefer to wait for the wedding band to be worn from the ceremony onwards. But that's just me... and as Kenny will tell you... "people vary"! Do what makes you the happiest!!

(...stackers!! stackers!! stackers!!.... subtle or not subtle?? ;)) )
 
rosetta|1363518508|3407012 said:
Just wear whatever you want.

You're 46. That's plenty old enough not to give a damn.
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My new. favorite. quote.
 
The Cartier trinity ring is nice and stackable. You an use it either way later.
 
I have an eternity as my ering. I'm a little older and it will be my second marriage. Like you, I did the big ring already and don't feel the need to go that road again. I also wear my original diamond as a pendant and love it.
 
I'm going to cross someplace between Missy and Rosetta and say to hell with whatever everyone else thinks. Do what YOU want to do and what makes YOU happy. If that means an ering, a carter trinity or a tattoo- do whatever works for you.
 
I'm with everyone else - the only thing that matters is what YOU want to do. However, I have seen the Cartier ring worn with a thin diamond eternity - that might give you the 2 rings for engagment/wedding - IF that appeals to you.
 
I like Neilseel's idea.

I like Enerchi's idea.

I love Rosetta's idea (and I am STEALING it and applying it to my own age, 'cause, hey).

My suggestion? Get the trinity for your engagement ring. And if during the engagement something else catches your eye ... a great big five-carat eternity of asschers, micropave, hey, if you're a Cartier fan, their Love bracelet (which, frankly, as a symbol of permanence, kind of carries the day), well, there's your wedding piece. And if not, you just take it off the morning of, reuse it, and go from there!

It's good to have options. :appl:
 
Ya'll are the best! I do love Rosetta's sage advice. I think in the back of my mind, I'd like the ring that's exchanged in the ceremony to be "new;" meaning, one I haven't been wearing. I guess that's my hesitation with having just the Trinity ring. When I mentioned I didn't need an engagement ring, he (so cutely) said, "isn't the guy supposed to go on one knee and open a box? How can I do that when there's not a ring?"

Fun to be silly like this at our age!

I love the idea of using a simple solitaire into a set of earrings, a ring I could use later as a right hand ring or even a simple eternity ring. (I have a love bracelet already as well. one of my fav things. haven't taken it off in almost 7 years!)

We shall just have to see!

Thanks again!
 
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